The modern media and society preach a love story to the world, a story where you have to find your other half in order to be whole.
The irony is, the more we adhere to this mindset, the more we feel we are not good enough. It takes emotional maturity to see that we are already whole and enough.
It’s with such mindset that you can find and see someone whose love goes beyond egoistic desires.
If you seek a relationship that is substantive, you will need to date someone who will not question your appearance or personality, someone who accepts and wants you for who you are at your core.
Find the person who allows you to be yourself without wishing you to change. Someone who loves the essence of your whole.
Yes, you don’t need others to be whole, but if you find the right person both of you become more than you could have ever been by yourself.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ― C.G. Jung
If you don’t know how to find this person here is one BIG HINT: Look for the person who feels like home!
The One Who Feels Like Home Has The Following 7 Qualities:
1. They bring out the best in you.
This person sees you as you are. You don’t have to pretend to be somebody you are not when you are with them because they make you feel confident of your own self. They don’t set unreasonable expectations with you. And they accept you as you are.
2. They are understanding.
They understand that you are not always on your best self every single day. They are open to the reality that you also have your rough days. When you don’t want to do anything than crawl back into bed, they will crawl back into bed with you. In your tough days, they are there and they never leave you.
3. They are patient.
When you tell them you are not available because you want a little time with yourself to recharge, they understand and are willing to wait for you. They will give you the space to be just yourself. No matter how much they miss you, they adjust to their needs in favor of what makes you feel good.
4. They are not judgmental.
They see you as a unique person who has your own style and way of thinking. If you act differently than what is socially accepted, they won’t judge you as crazy. They even join you in your craziness.
5. They can be trusted.
They are someone whom you can trust even with your deepest secrets. They choose to be with you not because they can get something from you or out of the relationship, but because they find delight in being with you. They are ready to defend you and the relationship when necessary.
6. They see you as someone important.
They see you as someone special, someone who is the best in their eyes. When you are with them, you don’t feel like you are someone whom they want to be with only for that moment. They make you feel like you are the most important person they can’t have a future without.
7. They make you feel secure.
A home is where you feel comfortable, happy, and at peace. This is exactly how they make you feel. They give you a sense of security, unwavering love, and serene peacefulness. They have the ability to make you feel better after a bad day. In short, they make you feel at home.
Source: Conscious Reminder;