There are people who are considered alpha. What does it mean to be an Alpha? It implies that the person is a leader.
So we were used to hear this word more in association with males. However, women can be alpha too. And many women are Alpha these days.
An alpha female is a woman who is a leader, not necessarily of other people, but of her own life. She has her own purpose she follows.
So, if you are dating an alpha female, we really have to help you out. They aren’t easy to be with, just as alpha males.
Here are 7 important things to know before you date an alpha female so you can better understand her.
7 Things To Know Before Dating Alpha Female:
1. She will challenge you.
She will. She surely will. She will challenge you in ways you don’t even know and the thing is that she is so resolute that she won’t give up at all. She is a hard nut to crack.
2. She doesn’t need a man to make it happen.
If you want to feel ‘needed’ all the time, well, don’t be with her. She won’t actually need you all the time. She is complete all by herself and can handle everything, almost, alone.
3. She will be straight up with you.
She is not the mind games kind. If she is not happy with something, she will tell it to you straight. No games.
4. She’s a do er, not a talk er.
She will not waste time talking about getting things done. Instead, this woman will go and get things done and all that you would do is stand and watch her own the moment.
5. She doesn’t wear her Alpha on her sleeve.
She is hard to please, very hard to please. It is mostly because she doesn’t get too happy too soon. You have to try super hard to make her happy.
6. She’s not easy.
Time will be obviously difficult with this woman. For some, it is the bad kind of difficult because she will question everything and challenge you time and again.
7. But she’s definitely worth it.
Totally worth it. She is worth it because she is different. She is not the usual girl you meet. She is strong and powerful and she has opinions of her own and she cannot be brought down that easily. But, she will teach you some important lessons in life and she will totally inspire you, so absolutely worth it.
There is something we all seek, but nobody knows exactly what this thing is.
You can argue that the grand purpose of our existence is to learn how to love each other, to learn what real love is and how to practice it.
Authors, poets, film makers, song writers all have tried to give us a glimpse of real love, or at least, the way they see it.
We are obsessed with it. Everything we do we do it for a chance to find this real love out there, to fill that missing piece of the puzzle.
And we do insane things about it. But still nobody has an idea what real love is. It’s just something that we all seek.
But sooner or later we stumble upon someone, we gaze into their eyes, and there it is, the missing puzzle. Here are 10 beautiful quotes about real love.
10 Quotes About Real Love:
1. “Once you accept and love them for who they are, you subconsciously learn to love yourself unconditionally.” — Yvonne Pierre
2. “The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional.” — Stephen Kendrick
3. “When someone else’s happiness is your happiness, that is love.” — Lana Del Rey
4. “I love you without knowing how or when or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride.” — Pablo Neruda
5. “You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.” — Oscar Wilde
6. “As we grow older together, as we continue to change with age, there is one thing that will never change. I will always keep falling in love with you.” — Karen Clodfelder
7. “If a dog can love us unconditionally, why can’t we love each other the same way?” — Carol McKibben
8. “Actual love, as in unconditional love, doesn’t mean you love everything about the person. It means you don’t need them to be different than they are for you to be happy.” — Unknown
9. “Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.” — William Shakespeare
10. “Love hard when there is love to be had because perfect guys don’t exist but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” — Bob Marley
If you ask someone what would make their day better, they will usually say something extreme, like winning a big reward.
But we will tell you the 5 things that can really help them. The 5 things that will actually make their day much better.
And the best thing is that these things are all free, you have them at your disposal. However, nobody is aware that they even need these things.
There is a saying that if you want to make the world a better place you should start with yourself and then the people close to you.
Know that you have these things in your artillery and they are there for you to use them whenever you want to make someone’s day much happier.
5 Free Things You Can Always Give Others:
1. Support.
Everyone of us struggles with something. How would you feel if someone came to you and said ‘I am here for you, if you need something I’ll try to help you.’? You will most likely not even ask for help because just the thought of being supported helps you.
2. A loving smile.
Observe the facial expressions of people walking on the street. They are worried, stressed, frowned. They are not even present with their mind. You can be a real hero if you bright up someone’s day with your loving smile, it will show them that the world is not that dark.
3. Kindness.
Probably the biggest thing that the world needs at the moment is kindness. And not just to other people but kindness to ourselves. Speaking to ourselves with a kinder voice. You can always be a kinder person to others and teach them to be kinder themselves.
4. Positive energy.
You are in control of your energy and what you emit to the world. Negative energy shrinks your mindset, your world and your perspective while positive energy expands it. Give value, give love, give positive emotions and you raise everyone’s perspective.
5. Attention.
While most people will tell you countless different things that they think they need, most of them really need attention. They need someone to listen to them, to really listen unconditionally and accept them. You can give these thing by being a good listener.
What of these is your favorite thing to give to others? Do you have something to add? Do you even agree with this article? Please share your thoughts. We would love to read what you have to say.
When we are young we all believe in love. In real love. Pure love. Sincere love. And movies are the closest we come to this.
They portray a fairy tale version of this childish love. They take this naive perspective and make it even more ridiculous, to a point it becomes movie love, unreal.
And as you grow up, other people can’t wait to suck you into their victimhood reality. They can’t wait to tell you how naive you are, how you need to stop dreaming.
So they portray this mechanical version of love, a version where you need to find a partner so you can reproduce and create a family. There’s no magic, it’s just a goal.
So one group of people tell you ‘don’t do anything your soulmate will come unexpectedly’ and another group says ‘just find someone to marry, have kids and grow old.’
Both these groups are imbeciles! They each lack something crucial. They each take the sincere perspective of a child and abominate it into something impure.
They are both acting out of fear.
One group doesn’t want to take action, while the other settles for the good enough. Both of them are scared to get hurt.
Real love is out there!
And when I say real love, I mean as real as you imagined to be when you were a kid. As magical and romantic as you can think of, and maybe even more.
There is a person out there that’s so perfect for you it’s going to be the best thing that ever happened to you when you meet them. It’s like they were made just for you.
Believe, it’s not naive, it’s not childish, it’s the bravest thing ever!
Believing in real love is for heroes. It’s for people who are willing to keep their heart open, even if it means it’s going to be broken many times, in order to find it.
It’s for people who are willing to take action, to meet new people, to be honest about themselves, to work every single day to become the person their partner deserves.
It’s for dreamers, for people crazy enough to say SHHHHHH to rest of the afraid people who just want to make them stop dreaming and keep believing in their dreams.
To believe in real love is heroic!
And after all, it’s what really matters. Let’s say even if you are wrong, you were still willing to stand for something greater than all of us, something worth being wrong for.
It’s better to look for this person than settle for the good enough, it’s better to look for that majestic love story all your life than ask yourself ‘what if’ when you are old.
Those words, that ‘what if’ is far worse than being a fool all your life. So do not close yourself if you’ve been hurt, love one more time, and once more, and as once more as you need.
Be a hero of real love!
Because the truth is, nobody knows what’s the right way to live. People just choose the easy way out. And then they complain of what they got. And they try to suck others.
So stop listening to cowards. Stop listening to anyone, they have no idea. You know what’s best for you. You know it better than anyone.
Listen to your heart!
Choose to believe in love one more time. Aim as high as you can aim. Look for nothing less than the ideal. It’s way harder than settling for the good enough.
But at least you have a chance to make your dreams come true.
The society these days lives a life that’s hectic. Stress and anxiety are almost inevitable with the tempo that we live. And statistically they are on the rise.
It’s strange that in a period of human history when we are most advanced and most secure, anxiety is on the rise.
And because anxiety is a feeling that nobody is a fan of, people have created countless ways to distract themselves and hide from this emotion.
When anxiety arises people immediately go for something to distract themselves from it. They do not even feel the anxiety. The run away from it.
They open social media, watch a video, turn some music, read, converse in pointless topics, but probably the worst they do is go for the booze.
The One Healthy Thing For This Month: Drink less alcohol if you have anxiety.
Yes, drinking a beer or two will reduce your anxiety. However, just in that moment. It’s an escape, like we said. But this escape comes with a price.
It is proven that alcohol creates an imbalance in your body’s chemistry, and exactly this imbalance reduces your anxiety and relaxes your nerves.
However, your body will tend to reestablish balance. So the next morning when the alcohol fades away, your anxiety will return, doubly or triply.
The things you think of the next morning are all anxiety driven. Why do you think you think of whether or not you did shameful things?
It’s because your anxiety hijacks your thoughts, it wants to find something to reinforce itself. Happiness, for example, will make you remember happy things.
If you are person who feels anxiety regularly, you might have some anxiety disorder and you should see a professional.
Anxiety disorders happen because of a stressed lifestyle, past traumas, or just a chemical imbalance. However, you don’t have to live with anxiety, there are ways to help yourself.
The dumbest thing you could do is go for the booze to relieve yourself from anxiety. It’s not just unhealthy, but it’s not effective on the long term, it just masks your problem.
If you are a person who feels anxiety daily, you should try things like eating a healthier diet, exercise, yoga, hike, swim, breathing techniques, meditate, dance, laugh.
When you detox your spirit you will naturally be a happier person.
Every single day people consume 4 ‘poisons’ that prevent their spirits from expanding and evolving. In this article we will tell you what are those and how to detox them.
Our spirit naturally wants to grow and evolve. We are meant to be much greater beings than the way we live our lives. And you can peak this potential at certain individuals.
But you have this potential too. All of us do. We are all unique and we can all give unique fruits to the world if we let our spirits develop fully instead of imprisoning ourselves.
Just remember the creative and wondrous version of yourself you were as a child. Imagine what you could have been if you kept developing that spirit. And you still are able.
You just need to detox your spirit, gain perspective and create a better lifestyle for yourself, one that is more ‘poison’ free. Here is how you can do this.
The 4 ‘Poisons’ You Take Daily:
1. Negativity.
What is negativity? Let’s see it like this, let’s say that your energy is either expansive or contractive.
Expansive energy comes from abundance, it means you are open to new possibilities and you see opportunities.
Contractive energy comes from scarcity, it means you are protective, defensive, closed to possibilities and your attention is on problems.
To understand negativity you should see it as something that makes your energy more contractive, and this something can be a person, environment or even a song.
Most of us are surrounded by negativity daily. From the conversations you have with colleagues to TV news and songs on radio, most of them hold your attention on problems.
Most of these streams share retold stories and promote fear. They promote scarcity mindset. They reinforce the victim mentality. They keep you from expansion.
How to detox from negativity? First you should realize that negativity is part of life, it’s not something to avoid completely, just do not let it predominate.
To detox from negativity you should create a negativity fast. Detach from negativity, from people, environments, TV, movies, songs, that spread negativity.
Do this for 2 weeks and see how you feel. Try to bring more positivity in your life, listen to uplifting music, watch comedies, connect with positive people, read better books.
2. Overthinking.
The way society works is very mentally oriented. It’s how we have developed complex social structures, with laws and rules.
However, this way of living makes us forget, maybe not even realize at all, that experiencing life through the mind is just one of many realms.
Overthinking, then, is a byproduct of living solely through your mind, experiencing everything mentally, directing all your attention and energy to thinking.
This way of living creates anxiety and stress. Why? Because the mind is a tool that generates possible and mostly, impossible scenarios.
Living solely through your mind, it will make you so detached from reality that you will worry about every single possibility and even impossibility it can think of.
You give so much importance to your mind that you believe everything it thinks of. Instead of using this powerful tool you are used by it.
How to detox from overthinking? First you should realize that there are more ways to experience life than through your thoughts. Feel it, touch it, explore.
Open yourself to other realms of existence. Try to see the world with fresh eyes. Relax your mind through various practices. Observe your thoughts instead of trusting them.
As you step back from your overactive mind try to feel your feelings. Bring your attention to what you feel, what you sense. Most importantly, start playing again.
3. Comparison.
The disease of modern society is comparison. Especially with social media. And do not get me wrong, I don’t think social media is the problem, I think it only highlighted the problem.
I think we were competing with each other way before the internet was even a thing. Social media just gave us a tool intended to connect us that we used to satisfy our ego.
People love to watch how other people live. They love to gossip and share stories about other people’s lives. Why? Because somewhere deep down they feel it makes them better.
However, with social media, anyone can pretend to be anything. They can create ego over their ego. They can pretend to live the happiest life possible just for others to see.
And when people scroll through social media and see these pictures, they immediately feel as if there is something wrong with them. It’s a game of comparison.
In this game nobody wins. There is always someone better than you. You get that dopamine fix of being liked, but there is always someone with more likes.
How to detox from comparison? First you must realize that the more likes you have the less confident you are, the more approval you get the more you need.
Accept who you are. Stop playing this fool’s game and embrace fully who you are, with all your talents and flaws. Take time off from social media for couple of weeks.
The only way to beat that game is to stop playing it. Create better game. Instead of comparing yourself with others, keep score of your goals. It’s much more fulfilling.
4. Distractions.
One of the best things you can do for yourself is to take a step toward your purpose, to follow your passions and joy, to do things that really matter.
And chances are you know what you are supposed to do. If you are really honest with yourself, if you are on a lie detector, you will tell the truth.
You know what you are supposed to do, what fulfills you the most, but for some reason, you keep running within the rat wheel.
This reason is, most of the time, distraction. You get these glimpses of awareness, watching a video or reading an article like this one, and you get back to the wheel.
This rat wheel is the endless amount of distractions all around you aiming to capture your attention. And they keep you within the comfort zone, postponing what matters.
These distractions range from social media, games and mindless conversations with people you don’t even like to addictions, activities and habits not in your control.
How to detox from distractions? First you must realize that distractions will be always there, it’s you who needs to take more responsibility of your attention.
Make some distraction free zones. Protect yourself from distractions by creating couple of hours you are unavailable to others, you just do what makes you happy.
If you know your purpose than make a strategy. Create a purpose plan. Create a schedule, you can invest 45 minutes per day to take actions toward your purpose.
Most of the anxiety we feel is based on thoughts, not reality.
Your life is filled with stress. It is inevitable in today’s society. Work, family, friends, projects, even commuting can be stressful. But our mind creates the most of the stress.
Stress by itself is not necessarily bad. It’s part of life, it’s essential for growth. There is positive stress and negative stress, the difference hides in the context of its existence.
If it’s a byproduct of following your heart and purpose, then it is positive stress. But most of our stress is due to overthinking and anxiety, imprisoned by a lifestyle we have created.
Most of the things we stress about exist only in our mind. Anxiety is as old as the world, but we haven’t learned how to live with it. We try to run away and create more of it.
The secret in all of this is not learning how to control stress, thoughts, anxiety, but how to not let them control you. These quotes will relax your mind and show you what I mean.
10 Quotes For Anxious People To Relax Their Mind:
1. “Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” — Deepak Chopra
2. “You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.” — Dan Millman
3. “Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action.” — Walter Anderson
4. “I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth diminishing your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear.” — Steve Maraboli
5. “Anxiety was born in the very same moment as mankind. And since we will never be able to master it, we will have to learn to live with it, just as we have learned to live with storms.” — Paulo Coelho
6. “Rule number one is, don’t sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is, it’s all small stuff.” — Robert Eliot
7. “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
8. “To live by worry is to live against reality.” — E. Stanley Jones
9. “Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment.” — Grenville Kleiser
10. “He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” — Shannon L. Alder
