The way to real happiness is much quicker than most people think.
Every single human on the planet wants a quick fix to happiness. And there is a whole industry dedicated to selling you the secret technique.
The truth is there is no secret technique, no shortcut to real and everlasting happiness. However, the way to real happiness is not as long as you think.
Majority of the world thinks that they need to have a good job, a big house, a beautiful partner in order to feel happy.
But that’s the longer way, and it does not lead to real happiness, but to a plastic one, empty inside. In fact, the way to real happiness is much quicker.
We can write a whole book about this topic, but if you want to know the quickest way to happiness than stop doing at least 2 of these 5 things.
If You Want To Feel Happier Stop Doing These 5 Things:
1. Stop listening to negative music.
What is negative music you might ask. Well, any music that brings you down and puts you into a victimhood mentality. Be aware when you listen to the radio and avoid such music.
2. Stop watching the news.
The news, just like most things on TV, are a show. They compete with other news shows for your attention. The easiest way to capture attention is with negative information.
3. Stop eating processed food.
One of the biggest reasons someone might feel lethargic is the food they eat. Processed, fast food is not really healthy for you. The healthier you eat the happier you are.
4. Stop gossiping.
Just like processed food, gossiping is an unhealthy food for the human spirit. It’s a fast conversation topic, but one that creates a mindset that does not allow real happiness.
5. Stop looking for approval from others.
Majority of the world lives with intent to impress other people. They live for approval. This prevents you from doing what you really love doing, from living and being happy.
Love is probably the most powerful emotion, and when you start to experience anxiety over that love, it’s not uncommon for it to have a profound impact both on your relationship and on quality of your life.
All relationships require trust, tenderness, and patience.
And people with anxious thoughts can destroy them. But this will not happen if you can calm your mind.
9 Techniques to Calm the Mind:
Constant worrying, negative thinking, and always expecting the worst can take a toll on your emotional and physical health. Here are some techniques to calm the mind:
1. Take some time for yourself
When you feel extremely stressed or have an argument, then go to a room alone, sit down, and cool down.
2. Remember the good
All you have to do is to close your eyes and think of the wonderful times you had with your partner. This will help your mind relax and give you a reason to try to improve your relationship.
3. Use your hobby as your solace
If you just want to get away from your partner for a while and spend some time on your own, use your hobby to relax.
4. Learn to breathe properly
Breathing techniques take some minutes to perform but can have a very good effect on stress relief and reduction.
5. Practice a healthy lifestyle
Exercises and healthy food are probably the most helpful methods to calm your mind. Remember the phrase: “A healthy mind in a healthy body.”
6. Meditation
A deeper focus on internal peace and relaxation is provided by meditation. Regular practice of meditation will help calm the mind in a few weeks.
7. Social gatherings
This is an obvious one. To calm your mind, you need to have regular meeting with friends and family.
8. Rest and sleep
Sleep and rest enough to relax and calm the mind.
9. Reading
This is another technique to calm your mind from unwanted thoughts. Reading fills your mind with thoughts regarding what you read. So, reading any pleasant adventures, spiritual books, effort quotes, etc., will calm your mind.
The world seems to have separated two groups of emotions, positive and negative. Guilt seems to fit in the second group, but that’s not the truth.
The state of guilt is what’s bad. It’s ok to feel guilty until you can see the lesson and possible actions you can take. But not longer than that.
You see, each emotion tells you a powerful message, it shares an important lesson, but we are all illiterate when it comes to the emotional language.
We have no idea what emotions tell us, what’s their purpose, so we end up being reactive to their charge.
But each emotion screams the most important lessons to you. Guilt as an example, tells you how to be the best version of yourself.
3 Things Most Of Us Mistake About Guilt And Forgiveness:
1. Guilt is an emotion that helps you learn.
It seems like the world has given the emotion of guilt a negative label. However, the emotion of guilt is not negative. In fact, it’s really helpful.
Guilt shows us what is against our code of honor, where we did a mistake, so we can know where to work on.
The emotion of guilt help us know what we should better in our actions or character so we can know how to be more congruent to our best version.
2. Real forgiveness is more about freeing yourself.
When we blame other people and hold resentment, we think that somehow we are punishing the other person. that’s a BIG lie.
When you blame someone else, when you hold resentment, it’s you who is getting hurt, it’s you who is drinking that emotional poison.
Forgiving others is an act of release, it’s freeing ourselves from them. it’s more about you than them. However, do not forget the lesson.
3. If you can do something make sure it’s the right action.
The biggest mistake of people who learn that forgiveness is freeing is using this as an excuse not to take action, or taking the wrong action.
These emotions show you what doesn’t resonate with your code of honor, but if the action you take makes things worse, than do not take it.
It’s not just about you. Do not hurt others so you can feel relieved. Feeling guilt and resentment isn’t bad, as long as you learn the lessons they show.
Probably a more important goal for the human spirit than becoming an adult, is becoming an individual.
There are people who move out of their parent’s home by the age of 20, and there are those who still live with their parents at the age of 50.
In this article we will show you the 5 incredible ways how your life quality improves as you start living alone.
The natural flow of life is to grow with parents and then to move out so you can develop as an individual.
And most families fail to guide their children into the second step of their development, moving out and living on their own.
By reading these 5 ways, you will see how your overall happiness in life increases when you live on your own. Get inspired to take the first step.
5 Incredible Ways How Living Alone Improves Your Life:
1. You are free to create your own little kingdom.
When you live with your parents you have a certain freedom to organize and decorate your room. But your desires are still dependent on their decisions.
When you live alone you are completely free to use your budget and create your own little kingdom. You can decorate, not just your room, but the whole apartment.
You can insert and create whatever you want in your home. You can organize it any way you want. You can add any color you desire. You can do whatever you desire.
You can be dressed in your most comfortable clothes, or don’t wear any clothes at all, you can sleep in the living room, in the bedroom, or even in the bath if you want.
You can put on your favorite toons at 2am and dance if you want. Nobody can tell you not to because it’s your own little kingdom. This kind of freedom will make you happier.
2. You become a more responsible individual.
When you live alone there are no longer your parents to make the big decisions, there is nobody to make your bed, it’s your responsibility to do those things.
You are responsible for your bills, for the cleaning, for making food, for buying groceries. And if you don’t do those things you won’t be yelled upon, you will simply starve.
If there is nobody to make your bed, you will learn to make it yourself. If there is nobody to clean after you than you will learn to clean after yourself.
If you are the only one who needs to do these chores, in all probability, you will do them, and you will become a far more responsible individual in the process.
Just learning to make your own bed in the morning will give you a mindset that you are an accomplisher. You will have a mindset that you start your day with success.
3. You do not get bothered by others.
If you live with your siblings you can confirm how irritating it is to buy some snacks and plan them, just to find out that one of your siblings sneaked and ate them.
And not just this. Waiting in front of the bathroom for your sibling to get out while they are having a bath, or not being able to watch something on the TV because they study.
All these things are really irritating. But remember, they are not the only ones who are irritating. You have been the one who irritated them at some point or another.
Living with your parents and siblings, it’s inevitable to get irritated. One of you will step on each other’s boundaries, not because you are bad people, but because that’s the way it is.
This problem is solved with moving out. Living alone you will not get bothered by anyone. You can be sure that nobody will touch your snacks and you can pee whenever you want.
4. You build self confidence.
Living alone is not an easy thing, at first. You will face many of your fears when you take a step to move out of your parent’s home and make it on your own.
First, you will need to learn how to make your own choices, how to deal with problems yourself, how to take care of yourself when nobody else is around.
This is scary. We will not sugarcoat it. However, facing one of your biggest fears is one of the best ways you can transform into the best version of yourself.
By facing your fears you realize that you are much stronger and more capable than you gave yourself credit for. This is character building. It grows your confidence.
And as you realize you are capable living on your own, you are becoming your own person, a person who is not imprisoned by fear, a confident individual.
5. You realize who really matters.
Living with your parents, you often overlook how much they mean to you. You don’t even connect with them when you converse, most of the time you ignore each other.
You don’t realize how much you love them, you don’t realize how much they love you, how much they did for you and how hard it was for them to maintain a home.
When you move out of your parent’s home, you will notice how much you actually miss them. You will feel lonely at first, you will miss their company, their chatter.
And as you realize how much you miss them, how much you actually care for them, you will get closer to them. Even though you don’t live together you will be closer.
You will use every moment you go to visit them to have a real talk, to connect, to show the love you have for each other. By living alone you will be closer to people who really matter.
What you feel in the morning is the theme of your day.
They say that the way we start our mornings is the way we go about our day, and this is so true. That’s why feeling happy in the morning is crucial.
If you start your day with stress and drama, the rest of your day will most likely have the same theme, the same flavor.
And most of us are not even aware of how our day begins, most people have no control over their morning and what they feel.
They get up, check their phone, get a little frustrated, a little entertained, and they go by their day. They don’t use the power of mornings.
Here, in this article, we will reveal to you 3 simple things you can do each morning to insert a happy theme to the rest of your day.
3 Things To Do In The Morning To Have A Happy Day:
1. Think about the happiest moment in your life.
We all have these moments when we felt the happiest. They are stored deep within our mind. Trying to recall some of them will immediately make you happier.
In order to summon these memories you should ask yourself when did you felt the happiest in your life and wait for the answer to surface. Give it couple of seconds.
When the memory shows up feel free to explore it. See it, feel the happiness that you felt, try to sense other details in the memory. Do this for couple of minutes.
2. Play music that makes you happy.
There are songs that we like, and there are songs that make us stand up and dance, songs that make us sing the lyrics out loud even though we might suck at dancing or singing.
These songs evoke excitement and intense happiness within us. They have the power to immediately shift our mood from sad to happy. We have strange connection with them.
So create a list of such songs and play some of them each morning. Let the emotion of happiness take over you, sing, dance, move as the happy energy makes you move.
3. Think about everything you do have.
We are so obsessed about couple things we don’t have, things we think we must get in our life so we can feel whole. However, we tend to overlook all that we do have.
And we have so many things that we neglect. We have so much things to be thankful for, so many things other people would trade lives to get. Yet, we frustrate about what we lack.
Thinking about all the things you have, things you are thankful for, and lowering your bar to the little things, that are actually big, you will immediately feel happiness and love.
Sometimes, the right Heartset in life is more important than the right Mindset, Toolset or Skillset.
You’ve heard the word mindset thousand times. Most success coaches use this word in every speech. But ‘Heartset’ is what it all comes down to.
Yes, having the right mindset is important, but it will not give you everlasting happiness. That’s because Heartset determines your happiness.
No matter how successful you are, no matter what you have in life, if you don’t have a good Heartset you will not be able to find happiness.
You might get temporary happiness as a result of momentary activity or achievement, but not everlasting happiness and inner fulfillment.
The famous author Robin Sharma has created the word ‘Heartset’ to explain this missing piece of the puzzle. This article speaks all you need to know.
What Is A Heartset?
If I tell you to go and spend a whole day doing the most fun activity you can possibly think of, how would you feel?
Now, if I tell you to do something you fear doing, something outside of your comfort zone, but it’s necessary to make your life much happier, how would you feel?
In all probability, you will be excited and motivated to do the thing in the first example, and you would do everything in your power to avoid doing the thing in the second example.
That’s exactly what a Heartset is. Your Heartset determines the different arousal of feelings in different scenarios, what kind of emotions arise in different situations.
That’s why your Heartset is especially important when it comes to happiness in life, success and performance. Mindset is just one side of the puzzle and Heartset is the other.
What’s The Difference Between a Mindset And a Heartset?
Mindset determines the thought patterns and paradigms of thinking in different situations, it is the structure of the mental realm.
Heartset determines the emotional patterns and feelings that arise in different situations, it is the structure of the emotional realm.
If the Mindset is responsible for the way we use our thoughts our Heartset is responsible for the way we use our emotions in different situations.
If the Mindset is the way we think about the things that affect us our Heartset is the way we feel about the things that affect us.
Having the right Mindset means to approach things with the right mental artillery. Having the right Heartset means to feel the right feelings.
This Is A Right Heartset:
So what is a right Heartset? Let’s say the right Mindset for starting a business is that things will not be easy, but there is always a way to solve problems and create my business.
The right Heartset in this scenario would be to feel motivation when things get more challenging rather than resistance, to feel happy for progress rather than overwhelm.
You see, you can have the right Mindset all you want, but unless you have the right Heartset you’ll avoid taking the necessary action to create your business, for example.
Having the right Mindset is important, but nobody speaks about how important having the right Heartset is. And it is as much, or maybe even more important than Mindset.
The formula for the right Heartset is to feel, in any situation, the things that are beneficial for you, your happiness, your life, your progress, your success and growth as a person.
5 Ways To Have The Right Heartset In Life:
1. Release the resistance around discomfort.
Nobody wants to feel uncomfortable, but most of the things that make you grow are. So accept discomfort as part of life. It’s ok to feel it and still do what you need to.
2. Stop taking things personally.
If you approach life that everything happens for or against you, you will start to take things personally. Things just happen, it’s not about you. It’s how you respond that matters.
3. Question your feelings.
Most of the time we have no control over the feelings that arise within us, we take them for granted. Question them, see if you can feel something that empowers you instead.
4. Focus on offering more value instead of taking.
It is in our nature to focus on getting more rather than giving. But when you focus on offering more value it’s more rewarding, paradoxically you get more value of the world.
5. Learn the messages each emotion speaks to you.
Emotions arouse certain feelings within us. When you know what each emotion is trying to tell you, the feelings that arise within you will be more beneficial. Here is a complete guide!
Conclusion:
Establishing balance between your heart and mind is necessary if you want progress accompanied with happiness.
The right Mindset and the right Heartset are two sides of the same coin, they complete each other, on is but a half of the whole image.
To feel empathy rather than contempt, to feel kindness rather than cruelty, to feel abundance rather than scarcity, these are some right Heartsets.
To feel courage and assertiveness when things are scary and you need to go out of your comfort zone, that’s one of the best Heartsets.
Having the right Heartset in life comes down to one simple thing, open your heart to the world. Even if it is uncomfortable, give your unique value.
Your passions are the glimpses that unveil your purpose.
When we are young we all have strong passion for many things, and these things intersect into a point that reveals our purpose.
However, as we grow old we tend to neglect these passions until they are barely visible. We try to be grown ups and do what grown ups do.
We think that to be a grown up it means to forget about your dreams and passions and to do what earns you enough to be part of society.
But the one thing that will give most meaning in your life is your purpose, and you cannot find your purpose if you barely know your passions.
Here are 3 unusual ways to reconnect with your passions and rediscover that feeling of excitement, curiosity and purpose.
3 Unusual Ways To Unleash Your Passion:
1. Build something from scratch.
There is something inspiring about a project where you yourself build something from scratch. It connects you with your inner masculine energy.
It can be anything, from a household item to DIY toy you’ve always wanted to build. And the process of you going step by step to build this will reconnect you with your passion.
You will remind yourself what it’s like to be able to build yourself something you desire. This will improve your confidence as well.
2. Create something artistic.
Building something can be fun, but it’s a more masculine task. Creating something artistic is what you should do if you want more feminine approach.
You can paint an image, or write a novel, or write a song, play an instrument, or even redesign your clothes.
Whatever you choose, creating something artistic will reconnect you with your feminine energy and your passions.
3. Learn a skill you always wanted to learn.
We all want to learn various things. Some of them are not even in the same group. Especially when we are little kids, we have curiosity for many things.
Some of these skills are still pending to be learned, the kid in you still craves the curiosity to learn how to juggle, speak in different voices, act, dance, or something else.
When you invest time and energy to learn a skill you always wanted to learn you satisfy the kid within you and as a reward the kid will remind you what filled your heart with joy.
