Subconsciously People Remain Stuck at the Age That We Experienced the Least Amount of Love…

Psychology

October 26, 2017

Maturity has nothing to do with getting older.

Most people you see on the street are not mature, they just pretend to be, acting like grown ups. Deep inside they are stuck at the age they received the least amount of love.

How do we get emotionally stuck?

We are born whole. When I say whole I mean without emotional wounds and parts of us we try to suppress. We give love and receive love without any fear.

However, there comes a time when you get emotionally neglected. You might love and not receive love in return. This moments create a schism in us.

A part of us is emotionally wounded and another part tries to protect the part that is hurt.

This protection is how we create a wall around the wounded part and even suppress it deep into our subconscious mind.

That’s the moment when we start living inside our minds, creating our own labyrinths and loops, looking for things outside of us that will make up for the love we didn’t receive.

It’s like a hero whose wife was wounded and he locks her home, inside a room protected from the world, so he can go out into the world and look for something to cure her.

Only the hero never finds a cure, and the wife never goes out to play into the world again.

Our body ages, time passes and we become grown ups. Well, at least that’s what other people see.

How to know if someone is emotionally stuck?

Most of us act as grown ups while being emotionally stuck at that same period when we received least amount of love.

Someone might have a family, a successful job and be much more spiritually evolved, but their heart is still in need of that love they did not receive.

Even more, all of those things might be a product of their intent to prove themselves worthy of that love so they can finally get it.

They live in the same loop, in the same reality, only the details are slightly different. They feel as the same bs is happening over and over again, only the place and time is different.

Symptoms that show someone is emotionally stuck:

People who are emotionally stuck display the following symptoms in their adult life:

– They fail to develop the skills necessary to form healthy relationships with others.

– They have difficulty establishing connections and giving their trust to others.

– They don’t have a sense of self-worth.

– They are scared to initiate healthy relationships with others.

– They want to be always in control.

– They feel insecure and unsure of themselves.

We create scenarios and put ourselves in similar situations as the one we have not healed yet.

We search for similar people as the ones that did not return our love with intent to make these new people give us the love we didn’t get and fix the past.

If, for example, you were hurt by your parents, you will seek partners with a similar behavior like the one that got you hurt. Subconsciously you intend to recreate the same situation and get another chance.

How to get unstuck and grow?

In order to really grow and mature, all of our parts need to be whole. And love is like the water that flowers need to grow.

In order to become whole you do not need to fix the past, but accept it.

The hero does not need to lock his wife protected from the world and look for cures, but open the doors, accept that she got hurt and hug her.

In order for the wife to heal, she needs to play again out in the open world, while the hero needs to be with her. That’s how both of them heal and become whole again.

By accepting the past you get a chance to look beyond the walls that protect the part of you that’s stuck. Now you have the chance to heal this part instead of avoiding the fact that it exists.

And the trick of healing is this:

Give yourself the love that you seek from others!

Realize that you do not need love from anyone to be able to give as much love as you can. You are the source of your own love. In fact, you are love!

Accept being hurt, accept being the one who did not got love in return and start loving again. Start giving love without demanding anything in return!

And you’ll realize one BIG secret!

It was never the love you received from others that grew your soul, it was the love you gave to the world that really grew you!

References:
– https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/culturally-speaking/201303/overcoming-the-pain-childhood-abuse-and-neglect;
– https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-recognize-overcome-childhood-emotional-neglect-0218165;
– https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/02/14/8-steps-to-becoming-emotionally-unstuck/;

7 Spiritual Laws That Will Create Good Vibes In Your Home According To A Buddhist Monk…

Lessons
Life Coach Code

Nezel Padayhag

October 26, 2017

Monks dedicate their whole life in obtaining harmony, peace, and wisdom. Their mission is to share with the world the life lessons and wisdom they achieved.

The home of each individual is a reflection of their psyche’s deepest layers, a place where they feel safest and most relaxed. Because our home is a sacred place, monks give us laws of life on how to make it a place of positivity, good ambiance, and good vibes.

These laws should not be followed by only one member of the family, but by everyone that are a part of the home in order to make the flow of positive energy smoother.

The Buddhist Monk said the following laws will help increase the positive energy in your home.

7 Spiritual Laws That Will Create Good Vibes In Your Home:

1. Take care of the objects in your home.

You must give value to everything you possess regardless of how you acquire it. Whether it’s a limited edition or acquired through a garage sale, it still took a lot of work to arrive in your home.

It’s said that the way you take care of the objects you have, you take care of the people in your life.

This is especially true when the object is specially given to you by a loved one or a special person in your life.

2. Be thankful for the things that were once useful to you.

With the passage of time, things could get obsolete.

Some are replaced with new models while others are simply outgrown by its owners like a pair of shoes or coats.

Instead of throwing these things away, find people who need them as much as you did the first time you got them.

This way, you still maintain their value and usefulness, and they leave a positive trail back to your home.

3. Start your day early and in silence while others are still asleep.

The monk referred to the ideal time you should wake up in the morning. Starting the day in silence means you are experiencing the complete peacefulness of the place you live in. This, in return, creates a place of peacefulness in your psyche.

Waking up early will give you time for meditation and prayer in the wee hours of the morning.

This will help tune in to positivity and decide how you want your day to flow. When you have a positive mood, it will influence everybody in the home and your day in general.

And at the end of the day you will subconsciously know that you will get back to that peaceful place so you can sleep and recharge.

4. Before cleaning your home in the morning, open the windows and let the air circulate.

By opening your windows, you allow bad energy to go out and the positive energy to come in.

Letting in fresh air will also improve the health of everybody in the house. Opening the windows eliminates bad odors as well.

5. Have a clean sink at night.

This means plates, utensils, or any kitchenware you used should all be cleaned prior to sleep at night. While this prevents inviting cockroaches, it also keeps bacteria away.

It is a subconscious reminder that you have finished every task for the next day to start clean.

It’s letting you know that everything is in the right place for you to have your next meal. That has a powerful spiritual meaning of purity and reassurance for survival.

Not only will you keep your home clean and the people healthy, you also allow the smooth flowing of the positive energy.

6. When you clean your home, focus only on the task at hand and let not your thoughts wander.

Your home is your abode. You should give it the same loving care you give to your loved ones.

Once you give your focus on what you are doing at the moment, it becomes a kind of meditation.

7. Divide the house chores among everybody at home.

While this makes you less stressed, it will also boost the pride of each one for having contributed in the cleanliness of your home.

Even children should participate in the house chores.

This division of chores is a subconscious reminder that everybody who is a part of your home, of that special and safe place inside your psyche, plays their part to keep it pure. And it’s also their reminder, for their own psyche, as they call that their home.

Cleaning your home as a team not only will make a priceless bonding moment but will also enhance your teamwork.

Source: Rise Earth > Natural Healing Magazine;

The 10 Wisest Quotes From Socrates That The World Needs to Understand Today

Philosophy

Nezel Padayhag

October 26, 2017

The 10 Wisest Quotes From Socrates That The World Needs to Understand Today

The classical Greek philosopher, Socrates, is credited as one of the founders of philosophy in the Western world.

He left a profound influence on ancient and modern philosophy through his way of life, character, and thought.

A commoner by birth, he was despised by the aristocratic ancient Greece. He was widely recognized, yet lived a life of controversy for the mere fact that he was found to be a misfit, a person who acted strangely.

Despite all this, no one can deny his wisdom, which made others seek for him. Because he didn’t establish any school nor had put his philosophy into writings, Socrates believed he knew nothing.

But this did not stop him from being recognized by the Oracle at Delphi as the wisest man alive.

Below are the 10 best teachings of Socrates, in our opinion. It’s interesting how these quotes from 400 BC are still something the world needs to understand today.

Not just that, but it seems like these quotes were meant for the world today, like nothing has changed!

The 10 Wisest Quotes From Socrates:

“I am not an Athenian or Greek, but a citizen of the world.”

Instead of fighting for borders we need to accept all of us as citizens of the world. We are all humans and we are all on the same boat. It doesn’t matter who has a bigger room if fighting for that room will sink the boat.

“Prefer knowledge to wealth, for the one is transitory, the other perpetual.”

Learning how the world functions, exploring new things and acquiring knowledge is beneficial to all of us. That’s how humanity upgrades its consciousness and evolves. Your knowledge will be used by your descendants and future generations to build upon.

“Understanding a question is half an answer.”

Sometimes the question itself is more important than the answer. The question is the direction you open your mind towards to think for an answer. We don’t need better answers, perhaps, we need better questions.

“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”

“True wisdom comes to each of us when we realize how little we understand about life, ourselves, and the world around us.” ― Socrates

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. ” ― Alvin Toffler

“Change is law and no amount of pretending will alter that reality.”

“If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is law and no amount of pretending will alter that reality.” ― Socrates

“Education is the kindling of a flame, not the filling of a vessel.”

The education of the world intends to fill children’s minds with information, not to awaken the fire of curiosity inside their hearts. It intends to create a generation of conformists, not individuals who will question reality and all the preconceived versions of the truth.

“Know thyself.”

The beginning of free will is knowing yourself. Diving deep into your own psyche and taking a glimpse of your own shadows. By getting to know yourself more you are gaining a bigger freedom over your own choices. By facing your own shadows you are healing the darkness of your own heart, the darkness each person in the world has. By uniting your light and your darkness you are transcending the cycle of “Good and Evil”. That’s the greatest contribution anyone can make to the world!

“The unexamined life is not worth living.”

It’s a song that you compose, a dance you dance, a play you play. There is no destination, no place we need to arrive at. It’s just you, your curiosity and what you decide to be the meaning of your life. If anything, life is about examining, experimenting and exploring.

“There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance.”

By acquiring knowledge you have bigger awareness. By knowing yourself you are able to face your shadows. By being awakened you can make your own choices that are not clouded by anything. Ignorance is the birthplace of all monsters. Introduce fear to it and you have hate. Introduce hate to it and you have a monster to fight. Having a monster to fight, you’ll project it upon the world and make it alive by taking actions against it.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

We are all fighting our own demons. We are all traumatized and hurt. We all have oceans of emotions for different reasons, emotions we need to face and embrace. The last thing we need is our own judgment. We can at least be supportive and kind to each other because we are all in this together. The faster we heal ourselves the better the world will be for all of us.

Find Out What Your Life Purpose is In Under 15 Minutes by Answering These Questions…

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

October 25, 2017

The place we are born into, our family, friends, the movies and stories we hear as we grow up, the people we identify with, EVERYTHING shapes our purpose!

These things are the constructs, they determine what the details of our purpose will look like.

But there is something at the core of this model, present behind all these details, the essence that selects all of these things to compose itself with.

This essence is what you have to recognize in yourself in order to get a sense of what your purpose really is.

Your life purpose is not something you have yet to find and discover because your life is actually your purpose. You just need to start living fully and realize yourself.

If you feel that you are a little stuck or confused in recognizing the essence of your life purpose, answer the following questions with all your heart!

10 Questions to Find Your Purpose:

1. What activities do you spend most of your time? Ask yourself whether these activities are how you would love to spend your time for the rest of your life.

2. How do you visualize your ideal day? To make a clear picture of how your ideal day goes, write it on paper and recognize the emotions it gives you.

3. What do you do on your leisure time? Evaluate the activities by what make you feel at your best.

4. Are you jealous of someone? If yes, what are the things this person has that made you jealous of them.

5. What are the things you find easy to do? What are the things you can do effortlessly but others struggle doing.

6. What are the usual things that people ask you for advice or help with? People find you great or skillful at this.

7. What is it that you have or do where you receive the most compliment even from strangers? These are the things that come naturally to you.

8. If you were to go back to your younger days, what are the things you want to do? These are the things you regretted not doing when you were younger then.

9. What have you accomplished for the past 10 years? Assess if there are certain skills you have built through those years.

10. What are the things you are well-versed of and can talk about or share with others without any effort? These are the things you have learned with a great mastery.

The emotion, the sense, the idea or the force that unites all your answers is the essence of your purpose. It’s what you need to spend more time realizing and projecting into your life.

As you start shining with this light, and live from this place, the fruits of your purpose will start to develop.

Sharing these fruits with the world is your masterpiece. It’s the ultimate contribution you make for all of us.

Whether small or big, for you it’s living your life purpose. It’s a piece of the puzzle that evolves humanity into better and higher species.

It’s beyond measure! So THANK YOU to all of you who give your fruit to the world!

Source: Educate Inspire Change;

3 Ways for Emotional Recharging Every Empath Should Know as Their Name!

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

October 25, 2017

People, in general, should have a way to recharge themselves. This should be a daily habit to maintain their emotional health. Each of us is getting drained daily, more or less.

So in order to manage this, we need to refresh our emotional self from time to time, just like taking a shower. That’s something we recommend for everyone.

However, if you are an empath, than knowing at least one way to recharge daily is a MUST for your emotional health!

If you are an unaware empath than wake up! You are a sponge for emotions and this needs proper maintenance.

If other people get emotionally dirty every day, you go through the mud. A proper emotional hygiene is something nonnegotiable for you!

3 Ways for Emotional Recharging Every Empath Should Know:

1. Disconnect from the people around you from time to time.

Whether they be your family or friends, it’s important that you disconnect from people whenever you feel emotionally drained.

Take a day off, don’t go out with anyone, lie in your bad and watch your favorite TV show. Do what pleases YOU and don’t worry about anything or anyone.

Just spend time in your own world without anyone to absorb emotions from. Take a rest from feeling. The ones who love you will understand you.

If taking one or two days time off is seriously impossible, than having an hour or 2 a day, all by yourself, can be sufficient to recharge your emotional self.

You can either go to eat by yourself, walk alone, or take a spot in the garden where you can enjoy your presence.

2. Meditate.

Meditation is an essential mental tool for every empath. It’s how you can get hold of yourself, calm your emotional self and refresh your mind, in just a few minutes.

Most people still see meditation as some mystical ritual that takes a long time of your day, and you need to be skilled as a monk.

But meditation is nothing exceptional, it’s just a way to relax your self, like taking a nap, or falling a sleep, or taking a shower. It should be a part of everyone’s day just like those things are.

There are varying meditative techniques available out there. Select the ones which you feel comfortable with and practice them whenever you feel a need to.

Taking deep breaths and counting as you inhale and exhale for 5 minutes is a powerful technique that can give you a quick fix when you need it.

3. Set strong boundaries and retreat inside them without a question whenever you feel drained.

As an empath who looks for ways to stay afloat on the emotional ocean, it’s more than necessary for you to set your boundaries straight. They are the boat that keeps you afloat.

And don’t be shy about them. Be open to the people around you about your boundaries. Tell them where the line is when they are coming close to it.

If someone crosses the line do not shy from being sharp as a knife. Stop their behavior by telling them, or retreat from the interaction. And you don’t have to explain yourself if it’s not necessary.

Tell them when you need space and request them not to cross the line the next time. Make them understand that when you deny yourself of the needed self-care, it’s harmful to you.

If they love you they’ll understand. If they don’t love you than that’s the right place for them, outside of your boundaries.

You are an empath. Accept it, own it, love it, and don’t forget to have a proper emotional hygiene.

12 Ways To Find a Peace Of Mind When You are Stressed Out of Your Mind

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

October 24, 2017

A peace of mind is not the end goal, it’s a way of living.

If we see peace as an end goal, we make things more complicated than they should be. Peace, relaxation, ease, that is your default state of being.

You don’t need to do anything to get back to that, you need to do less.

We are humans who are forever confronted with life’s ups and downs. But once we find the way back to peace, it’s easier to approach the tides from your center. In fact, that’s how you surf the waves.

However, let’s not fool ourselves, there are times that we get stressed out of our minds, no matter how much enlightened we think we are. It happens to all of us. Nobody is perfect, we are all human after all.

But, there are things you can do in such times to navigate back into a peaceful state of being.

12 Ways To Find a Peace Of Mind:

– Do a simple seated meditation for 5 to 10 minutes.

– Try alternate nostril breathing by holding the left nostril while inhaling through the right and then holding your breath. Release the left nostril and do the same thing with your right. Do up to five sets.

– When there is something that weighs you down, write it on paper and let it go by finally burning it.

– When someone hurts you, gather the courage and calmly talk to the person about your resentment, with the intention of coming up to a better understanding.

– Call or talk to someone who deserves an apology of any mistakes you have committed. Call someone whom you haven’t forgiven and offer your forgiveness.

– Play any kind of game. No matter if it’s a video, board or a role play with your friends, as long as you get yourself into the PLAY mindset.

– Exercise. Stretch your body for 5 to 10 minutes. Or better yet, join a yoga class.

– Play your favorite dance music and dance your heart out.

– Make a list of all the things you love about yourself.

– Have a date with yourself in your favorite restaurant or visit a museum all alone. Being alone gives you the chance to connect with yourself and find peace. Talk to yourself as if you were talking to your best friend.

– Connect with someone or any group in social media where you can express your feelings without judgment and create a mutually supportive relationship.

– Do a small act of kindness to someone. Let someone go in front of you in the line, help an old lady by carrying her bags, or just say something really beautiful to a stranger. You have no idea how powerful of an impact a sincere compliment can have to someone’s life!

You don’t have to do all these at once. Just select one from the list that resonates with you the most at the moment, and try it out.

When done regularly, peace of mind is no longer an end goal, but a state of being that you shine with.

The 10 Essential Traits of Every Empath That Can Break Them if They Remain Unmanaged!

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

October 24, 2017

Empaths are basically people who feel the world too much. They have a heightened empathy and a hyperperception of emotions, no matter if they are conscious of this or not.

You might know someone who is absolutely drained among large crowds of people, it might be someone from your family, or even you. This is characteristic for Empaths.

In fact, there are 10 essential traits that each authentic Empath possesses but needs to learn how to manage.

If they leave these traits out of their control, the world might break them!

The 10 Essential Traits of Every Empath:

1. They absorb other people’s energy.

Authentic empaths don’t have a control on the energy they absorb. They are set to tears when someone is crying, feel the rage when someone is angry or sink low when someone is afraid.

Because this is their essential trait, empaths could not help it. But once they’re aware that the emotion is not actually their own, they can step back and prevent themselves from further exhaustion.

2. They are highly intuitive.

Empaths feel things on a psychic level. They can tell what others feel by looking at them. They can even feel the intentions behind the words of others and can tell if they are lying. Even if other people don’t tell them, they know what is in their minds.

Sometimes, they might even get angry at someone just because they’ve read the intentions behind something superficially innocent, and they can’t explain it to no one.

3. They are drained spending too much time around people.

Empaths cannot help but absorb the emotions of other people. Such flow of energy is emotionally and mentally draining.

Each empath needs to install a healthy way of recharging in their lifestyle. For most empaths that’s spending time alone, watching movies or reading books.

4. They naturally make other people to open up to them.

People, even strangers, can sense when an empath is there for them to listen to their woes and difficulties. It’s something in their look, their body language and coherence in energy that other people find familiar and comforting.

While helping others is an ideal goal in itself, it does not mean that empaths have to give their energy to every person they meet. They are humans too who need to have their own life and establish strong boundaries.

5. They do not have many friends, but few really close.

Empaths connect with people on a much deeper level than others. They avoid having too many friends because for them it’s either BFF or an acquaintance. There is no in between.

That’s why they do not consider too many people as their real friends, but have only 1 or 2 really strong ones. The depth of their friendship is something beyond measure.

6. They prefer living in a location surrounded by nature.

Empaths prefer to be surrounded by nature because they connect with the vibration of their surroundings. A city, a lively area, a crime area, a highly populated place or busy neighborhood is not an ideal place for an empath to live.

Empaths, ideally, need to locate themselves in a country or a neighborhood where the population is not too dense. A place nearby a forest or a mountain is perfect.

7. They are sensitive souls.

Empaths don’t like to see suffering in others because they feel it. They feel it too much! Sometimes they might even feel the physical pain that others are going through.

When they see violence in TV, they either change channels or walk away. And when they are confronted with an unpleasant scene in a room, they choose to leave when they can’t help it.

8. They can sense when others are lying.

Empaths just get it when others are lying. They only couldn’t prove it because they have no proof other than their inner knowing.

Because of this, it’s easy for empaths to know who to trust and who to avoid.

9. They attract broken people.

This gift is what makes empaths attract broken people. Their emotional state is always in a state of receiving, like an emotional punching bag.

Broken people desperately need to spread the negative emotions and other people usually avoid such encounters. However, an empath listens and absorbs. This is where empaths need to be aware enough to establish a healthy boundary.

10. They put aside their own problems.

Empaths get to the extent of ignoring their own problems and emotions. Carrying the emotions of others as well as their own is an empath’s biggest challenge.

If they can’t manage to separate other people’s emotions from their own, they are prepping up for an imminent breakdown. Empaths have to learn to take care of their own issues first, so they can actually help others.

Optimum health is an essential part in bringing an empath’s unique gifts to the world.

Source: Conscious Reminder > http://askingangels.com/psychic/empath-signs.php;

7 Unusual Habits Awakened People Do to Keep Their Soul Shining in Its Full Potential

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

October 21, 2017

Most people live their lives according to what society tells them. Their souls stay asleep their whole life!

However, there are such individuals who awakened their souls and keep them shining in their full potential.

These people are out of the social matrix walking their spiritual journey that leads them to soul growth and self actualization.

If you want to become one of them or you just want to maintain the shine of your soul, here are some unusual habits these people do to keep their souls opened!

7 Unusual Habits Awakened People Do to Keep Their Soul Opened:

1. They question everything.

They trust their parents, teachers, government or anyone who has authority over them. But this does not stop them from questioning everyone or anything.

It’s not because they don’t respect authority, but because awakened souls have this distinct trait not to take anything as a truth unless they have examined it and decided on it for themselves.

Awakened souls do not trust blindly anything. They believe in something because they choose to and not because someone higher urges them to.

2. They are not swayed by trends.

Awakened souls know clearly what they want or don’t want. They are not swayed by what everyone thinks is cool.

Even if they are alone in their beliefs or ideas, they stand for it because they are not afraid to forge their own way and create new paths.

3. They embrace change.

Awakened souls are aware that the only way to grow is to accept change as it comes. They don’t stay forever in one place or one idea, instead, go to unknown places to evolve more.

Sleeping souls, on the other hand, are not comfortable with change. They only embrace change when it is imposed upon them.

4. They lead people.

While sleeping souls are part of the crowd, awakened souls are at the forefront leading the pack.

Though they feel alone and isolated, they go on because someone has to lead the spiritual revolution.

5. They have open minds.

Sleeping souls have closed minds that don’t allow new and better ideas to be executed. They are not open to new ideas or other points of view that might even be needed to their growth.

People with an awakened soul have a mind that can juggle with many different ideas. They are open to accept other people’s point of view and always look to learn something more.

By looking at things from a couple of different angles these people better understand the essence of those things.

6. They engage in conversations about life and the bigger scheme of things.

Unlike sleeping souls who engage in conversations that are light, airy and superficial, awakened souls go deeper. Small talk doesn’t make sense to them.

When we talk with an awakened soul, what we might hear are not the things we wish to hear, but the things we avoid to hear.

It’s because awakened souls always speak of the truth that is hard to fathom by a soul who is still asleep.

7. They follow their heart and choose love as their main philosophy.

While most people try to fit in society, people whose souls are open choose their heart before everything else.

They listen to their heart and intuition no matter if society disapproves. Their main philosophy in life is love.

Following their heart, these people are surrounded with synchronicities and opportunities for soul growth. By giving love unconditionally they attract love in return.

Source: Rise Earth > Conscious Reminder;

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