The Only 3 Advices You Should Follow When It Comes To Relationships

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The Only 3 Advices You Should Follow When It Comes To Relationships

When it comes to love, your heart has the best advice.

Relationships are not a simple subject to talk about. And strangely, everyone wants to give advices when it comes to them.

People will tell you advices they themselves do not even follow and they will just make you more confused.

Add the difference in generations and cultures and you have a bowl of advices that will confuse anyone.

These days the tolerance for relationships is drastically lowered than it was a century ago. People are more free. But they are confused.

So we want to tell you that nobody has it all figured it out. Forget most of the things people told you and follow these 3 simple pieces of wisdom.

The Only 3 Advices You Should Follow About Relationships:

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1. Prioritize your heart.

Everyone wants to tell you how to live. Funny how most of them do not follow their own advices.

But most people don’t know what you really feel. In fact, nobody knows you to such extent, only you know your own heart.

If your heart becomes excited for someone, follow its wisdom. People can speak all they want but at the end of the day your happiness is your own.

Your heart knows what you need in ways the conscious mind cannot comprehend, it knows what your soul needs to grow.

So listen to your heart before anyone else. Listen to advices, don’t be foolish, but prioritize your heart.

2. Love is something you maintain daily.

If you are already in a loving relationship, good for you. Finding the right person with who you can build a loving relationship is not easy, especially in modern times.

However, most people fall into the trap believing that getting into a relationship is the hard part, and after you get into a relationship it’s all fun and games.

But the truth is, finding someone who you would build a relationship with is the first step, it’s the start of this game. That’s why it’s called building a relationship.

The love you feel for each other will not be always as bright as it is, but that’s just normal. Love between two people is something you take care for. Something you maintain.

Don’t listen the fairytales others want to tell. Some days you will argue, some days you will laugh, but keeping the love alive is both of your responsibility.

3. It’s better to be single than with the wrong person.

Your friends and family might rush you into a relationship. They will scare you that you are too old, or that your standards are too high.

But the truth is they don’t know what they speak. They repeat biased and outdated opinions that elder cultures established.

These are modern times. There are opportunities and ways to customize your way of living however you like.

Don’t settle down for someone just because you are scared of being alone. Don’t settle for someone just because your friends and family said you should.

What kind of life is that? Instead, learn to be fine being single, learn to be whole by yourself, and settle for someone who shows you the magic of being alive.

Listen to your heart, make its advices a priority. Accept the fact that love is something that demands proper care and responsibility. Wait for the right person, it’s worth it. Follow these 3 advices and you’ll be happy.

The 3 Signs That Prove We Are On The Verge Of Evolving Into Superhumans

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The 3 Signs That Prove We Are On The Verge Of Evolving Into Superhumans

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February 2019 Rant From The Heart: Escape your illusionary slavery!

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February 2019 Rant From The Heart: <b>Escape your illusionary slavery!</b>

You think that illusions are something tricksters do to fool you. But you are unaware that you slave to illusions every single day.

The craziest thing is that you are the trickster and you don’t know it.

You dress a certain way to impress the world, you spend so much time thinking about what to wear, what would others think.

You plan your arguments, you plan your outfits so you would not be seen wearing the same every day, you act as if you are the happiest person.

You spend so much energy and time because you think others care about you. You think others would notice if you are dressed differently.

What you don’t understand is that most of those others are also obsessed with the what would others say problem.

The problem itself is an illusion.

Nobody thinks about you because everybody thinks about themselves. By trying to get approval from everyone you are always in lack of it.

It’s because you give away the only importance that matters, your own approval, the approval you really need, the one from yourself.

And this is just one of the many illusions you slave to. You slave to countless illusions and you waste so much time and energy to them.

You try to control everything. You think the shirt you wear or the way you walk to work has something to do with you having a good day.

You try to have a complete control over everything and you end up being a slave. Isn’t it funny?

It’s because by trying to control everything else you give away the only control you really have, over yourself. You give it away to an illusion.

You try to be secure, to be safe, to be sure. And when things you assured slightly change you get frustrated.

You can’t accept the uncertain nature of the world, that it’s always changing and that security and safety are just constructs of your mind.

And you work and work to make sure you are finally safe, that you finally have enough and there is security.

Just to realize you haven’t stopped the fact that everything is always changing. So you work even more, and more, and more.

You keep being unsure, unsafe, insecure by constantly trying to achieve those things. Don’t you see the fool’s game you play?

You are trying to grab infinity through finite things. You try to acquire something that you already have.

You give away the security you already have by trying to grab it as if you do not already have it. You give it away to the illusion of security.

Can’t you see? You are free!

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You no longer have to serve or slave to your illusions because you are aware of them. But if you do not escape them you will forget.

And you will continue wasting time and energy to these illusions. You will trade the real things for the illusions your mind is obsessed with.

Stop playing tricks on yourself. And it’s the hardest and the easiest prison to escape at the same time, you know why? Because it’s your illusion.

You are the trickster but you have forgotten it’s a trick you make, an illusion you create, you are as free from this slavery as you make yourself be.

Stop making illusions to slave to!

Stop looking for approval and approve of yourself. That’s the only way you will discover real freedom.

Stop trying to control everything and grab the only real control you already have, the one of yourself. That’s how you let the magic of life in your reality.

Stop trying to achieve security and embrace the uncertain nature of the world. That’s how you make your life a fun adventure.

You can slave away all you want, but you will not be able to experience the real beauty if you don’t stop obsessing over illusions.

Stop trusting illusions and trust yourself!

Be yourself, free yourself, let something beautiful happen without your control, embark on an adventure, have fun.

Escape from your illusionary prison!

You don’t need to be approved by anyone you are already everything best you know you are. Stop trying to control the wave and learn to surf it.

Here Is The One Healthy Thing That We Learned This February 2019 You Should Know

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Here Is The One Healthy Thing That We Learned This February 2019 You Should Know

There are so many advices and opposing opinions on what’s healthy and what’s not. Nobody seems to agree on anything. Especially when it comes to the food you eat.

There are various applications, magazines and websites dedicated to show you healthier alternatives of the food you eat, and it seems every day something new comes up.

Every day something new is unhealthy, something new is trendy. There are who knows how many labels added on packages and products to ensure they are a healthier choice.

But all of this is based on unclear chatter. It’s based on opinions, on one of many arguments out there, and most are not even based on official scientific evidence.

Even most of the labels like “Organic”, “Diet”, “GMO Free” are not exactly what they say but a marketing baits. Here is a really easy way to choose food that’s healthy.

The One Healthy Thing For This Month: 3 questions to show you the healthiest food choices.

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There are two truths you should know. One is that science is based on facts and you should trust it. Second is that humans can adapt to almost all.

These two seemingly unrelated truths are the reason why most people are confused when it comes to healthy eating.

Because science is science and facts do not lie, it reveals to us what’s good for us to consume and what’s harmful, what might go against our health.

However, you see people who do not listen to anything that science says and they are still fine. They might not look fine but they are healthy.

And it confuses many people. How can a fact do not apply to some people. Well here comes the second truth that you should keep in mind.

Every organism is different because humans can adapt to almost anything, any circumstance and environment.

This means that even if people consume food that’s not very healthy, their organism can adapt to make the best out of it in order to maintain health.

These people might not have as much energy, but they will be healthy. Their organism will adapt to function with that less nutritious food.

I know people who do not eat the whole specter of vegetables and fruits, who do not take daily supplements, and they test as healthy individuals.

But here is the thing. They make it harder for their bodies to maintain their health. Even though they are healthy they can be healthy in a better way.

If they listen to scientific facts and eat what’s actually nutritious and healthy for their bodies they will be healthy but much more smoothly.

They will feel better, think clearer, have more energy and elan to raise the quality of their life.

It’s better to make your body adapt to food that makes it easier for it to maintain health, than to food that makes it harder.

There is a big confusion on what’s healthy and what’s not healthy out there, so make sure to check the science behind what you read and hear.

To make it easier and be able to choose healthier options yourself there are 3 brilliant questions you can ask before choosing.

1. What Are The Ingredients?

Looking at the food right in front of you ask yourself this question. You should know exactly what you put into your organism.

2. Are These Ingredients Nutritious?

When you know the ingredients that constitute your food you should ask yourself are these ingredients going to actually feed your body, or are they unnecessary work.

3. Where Do These Ingredients Come From?

And even if you know that the ingredients in front of you are nutritious, you should know where they come from, are they natural or artificial.

These 3 simple questions can make it so much easier for you to choose the healthy and natural food when you don’t know what or who to trust.

Instead of looking for the next best diet, or looking for labels that might not even be trailblazers for healthy choices, learn how to choose with your reason.

“If they really love you dear, they would find a way to your heart”

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“If they really love you dear, they would find a way to your heart”

Sometimes you wonder if people love you. Of course, you know that you are worthy of being loved, that you deserve to be loved. But you wonder.

You wonder if your partner really loves you, if your family really loves you, if your friends really love you.

I know I do. I wonder. I wonder really often. And sometimes I am not so sure. They might say they do, but something feels off.

And I don’t need to be loved. But sure it feels nice when someone loves you, doesn’t it? When someone goes out of their own way to show it.

It feels nice to see you matter to others, not just for what you mean or represent to them, but for being you. You matter for you, for who you are.

They do not reflect or project anything upon you, they just love you, the real you, for being you. It’s beautiful isn’t it?

It’s one of the most beautiful things.

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It’s beautiful to see someone show up on your door unannounced with your favorite pizza, isn’t it? Of course it is.

It’s beautiful to see your partner come home with two cups of your favorite coffee while you are waking up.

It’s beautiful to get an invite for a party your friends will go to because they know you would love to come with them.

It’s beautiful to hear someone say ‘come tomorrow I’ll cook your favorite vegan meal’ even though they are not vegans.

It’s beautiful to have someone sit with you when they see you are sad or angry, and just sit there, listen to you and be there for you.

It’s beautiful when someone chooses to spend time with you and have fun instead of watching some insignificant TV show.

It’s beautiful to be called on a late night adventure, to get a beautiful, funny, romantic message in the middle of the night, to have someone come over.

It’s beautiful for others to know your favorite songs, your favorite movies, your favorite books and stories.

It’s beautiful when someone believes in you, in your truth. It’s beautiful to see someone spread your truth because they believe in it.

It’s beautiful when they make you a surprise party for your birthday, or get you tickets for your favorite band.

It’s beautiful when you see them speak about your silly passions with pride, as if by you just being passionate, makes these things cool.

It’s beautiful when you don’t need to pretend or improve to deserve all the most beautiful things in the world.

It’s beautiful when you get an honest advice by your friend, not an advice to help you be more as your friend wants you to be, but be more as yourself.

It’s beautiful to be reminded of your strengths rather than your flaws, it’s beautiful to be encouraged, it’s beautiful to be given kindness.

It’s beautiful to be accepted when you have weak days, when you are not at your best, when you doubt yourself.

It’s beautiful to be given a piece of wisdom when you feel lost and confused, when you can’t find meaning.

It’s beautiful when others know you better than you know yourself, and it’s one of the best versions you’ve heard about yourself.

It’s beautiful when you see your friends wanting to spend time with you, to see them see the best in you.

It’s beautiful to see your family unconditionally cheer for you, without being judged, to have them believe in the best in you.

It’s beautiful when your partner loves you unconditionally, even at your weirdest, just because, for no other reason than the fact you deserve it.

It’s beautiful being loved. It’s one of the most beautiful things there is. But are we being loved?

Are you really loved?

People these days love by a formula. Family, friends, partners, their love is calculated. It’s measured. It’s compared with the one you give.

You are not shown how to love, you are shown how much love you deserve according to their imaginary scoreboard.

This is not real love. This is nothing, it’s even worse than being hated as being hated is at least honest and pure.

This is edited love, it’s love rated G filtered out through all the acceptable and unacceptable variables. It’s artificial.

Real love is raw. It’s PG. It’s not equivalent to the one gave. It’s unconditional. It’s not based on any thing. It’s bigger than the one you gave.

And because it’s more than you have given them and because it’s not even expected it teaches you how to love.

It teaches you that you don’t have to love to be loved, and that’s what transforms. That’s the magic of love. That’s what makes the world better.

What most people get from their friends, their family, their partners, it’s pathetic. It’s shameful to call that love.

What most people get is an advice, a bait, a bargain to be the person they want you to be. They don’t even know you, the real you.

They don’t know the things that bring tears to your eyes, or the things that give you goosebumps and make you feel like you can slay a titan.

And you can love yourself all you want. You can connect with yourself and be yourself and live in the most authentic way possible.

But people will not change. They will not love you as you deserve to be loved because they don’t know how to love. They were never loved.

If others really love you, you would not even question whether or not you are loved. They will find their way into your heart.

That’s what real love does.

It penetrates everything. It doesn’t care for rules and formulas. It’s beyond all illusions and imaginary games, beyond everything.

And when someone loves, when someone really loves without holding anything back, this kind of love beams through anything.

There is no ego, or reason, or law, or rule, or person that can stop this kind of love. There is nobody that can stop this love from transforming them.

So if you want to be loved like you deserve to be loved, it’s best to teach others how to love. Show them the power of real love.

Forget about how you would appear, and what would others think, and what’s appropriate, and just beam your love through any excuse.

Love unconditionally, penetrate through the illusions of security we have created, show others that they have no idea how to love.

And with time you will see how your real love transformed someone. You will see how it inspired a better world.

Sooner or later you will be loved like you deserve to be loved. Through your loving you will teach others how to love.

You will experience all the most beautiful things in the world. But you must be the first one who loves.

The 3 Main Ways We Deal With Emotions And How To Escape Their Surge

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The 3 Main Ways We Deal With Emotions And How To Escape Their Surge

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” — Oscar Wilde

Emotions are inescapable part of life if you are a human being. They are movements of energy that share important messages.

The emotional being is giving you emotional responses based on the inner and outer stimuli it perceives.

However, most people are emotional illiterates. They don’t have a clue what each emotion is trying to tell them.

Not just that, but they don’t even know how to manage their emotions properly. Most people don’t even know the gift that their emotional being truly is.

This makes them slaves to their emotional being and shrinks their personal free will. Here are the main ways people deal with emotions and how to deal with them instead.

The 3 Main Ways We Deal With Emotions And One Secret Way:

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1. Reacting.

This is probably the most used way of dealing with emotions. If there is a pie chart, people use reaction to emotions 75% of the pie.

Whenever people feel something during the day, most of the emotions that arise are reacted upon. What people feel most of the time they will react to this emotion.

If they feel happiness they smile, if they feel sadness they frown and whine, if they feel anger they might argue, scream, some might even throw things around.

The energy in motion, or the emotion, is in total control of their actions. Reacting to emotions is the easiest way to deal with them as it requires the least conscious effort.

It’s an instinctual reaction that is natural to mammals. However, the consequences of reacting to your emotions is not always in your best favor.

2. Suppressing.

When the emotions we feel are too much for us to handle, or at least that’s what we believe, than we don’t want to acknowledge feeling them.

We turn away from them as if they do not exist at all. Or, if reacting to what we feel is inappropriate, we suppress this energy in motion within us.

Because we are no longer animals, we have self consciousness and we follow rules within society, we can decide what emotions to react on and what not to express.

Because expressing some emotions might be shameful in certain social environment, we hold this energy stuck.

But this energy will stay stuck within your system and it will have an effect on your being, your choices and your perspective if it’s not let out.

3. Exercising.

To exercise an emotion means to take the energy of this emotion and channel it into an activity of conscious choice.

Because we edit what emotions we will react on and what emotions we will hide, having an outlet for this stuck energy is paramount.

Here is how exercising emotions becomes our main outlet. It’s taking all these emotions we have suppressed by not reacting on them and using this energy.

Most people exercise emotions through a workout. Some people dance their emotions away. Some people channel them into playing a game.

Exercising your emotions is much healthier than suppressing them and it gives you much bigger control over the consequences of your actions.

Releasing is the secret way to deal with emotions.

One of the best ways to deal with an emotion is one that least people practice. It’s called releasing an emotion.

When you go by your day and you choose what emotions to hold within, you don’t always need to exercise their energy. You can simply release it.

Be with yourself for 5 minutes on a quiet place, sit there and feel the emotions within. Let them arise. Embrace them fully and let them keep on flowing away.

The energy will flow away in minutes. Because not many people know this simple way of dealing with stuck emotions, some of the energy still ends up stuck within people.

They either react on it or keep it suppressed until it gets overwhelming and makes them overreact. It’s time more people become smart about their emotional management.

5 Foods And Beverages That Can Cause You Anxiety

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5 Foods And Beverages That Can Cause You Anxiety

Most people who live the hectic lifestyle that the modern era requires are suffering from some type of anxiety.

Everyone is blaming the increase in anxiety disorders on the rushed lifestyle but maybe the real problem is not to be found there.

Maybe some of the anxiety people suffer from is due to poor diet and food choices that contribute to feelings of anxiety.

There are certain foods that stimulate our glands to produce more chemicals. Such stimulus might result in an imbalance of our system.

Here are the top 5 foods and beverages most people consume almost daily that can cause anxiety. Try to avoid them as much as possible.

5 Foods And Beverages That Cause Anxiety:

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1. Foods containing gluten.

Celiac Disease, which is an immune mediated disease dependent on gluten, was reported to be associated with depression and other related mood disorders. Another study mentioned on PubMed found that the elderly population that was gluten sensitive were twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression when they were compared to the controlled group.

2. Alcohol.

People might assume, because alcohol is a depressant and often has a sedative effect on people, it could be used to unwind.

The National Center for Biotechnology Information says that using alcohol to reduce anxiety will often backfire, in fact, prolonged consumption can actually cause anxiety.

The Anxiety and Depression Association of America states that around 15 million U.S. adults have a social anxiety.

They also mention that about 20% of people with social anxiety also suffer from alcohol abuse.

So if you are suffering from social anxiety, it is best to stay away from alcohol unless you are confident you can consume it in moderation.

3. Caffeine.

Most people are aware that caffeine is mostly present in coffee, energy drinks, teas, and chocolate.

Dietitians of Canada explains that caffeine excites the nervous system and has the ability to improve alertness for short periods of time.

The Canadian Mental Health Association states that when someone is suffering from anxiety, or panic attacks, they can experience a racing heart and shortness of breath.

Roland Griffiths, Ph.D., a professor in the departments of psychiatry and neuroscience at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, said that caffeine can trigger anxiety.

He also stated that caffeine can even worsen anxiety and panic disorders because it can cause jitters, irregular heartbeats, nervousness, and headaches.

4. Foods and beverages containing Sugar.

According to Dr. William Cole, senior clinic director of Cole Natural Health Centers, current research has found that high levels of serotonin can make anxiety worse.

Sugar is one of the main sources that can raise levels of serotonin. A study was conducted to see if there was an association between serotonin synthesis and social anxiety disorder.

For the study, 18 patients with social anxiety disorder underwent PET imaging along with 19 healthy controlled participants.

PET imaging is a nuclear imaging technology that allows you to see the metabolic process in the body.

Results showed that there were increased serotonin levels in the patients suffering from social anxiety disorder.

5. Foods containing trans fats.

According to a study published on PLOS, trans fat is associated with an increased risk of depression.

Spanish researchers followed over 12,000 Spanish university graduates, who had no depression symptoms, for a total of six years.

They monitored their intakes of various types of fat and their occurrence of depression as well as other mood disorders.

Researchers found a substantial relative increment of 48% in depression risk among the highest category of intake.

Researchers added that one of the reasons trans fats could increase depression symptoms is because of inflammation.

Before adding or removing certain foods from your diet, I would suggest that you consult your physician first to see if you suffer from any mental health disorders and it’s smart to consult a nutritionist as well.

Reference:
– https://educateinspirechange.org/health/5-foods-avoid-anxiety/;

The Crucial Difference Between Falling In Love And Being In Love

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The Crucial Difference Between Falling In Love And Being In Love

Falling in love is as different from being in love as laughing is different from being happy. Let me explain.

Laughing and having a good time is happiness, but it has an expiration date as soon as the joke is not funny anymore or the fun is over.

Being in love is more as being happy. It’s a way of being rather than a reaction or a response to something.

Why do we call it falling in love then?

Our ego! We want that person, we crave that person, and for a time, we need that person to such a level that they turn into a drug.

We get addicted to that person until it either destroys us or we get ahead of the game. This basic craving is what we begin considering as falling in love.

We call it falling in love because, for our ego, it seems like falling. It craves this partner so it can dissolve into them. So we can lose ourselves into them. So we can fall into them.

Let’s get back, what does being in love mean?

Well just like we said in the example. Falling in love ends as soon as the other person loses interest.

Being in love means that this is your state of being. You are in love and you live from there. You don’t try to be in love, you simply live from there.

You don’t necessarily need anything nor anyone to be there just like being happy doesn’t necessarily require a joke.

Falling in love makes us feel that we are surrounded by sunshine and daisies but we couldn’t be further away from the truth. These are intangible illusions of the ego.

But being in love is real. It is true and tangible. We don’t identify with it nor do we need it for approval, we simply live from it.

Falling in love would definitely suffice for a short period of time. You feel good, you feel validated, and you feel loved.

But is that real love?

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No, it’s just a glimpse of the love you project upon the other person. A glimpse of the real love you cannot see within yourself.

Being in love is living through this real love you already have within you as a natural state of being.

Real love is not a person. It’s not a thing. Love is in the small things of life. The things you do naturally when you are in love.

Watching your son take his first step. Watching your daughter graduate. Watching your wife on your wedding, wondering what could have made you so lucky. That is real love.

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