5 Ways How To Have The Right ‘Heartset’ In Life

Attitude
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April 19, 2019

Sometimes, the right Heartset in life is more important than the right Mindset, Toolset or Skillset.

You’ve heard the word mindset thousand times. Most success coaches use this word in every speech. But ‘Heartset’ is what it all comes down to.

Yes, having the right mindset is important, but it will not give you everlasting happiness. That’s because Heartset determines your happiness.

No matter how successful you are, no matter what you have in life, if you don’t have a good Heartset you will not be able to find happiness.

You might get temporary happiness as a result of momentary activity or achievement, but not everlasting happiness and inner fulfillment.

The famous author Robin Sharma has created the word ‘Heartset’ to explain this missing piece of the puzzle. This article speaks all you need to know.

What Is A Heartset?

If I tell you to go and spend a whole day doing the most fun activity you can possibly think of, how would you feel?

Now, if I tell you to do something you fear doing, something outside of your comfort zone, but it’s necessary to make your life much happier, how would you feel?

In all probability, you will be excited and motivated to do the thing in the first example, and you would do everything in your power to avoid doing the thing in the second example.

That’s exactly what a Heartset is. Your Heartset determines the different arousal of feelings in different scenarios, what kind of emotions arise in different situations.

That’s why your Heartset is especially important when it comes to happiness in life, success and performance. Mindset is just one side of the puzzle and Heartset is the other.

What’s The Difference Between a Mindset And a Heartset?

Mindset determines the thought patterns and paradigms of thinking in different situations, it is the structure of the mental realm.

Heartset determines the emotional patterns and feelings that arise in different situations, it is the structure of the emotional realm.

If the Mindset is responsible for the way we use our thoughts our Heartset is responsible for the way we use our emotions in different situations.

If the Mindset is the way we think about the things that affect us our Heartset is the way we feel about the things that affect us.

Having the right Mindset means to approach things with the right mental artillery. Having the right Heartset means to feel the right feelings.

This Is A Right Heartset:

So what is a right Heartset? Let’s say the right Mindset for starting a business is that things will not be easy, but there is always a way to solve problems and create my business.

The right Heartset in this scenario would be to feel motivation when things get more challenging rather than resistance, to feel happy for progress rather than overwhelm.

You see, you can have the right Mindset all you want, but unless you have the right Heartset you’ll avoid taking the necessary action to create your business, for example.

Having the right Mindset is important, but nobody speaks about how important having the right Heartset is. And it is as much, or maybe even more important than Mindset.

The formula for the right Heartset is to feel, in any situation, the things that are beneficial for you, your happiness, your life, your progress, your success and growth as a person.

5 Ways To Have The Right Heartset In Life:

1. Release the resistance around discomfort.

Nobody wants to feel uncomfortable, but most of the things that make you grow are. So accept discomfort as part of life. It’s ok to feel it and still do what you need to.

2. Stop taking things personally.

If you approach life that everything happens for or against you, you will start to take things personally. Things just happen, it’s not about you. It’s how you respond that matters.

3. Question your feelings.

Most of the time we have no control over the feelings that arise within us, we take them for granted. Question them, see if you can feel something that empowers you instead.

4. Focus on offering more value instead of taking.

It is in our nature to focus on getting more rather than giving. But when you focus on offering more value it’s more rewarding, paradoxically you get more value of the world.

5. Learn the messages each emotion speaks to you.

Emotions arouse certain feelings within us. When you know what each emotion is trying to tell you, the feelings that arise within you will be more beneficial. Here is a complete guide!

Conclusion:

Establishing balance between your heart and mind is necessary if you want progress accompanied with happiness.

The right Mindset and the right Heartset are two sides of the same coin, they complete each other, on is but a half of the whole image.

To feel empathy rather than contempt, to feel kindness rather than cruelty, to feel abundance rather than scarcity, these are some right Heartsets.

To feel courage and assertiveness when things are scary and you need to go out of your comfort zone, that’s one of the best Heartsets.

Having the right Heartset in life comes down to one simple thing, open your heart to the world. Even if it is uncomfortable, give your unique value.

5 Lessons Only The Most Enlightened People Secretly Know About The World

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Dejan

April 18, 2019

Real reality doesn’t have to make sense to humans.

Some people will say that reality is stranger than fiction. This people are usually seen as crazy, but most of them are highly enlightened.

They know that the human mind is limited, it does not perceive the real reality, it compresses what it perceives so we can understand it.

Therefore every fiction created by the human mind is still following the rules of the human mind.

Reality doesn’t have to make sense to humans, therefore reality can be something so strange that no human mind can think of.

Enlightened people have played with such ideas and they have realized a couple of lessons they secretly know about the world.

5 Lessons Only The Most Enlightened People Know:

1. Everything is as it should be.

For some people this thought can be hard to play with, but enlightened people see the world with different eyes.

If you tell this to a starving child, or a someone from a country where there is war, they will think you have lost your mind.

Enlightened people do not see the world from an individual perspective, they don’t think about the subjectivity of humans when they say this.

They see it at a higher scale, far away of the canvas. They see at the bigger picture. They do not see good or bad, but humanity still evolving.

They realize that everything is tightly connected to everything else, following a blueprint of a higher intellect, a pattern we don’t see.

2. Our mind sees inverted reality.

According to some spiritual gurus we don’t see the real reality. In fact, we can’t see the real reality.

All we see is what we can with the capacity of our human mind. And the reality we see is actually inverted, like looking in a mirror, with all senses.

What we see outside of ourselves is actually a projection of something that’s within our own psyche.

There is a saying as within so without and it explains exactly this phenomena, the world we see outside is a reflection of our inner world.

We even have an idea that we first need to receive in order to give. Enlightened people know that it’s inverted, it’s the other way around.

3. You don’t really know anyone.

Because we see inverted reality and we project things from our inner world unto the outer world, we don’t really know other people.

What we get to know is the idea we have about other people, an idea that’s a projection of some aspect, some archetype within our own psyche.

When we meet other people we don’t really know their wholeness, who they are, what they have been through.

We know a limited version of them they show, and we project our assumptions unto this limited version.

Therefore, what you get to know, who you think someone is, it has nothing to do with who they really are but all with who you really are.

4. There is no duality.

Because when you look at others you actually see aspects of yourself, therefore all you see around you, everyone is part of you.

And not just this, but if you dive deep within matter you will eventually come to a conclusion that everything is energy.

We are all energy that’s vibing at a different tempo and with a different rhythm. We are all the same consciousness.

We have awareness of an illusionary self, but in reality everything is one. There is no duality for enlightened people.

They know the things we see as different sides are actually different levels on the same scale, some have more energy, some less, but all is the same.

5. Reality is a dream.

Some enlightened people say that we are all experiencing a dream. We are all dreaming reality together.

They say that people before us have been dreaming the reality we were born in for a long time. They have been dreaming laws and structures.

Culture, societal rules, inventions, art, everything has been dreamed of and you are now within their dream.

Now you dream your own dream in this global dream. And you can dream a reality that seems nothing like a dream, but it’s still a dream.

Our reality is created by consciousness. We are all part of this consciousness. However, not many people are aware they are dreaming.

3 Unusual Ways How To Reconnect With Your Passion

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Dejan

April 17, 2019

Your passions are the glimpses that unveil your purpose.

When we are young we all have strong passion for many things, and these things intersect into a point that reveals our purpose.

However, as we grow old we tend to neglect these passions until they are barely visible. We try to be grown ups and do what grown ups do.

We think that to be a grown up it means to forget about your dreams and passions and to do what earns you enough to be part of society.

But the one thing that will give most meaning in your life is your purpose, and you cannot find your purpose if you barely know your passions.

Here are 3 unusual ways to reconnect with your passions and rediscover that feeling of excitement, curiosity and purpose.

3 Unusual Ways To Unleash Your Passion:

1. Build something from scratch.

There is something inspiring about a project where you yourself build something from scratch. It connects you with your inner masculine energy.

It can be anything, from a household item to DIY toy you’ve always wanted to build. And the process of you going step by step to build this will reconnect you with your passion.

You will remind yourself what it’s like to be able to build yourself something you desire. This will improve your confidence as well.

2. Create something artistic.

Building something can be fun, but it’s a more masculine task. Creating something artistic is what you should do if you want more feminine approach.

You can paint an image, or write a novel, or write a song, play an instrument, or even redesign your clothes.

Whatever you choose, creating something artistic will reconnect you with your feminine energy and your passions.

3. Learn a skill you always wanted to learn.

We all want to learn various things. Some of them are not even in the same group. Especially when we are little kids, we have curiosity for many things.

Some of these skills are still pending to be learned, the kid in you still craves the curiosity to learn how to juggle, speak in different voices, act, dance, or something else.

When you invest time and energy to learn a skill you always wanted to learn you satisfy the kid within you and as a reward the kid will remind you what filled your heart with joy.

9 Things We Can Do To Heal Our ‘Negative’ Emotions

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Psychology

Dejan

April 16, 2019

Emotions are the language of your heart.

There is an epidemic in the world today, an epidemic of unresolved emotions and festering inner wounds that manifest in stress, drama, depression and anxiety.

Just like your physical body you have an emotional body, a place where you store your emotions. However, most people do not know when this body is in need of healing.

When so called negative emotions are suppressed and unresolved they don’t just go away, they remain pending deep within your psyche, they are wounds in your emotional body.

But it’s not that negative emotions make wounds, it’s the fact that we don’t resolve them that’s detrimental to our emotional health. The truth is, there are no negative emotions.

Every single emotion is valuable and every single emotion has a powerful lesson you should be aware of. Here are 9 ways how we should deal with our more intense emotions.

9 Things We Can Do To Heal ‘Negative’ Emotions:

1. We should talk to people who really care about us.

Talking things out, especially with those that care about us will be the best way to heal ourselves from the negative emotions. We will have a system for support and those within it will want always to be there when we need them. We should always listen to their advice.

2. We should take a small break if we feel the need, or do what actually feels best.

In fact, overworking ourselves during times when extreme emotions are present will not do us any favor. When we feel the need of taking a break, we should take one. Maybe several days of wallowing and sleeping in our sadness is going to provide us with the sense of relief and healing.

3. We should figure out from where they come, and also resolve the problem that causes them.

If we never realize why something bothers us, we will never have the ability actually to get over that something that bothers us. When something stresses us, we should dive deep into it, and also work with and through it. We cannot expect those negative emotions to disappear without doing anything.

4. We should not blame other people for our pain.

We should not blame other people for the ways in which we react to something that happens in our life. We should permit ourselves to move ahead in the proper way. We cannot just walk in circles and act like other people mess the things up in our life when we are the only ones that set up the various situations.

5. We should write out the pain we feel.

We should start our journal, in order to write everything we feel the need to. We should put all our sorrows and pains into words. Writing everything that makes us feel down will allow us to get those feelings out and it will even make it quite easier for us to outgrow them. We will stop giving them the power they need as we aren’t dwelling on those emotions anymore.

6. We shouldn’t ignore them.

Sometimes, we think that ignoring our emotions would be the best way to make them go away, but that’s definitely not the case. We always have to acknowledge how we feel. When we don’t address it, we can’t work through it.

7. We should give ourselves time to breathe and relax.

There are times when we go through different negative emotions, such as pain, extreme loss, or anger. During such periods, finding some time to breathe and relax will help. We should give ourselves time to take a deep breathe and notice how we feel after.

8. We should find something that will distract us.

Although we should not find something that will make us entirely disregard our feelings, we have to do something that distracts us from the suffering and pain when it is a thing which can’t be resolved quite quickly. In such cases, hobbies will work wonders.

9. We should ask ourselves what we can or should learn regarding negative emotions.

When we struggle with negative feelings and emotions, or we feel upset, we should ask ourselves what lessons these negative emotions will do for us. What can we learn from such emotions? Is there any lesson behind them? Every emotion has a message that you should be aware of in order to grow and be a better version of your self.

4 Ways How Writing Down Your Thoughts Can Improve your Life

Attitude
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Dejan

April 15, 2019

There are a lot of things that can plague your mind on a daily basis. It can be family responsibilities, debts, unfinished jobs and a lot of other problems. There are a lot of people who feel uneasy and vaguely afraid of something that they don’t know.

This results in not getting anything done in their lives.

If you are one of these people, then you might want to write down your thoughts on paper.

Writing your thoughts down has several benefits. There are some that say that by putting their thoughts on paper, they were able to make a positive change in their lives.

Write down the things that are making you worry, happy, afraid or angry. The trick is just to let your emotions flow down on pen and paper You don’t have to worry about punctuation, spelling, or grammar. Just write down in an indiscriminate manner and sort it out later on.

4 Ways Writing Your Thoughts Benefits You:

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1. You will have a Clearer Mind.

Aside from improving your mental health, writing everything down can make your mind clear. If you have a clear mind, you will be able to make the right decisions. You will notice that the fog like and jumbled thoughts are leaving your mind and you can finally sort all through the clutter and get some work done.

When you have a clear mind, you will know what to do. Knowing what to do will improve your self confidence and you might start with the little things that you can finish on time.

You may not know it but after a while, you will be able to finish mammoth tasks that were previously bugging your mind. Once you were able to finish them, you can do little celebrations to reward yourself because you were able to remove the things that are stressing you.

2. Track your Progress.

If you write down everything, you will be able to look back and see any improvements that you have made regardless if it is in the past hour or in the past weeks. You will have a sense of achievement that there are some small improvements in your life.

If you are assigned to do a literature review, you might be paralyzed into inaction just by thinking the amount of work that it could take to finish it. Writing down your worries can also make you think of some small advancements that you can do in order to finish your work on time. One of these advancements is knowing more about literature review services that can help you a lot.

You might even consider getting a literature review writing service if you notice that you have a lot on your plate at the moment. This can be convenient for you if you see that you have written down some conflicting schedules in your school life and in your part time jobs. There are professional writers that can sort your thoughts and they can make writing more easier and fun for you.

3. It Can Make You Achieve Higher Goals.

Writing down your current thoughts, situations, and feelings can help you a lot in setting up your goals. You will have a clearer picture of where you are at the moment and the things that you like to achieve in the future.

You can enter a world that is full of possibilities through writing. Words are very powerful weapons that the mind utilizes every minute of the day. You must feed your minds with positive words that can empower you to achieve more in life.

Aside from setting up clearer goals, you will stay motivated all throughout your goal achieving process. You can finally sit down and write a proper literature review that you need to graduate in college when you have clear goals. You will know your fears because you are able to write down the things that you fear the most and try to do them anyway. You will also have the space to write ideas that you are not yet ready to share with other people.

4. It Makes You More Committed.

When it comes to writing goals, commitment is one of the things that can help you reach them. If you see your goals and aspirations on paper, you will be able to get going even if you are faced with obstacles that are seemingly insurmountable at the moment.

There are a lot of things to write about and you can include your goals to them. The commitment will make you realize if your goals are specific, actionable, timed, measurable and realistic.

Making your goals a reality starts with writing them at first. You will also be accountable for them. An outline of your goals along with some pictures can bring you the extra motivation that you need in your life.

Conclusion:

Writing can reduce stress, improve your mental health and get things done. If you are not keeping a journal on a daily basis, start today and make an effort to keep one. You will be able to get destructive thoughts out of your head and transform your life as the week.

When you see the positive results that are brought by writing, you will be able to write more. As a result, you can attract more blessings in your life and you can create more positivity.

Writing can also improve your vocabulary and skills which will make you a very effective communicator in the long run. Start writing today and organized those thoughts that are jumbling inside your head.

5 Beliefs You Should Integrate In Your Belief System To Live In A Better Reality

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Dejan

April 14, 2019

Our beliefs shape our reality.

The system that renders your reality is your belief system. It’s the algorithm that decides the rules you live by, what you perceive and how it affects you.

In this article we are going to share 5 beliefs that, if you integrate in your belief system, you will render a much, much better reality.

The world most people live in is a result of their beliefs that others are out there to get them, that the world is scarce, there is more bad than good.

Most people believe there is something missing within them, that there is a lack they need to fill or compensate with something to feel whole.

However, like every belief, they seem real for the individual but they are just assumptions. Here are the 5 beliefs that will render you a better reality.

5 Beliefs You Should Integrate In Your Belief System:

1. The world is abundant of opportunity.

There is more than enough from everything you want in the world and your mind can generate you the best way in order to get what you want. Opportunities are around you.

2. Other people are your friends.

Nobody is against you, everyone is for themselves and everyone is doing the best they can. In all probability, people want you to be happy, they want to be your friends.

3. There is good in the world.

Even though the media highlights all the bad that’s in the world, it’s nothing when you compare it to the good that’s in the world. There is so much good all around you.

4. You are capable of taking action.

When opportunities present themselves, when you want to do something, you are capable to take action. You are capable to do what’s necessary to get what you want.

5. You are enough just by being yourself.

There is nothing that you miss, there is nothing wrong with your deepest self, you are completely whole and enough to be happy just by being who you really are.

5 Steps How To Live In A State Of Abundance

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Dejan

April 13, 2019

There is world of abundance and a world of scarcity, and you decide what world you live in.

There are really two ways you can live your life. It’s either that the world is a place of abundance or a place of scarcity. Most people live in a world of scarcity.

And those who live in a state of abundance are usually the people that the world sees as successful, or as some kind of spiritual gurus who have figured it all out.

The reality is that these people have a default state of being that is abundant and loving. They live in a completely different reality than most of the world.

While others see a world of problems, war, enemies and scarcity, these people see a world full of possibility, peace, love and abundance. And they really do live in such world.

In this article I will show you 5 steps that will lead you to live in a more beautiful world. Here is how to live in a state of abundance and fulfill your every desire.

5 Steps How To Live In Abundance:

1. Start to look through an abundant perspective.

The first thing you should change is the perspective through what you see the world. Most of us have been programmed with a scarcity perspective.

Most people believe the world is scarce in resources, scarce in opportunities, even scarce in happiness. But in reality, the world is abundant of all these things.

It’s just that our perspective sees certain things and ignores other things to create our reality. So when you shift your perspective your reality will shift too.

When you start to see that there is more than enough from anything to the world, you will start to see things you haven’t seen before. You’ll see opportunities.

Make a habit of thinking about the endless things the world offers to you every moment, songs, movies, books, information, games, pleasures, food, opportunities.

2. Be aware of the space between you and your mind.

When you create a perspective of abundance you need to become aware of the space that’s between you and your mind.

Most people do not even know that there is this space, that they are not actually their mind, their thoughts and emotions.

Because they have no clue, they are driven by their mind to random directions based on outer stimuli, based on what they hear from others, on the media, on the internet.

And if you do not have this awareness of the space between you and your mind, even if you change your perspective to abundance, it will be briefly.

The world of scarcity will suck you back into its reality. So try meditation, try to observe your mind, your thoughts and emotions. Become aware.

3. Trust that your mind will generate a way.

When we say that humans have so much potential, one of the things we refer to is the human mind. We have supercomputers that we do not know how to use.

So we let them run on automatic and we end up being used by them. But your mind is your most faithful servant.

There is nothing in the world that is as faithful to you as your own mind. Whatever you tell to your mind, it’ll find a way to make it real, at least for you.

It will reinforce the things you want to believe by picking data from the world around you that prove your theories. Whatever you tell, your mind sees it as true.

Even if you desire something, let’s say starting a business, your mind will generate the best possible way for you. If you learn to trust your mind it can lead you anywhere.

4. Practice taking action to build self confidence.

Having a perspective of abundance and being aware enough to use your mind and generate ways to get whatever you want is not enough. in fact, it’s pointless unless you take action.

And taking action is hard, at first. But it all comes down to it. There is no shortcut. Taking action is a constant in every reality, it’s what actually gives you results.

There are two simple tricks you can use to make taking action easier for you. The first one is called Chunking, it means to take the goal and chunk it down the the simplest steps.

And the second trick is Counting Down From 5 to 1. You know what your next step is, so start counting from 5 to 1 and promise yourself that when you say 1 you take action.

The more you practice taking action the more natural and easier it will get. The more you take action the more confidence you’ll have in your self that you can get what you want.

5. Feel the emotion of abundance every day.

So you have a perspective of abundance, you have awareness to use your supercomputer, you trust it will find a way and you have confidence that you will take action.

Those things are the ingredients to feel abundance. It’s not that you swim in resources, but you have all you need to get all you need at any time. That’s how abundance feels.

You should remind yourself of this feeling, feel this feeling often. Feel that you are capable of getting whatever you need for yourself, fulfilling any desire.

When you make it a habit to feel abundance your default state of being will slowly start to be a state of abundance. You will see abundance and feel abundance.

When you see and feel abundance, you will act and do things from a place of abundance and love. This will change your reality. It will expand your energy and happiness.

If We All Behave In These 10 Ways Towards Our Kids The Future Of Humanity Will Be In Safe Hands

Attitude
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Dejan

April 12, 2019

The behaviors toward our kids are the seeds we plant for a better world.

Raising children in a modern day environment can be stressful and difficult at the best of times. There is no perfect way, but there are couple of guidelines we should know.

There is a great honor in being an influence of children. You are molding a new consciousness, a new spirit that will take part in co creating this world with all of us.

No matter if you are an uncle, parent or just a friend of the family, your own energy and how you project it onto children will have a lasting impact on them.

How we treat and care for our children will be reflected back onto us and the planet in general in the future through their choices, actions and emotional health.

There are 10 guidelines every adult should try to follow when it comes to influencing children. These 10 things will make sure your influence is for the greater good.

10 Guidelines To Behave Towards Our Kids:

1. Apologize to children when you are wrong.

2. Do not assume you’re smarter than a child simply because you’re older.

3. Say thank you to children when they do something for you or others.

4. Admit when you’ve made a mistake and admit it openly to them.

5. Listen to children, avoid to neglect them at all cost.

6. Be sure to set boundaries for acceptable behavior.

7. Lead by example.

8. Teach and practice compassion, kindness and love.

9. Explain to them that actions have consequences good or bad.

10. Let them see that you enjoy watching and nurturing them.

I hope you like the list and agree with it. If you do then please share it in the hope it acts as a reminder to others out there.

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