Arnaud de Korver is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his deep wisdom and pureness.
His life story reads like an odyssey, weaving through different cultures, challenges, and a pivotal moment that shaped his profound understanding of perspective. He was born in the Netherlands but raised in diverse locales such as Brazil, Belgium, and Germany. He found his purpose after a sabbatical year, transitioning from a successful career in global event management to coaching.
His unique journey, marked by a childhood accident that shaped his perspective about perspective, led him to a coaching philosophy centered on authenticity and deep self discovery. Specializing in coaching men, he innovatively addresses the imbalance between healthy masculine and feminine aspects within individuals. By fostering mindset shifts and connecting clients with their inner wisdom (“the wild self”), he empowers them to find answers within.
His coaching is unique and customized to each individual. He uses his deep intuition that’s guiding him to deliver the best results for each client. With tools like Emotional Intelligence, NLP, and intuition, he guides his clients to rediscover their purpose, achieve balance, and experience the transformative benefits of his holistic coaching approach. He believes that nobody wants to be evil or do bad, nobody wants to hate, but our deep wounds and conditioning is what pulls the strings behind the curtain. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Arnaud de Korver:
Name: Arnaud de Korver
Pillar: The Spirit, The Mind, The Heart
Who is this coach for: Men who want to master their emotions, find clarity and fulfillment, and awaken the wild self.
How they can help: Through intuitive guidance and reframing perspectives, by using various tools and techniques like NLP, guided meditations, emotional mapping, and self regulation, just to name a few.
First of all, how are you and your family doing after these Pandemic times?
Thank you for asking.
My family and myself are doing very well.
It was a strange time for all of us on multiple different levels.
For me personally, when the pandemic hit, I was still working for an NGO supporting the homeless, connecting “Economical Homeless” to people who have an extra room in their home that they want to rent out through the NGO.
So I was one of the few that still had to go to the office everyday, ride the ghost like train to work everyday, cycle through the empty roads of Amsterdam and thus not be stuck at home.
It didn’t feel right to be living in the city this way.
A very important concept was missing, and that was connection.
How did the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
Like mentioned earlier, the corona pandemic was a strange time.
It created such a big shift in people where they almost had to take a deep breath and ask themselves, “Is this what I really want?”
It was a moment where multiple men and woman were wondering if there is more to life than just this hamster wheel we were all on.
So despite the drastic effects it had on health, lives, the economy, etc… it also opened up a few doors on what is important in life.
So it was a bit of a double whammy.
I would say that many of my clients were feeling a little lost, unsure of how to take the next step as it wasn’t clear what that next step is or was.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Life can and will always throw curveballs at you.
Learn to embrace them, see them as opportunities rather than live in victim mode.
There are terrible things that can happen in life, but if we lead from a space of LOVE, then we can already shift and change lives.
And yes, it is very difficult sometimes… but who knows what the person on the other end is experiencing.
Learn to express and let express, then growth will follow.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
Wow, well I was born in the Netherlands, but didn’t live in the Netherlands until I was 10.
Before that I lived in Brazil, Belgium and Germany.
So I guess you could say travelling has always been in my blood.
Fast forwarding, by the time it got to the age of making a decision on what to study and what my future would look like, I had just done a sabbatical year to go explore and figure out what I wanted in life.
I studied events management as I felt this was best aligned with what would make people happy.
I wanted to make people happy by creating amazing memorable events in their lives.
I did this for many years, in London, Moscow, Australia, the Netherlands and a few more.
This all being said, something was missing in the sustainability of what I was doing.
Sustainability on the planet, and also on the depth of what happiness was for others.
This got me thinking again, what is the purpose of life, what do I want to do, how can I best serve others and the planet, how can I have more fun, etc.
I had a moment of doubt and self exploration (not the first time when it came to the subject of purpose), which brought me to where I am today.
I sat down to figure out, what am I good at and what have others said about me.
I have always been extremely good at listening to people’s stories (I am fascinated by their stories), have always been good at getting people to trust me and open up to me, and have been told I was good at supporting them through that as well.
On top of that, I have always had a strong belief that people don’t want to do harm, don’t want to be evil, don’t want to hate, etc… but through our deep wounds and conditioning, this is sometimes the result.
So how better can I serve the planet, help the nature that lives on it by supporting the people on it.
If we are all living more aligned, more authentic and enjoying ourselves from a space of love, then all nature will thrive from that too.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
I don’t know if I would call this an obstacle, but a big event that took place when I was 5 definitely gave me a better understanding of perspectives.
I was run over by a car when I was 5, had to be flown to the hospital by helicopter as my head was open, broken leg and collarbone and needed quick assistance.
What I remember before getting hit however, was feeling guilty for the woman who hit me.
There was nothing she could have done, and it was completely my fault.
Now please understand, this is a major thing that happened, but it didn’t leave me scarred in a way of being fearful of life, if anything it did the opposite for me.
But what it taught me was the power of perspective.
My experience in that moment was very different from the driver’s experience, as it was to my parents, as it was to the bypasser, and so forth.
So many different perspectives and angles to the exact same event!
An event that evolved around a mistake I made.
So many emotions which are justified and yet potentially based around a perspective that is not fully correct.
This understanding of perspective guided me throughout the rest of my life, and I feel has played a very important role in my skill of listening to people and helping them see things from different perspectives.
You see, what we believe becomes our truth, and so first we need to see if the perspective of what we believe is correct.
From here we can quickly shift our mindset.
I’ve had many more challenges and obstacles along the way that have helped shape who I am today.
That feeling of being lost, not good enough even though I knew how good I was, not knowing what my purpose was, etc.
These challenges were tough ones to go through, as it really did sometimes feel like there wasn’t something out there for me that would give me the satisfaction I seeked.
And once I let that go, understood truly what my inner truth was, what my wild self was asking for, all clarity came from there.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
So I coach MEN.
Currently there is a little imbalance in our healthy masculine (leadership, assertiveness, emotional control, integrity) and healthy feminine (empathy, intuition, creativity, patience) within us and I have found it deeply important for us men to step into that role.
It’s not easy for men to talk about emotions.
In a world full of “shoulds” about being a man, there’s a bunch of guys just wanting to be real, live from the heart, and connect deeply.
They’re the silent warriors, stuck between what society expects and who they really are, much like animals whose voices we don’t get.
So the biggest innovation that takes place is through mindset shifts and understanding that you have the answers already there within you.
Some may ask, well what’s the point in having a coach if I have the answers already and this is a fair question.
It’s knowing how to be creative in how to find those answers.
I call it “connecting the wild self.”
We were all born with this inner wild, or innate intelligence, which gives us all the guidance we need.
It’s also about knowing how to trust it and take action on this.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
A tough question to answer as every coach is great in their own way and I wouldn’t say my approach is greatly unique.
What’s most important is that the connection is there and the trust is there.
The biggest tool I use is Emotional Intelligence in a holistic form of coaching.
If I were to pinpoint a few things:
I work very intuitively.
Even though I have an amazing framework which helps men master their emotions, empower their authentic self, enhance their communication and cultivate fulfilling relationships, I work very intuitively.
What this means is I use guided meditations on the spot if necessary to connect deeper with self, certain breathworks, and I use what my clients have in their everyday life and situation as an opportunity.
“See that crack in the wall from a different angle and perspective, what is it telling you?”
Finally, I love nature, and so I like to use nature as a big teacher in my coaching.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
The benefits my clients have after working with me are:
- More clarity on their direction.
- A balance in their life that allows them to be effective in all areas of their lives.
- A deep sense of calmness and reconnection with their inner selves and purpose.
- Fulfillment and rediscovery of inner drive.
- Understand and master their emotions.
- Have learnt how to express authentically and assertively.
- Better relationships with self, partner, family, and friends.
- Be in the present and have deep self love.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I use a combination of the following:
- NLP
- Guided meditations
- Holistic approach
- Emotional Intelligence: Emotional mapping and Self regulation
- INTUITION
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
“I see you, I hear you and I love you.”
“You have a story, no matter how big or small you may feel it is, it’s an important story. Connect with it, feel it and then express it!”
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
Love yourself, forgive yourself, lead from integrity, and take responsibility on that.
Your final thoughts?
Wow this has been an amazing interview.
Thank you for this opportunity.
“You have a story, no matter how big or small you may feel it is, it’s an important story. Connect with it, feel it and then express it!”
And if you want someone to listen more specifically with some support, I am here for you, let’s have a conversation.
I want to thank all of your audience as well for allowing this to take place.
Without your readers, there is no platform for this interview to take place.
It was nice to relive all of that again and feel the learnings and growth I have gone through to get where I am today.
I am curious to hear what your story is!
Connect the wild self!!
Where Can You Find Arnaud de Korver?
If you liked this interview and you would love to find more clarity, master your emotions, attain fulfillment, and connect with your wild self, go to www.arnydekorvy.com and see how coach Arnaud can help you.
If you’d like to take a glimpse to his coaching, get his Ebook.
If you’d like to connect with him more personally, you can do that through LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, or by sending him a message on his Email [email protected]. It was an honor having this interview with him.
