The 7 Traits All Fake Friends Have In Common

Attitude

August 29, 2018

Friendships are one of the best things in life. They are literally midway between a sibling relationship and a romantic one. They embody the qualities of both.

As a matter of fact, you say things like “my brother is my best friend” or “my husband is my best friend”, to show what the bond means to you.

But like everything in life, there are exceptions. In this case, fake friends. You might think who would want to hang out with them but they are not easily noticed.

There are however, some things in common among most if not all fake friends. They all share the same behaviors.

So, here are the 7 traits that these fake friends will show. If you find more than two of these traits in someone, they are not your real friend.

The 7 Traits All Fake Friends Show:

1. They try to change the person you are.

These fake people would try to mould you into something you are not, just because it suits their purpose. They don’t care about who you are, they don’t care to help you flourish and become the best version of you, they want you to be the best version for them.

2. They are jealous.

All of us are envious sometime. But envy is not bad, it let’s us know what our heart desires. Jealousy however, is what jealousy mutates if you don’t take action to hear what you desire and blame the other person for having what they have. Jealousy is destructive, it is the state of rather both of you having nothing than just the other person having what you want. Fake friends are jealous and all they want from you is your success. Or, they are there for some personal benefit. whatever the case, they will use you to get what you have, or make you don’t have what they secretly desire.

3. They take it all out on you when they want.

All their frustration and all their rage, they take out on you. You are their scapegoat. Besides, they just walk over you when it suits them, and they lick your feet when they need something from you. These guys are the worst.

4. They will lash out when you give them feedback.

When you call them out on their flaws and give them constructive feedback they will lash out at you like you are attacking them. This is because they are silently competing with you meaning they would rather want to be better than you, than be your real friends. They can’t even grasp how someone can give them feedback to see them improve. They think you are attacking them.

5. They do not celebrate when you succeed.

Because they are jealous, fake friends will bitterly smile when you succeed to hide their true emotions. Your success stings them like they are harmed by it. They see you as an enemy who won a territory. Fake friends will not celebrate your victories because they see them as their losses. They can hide it, and they can hide it really good, but because they are burning with jealousy they can not be truly happy about your successes.

6. They demand a lot, but never give back the same.

This is because they want to see themselves as superior to you. They want to be served by you. Even if it is the smallest amount, they want to give less than you. Real friends do not even keep track because they give as they feel, their love for you makes them give unconditionally. Fake friends will try to be in a position of demanding, not serving.

7. They will reflect their blame upon you.

Fake friends hate when their secret agenda is revealed because even they don’t really know how bad of a person they are. So if you call them out on their fakeness they will act as if you are a bad friend. They will try to reflect their blame upon you and nitpick all the little moments you might have did something wrong. They might even call you out on personal problems they have nothing to do with and call you out on your flaws. They will try to appear as they are the punching bag that despite all your flaws choose to be your friend. They will do everything but try to accept their fake friendship.

The 3 Things A Healthy Relationship Must Have To Thrive

Attitude

Dejan

August 28, 2018

What happens when you stop nurturing a relationship with care and attention?

It gradually begins to recede into the background until it dies.

Hence it is essential to evaluate your relationship every now and then to see if you are getting too comfortable in its banality.

If yes, then maybe it’s time to rekindle the spirit of love again.

These are the 3 things a relationship must have in order to be healthy and thrive.

The 3 Things Thriving Relationships Must Have:

1. Observe, question and discuss.

It’s very important for people in a relationship to observe the changes in them and their partners. If you suspect any change in mood or behavior, ask questions. Sometimes just discussing things with your partner, or answering their queries, helps you organize your feelings better. Asking questions and discussing opinions will make your bond stronger. Look for the solutions together and help each other organize your thoughts. It will certainly make you feel more relaxed sharing the emotional burden equally.

2. Random romantic acts of love.

Small gestures of love spontaneously placed around the house are always a delight. Slip a love note expressing your affection and gratitude for who they are. Stick a funny note on the fridge expressing your love for them. Do your partner’s chore for a change. You could get up 10 minutes in advance and make a delicious breakfast for them. Show up in their office with a present. Be their secret admirer. Small romantic gestures are the things that make the biggest difference in keeping the love alive and the relationship thriving.

3. Quality time for each other.

Mostly we’re so busy in our daily schedule that we rush to work without even sharing some morning time with our partner. But if you think about it, what’s the point of success if you don’t spend quality time with the people you love. If you can’t be just a couple of minutes late, wake up earlier just to cuddle your partner. It’ll be your most special moment of the day. Spend time together, go on trips, cook, start a mutual project both of you are passionate about, learn something new, play games, go to the cinema, help each other out with something, it will help you grow together individually, and as a couple.

The 6 Mental Strength Myths We All Need To Forget

Attitude

Dejan

August 27, 2018

Mental strength is one of the most misunderstood and misinterpreted concepts.

We expect a person with great mental strength to remain strong and unaffected at all times which isn’t fair.

It’s essential for some us to unlearn our preconceived notions of mental strength and that’s what this article is for. Keep reading to find out what mental strength is really about.

6 Myths About Mental Strength:

1. If you are mentally strong you will always be positive.

Just because you are mentally strong does not mean you will be positive all the time. It’s biologically not possible for a person to remain positive all the time. It’s not natural. Mentally strong people might have a more hopeful outlook and they might try to make the best of things, but don’t blame them for being down at times. We are all human beings.

2. Mentally strong people do not give up.

Being mentally strong doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to give up. There is no point in continuing to fight a losing battle. The strongest people will know when it’s time to give up the fight. Real mental strength is knowing when to give up and when to keep pushing.

3. You don’t have limits if you are mentally strong.

There is nothing wrong with having limits. In fact, knowing your limits is crucial to be mentally strong. While it’s great to want to do better and raise your standards, some things are just not possible. Other limits might keep you sane and safe. Breaking all your limits might actually be a waste of time because you can’t break all your limits at once. As you break some, new ones will be created, so you will keep going in circles. It’s not about having no limits, is about creating the right limits for yourself that help you be the best version of you. Those with mental strength know what limits to push, and what to keep.

4. Mental strength means you will always succeed.

You don’t have to succeed all the time. Sometimes life just pulls you down and that is okay, as long as you know you’ve done the right thing. You have to fall before you learn to fly. It’s normal to fail because that’s how you learn. Mental strength is knowing you will fail sometimes, but you also know how to learn from failures so you can succeed other times.

5. People who are mentally strong will accept any challenge.

Mentally strong people are not afraid to say no. They are confident in their opinions and know they do not always have to give in to others. They will not change themselves for fear of other people’s opinions. They respect their time and energy and create firm boundaries. This means they often say no to things they are not interested in.

6. Change is something that does not upset a mentally strong person.

You can embrace change without liking it. While a mentally strong person will outwardly look like they’re handling change well, they might be feeling very upset inside. Just because they are mentally strong doesn’t mean they are emotionless. Even the strongest people feel. In fact, real strength is found in midst of emotional vulnerability. Mentally strong people feel intensely, maybe even more intensely than a normal person, but their strength comes from dealing with these emotions without letting the emotions to control them.

30 Things That Happen When You Start To Follow Your Heart

Journey
Life Coach Code

Dejan

August 26, 2018

What if I told you that there is only one thing you should do, just one advice you should follow, to live the life you love to live from the bottom of your heart?

You don’t need a promotion, you don’t need a big house, you don’t need to find yourself or become someone you don’t want to become.

You are enough by yourself. And the thing you are supposed to do sounds really simple, and a little cliche in fact, but we will get into the real meaning of it.

What I am talking about is to follow your heart. This is an advice everyone seems to give, and most don’t really understand what it really means.

Now we will explain what following your heart really means and gives. You are enough to do this, in fact, you were always enough to start doing this.

30 Things That Happen When You Follow Your Heart:

1. You start to learn new exciting things.

When you start listening to your heart you will be driven to try and do things you always wanted to do but you didn’t do because you were busy following your regular daily pattern. These things can be as simple as listening to a new genre of music you’ll fall in love with.

2. You let go of the past.

As you follow your heart you are almost forced to move forward with your so called narrative. This means that you will need to let go of things that no longer serve you to make space for things that your heart wants you to have.

3. You discover new passions.

The path of your heart is abstract. The only clues you have of where to go is that inner pull toward something you love and your passions. As you follow your passions new ones will be unlocked. Starting to write might lead you to start painting or playing an instrument.

4. You remove things that are toxic from your life.

When you follow your heart you leave no space for toxicity. The path of love washes away any toxicity from your life. Toxic habits become easier to get rid of and toxic people suddenly start to avoid you because they can’t handle the shine of your heart.

5. You meet new people who resonate with your truth.

As you follow your own truth and express it through your actions people who resonate on the same level will be attracted to you. They will come from nowhere and become your friends, supporters and followers who help you on your journey.

6. You heal inner wounds.

The pain body and the inner trauma you keep carrying with you will start to weigh more and more. This is because your subconscious mind wants you to face it and heal it as it knows this is the only thing that truly prevents your from doing what your heart wants.

7. You slowly start to create a healthy lifestyle.

As you deal with your inner world the results will be manifested into the outer world. As you heal your inner world the same will happen with your outer world. You will create healthier environment and do more things that keep you energized and healthy.

8. You stop regretting.

We feel the greatest regret when we do not follow our heart. When we know that we love to do something and we find excuses of why not to do it, but discover we should have done it. Following your heart means you proactively do what you love, there is no regret in this.

9. You forgive yourself.

As you proactively go for what your really love you will need to face fears. In those moments when you are courageous enough to be afraid and still go for what you love you will forgive yourself for the things you keep blaming yourself.

10. You start to be kind to yourself.

Following your heart is not always easy. Even though it means you go for the things you love sometimes it will be really hard. And you will be on your own. This will teach you to be kind to yourself because yourself is all you are going to have.

11. You start to be more confident.

As you push forward and collect reference points of moments you faced your fears, of moments when it was really hard but you were strong enough to not back down, your self esteem will start growing and your default state of confidence will increase.

12. You become a happier person.

Because you are not wasting your time with irrelevant things, activities that drain your energy and you care nothing about, you are surrounded only by meaningful things and you have a sense of purpose gives you fulfillment. This will make you a happier person.

13. You start to love the world and everyone in it.

You can’t follow your heart with hate. You need to open yourself to love in order to sense more of what you truly love. As you open your heart you will see the love in the world around you. You will see the beauty hiding in plain sight not many people can see.

14. You are filled with more energy.

The sole sense of doing something you really love doing is filling you with energy. You have probably wondered how you can do something you really love for 8 hours and feel energized while doing something for 40 minutes and you feel completely drained.

15. You radiate positivity.

As you do more of what you love you are also spreading love all around you. As you follow your heart and fill up with energy and positivity you radiate this positivity to every person you interact with.

16. You are more courageous to face your fears.

As we said, following your heart is not always easy. There are moments when you need to face your fears. However, as you gather courage to do this, you are strengthening yourself to tackle more of them and you are freeing yourself from their shackles.

17. You don’t see obstacles but lessons.

It’s normal to fail sometimes. But following your heart is not about success or failure. It’s a reward within itself. You would much rather do the things you love and fail at them than not do them at all. And as you face obstacles lovingly, you will see the lessons they hold.

18. You start to give.

It is said you need to fill your own cup first so you can fill others’ and as you follow your heart your cup is filled with love. It’s filled so much that it overflows. You can’t help but to give and share your love. And as much as you do this as more you fill yourself with love.

19. You are more lighthearted.

It’s not that you are without a single care. In fact, when you follow your heart you care even more, however, you care about less things. You care about the things that you should truly care about and this relieves you from all the insignificant heaviness of the world.

20. You become a stronger person.

As you face the hardships following you heart brings you grow as a person. The inner journey actually reflects outside and you are led to face the inner obstacles that keep you from growing. Doing this, you start shedding your layers and you become stronger.

21. You learn powerful spiritual truths.

The inner journey is different for everyone. However, the direction we all go towards in our inner journey is getting closer to our heart. The closer you get the more spiritual truths you discover and learn.

22. You discover your true calling.

Nobody knows exactly what their purpose is. And even if you know, your purpose grows, changes and evolves. As you follow your heart you discover more clues and pieces of your true calling. It’s like your purpose slowly unfolds in front of you and you sense its essence.

23. You discover what you really love.

The biggest problem is not that you have no idea what you really love, it’s that you don’t take action to go for the things you kinda love. Nobody knows what they really love, at first. However, as you take action you get a sense of the things that you really, really love.

24. You trust your intuition more.

Following your heart is like working out for your intuition. At first, you might know what’s your first step, but after your first step, following you heart is mainly directed by your intuition. When you don’t know where to go and you listen your intuition, you strengthen it.

25. You stop overthinking.

A mind without a task and direction is a mind that will overthink and worry. That’s a result of our evolution and something that helped us evolve. Following your heart will obsess your mind. It will keep it focused on things you really love doing and you’ll stop overthinking.

26. You create.

There is something within all of us waiting to be created. Only you can create this thing and make it real. Following your heart makes you feel the urge to create. This urge makes you create stuff, and with each thing you create you are closer to creating your masterpiece.

27. You inspire others to become a better version.

People who follow their hearts might seem almost superhuman to others, because of their levels of energy, commitment and action taking. This glimpse of the superhuman potential inspires others to take at least one step towards becoming the best versions of themselves.

28. You become the best version of yourself.

We are born perfect, with complete worthiness to grow through our true potential. As you follow your heart you are getting closer to this truth and your essence. As you become whole and rediscover your worthiness you start becoming your best self.

29. You discover your true power.

To follow your heart means you know of something bigger than everything. It’s greater than the whole world. All fear, doubt, weakness bows in front of it, it’s the strongest force you know. When you sense this force within you, you glimpse your true power.

30. You find the most beautiful treasure.

They say the cave you most fear to enter holds your greatest treasure. Following your heart will make you enter this cave, but you will face your fear willingly. And this courageous act will give you a treasure so beautiful that imagination cannot explain.

This August Rant From The Heart: Hell And Heaven Are Within You And You Choose What You Will Project

Life Coach Code
Motivation

Dejan

August 25, 2018

The world is a beautiful place and it is a terrible place. It is filled with the greatest of the greatest and the worst of the worst.

The world itself is neutral.

The planet is just a planet. Nature is just nature. Our subjectivity is what gives meaning and labels to things.

The religions we have created, the values and ideals we try to live up to are humanity’s compass to reach divinity. But we forget that this divinity is within us.

We forget that we have given ourselves these values and ideals. The biggest problem is we don’t take responsibility to choose them.

The monsters and heroes we have created, all of those narratives live within us.

However, it’s hard to believe we have any control. So we lose ourselves trying to control everything else.

We lose ourselves trying to escape monsters and hell out there, forgetting these associations are within us.

We do everything we can to avoid the responsibility of truly facing these things within us, so we project them outside of ourselves.

We fight each other out there, projecting our inner turmoil upon each other, making enemies out of each other, telling the same lies and excuses just on the opposite side.

But the world doesn’t have a side, does it? We are all in this together, aren’t we? And in the vastness of The Universe we are far away from everything else but each other.

Literally, all we have in the midst of eternity and infinity is each other. And we let our fears and perceived unworthiness brainwash us against each other.

The truth is, nobody is out there to get you.

We are all just doing the best we can about what we believe is right. The monsters and enemies are within us and we choose upon who we will project them.

But as much as we project enemies and monsters, as more we feed our fears, and as more enemies and monsters we create within others.

It’s not that there is no danger outside, it’s just that there are no predetermined enemies nor sides you should choose from.

The sides exist, but within you. And you create how many sides there will be, how many enemies and monsters are out there.

Both hell and heaven are within you.

You choose what you will project upon the world and that’s all that matters. Either you make someone’s day a little better or a little worse.

You choose what you project.

It’s your power and your freedom to choose. It’s your responsibility to create the world you want to create.

By facing your inner demons, by dealing with your inner wounds, you make the world a better place. You are making yourself a beam of light instead of darkness.

You are not supposed to fight monsters, to defeat empires of evil or save the world in a giant battle between the light and the darkness.

All you are supposed to do to make the world a better place is help an old lady cross the street, smile to a stranger, give someone hope that the day will get better.

To make the world better make someone’s day a little better.

Those little things make the biggest difference. Those little things create a ripple of positivity. And those little things are most sincere.

By consciously choosing to make someone’s day a little better you become an active creator of the better world.

And it’s not your responsibility to create a better world yourself, it’s all of ours.

You don’t just make someone have a little brighter day, but you are inspiring others to do this for someone else.

If You Can Choose Anything, What’s The One Thing You Should Start Doing This August To Be Healthier…

Activities
Life Coach Code

Dejan

August 25, 2018

Rest and relaxation are the most underrated nutrients for health.

The past month we gave you a really important advice, deep breathing. This sole habit has a potential to make you healthier, happier and more relaxed.

However, this month we will focus more on the relaxation. We need to give relaxation the importance it deserves in our everyday life.

If deep breathing gives you a little momentary fix of relaxation daily, you should give yourself one whole day to just relax.

We are really serious when we say that relaxation is crucially important for health. Most people neglect rest and relaxation and underrate their importance.

But being proactive about your relaxation is as important as being proactive about eating healthy and exercising.

Give yourself one whole self care day every week!

Design a little oasis of relaxation for yourself. Do whatever your desired relaxation activity is, sauna, massage, spa, walking in nature, swimming, or just watching your favorite show.

You can do one of these, or mix a couple of them. You can get creative and literally construct this one day to keep you relaxed.

You can plan the meals you will have, the relaxing activities you will do, the mindset you will hold, the things you will be surrounded with, the people you will hang out with.

Create a day just for you. A day you will show kindness and care to yourself and relax your nervous system.

You should have such day every single week. If that’s something you cannot fit in your schedule, do one day in two weeks.

You should consider this seriously because rest and relaxation are really important for maintaining your health.

The 10 Best Bedtime Drinks For Weight Loss, Reducing Anxiety And Better Sleep

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Nutrition

Dejan

August 24, 2018

You should have a time for yourself at the end of your day to unwind and relax. Most successful people have bedtime rituals to help them relieve the stress they accumulated.

Most people believe that you should avoid eating and drinking before bed, and yeah, that’s right to an extent.

There are some who consider taking supplements that help with digestion. Our editor used to take supplements and he loved it, he even left a description of his experience at the Bio X4 reviews, it was the one he was trying.

But at the end of the day (pun intended) nothing beats natural choices.

There are natural drinks that can actually make you healthier. Drinking these before bedtime can reduce your stress, anxiety, depression and in fact promote weight loss.

Some of these drinks you have heard, some you haven’t. Some, you didn’t think of adding together in a drink.

But choosing either of these to add in your habit before bedtime can really increase the quality of your life.

The 10 Best Bedtime Drinks:

1. Grape Juice

A glass of pure grape juice contains antioxidants which converts the calorie storing white fat into calorie storing brown fat and induces the process of weight loss. Further having it during bedtime is imperative for sound sleep as well.

2. Hot Cocoa

Eating raw cocoa is good for your brain and your nervous system. It’s rich in vitamins and nutrients. But making hot water with cocoa in it, and drinking it before sleeping, is one of the best things you can do to relax yourself and unwind from your daily stress.

3. Kefir

Kefir is made from fermented milk and contains carbon dioxide. With its high levels of probiotics it has a positive effect on your intestinal health and activates your metabolism. A glass of this dairy drink as a late night can stimulate your exercise performance.

4. Honey And Apple Cider Vinegar

You don’t need to drink very much apple cider vinegar to get its weight loss benefits. Just mix 2 teaspoons of apple cider vinegar to a cup of water and drink the mixture. This drink is a secret bedtime habit of Tim Ferriss.

5. Chamomile Tea

This tea is beneficial for reducing weight, treating ailments, and improving overall health. It has natural detoxifying properties which aid in flushing the toxins and reduces body weight and relieves from bloating. Chamomile tea is also helpful in curbing down appetite.

6. Warm Water With Lemons

This drink, even though it does not seem like it, it’s going to be one of the tastiest treats you can have before sleep. It’s soothing and relaxing. The lemon in the water also stimulates your metabolism to work better.

7. Green Tea

Green tea is renowned for its numerous health benefits. There are more than 700 compounds that have been identified in it, but the health benefits are believed to be due to L theanine, a substance that help sharpen focus while reducing stress.

8. Soy Milk

The best alternative to milk is possibly soy milk. Besides, consumption of soy milk during bedtime reduces hunger and induces the metabolic rate of the body. In this process, the excess fat stored in the body gets burned, and a person can have their desires physique.

9. Valerian

This medicinal herb, often found in bedtime tea blends, has been credited with reducing nervousness, anxiety, and insomnia. You can prepare it as a tea by boiling water and letting it stay inside for a couple of minutes before you drink it.

10. Saffron

According to the traditional medicine practice, herbs like saffron can do wonders for anxiety, depression, and sleeplessness. Add a few strands to this subtly spiced almond milk drink and feel like a whole new person in the morning.

Psychologists Reveal 5 Simple Tricks How To Attract The Person You Like

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Psychology

Dejan

August 23, 2018

If you are like most people, you have searched for tricks you can learn to attract that exact person you really, really like. All people want a formula for attraction.

Well, psychologists say there actually are such tricks that can help you attract someone to like you back.

As most relationship masters say, attraction is not a choice. Therefore, you can influence whether or not someone is attracted to you if you know what buttons to push.

This is not some kind of manipulation, it’s just learning how to behave to highlight your most positive sides and help the other person see you in a positive light.

According to psychologists, there are 5 simple tricks anyone can do to help them attract the person they like.

5 Simple Tricks How To Attract The Person You Like:

1. Make them associate you with positive emotions.

This simple trick is very powerful. When we think of someone, we often have a default emotion attach to them, like a color.

You can use this in your favor by creating a beautiful and positive color associated with you.

To create a positive emotion associated with you in their mind you should first evoke this emotion within them.

The best emotion you should aim to evoke is pleasure, the second best is excitement or happiness.

When you are with the person you like aim to make them feel pleasure or happiness. A secret tip for making them feel excited is taking them to an amusement park ride.

2. Look them directly in their eyes.

When you look someone directly in their eyes you are subconsciously telling them that you are open to receive their affection.

This triggers their subconsciousness to perceive you as potential mate, or a threat. However, since you are friendly and kind, you are not associated with the latter.

Looking someone directly in the eyes shows confidence. It also makes you appear more honest and trustworthy.

You can use this trick to raise their attraction for you, but the best thing about this trick is that you can see the attraction rising in real time by observing their pupil.

When we see something we really love, when we think about something we love or when we are close to something we are attracted to, our pupils dilate. So watch out for this clue.

3. Call their name often.

When someone hears their own name, psychologists say that it helps validate their own reality, and makes them feel more endeared towards the person that is speaking.

This has something to do with our parents. When we grow up the people we love the most are our parents and they are the first ones who call us by our name, every single day.

So when we hear someone calling us by our name, our mind automatically associates emotions of familiarity, friendliness and kindness.

Just think about how we talk to each other. We rarely use our names, we use nicknames and some slang to make each other notice each other.

If you call someone by their real name, you separate from the herd, and if you do it often while you converse with them, it will subconsciously make them feel closer to you.

4. Copy them.

When talking to someone, try copying their body language, gestures, and facial expressions.

This trick is called mirroring, or the “chameleon effect,” and it occurs when people unconsciously mimic each other’s behavior. That mimicry facilitates liking.

There was an experiment done where researchers had 72 men and women work on a task with a partner. The subjects who worked with the researchers mimicked their partners.

At the end of the interaction, the researchers asked the participants to indicate how much they liked their partners.

The participants who had a partner mimicking them were more likely to say that they liked their partner. So you can use this trick when you are with the person you really like.

5. Show them fun.

Do you know what’s the one thing that is above everything and promotes attraction more than anything else, and by anything else I mean money, looks, fame and status? Fun!

Yeah, fun is the ultimate thing we are all seeking when it boils down to what creates attraction. If you are able to give fun, people will be attracted to you.

All the other things are subconsciously looked as tools that can help us create fun and a sense of carefreeness.

But the trick about fun is that you don’t need anything to be able to spread it. Tools can help you but eventually you can produce fun within yourself and spread it.

It’s more complicated than it sounds, we are used to be fed entertainment. One great way to produce fun yourself is to learn how to entertain yourself without anything.

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