If someone you know is dealing with depression, it can be difficult to know how to help.
It’s important to remember that depression is a complex illness and that it can take time for people to get the right kind of help.
Here are some tips on how you can support a loved one who is dealing with depression.
How to Deal With Depression:
Recognize the Symptoms of Depression!
It’s important to be aware of the signs and symptoms of depression so that you can recognize them in your loved one.
Common symptoms of depression include feelings of sadness or hopelessness, fatigue, difficulty concentrating and making decisions, changes in appetite and sleep patterns, feeling worthless or guilty, difficulty connecting with others, and thoughts of suicide or self harm.
Recognizing these symptoms in your loved one will help you understand what they are going through and let them know that you care about their wellbeing.
Understand Treatment Options:
Depression is an illness that can be managed with proper treatment and support from family and friends.
Some common treatments for depression include psychotherapy (talk therapy), antidepressant medications, lifestyle changes (such as getting regular exercise), light therapy (exposure to artificial light), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and alternative treatments such as yoga or meditation.
Educating yourself on these treatment options will help you better understand what your loved one is going through and provide helpful information if they need it.
The Negative Consequences of Not Treating Depression:
It can be difficult to recognize the signs and symptoms of depression, especially if you don’t understand how it works. Unfortunately, when it goes untreated, depression can lead to serious consequences.
1. Physical Health Issues.
Depression can lead to physical health issues such as heart disease, stroke, and diabetes, as well as an increased risk for cancer.
People who are depressed often neglect their physical health by not exercising or eating healthy foods.
They may also have difficulty sleeping or suffer from insomnia, which can lead to fatigue and lowered immunity.
People who are depressed are also more prone to developing substance abuse problems or engaging in risky behaviors such as unsafe sex, reckless driving, or gambling.
2. Social Isolation.
Depression can cause people to withdraw from social activities and isolate themselves from family and friends.
This is because they may feel ashamed or embarrassed about their condition, or simply lack the energy needed to participate in social events.
Social isolation can make depression even worse because people need social support to stay mentally healthy.
It can also cause additional stress on relationships with loved ones if they don’t understand what’s going on with the person suffering from depression.
3. Lack of Productivity.
Depression can make it difficult for people to focus on tasks at work or school, leading them to fall behind in their responsibilities.
This can cause them to become overwhelmed and less productive than usual, which may result in disciplinary action at work or poor grades at school if left untreated for too long.
In some cases, this lack of productivity can even lead to unemployment or dropping out of school altogether.
Encourage Self Care!
One of the most important things you can do for someone who is struggling with depression is to encourage them to practice self care.
This could mean taking time out for themselves each day, whether it’s meditating, spending time outdoors, reading a book, talking to a friend.. whatever helps them feel calm and relaxed.
It’s also important to remind them not to be too hard on themselves if they don’t stick to their routine every day, recovery from depression takes time!
Depression can be difficult for both those who are suffering from it as well as those who love the person going through it.
The most important thing you can do is offer your support by recognizing the symptoms of depression in your loved one, understanding their treatment options, encouraging self care activities such as meditation or exercise, and offering emotional support whenever possible.
With the right kind of care and attention, those struggling with depression can learn how to cope with their illness effectively so they can live happier lives.
A ponytail facelift also called a mini facelift or temporal lift is a type of facelift that focuses on lifting the skin around the upper part of the face.
This includes the forehead, eyebrows, and temples.
A ponytail facelift can be done in conjunction with other procedures, such as an eyelid lift or a neck lift.
The recovery time for a ponytail facelift is typically shorter than that of a traditional facelift.
Most people take approximately two weeks to recover from a ponytail facelift.
Ponytail Facelift Recovery Tips:
There are a few things you can do to help ensure a smooth recovery from your ponytail facelift: Get plenty of rest. Sleep with your head elevated on pillows to minimize swelling.
Apply ice packs to your face for 20 minutes at a time, several times a day, during the first few days after your surgery.
Avoid strenuous activity or bending over for at least two weeks following your surgery.
Follow your doctor’s instructions regarding showering and washing your hair. You may need to wait until the stitches are removed before getting your hair wet.
Be sure to cleanse your skin gently and apply any ointments or creams as directed by your doctor.
Wear sunscreen whenever you go outside to protect your skin from sun damage. Take any pain medication as prescribed by your doctor.
Avoid drinking alcohol for at least two weeks after surgery.
Attend all follow-up appointments with your doctor so he or she can monitor your healing process.
Who is the Best Candidate for a Ponytail Facelift?
The best candidates for a ponytail facelift are those who are beginning to see signs of aging, such as wrinkles and lines, but who are not yet ready for surgery.
The procedure can be used to target specific areas of the face, such as the forehead, cheeks, and around the eyes.
If you are considering a ponytail facelift, it’s important to consult with a board certified plastic surgeon to discuss your goals and expectations.
During your consultation, your surgeon will evaluate your overall health and facial structure to determine if you are a good candidate for the procedure.
Advantages of a Ponytail Facelift:
There are many advantages to undergoing a ponytail facelift, including the following:
Minimally invasive:
A ponytail facelift is a minimally invasive procedure that can be performed in less than an hour with minimal downtime, much quicker than the normal facelift.
Natural looking results:
Because the ponytail facelift uses your own hair to lift and support the skin, the results are very natural looking. There is no risk of implant rejection or other complications associated with synthetic materials.
Long lasting results:
A ponytail facelift can provide long lasting results that will help you look younger and more refreshed for years to come.
Disadvantages of a Ponytail Facelift:
While there are many advantages to undergoing a ponytail facelift, there are also some disadvantages to consider, including the following:
Limited area of coverage:
Because the ponytail facelift only uses hair from the back of the head, it is not effective for treating concerns such as wrinkles around the eyes or forehead.
Risk of infection:
As with any surgical procedure, there is always a risk of infection associated with a ponytail facelift. However, this risk can be minimized by choosing an experienced and reputable surgeon.
Not suitable for all patients:
If you do not have enough hair on the back of your head to support the skin being lifted, then you will not be a good candidate for this type of procedure.
What you should remember?
Most people take approximately two weeks to recover from a ponytail facelift.
There are a few things you can do to help ensure a smooth recovery, such as getting plenty of rest, applying ice packs to your face, and avoiding strenuous activity.
Be sure to follow your doctor’s instructions and attend all follow up appointments for the best possible outcome.
Matt Sturgess is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his innovation and creativity.
He was exploring his business career path through many industries following his curiosity, from Electronics Engineer to Sales and then leading businesses. Eventually he stumbled upon coaching.
He had a coaching session and fell in love with coaching. He loved the fact that he could talk about business issues with someone independent. Then, he became a coach himself.
For the past 10 years he was researching the mind, trying to find all the knowledge he could in order to create a mind “user guide”. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Matt Sturgess:
Name: Matt Sturgess
Pillar: The Mind
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to be able to stop overwhelming thoughts so they become focused, highly productive and motivated. He is also able to help people overcome past trauma using his Unconditional Love technique from his book “Nuclear Powered Resilience”.
How they can help: Through coaching, online training courses, 121 online support and his books. He can also be booked for speaking and workshops.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
It has been an interesting time, we used the various lockdowns to really enjoy nature. We took the view of accepting it was happening and we had no control over it, so we looked to see how we could make the best of it.
Before the pandemic my wife had a years draining treatment for cancer, during 6 months of Chemotherapy we were already used to constantly using sanitising gel.
Income security was a concern, but when the UK government announced Furlough payments that gave some reassurance.
I think the complete forced change in routine and thinking has left a big mark with lots of people, often a positive one.
Many people reconnecting with nature, family and what really matters, more than they had for a long time.
I used some of the time to write books, the first of which I finally published on Dec 23rd, my book is called “Nuclear Powered Resilience” which shares a simple technique to help people develop a deep level of resilience using conditional love and the fact that the unconscious mind behaves the same way to real or imagined events.
This technique can also help people overcome trauma’s without the need to “examine” the trauma in any way. Very powerful, I will share more later.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
It has created more need for support and greater awareness of the importance of mental wellbeing.
It has also helped people be more open to ideas they may have rejected in the past.
People are more conscious of striving for happiness now, which is something my techniques help people achieve at a core level.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
I was already fortunate enough to really value my immediate family and I had a healthy relationship with nature.
The pandemic taught me how important it is for our wellbeing to be regularly out in nature, it’s a key part of being human.
My wife did not always enjoy nature as much as me, know she really understands the benefits of a walk and talk, especially with a flask of hot coffee to accompany us.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I started life as an Electronics Engineer completing a sponsored degree.
In my first job I designed the first surround sound loudspeakers.
I got into sales in different international roles.
I always like to test and challenge myself, so I have had a career in lots of different industries. This way I got lots of learning and personal growth.
I am curious my nature, this curiosity led me to learn as much about business as possible.
I read lots of books, did a Marketing Diploma and then a Warwick University MBA, whilst holding my first role as a director.
When I became a Managing Director I joined a learning group to develop business leaders.
There I enjoyed learning from other MD’s and CEO’s, other business experts and received coaching for the first time.
I really valued being able to talk through business issues with someone independent.
I then became a business coach myself, helping other business leaders.
For the last 10 years I have been reading about how the mind works on many levels.
My intention was to create a “user guide” for the most powerful piece of kit we have, our minds and the brain.
Our minds are capable of achieving incredible things or take us to dark places.
Without a “user guide” we have to work out for ourselves how best to use our minds.
I have developed lots of really simple useful techniques to help people manage their thoughts and emotions.
I train and coach people and enjoy speaking on many topics about the mind.
One of my speaking sessions is called: “What they should have taught you at school and did not about how the mind works and how to get the best out of it.”
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
I have had to overcome many different challenges in life, but I never viewed any of these as obstacles but events that just had to be tackled with a strong sense of needing to always move forwards.
The biggest challenge I had was losing my mum to cancer within 1 week of being diagnosed for the 2nd time, when I was 17.
I was studying at the time, just under halfway through my 2 year course.
I was told other people in my circumstances often got poor exam results.
I was determined this would not be true and got an B in my Electronics A level.
I think my biggest obstacle, especially when younger, was a fear of failure which sometimes held me back from trying out different experiences and being a big worrier.
Something I learnt to manage, but now I have a good understanding of the mind I find this really easy now. I wish I had this knowledge much earlier in life.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
Although I have a valuable business background, which really helps me relate to others, my focus is on helping people manage their thoughts and emotions so they are more productive, happier, more resilient and creative.
I am a great fan of thinking differently and helping my clients get new insights and what I call the “aha” moments, when something really clicks and they make a breakthrough.
Everything we ever did or will do started with a thought, so knowing how to better manage our thoughts is a core skill.
One of my innovations is to share really simple techniques to help people make the new learning I give them a habit.
This way they keep getting the benefit long after any coaching, training or speaker sessions with me.
95% of what we do in life is a habit, so its important to teach people how to implement their learning with new habits.
I call my framework ACE:
Awareness of how the mind works and new techniques. Choices of how they can respond to situations in new ways in the future. Embedding new habits so that they get a permanent benefit from what they learn.
Probably the biggest innovation I have is a technique where I share the power of Unconditional Love to help people build an incredible level of resilience and overcome past traumas.
I am not aware anyone else has been able to do this as I have.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
To be honest there are a few things that come to mind!
1. Having had a varied business career, I can easily relate to the person and the business challenges they are facing.
2. I have a big tool kit of support techniques that I can suggest to help my coachees both from a business perspective and helping them manage their thoughts and emotions to become more productive, happier and more resilient.
3. Many of my mind management techniques come with a simple habit element, to make it easy to embed into everyday life, so my coachees get a permanent benefit not just a one off boost.
Some of my techniques are unique and all very simple and practical to use.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
The biggest benefits are that they become:
1. More productive, able to focus thinking and have clarity of thoughts.
2. Happier.
3. More resilient in a way that gets stronger over time.
4. More able to understand and manage troubling, distracting thoughts.
5. Increased self confidence.
6. More aware of what has caused them mental pain in the past and how to manage this going forwards.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I keep an eye on various bits of technology that helps me reduce my time spent on administrative, so I can spend more time with clients.
The tools I use keep changing as people bring out new apps and website based tools.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Unconditional Love is the cure all for most, if not all mental anguish.
If I could bestow Unconditional Love on the world I would.
My book “Life Transforming Nuclear Powered Resilience” is all about my technique to help anyone have Unconditional Love in their life, regardless of their history up until now.
We all have a deep biological need to be loved and belong to something, it’s a big part of the older parts of our brains (evolutionary speaking).
In Feb 2020 during the pandemic, a friend of mine asked for help sharing with me they had a childhood trauma that had affected them all their life and occasionally mentally took them to a dark place every few years.
During a 2 hours walk in the snow, I shared my Unconditional Love technique with them.
The next day they were in their words “transformed” like a huge heavy weight had been lifted.
They said to me “you saved me”, “you have to share this technique with others”.
My friend had spent a lot of time and money with lots of therapists over 60 years, with no real benefit.
All the techniques they had tried before required analysing their trauma, my technique does not require to talk about of discuss the trauma in any way. It’s a game changer.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
The biggy for me was recognising most mental suffering starts with a thought and that we can control our thoughts.
I previously assumed thoughts just come and go and there is not a lot we can do about them.
I then started to realise, that too often its our thoughts that then develop into bigger “stories” in our minds.
Those stories bring discomfort, fear, worry and anxiety.
But when I started to learn how to manage and control those thoughts, using really simple but effective techniques, this was a game changer for me that I simply had to share with others.
Your final thoughts?
Everything we ever did or will do started with a thought.
Having the skill to manage our thoughts so that more of them are positive, nurturing and move us towards what makes us feel happy and fulfilled is so important.
An important skill to have.
Our thoughts turn to emotions, so managing our thoughts also helps us feel better, more often.
95% of what we do is habitual.
Once we learn how to change our thought habits, we start to automatically get the benefits we choose to have.
We in turn feel and are more in control, which is a wonderful place to be.
That’s what I help people achieve with very simple, practical techniques.
Where Can You Find Matt Sturgess?
If you liked this interview and you would love to find out how Matt can help you get rid of your mental suffering and unlaesh your mind’s full potential, go to www.mindlocksmith.com and find out what your next step is.
If you like ot connect more personally with him, you can do that through LinkedIn or by sending him an email on [email protected].
If you like to capture a glimpse of his coaching, follow his Facebook and Twitter accounts. It was an honor having this interview with him.
Anna Dafna is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her dedication and passion to help her clients.
She is a coach, psychologist and qualified teacher specialising in ADHD coaching. After one of her clients has been diagnozed with ADHD she started being interested in this area of expertise. She saw how much anxiety and self doubt he experienced she wanted to help him feel more confident to take on the life’s challenges. She realized he needs a little extra attention so she immediately embarked on a path of equipiing herself with the right knowledge and expertise to be able to do so.
She has been working with clients since 2003. After years of professional development in psychology and coaching, she decided to pursue executive function coaching.
Her approach is eclectic and integrative, she is always updating her knowledge by staying up to date with the latest advancements and innovations in this field by reading journals, new research and publications. Her passion for helping people with ADHD is unmatched. Probably because she herself knows how it feels to be unseen and unheard, doubting yourself and your abilities because of your executive function challenges. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Anna Dafna:
Name: Anna Dafna
Pillar: The Mind
Who is this coach for: Anyone who is struggling with ADHD or having executive function challenges and wants to overcome them so they can grow into the best version of themselves.
How they can help: By personalised coaching including one to one coaching, 24/7 access to Anna via WhatsApp, emails or accountability calls, toolkits, exclusive articles, bespoke and comprehensive evaluation reports, closed WhatsApp accountability groups, annual access to networking dining experience and more.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
We are doing very well during this unique and unprecedented historical moment.
It has been a long road for everyone, but we find joy, creativity and positivity in little moments and take each day with an open mind and hearts.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
The coronavirus pandemic has had a significant impact on my clients, as well as myself.
For many clients, disrupting their routines and lifestyles has increased stress and anxiety.
To counteract this, I have provided extra support through additional coaching sessions and customised resources such as exercises and activities designed to help them manage their emotions.
Additionally, I have shifted all of my client meetings online.
As for myself, I am so happy to connect with clients worldwide, and I have been reminded of how important it is to focus on self care and prioritise taking care of myself to be better equipped to coach others.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
The greatest lesson I have learned is the power of creativity, persistence and adaptability.
No matter what happens, it’s important to maintain a sense of hope, inner resourcefulness, and solution based thinking, keep pushing forward and never give up.
This is a lesson I take with me every day, both professionally and personally.
It has been especially necessary during the last few years when so much has been uncertain.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I am a coach, psychologist and qualified teacher specialising in ADHD coaching.
I have worked with clients in this field since 2003, and it has become my passion.
My interest in ADHD coaching began when my first client was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
I realised he needed extra support to manage it.
Seeing how much anxiety, doubt and low self esteem he experienced, I wanted to help him feel more confident and equipped to handle life’s challenges.
This led me down the path of researching and learning more about neurodiversity while also taking courses on effectively coaching people diagnosed with this condition.
After years of working in educational settings gaining practical experience and professional development in psychology and coaching, I decided to pursue executive function coaching as a more meaningful way to use my skills and knowledge.
I turned my passion into a career that has allowed me to use my expertise to coach others to discover their potential, lead more fulfilling lives and make a meaningful impact.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
One of the biggest obstacles I had to overcome was a lack of self confidence and belief in myself as a teenager due to my executive function challenges.
Growing up, I often felt unseen and unheard and doubted my academic abilities.
But as I went through life and gained more practical experience, I began to recognise my strengths and build on them.
Through work, dedication, and determination, I overcame my concentration, procrastination, and self belief challenges and now consider them the main driving forces behind who I am today.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
To ensure successful outcomes for my clients, I always stay up to date with the latest neuroscientific research and approaches in ADHD coaching.
I’m constantly reading journals, attending workshops and courses, and connecting with other psychologists, psychotherapists and coaches to discuss new ideas and methods of working.
I also take an individualised approach that considers each client’s goals, challenges, and external factors and provides customised resources such as books, exercises and activities designed to help them reach their goals.
Lastly, I continuously check in with my clients for feedback on their progress and encourage and push them as needed.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
My unique approach to ADHD coaching draws on my professional and academic background in education, psychology and coaching and my 20 year experience mentoring neurodiverse groups.
I focus on building a strong self image and creating a personalised holistic program that incorporates current research and evidence based practices.
My goal is to go beyond addressing surface level issues by getting to the root of things to achieve lasting results.
I empower my clients with the tools and resources they already have and share new tools with them so that they take control of their lives and reach their goals faster.
I also work closely with neurodiverse clients to boost communication, leadership and social skills for reaching success in all areas of life.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
My clients gain insights into their personal and professional life, better understand their strengths, identify and work through blocks to success, and cultivate greater self awareness and clarity.
On top of that, they cultivate a winning mindset and learn useful tools and strategies for thriving.
As a result, my clients feel more confident, empowered, focused, inspired, and driven towards achieving their goals.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
Yes, my approach is eclectic and integrative, and I use various tools to be efficient with my clients.
Depending on the client’s needs, I may incorporate different techniques.
Additionally, I provide helpful resources such as educational materials and books that support my clients in understanding, accepting and loving who they are.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Focus on what you can do in your life right now to improve it.
Develop strategies and tools tailored to your strengths and needs and use them to build a life you feel proud of.
Take time to reframe challenging situations into opportunities for growth and remember that everyone has the power to create positive change.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
I believe that lifelong learning, radical open mindedness and the ability to build meaningful connections and work are the most important lessons in life.
They require humility, transparency and openness but the rewards are life changing.
Your final thoughts?
All people with a diagnosis, traits or suspicion of ADHD deserve a neurodiversity and inclusion friendly environment to learn, grow and thrive.
I aim to provide guidance and resources so clients can realise their goals and work towards living a life they love.
Where Can You Find Anna Dafna?
If you liked this interview and you would love to see how Anna can help you overcome your executive function challenges so you can learn, grow and thrive to become the best version of yourself, go to https://www.annadaphna.com/ and discover your next step.
If you like to see a glimpse of her coaching, follow her Facebook and Instagram accounts. You can also check her TikTok where she regularly publishes nuggets of value.
If you like to connect more personally with her, you can do that through LinkedIn or by sending her a message on her email [email protected]. It was an honor having this interview with her.
Ryan Girvan is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his courage and strength of character.
He went through a hard upbringing. He was the oldest of 4 siblings who had disabilities so all of the responsibility fell on his back. In 2014 he lost his grandma and year after his mother. He was living a life of going out, drinking, doing drugs… but something stronger within him didn’t let him continue down that path.
He had a greater dream. Something so powerful that screamed “change your life” within him, every night he would come home. Despite all of his suppressed emotions and traumas, he stopped. He focused on fitness, and he found a way to exorcise his demons. All of that shaped him into the coach he is today.
His approach now is focused on helping people transform their selves, their spirit, mind, health and body into their best version. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Ryan Girvan:
Name: Ryan Girvan
Pillar: The Spirit, The Mind, The Body
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to transform into their best selves.
How they can help: Through various tools and techniques like reframing, values determination, vision planning, breathing, learning mindfulness in training, just to name a few.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
Honestly? I am ignorant of the pandemic right now.
It affected me back in 2020 through 2021 but in 2022 I’ve pretty much settled back into my routine.
I’m grateful I’ve managed to keep my coaching business operating and a calm mind through turbulent times.
Investing my time and energy fully into my personal and professional growth is what kept me going and growing.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
It did, but not now. My clients mental and physical health was challenged.
A reduction in general physical activity, social isolation, too much spare time, excessive eating/drinking, stress, anxiety, depression, disrupted routines, financial stresses, job losses, on top of the fear from the media…
My clients were affected a lot.
But in this time of challenge also came the opportunity for my clients to practise mindful walks, being present in nature, coming together in online group programmes, connecting with new people, time to plan and think about their future, where they’re going, who they are, what they value.
It made my clients aware of their tendencies and how easy it is to fall into unhealthy habits if they don’t choose to work on it.
They realised the importance of exercise, social interaction and much more.
I believe the degree of challenge is equal to the degree of growth my clients experienced through the pandemic.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Nobody is waking up dedicating their life to making yours better, that’s your job!
Whether or not you face your pains and expand or seek pleasure and shrink, you must live with the consequences.
By growing and empowering yourself you give others around you permission to do the same.
Investing time, energy and money into your own personal development is invaluable.
Sometimes you need to be selfish so that you can be more selfless. How can you give if you don’t have?
Whether you pursue change, growth and transformation or not doesn’t matter because transformation is continually occurring. The question is, do you want to shape your destiny or let other people shape it for you?
Learning what your values are is the most important thing you can do to transform yourself. When you know your values, no matter what happens, you can begin to see everything as on the way instead of in the way to your transformation
I could go on, honestly, but I guess these are just a few lessons I learned from the pandemic.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I am a Mind, Health and Body Coach.
It’s my mission to build a successful coaching business which significantly impacts ever greater numbers of people by bridging the gap between fitness and personal development through my signature coaching programme: Becoming Your Best.
To know me I believe it helps to know my values: Self mastery, Coaching Service and Business Development.
Right now this is what is most important to me, it’s what I’m most deeply inspired to do.
I started out in August 2019 as a Personal Trainer, working 1 on 1 with clients to become healthier, happier, fitter and stronger.
6 months in, the pandemic hit.
Gym’s closed. My main source of income was halted. Luckily I got funding from the government to keep me going.
I had just graduated from college after having completed my diploma in Fitness, Health and Exercise, subjects I have been passionate about since beginning my own fitness journey in 2015.
My gran passed away in 2014 and less than a year later my mother did too at the young age of 32 from a brain aneurysm.
She had a lot going on. Chronically stressed, she carried a lot of emotional baggage which I believe was a big reason behind her drink and drug abuse which often carried over to domestic abuse.
I am the oldest of 4.
3 of my younger brothers had special needs and learning disabilities. I was often looked at to be the responsible one.
I’m telling you this because I believe my experiences growing up shaped me into the coach I am today.
I often felt worthless, out of control of myself and my emotions and I had this constant anger and aggression inside of me.
My uncles introduced me to fitness.
They gave me the opportunity to channel my emotional energy into exercise (I had a lot built up so I tapped into it and gave it my all every session).
I still remember the shivers I’d get all over my body when I would push myself in training. It was a drug like no other, you could say I became addicted. Not to the change in my body, that was a bonus, but the feeling I’d get from pushing myself through pain. I absolutely loved it.
Ever since starting in fitness I have been on a constant journey of growth and development.
It started with the physical, moved to the mental, now I’m expanding vocationally, financially and in my relationships.
Seeds were planted when I started in the gym. From then until now I’m still watering them. Except they’re not seeds anymore. They’re great oaks now, and they’ve got a lot of growth ahead of them.
So to summarise a long and bumpy journey full of ups and downs: fitness (and then personal development) was so impactful to my life that I felt called to share it with those around me.
So here I am.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
Great question.
Like everybody I’ve had many obstacles, but the one that shaped me most… that’s probably yet to come.
But right now… I would say it was removing myself from social circles that were limiting my growth and didn’t align with my vision and mission.
When I started my personal development journey at the beginning of 2020 I created a vision plan of how I’d love my life to be. I went into vivid details.
That created friction.
It was very frustrating, stressful, but most of all it was a wake up call.
Going the way I’m going, I’ll never achieve my dream life. That was a tough pill to swallow.
For months through the lockdown, when I wasn’t studying I was out drinking and taking drugs.
It felt like the last school summer holiday we would ever get. But because I had set my vision, every time I got home I felt depressed and ashamed. I would cry and isolate myself. It was a vicious cycle that went on every weekend.
But one new year I was partying and when that party ended I made a decision. The penny dropped. I was done.
In the following years I’ve been out drinking a handful of times in comparison to every weekend.
For me, the penny just dropped. Eventually. You know when it happens. It’s a deep feeling of absolute certainty. I couldn’t go back.
But the months after that was where the real pain lied. I isolated myself for 6 months. Still feeling depressed but this time I wasn’t partying.
The light at the end of the tunnel was when I met my girlfriend. She became my best friend and still to this day is the most supportive person I have in my life.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
Personal training was my primary profession. Lockdown then pushed me into online fitness coaching. In that time I worked 1 on 1 with clients and also ran some group coaching programmes.
Through the pandemic, I invested most of my time focused on my personal development.
My fitness business mentor Mark Coles told me this which really stuck with me:
“The majority of your business development problems are actually personal development problems”
That inspired me to go onto learn from my mentors mentor, Dr. John Demartini, a human behaviour specialist.
To say that the knowledge and wisdom I gained from Dr. Demartini was life changing would be an understatement.
I became obsessed with learning from Dr Demartini, it was similar to the feeling I had when I first started fitness all over again.
I would get goosebumps, tears of gratitude and an overwhelming feeling of love and wisdom learning from Demartini, especially on his signature programme: the Breakthrough Experience (if you get the opportunity, do it!).
So how do I innovate with coaching my clients?
I take what I’ve been inspired to learn from Mark Coles and Dr Demartini (as well as many others, although these two have been the most influential to me) and I created a new approach to personal transformation.
The first step in my “Becoming your Best” coaching programme is empowering your mind.
Here I simplify solutions to solving problems my clients commonly have such as low self confidence, overwhelm, frustration.
The second step is optimising your health.
This part is about creating effective habits and routines to manage stress, improve sleep and nutrition, as well as considering the influence of environment and social factors influencing my clients outcomes.
The third step is transforming your body.
Once all the previous steps are completed, my clients are in a powerful position to make a lasting change to their body. Often first developing muscle mass, then once they’re ready, reducing body fat.
My coaching is unique to my experience.
I have created frameworks which guarantee my clients results if followed.
As I evolve, so does my programme.
I am deeply inspired to acquire new specialised knowledge and package it into meaningful, impactful service to my clients.
But then most importantly, coaching them individually to integrate the new information and overcome limitations and struggles along the way.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I focus on the mental transformation as much as the physical transformation.
I prioritise mental and physical health before appearance.
I care about making a significant impact in my clients that lasts and transforms their life, not just a quick fix for a before and after photo.
My service is an extension of me, the knowledge and wisdom I’ve gained that has been impactful in my life and is evolving with me.
I help my clients expand their mind. To love themself and to live in alignment with what’s most important to them as individuals.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
Increased self confidence, transformed body shape, understanding of how to train properly, how to balance their mind, manage emotions and stress.
Mind Muscle connection, or mindfulness in training.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Transform your stressings into blessings, your challenges into opportunities, and love everything that happens with this one quality question:
How is whatever is happening right now serving what’s most meaningful to me?
Stack your answers and pay attention to how you feel.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
I was often judged and criticised for being selfish growing up by my mum, step dad and ex partner.
I felt ashamed, as if I was doing something wrong.
But being selfish is necessary to become selfless.
If you want to give more to others, give yourself more first. If you want to love more, love yourself more first. If you want to make a difference in others, make a difference in yourself first.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
So don’t forget to fill yours first.
Your final thoughts?
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to be here.
I’m grateful to share with you a snippet of my journey.
If you enjoyed this, I’d love to connect with you on Instagram.
I wish you all the best on your journey of becoming your best!
Where Can You Find Ryan Girvan?
If you liked this interview and you would love to become your best self, go to https://www.becomingyourbest.co.uk/discover and find out how Ryan can help you do that.
If you like to see a glimpse of his coaching, follow his Instagram account. If you have a burning question, send him a direct message via [email protected]. It was an honor having this interview with him.
Kieran Perry is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his success and experience.
He has launched, developed, and run profitable businesses in many different industries including Manufacturing, Retail, Construction, Food and Drink, SAAS, Logistics, Giftware and Technology.
He now helps others to develop their business strategies and sales growth in Trade, Wholesale, Retail and Service sectors.
His approach is based on years of experience and his wisdom is fermented through his own success. He is also an author of the Sales Fix Formula and founder of a range of training books and programmes to help start ups, business owners, and companies of all sizes grow and develop successfully. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Kieran Perry:
Name: Kieran Perry
Pillar: The Mind
Who is this coach for: Start ups, business owners, and companies of all sizes who want an experienced and genuine business advice to successfuly grow and develop.
How they can help: By using a range of coaching tools and systems based on his 20 years of business and sales experience.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
After 2 years of pandemic in the UK the economy and businesses have started to recover and strengthen before facing a range of new challenges for 2023 including facing raising costs and a harder trading environment with staff shortages and higher prices.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
Most businesses that were profitable before the coronavirus pandemic are still doing well and are still profitable.
I am now helping businesses and private firms prepare for a long recession in the UK, which is now the main business topic being discussed in board rooms across Europe.
Also, other areas of business needing higher focus like staff retention, finances after the pandemic, and higher running costs.
Any Business heavy reliant on credit is starting to struggle to find new loans and this will start to affect their cash flow and running operations in early 2023.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Family and friends are very important to me more than ever and caring for others to ensure others succeed with you too.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I have launched, developed, and run profitable businesses in many different industries including Manufacturing, Retail, Construction, Food and Drink, SAAS, Logistics, Giftware and Technology.
I have successfully managed a turnover of £60 million for a world leading Germany manufacturer, and now I help others to develop their business strategies and sales growth in Trade, Wholesale, Retail and Service sectors.
I am the author of The Sales Fix Formula, Top Sales Book.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
I think one of the biggest obstacle I overcame in my younger years was a serous car accident which resulted in me having multiple operations over 10 years to repair several broken bones.
It taught me many lessons one being, you can’t control the future but you can plan for it.
Another is the world does not stop, slow down or change direction for anyone.
And finally, hard work, support, and direction is the building blocks of any successful person.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
I provide business advice, business coaching, sales training, executive mentoring and management consultancy to business owners, directors, start ups, and individuals across the UK and online.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I am a real person, with real world experience, giving real results.
I have managed multimillion pound businesses and now help launch successful start ups and mentor directors and owners.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
Genuine, honest and experienced business advice with sales at the heart of everything I do.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I use a range of bespoke coaching tools and systems based on my 20 years of business and sales experience.
I am the author of the Sales Fix Formula and founder of a range of training books and programmes to help start ups, business owners, and companies of all sizes grow and develop successfully.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
I have the answers to your business problems, tell me what they are!
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
Never give up but take time out from your normal routine and travel as much as possible.
Have mini adventures, as the best answers and ideas come when you’re not looking for them!
Your final thoughts?
As a veteran of industry and top business consultant, I enjoy helping others push their business and management teams to achieve the most business development and sales growth possible, from small start ups to multi national corporations.
Where Can You Find Kieran Perry?
If you liked this interview and you would love to get experienced business advice for your business problems, go to https://www.kieranperry.com/ and see how he can help you.
If you like to take a peak in his coaching, follow his Twitter and Instagram accounts. If you have any burning question you can write him a message at [email protected]. Get his formula for sales and success here. It was an honor having this interview with him.
Sue Hedley is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her expertise and dedication.
She has been coaching and mentoring teams and individuals for over 25 years. When she was 50 years old she discovered the power of life coaching and set up her practice.
She had a very traumatic childhood that left her with negative self beliefs that were the biggest obstacles in her life.
Now, she focuses on helping as many people as she can to find and remove their negative self beliefs, find confidence and live their best life. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Sue Hedley:
Name: Sue Hedley
Pillar: The Spirit
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to find and remove their limiting self beliefs, find confidence and live their best life.
How they can help: By using range of tools, NLP techniques, and hypnotherapy, as well as growth and transformation life coaching, always upgrading her toolbox to better serve her clients.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
Thank you for asking.
We are all doing well.
Now that the pandemic has settled down into something we live with, it’s wonderful to be able to spend quality time together again and see old and dear friends we missed.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
It has affected my clients and me.
Some clients have found it hard to get their motivation back to pre pandemic levels.
Some feel lost, like they don’t know what is important anymore.
The pandemic has changed all of us to some extent and that can feel uncomfortable.
I believe it’s important to avoid looking backwards and comparing with who you used to be.
Start afresh in the here and now and accept that you have changed.
The coronavirus highlighted for me the value of having time to be in the moment and enjoy simple things, nature, family, peace.
It helped me to figure out who I wanted to coach and what I had to offer, because I had the time to reflect.
Most importantly it taught me that we never know what is round the corner, so if you know what your dream is, admit it and find a way to make it happen.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
That you can be happy with what you have, right here, right now.
Not to keep putting off feeling happy.
We tend to externalise being happy and confident.
I’ll be happy when… I’ll feel confident if… in fact, the trick is to feel those things in the now.
Build them with what you already have inside of you.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I’ve been coaching and mentoring individuals and teams for 25+ years.
Starting when I worked on global IT projects and then since 2019 recently as a certified and professionally accredited coach.
When I was in my 50s I was very stressed and as a result found out about life coaching.
This started my new journey.
I retrained and set up my coaching practise.
I have kept on learning and now use both NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and hypnotherapy as part of my coaching toolbox.
I’m 62 now and on a mission to help as many people as possible.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
My own limiting self belief that I wasn’t good enough to succeed.
I had a fairly traumatic childhood which left me with some negative self beliefs I needed to deal with before I could feel confident.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
First of all I coach based on my own life experience.
I show ladies who are 45+ that work related stress and a change in life circumstances is a great motivator for change.
My coaching is client centric.
Focusing on who you are now, what your values are, how you keep yourself stuck and of course what your future looks like.
The process I use focuses on giving my clients the courage to unlock their dream and the mindset and confidence to make it a reality.
As I say I have walked in their shoes so I know the internal and external challenges they face on their journey.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I incorporate NLP and hypnotherapy into my coaching, uniquely blending them for each client.
I focus on finding and removing limiting self beliefs because these are the biggest barriers we face. I know this from my own journey.
I give my clients a toolbox of techniques that they can use again and again, helping them live their lives differently.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
1. They learn to listen to and trust their inner voice (their inner wisdom if you like).
2. They learn the art of feeling confident.
3. They stop feeling guilty about looking after themselves.
4. They learn to recognise when they are holding themselves back and use the tools, I’ve shared with them to work through it.
5. They start living the life they dreamed of. It’s addictive.
I am so excited to tell you about a new business support programme “She Means Business”. It launches on the 17th of March.
I am doing this in partnership with By Nature Consulting. Together we want to support women who want to start their own business.
We’ll provide seminars, workshops and ongoing support which cover both tax, company set-up etc and business coaching.
We want to take the overwhelm out of what is a challenging time and get you on the path to success.
Our first free seminar is at 12am on the 17th of March.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I have a range of tools in my confidence coaching toolbox.
I use NLP techniques and hypnotherapy, as well as growth and transformation life coaching.
I am independently accredited with the IAPC&M and the CMA.
Which means I have access to ongoing CPD (continuing professional development) and learning.
These organisations are valuable tools in my toolbox, to reassure my clients that I take the business of coaching very seriously and to help me constantly improve.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Remember confidence and happiness come from the inside, not from what other people think of you, or what material goods you have.
Spend time with people who build you up.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
Loving and being loved will change your life.
That includes loving yourself.
Your final thoughts?
There are many coaches out there.
Find a coach who is trained, independently accredited, and insured, so you know you are in safe hands.
Find a coach who is all those things above and who has experienced where you are now.
If they’ve walked in your shoes, you will get better coaching.
Talk to me if you are a professional female, 45+ and fed up with feeling stressed, dissatisfied, and/or confused.
I’ll help you unlock that hidden dream, dust it off and start making it a reality.
Someone helped me when I was so low and needed it.
I’d love to help anyone out there reading this who needs help now.
Don’t be nervous.
Just get in touch and we’ll have a free, no strings chat.
Let’s start exploring together.
Where Can You Find Sue Hedley?
If you liked this interview and if you love to change your negative beliefs and live your best life, go to www.confidencefirstcoaching.com and see how Sue can help you do that.
If you have any questions that you would like to ask her directly, you can do that via her email [email protected]. It was an honor having this interview with her.
Anorexia nervosa is a mental health disorder that affects individuals of all ages and genders.
It is characterized by an extreme fear of gaining weight and a distorted body image, leading to significant weight loss.
While it is a serious medical condition, various treatment options are available for those suffering from anorexia nervosa.
Let’s take a closer look at some of the treatments that can be used to help manage the symptoms of this disorder.
Guide About Anorexia Nervosa Treatment:
What Causes Anorexia?
The exact cause of anorexia is unknown, but it may be related to a combination of genetic, environmental, psychological, and biological factors.
People with a family history of eating disorders are at greater risk for developing anorexia.
Other factors that increase risk include having a perfectionist personality type or being involved in certain activities, such as ballet or gymnastics, emphasizing thinness or idealized images of beauty.
Signs and Symptoms:
The most obvious symptom of anorexia is extreme weight loss due to restrictive eating patterns and excessive exercise.
Other signs include preoccupation with food and body weight, fear of gaining weight, denial about the seriousness of the disorder, constant feeling cold even when indoors, hair thinning or loss, dry skin and nails, fatigue, depression, or irritability.
Additionally, those suffering from anorexia may also have poor memory and lack concentration due to malnutrition.
Physical Risks of Anorexia:
Anorexia can have serious physical effects on the body, including:
Heart problems, such as an irregular heartbeat or even heart failure.
Loss of bone density leading to osteoporosis.
Dry skin, thinning hair, and nails that break easily.
Poor circulation and cold hands and feet due to low body fat percentages.
These are just a few of the physical risks associated with anorexia. If left untreated for too long, these issues can become even more serious.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT):
CBT is one of the most commonly used forms of treatment for anorexia nervosa.
This type of therapy focuses on identifying maladaptive thought patterns and behaviors that are contributing to the individual’s disordered eating habits and replacing them with healthier alternatives.
CBT also encourages individuals to develop more positive relationships with food and their bodies and explore issues such as self esteem and underlying psychological issues that may be contributing to their disordered eating behaviors.
Pharmacological Interventions:
In addition to CBT, pharmacological interventions may also be used in treating anorexia nervosa.
This refers to using medications such as antidepressants or antipsychotics to treat certain symptoms of anorexia nervosa, such as depression or anxiety.
However, it should be noted that these medications should only be used in conjunction with other forms of treatment, such as CBT or nutritional counseling, rather than being relied upon as a standalone method for managing symptoms.
Nutritional Counseling:
Nutritional counseling can provide individuals suffering from anorexia nervosa with much needed guidance regarding making healthy dietary choices.
A Registered Dietitian can work with the individual to develop meal plans and strategies for meeting their nutritional needs while avoiding any potential triggers that could lead to further disordered eating behaviors.
Additionally, nutritional counseling can also help individuals learn how to better listen to their body’s hunger cues so they can make decisions about food based on their own needs rather than outside influences or rules they have set for themselves.
Treating Anorexia Nervosa:
Treating anorexia nervosa requires patience and commitment from the individual affected and their support system, family members and friends who offer love and encouragement throughout the recovery process are invaluable resources in helping someone heal from this complex condition.
While there is no single “right” way to approach treatment for anorexia nervosa, combining different therapies, such as cognitive behavioral therapy with medications and nutritional counseling, has been shown to be very successful in helping individuals manage their disorder more effectively over time.
If you or someone you know is struggling with an eating disorder like anorexia nervosa, don’t hesitate to seek professional help, there is hope for recovery!
