9 Signs The Person You Are With Is Not The Right One

Attitude

November 6, 2018

We all want to be with someone who is just our type. So we look and look and when we finally find someone who we think is the right fit for us, we might be really wrong.

The people who are right for you are not found by following some scheme or some kind of a guide line you read in a magazine.

Just because you thought a character in a movie would be perfect for you, this type of a person in real life might be the worst choice for your wellbeing.

Finding the right person is much trickier than this. However, once you get a sense of what you really need for yourself, not what your ego desires, finding your right partner is easy.

Here are some things you should know when looking for the right partner. Here are the 9 definite signs your partner is not the right person to be in a relationship with.

9 Signs Your Partner Is Not The Right One:

1. They bring up old wounds.

They will keep rubbing old wounds open. It is said that your partner is a reflection of your inner self and sometimes this might bring up old wounds, but the right partner helps you heal them, the wrong one will just irritate these wounds without helping you heal.

2. They are not interested.

They are not interested in your daily chores and they don’t care how you did at work. They don’t care about your daily problems and they probably dodge this conversation saying that you are being negative. But they would love to whine themselves.

3. They make you feel stuck.

They will make you feel like you are stuck with your Spiritual growth. They will not inspire you nor be interested in things that do inspire you. If you would like to try something new that’s making you happy and excited they might try to convince you not to.

4. They will make you feel something is off.

They will be uncomfortable in conversion with you and your intuition would keep telling you something is off. Even if there is nothing in particular for you to put your finger on. You will feel like they are hiding something, like you cannot truly connect with them.

5. They will manipulate you.

They’d try to manipulate you and feel threatened and insecure if you ever try to take charge. If you try to lead them somewhere nice or give them some helpful advice they wouldn’t listen, they will act as if you are the one who manipulates them.

6. They will keep things shallow.

They’d evade talking about things that matter and solving your problems through effective communication. They will avoid having real and deep conversations because it scares them to connect on such deep level. They will try to keep things shallow and superficial.

7. They will underestimate you.

They would try to bring you down and down play your achievements every chance they get. Whenever you achieve something you are proud of or whenever you would like to push yourself they will make you feel less confident and like nothing you achieved matters.

8. They will not care about your problems.

They will not give you any help and support. Even if things in your life might be going wrong for you and they will not be interested in giving any support or help in solving some of your problems. But they will overreact if it’s about them.

9. They will not make you feel like they love you.

They will make you feel like you are never stable in the relationship. There would always be a sense of it being over one day or the other. You might love them but they would not make you feel like they truly love you. And you will feel this.

10 Truths Your Soul Wants You To Remember More Oftenly

Journey

Dejan

November 5, 2018

Most of us we go through our daily schedules and we get lost within the streams of society forgetting important truths that our soul needs to be reminded of.

Souls aren’t tangible but they form the core of our beings. They are the spiritual reality that constitutes us.

If you start listening to your soul you will find most of the answers you are looking for. However, you also need to be reminded of some truths.

These truths are essential if you want to live your life to the fullest and follow your real purpose.

Below you will find a list of truths that your soul wants you to pay close attention to. If all you need is a reminder this article is for you.

10 Truths Your Soul Wants You To Remember:

1. No one is completely alone on their path.

While at times, you might often feel that you’re nothing but a desolate soul lost in this world, it is not true. Just think of all the plants, animals and fellow humans brimming with life around you.

2. Acknowledge and respect your roots.

All roots are imperative, whether they are the roots of a tree or a family, they have the power to build and break things. We must never truly forget where we come from and appreciate the circumstances that were of paramount importance in making us who we are.

3. Welcome the good and the bad.

Life is a vicious circle that comes with its share of good and bad. Accept the negativity that comes your way and use that as a chance to learn and grow into a better individual.

4. Self love comes first.

We all commit mistakes but there is no one who is absolutely flawless. Accept your imperfections, work on your incapacities and become an individual who makes an honest attempt to be the best version of themselves. Never forget to love yourself because you’ll always come across people who don’t love you.

5. Stop trying to control everything.

It is alright to plan your next move but when things don’t go as planned, don’t let that demotivate you. Be very accepting of change and constantly adapt to circumstances to lead a happy and fulfilling life.

6. Face your fears.

We don’t recommend you to be a reckless and fearless individual or not have any concern for caution. Always be aware of the thing that has the potential to harm you but don’t let fear get the better of you. Take risks whenever required because if you aren’t making mistakes, are you even trying?

7. Have faith.

Have faith in something whether its religion, spirituality or the people around you. If you maintain complete in the things you desire in your life, you shall receive them because that’s how life works. You might not always get what you want immediately but have faith in life.

8. Everything has a beginning and an end.

It’s important that you realize we humans are here on Earth only for a short while. So, cherish all that you’ve got because nothing lasts forever. That applies to pain and adversity, too. If you’re going through a different phase, know that it shall end soon.

9. Learn to stand behind your decisions.

We’ve all been in situations when we didn’t know how to say no to someone or something and that has affected our life negatively. So the next time your inner voice says no to something, don’t be scared to turn it down. Trust your soul.

10. Introspect more often.

Taking time to introspect often is vital to know your true inner self. All those things you think you need to chase outside are actually things you need to deal with and realize within your own self.

5 Strengths People Who Survived Toxic Relationships Acquired

Attitude

Dejan

November 4, 2018

Most of us have experienced bad relationships. However, people who experienced toxic relationships have gone through difficulties and have acquired special strengths.

These people possess a special kind of resilience that helps them rise to a higher level of functioning after experiencing significant adversity.

Believe me that if you have survived a toxic relationship, you are not damaged! On the contrary, many survivors have some kind of superpowers.

These strengths allow them to heal from the experience of being in an emotionally toxic relationship.

They can also create much healthier relationships and they can become great partners in those healthy relationships. Here are the strengths people acquire after toxic relationships.

5 Strengths People Get After Toxic Relationships:

1. A high degree of emotional intelligence, empathy and compassion.

These people possess a high degree of emotional intelligence, which starts with self awareness. Toxic individuals are often very attracted to emotionally intelligent people because insightful people possess the very qualities the abuser is lacking. Survivors demonstrate their capacity to empathize with others and are often intuitive. They can usually sense what is going on in others, sense their feelings, and have deep compassion for other living beings.

2. Skills in compromising and problem solving.

Many of these survivors are outstanding problem solvers. They know how to resolve conflict and reach compromises in challenging situations. Through their experience with toxic and challenging relationships, they have developed strong people skills and diplomacy.

3. Integrity and authenticity.

Many of these survivors can express their honesty and align their actions with their words. This superpower leads to developing credibility and congruency that others can trust. Often, abusers are drawn to these qualities because they want so much to be associated with these traits themselves.

4. Humility and accountability for one’s actions.

These survivors often possess a keen sense of self awareness. They demonstrate their humility when recognizing and owning their responsibility for a mistake and then take action to make a change. When they free themselves from a toxic relationship, these survivors have the superpower of fortifying and reclaiming their boundaries, paving the way for healthier relationships in the future.

5. Capacity to create healthy relationships through what they’ve learned.

Survivors generally learn what it takes to experience healthy and productive relationships in the future. Emotional abusers are mostly attracted to others who know how to do the work of relationships, so this is cautionary tale.

5 Reasons Why Introverts Are Often Misunderstood

Attitude

Dejan

November 3, 2018

It is highly probable that you or someone close to you is an introvert. Psychologists say that introverts are people who prefer being alone and that’s how they recharge.

Introverts, from the very childhood are labeled as Shy. They are often seen as people lacking social skills.

Some even call them as extremely self involved people. But this is far from the truth. Introverts are people who love to be with other people just like anyone else.

They are as different in variety as any extrovert. The difference is that introverts just recharge better when their are alone in their own world.

Because there are so many confusions and misunderstandings around this topic, here are 5 reasons why introverts are being misunderstood.

5 Reasons Introverts Are Misunderstood:

1. Introverts are not shy.

Often, due to their tendency of speaking less in public, they are labeled as SHY. But actually, they are people who recharge when they are being alone. When they are surrounded by many people, their energy gets drained.

2. Introverts are not snobs.

Introverts do not talk to strangers not because they think of themselves as superiors, but because it is very difficult for them to talk to a stranger. They get very uncomfortable in situations like these. So they aren’t snobs at all.

3. Introverts love to socialize.

This might sound a little strange to you but this is actually true. Introverts can be very loud and fun at a family party. They’ll amuse and entertain you, but as soon as a stranger comes near them, they’ll hide back in their shell slowly.

4. Introverts are envious of extroverted people.

Majority of introverts envy the people who are outgoing and can get along with random people easily. In their hearts they also want to be very comfortable with the strangers, thus they cater great respect for people who can socialize.

5. Introverts are very introspective.

Most introverts like to sit quietly and think about themselves. They will analyze each and every situation, which often results in over thinking. Thus, they are not able to be a long time in larger crowds and they can’t even relax properly. They need alone time to function.

7 Rules You Should Follow To Stop Worrying About Things You Can’t Control

Attitude

Dejan

November 2, 2018

“Worry is a misuse of the imagination.” ― Dan Zadra

Most of your stress comes directly from the way you think, and not the way life actually is. If you just adjust your attitude, all that extra stress will be gone.

Worry is something that adds most to our suffering. We worry about the past, we worry about the future, and we forget the only thing that really exists, the present moment.

As we worry, we are stretched between the past and the future, and the countless possible and highly unlikely futures. We live everywhere but right here where we are really alive.

So what’s the purpose of worry? Why does worry exist if it’s just something that gives us stress, makes a lot of our suffering and blinds us to the now? Why do we worry?

Just like every other seemingly negative emotion and mental state, what we call worry is just an inflamed version of its naturalness. And it occurs because we feel powerless.

We have the ability to be alert and to predict possible danger. This mental state helped us survive and evolve to who we are today. But it’s not meant to be our default state.

There are things we cannot control in life and this realization makes us feel powerless, so we forget the only real power we have, the power to make a difference in the now.

We live in a state of alertness always expecting danger and we feel powerless over things we cannot control. These two states add up on each other and worry occurs. it’s a loop.

So how do we stop worrying so much? How do we decrease its intensity and stop stressing so much? Here are some rules you should follow that will help you stop worrying so much.

7 Rules You Should Follow To Stop Worrying:

1. You can always control your response.

You cannot control everything which goes around you, but you can, in fact, control the way you respond. The most significant power is in your response.

2. You should embrace the possibility of problems.

You should not worry about whether there will be problems. You should accept the possibility that there might be problems so that you can predict them more clearly and take precautions if necessary. There are going to be plenty of problems in your life, and you will succeed in solving all of them, but worrying about whether you will have problems is just creating another unnecessary problem you can go without.

3. You can control only the now.

If you are worried too much about what may happen, as well as winder too long about what might have been, you are going to ignore and entirely miss what is. You should realize that worrying is a misuse of your incredible creative energy. Instead of imagining the best, try bring it out of you in the present moment. That’s the only moment you can ever make a difference in, and worry takes away the only real power you have.

4. You can make a difference in the now.

Today is where you make your own choice. So, today you should choose grace over impatience, beauty over negativity, as well as presence over panic and so on. The biggest way to stop worrying is to come to the now.

5. You can always make a progress.

There is absolutely nothing about the present situation you are in to, even the aspects which you cannot control, which will prevent you from making progress, step by step.

6. You are still here.

You are still alive, and you are still breathing, so you should act like that. You should let go of what is wrong and grab hold of what is right. Also, make things happen, and then let them happen. You should learn, accept, explore, as well as create and experience every single day, one tiny step at a time.

7. You can make the best out of things that happen.

You can always clear your mind and make better choices. You can always take deep breaths and filter out negativity. Keep being mindful. Keep breathing profoundly, as things ultimately turn out best for people that make the best out of the way things turn out.

12 Brutally Honest Illustrations That Depict Everything That’s Wrong With Today’s Society

Inspiration
Life Coach Code

Nezel Padayhag

November 1, 2018

12 Brutally Honest Illustrations That Depict Everything That’s Wrong With Today’s Society

“The major function of art is to show society for what it really is, even if it is unflattering.” — Brad Blackman

For centuries, art has been a significant and you can argue even crucial part of every society.

Whether the artists’ purpose is to entertain, make a creative expression or promote something, the art that they make can leave an impact the spirit of society.

This is because art is the mirror of society. It is a mirror that reflects the unedited and unfiltered truth of that society and of the people comprising it.

Over the years, art has evolved and has taken many forms. We observe it in movies, hear it in songs, read it in inspiring stories and poems, see it in illustrations and paintings.

In the 1950’s, abstract expressionism became popular because of the people’s eagerness to break away from tradition.

In the 60’s, pop art took the world as a storm. It has splashed societies as the wave of radicalism swept the decade.

The 70’s was characterized by contemporary art movements while there was a surge of conservatism during the 80’s.

In the 21st century where we’re currently in, humanity is being faced with challenges that go along with the advancement in technology.

Hence, our contemporary artists’ theme revolve around these challenges to encourage us for a deeper reflection.

The drastic increase in outer connectedness that came out with the internet demands from us to drastically increase our inner connectedness with our selves.

We have come to a time where we are more connected with each other than ever before in all human history, but we feel more alone and disconnected from ourselves than ever.

This spiritual confusion has urged artists to create art for the purpose of transforming humanity, reminding us who we are and creating a positive change.

Even if it takes them to be brutally honest, they have to do it for us to realize what has become of us. In fact, art needs to be the beacon that’s always brutally honest.

Al Margen is one of those honest illustrators that we mentioned. Her work make us pause and ask ourselves whether we find ourselves in some of her illustrations.

As our world is undergoing a consciousness shift right now, we can contribute to this shift by starting the change in ourselves.

The following illustrations might be amusing, but acting on them is the best way to put them into good use.

If we will put them into heart, if get their core message and act on it, we will have the power to transform our own corner of the world.

We can inspire others to do the same and create ripples that will ultimately make this world a much better place.

12 Brutally Honest Illustrations That Depict Everything Wrong With The World:

Timelapse Video Of The 13 Billion Years Journey The Universe Went Through To Create You

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Philosophy

Nezel Padayhag

October 31, 2018

Timelapse Video Of The 13 Billion Years Journey The Universe Went Through To Create You

“The life that breathes me is home to all souls. We are children of stars, galaxies learning to walk, eternally at home.” — Unknown

According to scientists, The Universe as we know it, started to exist about 13.7 billion years ago, right after the Big Bang.

If we compare the human existence to that and compress it in a 10 minute video, we only existed until the last fraction of a second.

What does this mean for us? We will get back to the history of The Universe to get the incredible facts.

First, it took billions of years before our galaxy, the solar system and the earth were even formed.

Second, after the earth was formed 4.54 billion years ago, it took hundred millions of years before the very first life form came into existence.

Third, the first form of humanity to walk on earth was recorded around 2.5 million years ago. Since then, humanity has evolved into what we are today.

All of this means only one thing, that we are an evolving species contained in the continuum of the ever expanding cosmos.

We exist not as individuals but as a collective. Every particle that constitutes our cells and atoms is the same kind of particle that constitutes all the creations around us.

Our home is maybe this planet, but we come out from The Universe. Everything that we are comes out from The Universe.

And if we ask what triggered the famous Big Bang to occur we would be disappointed because there is no answer to this.

Scientists say some things happen for no reason at all. They just do. There was no time and space before the Big Bang. There might just only be total nothingness. Who knows?

In the story of creation, our individual lifespan appears as a speck of time, a tiny sand in the vast ocean that’s ever expanding as far as we know.

Yet, this doesn’t mean that our existence doesn’t mean a thing. Within ourselves is the energy of The Universe, the light of the stars, and the breath of an evolution in progress.

If we come to take a look at it, really take a closer look, we will see that our business on earth has nothing to do with pursuing material gains.

It has more to do with being with the flow of the ongoing process of creation, of becoming the light that we truly are.

The changing times are enough evidence that point us to a much bigger force that is at work. And this force is slowly shifting our perspectives in alignment to our true selves.

If we find that alignment, we will once again remember that we are all connected, that we are all one.

And if ever we come to doubt ourselves, we have to remember that an energy higher than ourselves took the time of crafting us and everything else.