Lisa J Crawford is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her goodness and positivity.
She has been through a lot in her life, from molestation and rape to blindness in both eyes. But she didn’t let that stop her from becoming the best version of herself.
In fact, she changed her narrative so it actually serves her to be even better person and help even more people.
She found the way to create her own peace and she helps people do the same. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Lisa J Crawford:
Name: Lisa J Crawford
Pillar: The Spirit
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to change their narrative and find their real value.
How they can help: Through storytelling, writing and journaling.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
The pandemic taught me what teamwork truly means.
I virtual schooled my 3 grand children and my daughter worked for us.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
Corona virus brought on depression, lonliness and hopelessness for the extroverts.
Assisting in finding ways to break theses feelings were very difficult for some.
The pandemic stopped me from being on the road as a hospitality task force manager.
I am an extrovert but I found my peace in going to the lake, watching birds and sunsets. Being featured on podcast, radio shows.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Create your own peace.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I was designed to help people know that they matter and no matter what they face there is hope.
My career started with one on one non paying clients.
During that time, I did not realize I was in a business I thought I was just helping people.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
Let’s roll some off..
Molestation, rape, low self esteem, workplace trauma, depression, blindness in both eyes four years apart, betrayal of a friend.
I am who I am because god has made me an overcomer with peace so that I can help others not feel alone.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
Some clients do not take the time to uncover their silent screams and there can’t be growth if there is no release of past pain.
I encourage a true self reflection through journaling for 21 days.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I have the gift of storytelling.
I have been through so much in my life so that I can tell the story and give assistance.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
I pray that they will understand themselves in such a way that they see their worth, value their skills and love themselves unconditionally.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
Writing and speaking are my tools of coaching.
As long as you have a voice you can change the narrative.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
You matter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
“No” is a complete sentence and needs no explination.
Your final thoughts?
Be intentional about being happy, peaceful and gentle with yourself.
Where Can You Find Lisa J Crawford?
If you liked this interview and you would love to see how Lisa can help you, go to www.lisajcrawford.com.
If you like to connect more personally with her, follow her Facebook. It was an honor having this interview with her.
Mazine Zaouat is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his focus and passion for coaching.
He is just 25 years of age and yet he is coaching for a long time. He did it first as a hobby, for free, because he loved doing it.
He says that nobody is bad at something, especially if you love doing it. You will find a way if you keep trying and practicing.
He helps people transcend language barriers and open doors in their life to work from anywhere. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Mazine Zaouat:
Name: Mazine Zaouat
Pillar: The Mind
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to transcend language barriers and work from anywhere.
How they can help: Coaching, motivating and tools like excel.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
I and my family feel very well, thanks for asking.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
The coronavirus affected the human relationships I had with my clients because it is different behind a computer compared to real life where your speech can positively affect the people you are coaching.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
That family is the most important and the best things are the simplest.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I am 25, I have studied languages my whole life and I have been coaching in it since I am 17 (it was a free activity before, a hobby).
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
The fact that I had no specific talent or gift.
It pushed me to work harder everyday in my life in order to get what I want.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
I try to have specific methods for each of my clients, I try not to have a too classic method because not everybody fits to a classic method.
I also try to bring external methods like fitness coaches for example in order to motivate people.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
The fact to see people who progress and are happy with it, they can travel wherever they want and learn to love languages.
It is also a great pleasure to be thanked and to feel you left a mark on people.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
Like I said, they get to work wherever they want, there is no more language barrier in their lives.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
The main tool is the brain and the motivation, but I also use word and excel.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Nobody is bad at something, just try and you will see.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
You can only rely on yourself.
Your final thoughts?
I think people must believe in themselves, so they can live they want, wherever they want in this globalization era.
Where Can You Find Mazine Zaouat?
If you liked this interview and you would love to see how Mazine can help you, feel free to contact him at [email protected].
If you want to connect to him more personally make sure to do that through LinkedIn. It was an honor having this interview with him.
Ivan Nikolov is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his deep understanding of the psyche and the subconscious.
He has an interesting approach to life. He and his wife have a mutual understanding, a deal. They refuse to live in fear, no matter what is happening in the world.
He understands how much the vibration of Fear affects us and our lives, how the nature of reality works, he knows that if you change your inner self, the outer world changes accordingly.
That’s why he is dedicated to help his clients uncover and release their subconscious blockages that keep them from moving forward in life. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Ivan Nikolov:
Name: Ivan Nikolov
Pillar: The Spirit, The Heart
Who is this coach for: People who want to reprogram their subconscious minds to free themselves from fear and limitation, and step into their true authentic selves.
How they can help: Ivan helps individuals with a strong sense of life mission to create profound clarity and confidence in their true path so they can live a life of meaning and impact.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
My wife and I both have a personal guiding rule, which is: we refuse to live in fear no matter what’s happening in the world.
We handle what needs to be handled and move on.
So, regarding the pandemic, we decided very early that we are going to live normal lives.
And we have.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
It didn’t affect me at all and it didn’t affect my clients either.
I guess, in light of what I shared above about where I stand on this, I don’t attract clients who live in fear around this or are allowing their quality of life to be negatively affected to any significant degree.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
What so clearly stood out for me was how close to the frequency of fear humanity exists in.
Fear is the dominant energy of stress.
And when people as collective energy are easily downgraded to that level, it is very easy for them to succumb to manipulation and control.
It’s a sad affair to know that we are well into the 21st century but we as humans are still so easily subjected to fear and control, and so easily manipulated and bent to the desires and agendas of others who exploit the collective for their egoistic reasons.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
One day in 2016, I found myself holding my head in my hands over my laptop thinking “Nothing is working. I’m tired to be stuck. I need help.”
I remember the first thing that came to mind was to go on YouTube and search for videos by Tony Robbins, who I had stopped following some years prior.
One thing led to another, and shortly after that, I hired my first coach.
We worked together for 6 months.
I had been a fitness trainer before that but through my work with him, I understood that everything starts in the mind.
And I knew that I want to go as deep as I can in studying the mind, human psychology, and behavior, first to help myself and then to help others.
That’s how I became a coach.
Since then I’ve worked with many coaches and mentors, I’ve studied psychology extensively, got trained as an NLP master practitioner, and studied under some of the best minds in the coaching industry.
I also worked for an amazing company called Mindvalley.
This gave me access to the latest teachings of the leading minds in the areas of human behavior, psychology, practical spirituality, and optimized human performance.
And, due to the nature of my position, community manager, I also got to practice the skills that I was adding to my toolbox.
Seeking to understand the mind has always been most deeply inspired by the desire to help myself, to liberate myself from the compensatory behaviors I developed in early childhood, to let go of my learned limitations, and to move toward true inner freedom and peace.
That’s the work that I do with my clients as well.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
The biggest obstacle was to transcend my own learned inadequacies, insecurities, and scarcity.
And to not only intellectually understand, but deeply embody the knowing that there is nothing wrong with me and there has never been anything wrong with me.
And as a natural consequence of that, my coaching approach changed in the most dramatic ways too.
I now start each conversation, whether with a current or a potential client, or any person really, having the deep knowing that there’s nothing inherently wrong with them outside of the stories that they have and the evidence they have created over time about what’s wrong with them.
And my objective is to help them see the truth of who they are, and not who they perceive themselves to be.
Once that is experienced, the person is changed forever.
They can no longer go back to the old limited idea of themselves.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
I love this question.
I approach transformation in an entirely different way.
With my clients, I don’t work at the action and results level.
We explore the deep seated survival mechanisms and emotional learnings that are the source of 90 percent of our actions (or more accurately, reactions) for most people throughout their entire lives.
In other words, we look at the deep subconscious programming that results in fundamentally feeling inadequate, insecure, and limited.
This, in turn, leads to constant subconscious self sabotage and learned smallness.
Over time, the work I do with my clients results in a complete transformation of the person at the level of self concept.
The person begins to perceive the world in an entirely different way.
And as a consequence of that, the person’s circumstances change and improve dramatically, seemingly without them “doing” anything to make these changes happen.
The reason why it works this way is very simple: the outer world is always a reflection of the person’s inner world (who they believe they are and how they believe the world is in relation to them).
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I mentioned above but here it is again. My coaching methodology approaches change and transformation on the level of self concept and beyond.
I do not use “prescriptive” coaching that simply suggests different actions.
I help my clients completely shift their perspective of themselves, the world, and life.
The consequence of this is their world and their lives change fairly quickly to reflect that.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
Deep inner confidence, profound clarity that’s inspired by understanding the very fabric of life, an entirely new way of relating to themselves and others that’s free of neediness and attachment, profound trust in themselves, personal boundaries and ethical assertiveness (being able to compassionately say NO), authenticity, a deep sense of inner freedom and peace.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I do have tools in my toolbox (I am a trained NLP master practitioner, breathwork instructor, and more), but I do not rely on tools.
My coaching is based on a profound understanding of human psychology, the prime needs of the ego and the very fabric of life, early childhood conditioning, the compensatory mechanisms and subconscious programming we all function from.
I have a methodology that allows me to discover and excavate (in a non activating and non traumatic way) the deepest subconscious constraints, and to help my client dissolve these constraints for good.
What they are left with is the memories but without the crippling emotional charge.
And that’s called wisdom.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
“There’s nothing wrong with you! There’s never been anything wrong with you. You are far more than you think. Give yourself permission to remember who you truly are. The time has come!”
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
Here is one of the greatest lessons:
I am not this meat suit.
I am not the labels I use to describe myself, those are useful but they point to useful identities, not to who I truly am.
I am not my childhood emotional traumas and survival compensations.
I am not any of the stories that I had held about myself throughout most of my life.
I am something indescribably bigger.
Coming from this perspective, fear for me is just a construct that is easily transmuted into other more useful energies.
The other lesson is:
A very significant and critical part of my personal evolution is to learn to make space for all of me, including the parts of me that are scared, the parts that fear abandonment, and even physical death.
And when I make space for all of me, I don’t have to walk around the planet in search of someone else to “complete me”.
This is how I now relate to others in a clean non needy and non attached way, my partner, my clients, and anybody else.
Your final thoughts?
Humanity desperately needs an upgrade.
The ways we still relate to each other and our planet are hard to fathom, especially for people who live in the 21st century.
Each person that finds liberation from their own hurt and suffering can potentially inspire many others to do the same.
This work creates a ripple effect of massive proportions.
I choose to believe that collectively we can shift the low frequency of humanity as a whole and start living and treating each other and the planet (our home) in far more respectful and wise ways.
Where Can You Find Ivan Nikolov?
If you liked this interview and you would love to see how Ivan can help you reprogram your subconsciousness to find inner freedom and peace, go to https://ivannikolov.com/ and discover the next step of your journey.
If you want to get a glimpse of his coaching, we highly suggest to follow his Facebook and Instagram accounts.
If you like to connect on a more personal level with him, you can do that through LinkedIn. It was an honor having this interview with him.
Frank Iovine is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his mindset.
He has a stoic worldview that helps him see right through the BS and focus on the rawer truth of life.
His coaching follows the same principles where he uses Stoic Philosophy and a program he created himself to help people find clarity, acceptance, and long lasting tranquility in life.
He gives people a tool that they can use at any time and place, a new mindset, to see the world in a way that puts them in a position of power. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Frank Iovine:
Name: Frank Iovine
Pillar: The Mind
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to create tranquility and achieve clarity in their life.
How they can help: By using stoic philosophy, the Four Agreements along with a simple program he created called “the 80/20 principal for the mind” all to help instill a new mindset.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
We are doing amazing! And I’ve never had it so good!
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
My clients were able to handle the pandemic with simple adjustments to their life philosophy.
As for myself, like everyone else it affected me in different ways at different times.
So, in the beginning the unknown made me very uneasy so I reached into my bag of tools and used a stoic practice called Amor Fate, and I was quickly back on track!
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
I learned that when we look at situations, with the following equation, Intellect over Emotion, we can find the answers we need to live in tranquility.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I started coaching after went threw a bad patch in my life, I realized I was struggling with my thoughts and actions and something needed to be done the way I was thinking and feeling was not sustainable.
Once I was able to right the ship so to speak, I wanted others to know there was a way back.
I wanted others to know they have a choice and can choose from a verity of tools or lens so to speak, to view the world we live in that would bring clarity, joy and tranquility.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
The understanding that my material and mental addictions, controlled my life.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
I help them create and designe a program that fits them like their favorite old shirt that’s comfortable and never itchy.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
My approach is having the client evaluate their mind with tested tools that have worked for thousands of years along with a program I developed called “the 80/20 principal for the mind”!
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
Clarity, Acceptance and Tranquility are the main benefits my clients receive, but there are many others.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I use Stoic Philosophy and the Four Agreements along with a simple program I have developed called “the 80/20 principal for the mind”.
The “80/20 principal” helps in identifying practices that can use some repair or bringing in a new practice.
These tools assist my clients clearly, identify a path to work towards their goals.
(My “80/20 program” is not to be confused with the “Business 80/20 Rule”)
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
It would be the understanding of this: “the unknown and the unfamiliar can make us overly confident or overly fearful” which are not helpful to living a tranquil life.
Adopting a life philosophy is helpful in finding your path, along with the understanding of these 2 quotes from Marcus Aurelius to start to create tranquility in your life:
1. “The soul is dyed by the color of our thoughts, so guard according”
2. “Stop arguing what a good man is, just be one”
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
How to purge my mind of unnecessary negative and positive thoughts, that’s thanks to the pandemic.
Your final thoughts?
I will keep this as simple, “What does it all mean?” Is a question I’ve asked myself numerous times over different junctions in my life. I now have a clear idea of what it means to me and that is: Life is meant to be lived not watched!
Where Can You Find Frank Iovine?
If you liked this interview and you would love to see how Frank can help you adopt a mindset that will create tranquility in your life, go to https://www.frankieispeaker.com/ and discover the next step of your journey.
Tracey Carter is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her vast arsenal of tools.
Her wisdom and dedication to help people install a better mindset helps her bring positive change to all her clients.
She has been dealing with limiting mindsets and negative ways of thinking herself. And through deep introspection and hard inner work, she learned how to overcome them.
One of the biggest obstacles we all have to overcome is to become aware of our own limiting thoughts in order to replace and transcend them, to become the person we were born to be, unlimited and with full potential. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Tracey Carter:
Name: Tracey Carter
Pillar: The Mind
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to reprogram a more positive mindset that leads to success and happiness.
How they can help: Through various tools like Wheel of life, 6 Core needs, NLP, Time Line Therapy, Journalling, and Clearing limiting beliefs just to name a few.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
We are all doing well, thank you for asking.
After a period where we were all separated, I am glad we are all back together again, for which I am very thankful!
We have all tried to remain positive and adaptable to the ever changing pandemic environment.
During the lockdowns we were able to find love and joy in the little things that happen each day.
We treasured our family time, and had lots of fun!
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
It has affected a number of my clients in varied ways.
The pressure of working from home and home schooling their children, definitely provided challenges.
To others who have lost their jobs and careers, who have had to regroup and relearn a new profession.. I have definitely worked through a number of scenarios with my clients.
Most of my clients have moved well past this now and are adapting well to the new way of life and, if required, working from home.
For myself personally, the pandemic changed being able to see clients personally and it just altered the platform to be more online zoom meetings or phone calls.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Be kind! You don’t know what someone else is going through.
Acknowledge that everyone has their own maps of the world in their heads, of where they are going.
Respect each other and each others choices and preferences.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I have worked in management and accounts for 12 years and have a Bachelor of Business with a major in Management.
I then decided to make the big move to teaching.
I have been a qualified primary teacher and an early years teacher for 20 years.
During this time I was a Centre Manager for four Early Childhood Centres, and mentored a large number of teachers through the registration process.
After a number of years I felt stuck and disillusioned with the politics of teaching, and a work injury, I decided it was time to make a change!
This was the reset button I needed.
I had such a dramatic mindset shift through TLCC and completing my Diploma and NLP training, I decided I wanted to offer this transformation to others.
It is completely life changing!
I love helping others and meeting the differing needs and connection people need.
Once I had completed the Diploma I decided to start my own business Mindmove Life coaching and I love it.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
Me! Getting over myself and the set ideas I had that held me back for such a long time.
The existing beliefs and patterns of thinking I had did not serve me well at all.
The biggest obstacle was the mindsets I held and the greatest success has been recognising, questioning and revising the persistent patterns of behaviour I had and celebrating this.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
My sessions are all completely individually focused on what each client needs.
I continually invest in my own development.
Through this, I am continuously learning new techniques and seeking out new learning to meet diverse individual needs.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
Me!
Apparently the way I communicate with people puts them at ease straight away.
I am very approachable and authentic with people.
I completely tailor my approach to individual clients and what they need.
Accountability for my client and myself to keep us on track.
I am positive with my approach and I am completely client focused.
I am very motivating with my practice.
I love helping people reach their full potential and feel the huge transformation with a shift in mindset.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
1. Clear direction and clarity around the way forward.
2. Transformation in their mindset.
3. Momentum towards achievable goals and support to do this.
4. Clear old mindsetsand habits that no longer serve.
5. Enjoying their daily lives more.
6. Knowing themselves better.
7. Helping clients identify their goals.
8. Procrastination buster.
9. Encouraging my clients to develop targets and next steps.
10. Ensuring accountability of action points.
11. Better relationships.
12. More empowered self talk and self esteem.
13. Greater confidence in life and the decisions they make.
14. Happiness 🙂
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
Each client has a coaching session planner.
I understand where each clients current state is and I then work with them to bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be.
I have specific templates set up to help my clients, which streamline the process and progress.
The specific tools I use are totally dependent on each clients needs and wants.
I use the following and other tools as required:
Wheel of life
6 Core needs
NLP
Time Line Therapy
Journalling
Clearing limiting beliefs
GROW model
Gratitude Exercise
And of course the best bit is celebrating the successes with clients when the meet their goals!
(There are many other tools available these are just a few)
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
What would you do in life if you knew you couldn’t fail?
I can help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be!
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
Time is short, live and be the best you can be every day.
Enjoy every moment.
Your final thoughts?
I hope everyone who needs it gets to experience life coaching, so that they can reach their full potential and live their best life.
It is such a gift to be able to make such a difference in people’s lives.
Where Can You Find Tracey Carter?
If you liked this interview and you would love to reprogram your mindset for success and happiness, contact Tracey at [email protected] and discover the next step of your journey.
You can also connect with her more personally via LinkedIn. It was an honor having this interview with her.
How to recognize if we are acting from the self or not?
If we are acting from our healthy feminine and masculine energy?
If we are taking care of our inner child?
It can get quite overwhelming during our inner work process.
When we start to reconnect with the self and we get overwhelmed by all the information coming from the different approaches.
First, I like to see “the self” as qualities, it helps to define and separate our Self from all the different parts of us that were developed following our education.
As we were raised to be a certain way or we developed habits and ways of being from our environment growing up, it’s important when wanting to reconnect with the self to differentiate our education from the inner self you were born to be.
Here is How to Recongnize The Self:
Ask yourself this question: Who was I as a kid?
Find qualities, then you can separate them into two categories.
Masculine energy qualities and feminine energy qualities.
Some of our Feminine energy qualities are: being intuitive, receiver, unconditional lover, collaborative, nurturing, compassionate, empathetic, kind.
Some of our Masculine energy qualities are: being logical, practical, adventurous, loyal, efficient, assertive, focused, confident.
As a kid we already exhibit those qualities.
By the way, these energies are feminine and masculine but both women and men have qualities from the 2 polarities.
We were born exhibiting qualities from both feminine and masculine and our gender does not define which polarity you should be at your core.
Why doing this inner child quality exercise?
Because the qualities of the Self are at our core. They are part of our inner child.
You might have been raised to be a “tough boy” while you were more nurturing and intuitive, you might have heard ‘big boys don’t cry’ and then you might had no choice but to disconnect from the Self for survival purposes.
You had to mold yourself to be someone you are not authentically, to please your care provider and school system.
Same for a woman who is nurturing at her core but did not grow up with a healthy masculine figure.
She might have developed masculine qualities to compensate for the lack of good masculine role model.
She might have the belief that she needs to be more masculine than she really is at her core and then exhibit masculine traits in an unhealthy way.
Being too practical and lacking to be a good receiver could be a scenario in this exemple.
As we grow up, we get molded to survive in our environment and thats why it’s important to get to know our inner child qualities while wanting to reconnect with the authentic self.
Amber Tariq is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her brave approach.
She has been through a lot in her life, but her biggest obstacle was actually not letting herself feel vulnerable. She wants for her clients to discover their true potential but, it’s trickier than it seems. Our true potential and power is hidden exactly in the one place we try to run away from, our vulnerability.
We can spend our entire life chasing “outside things” to fill our inner gap, but the solution comes only when we embrace our vulnerability.
When we embrace our so called “negative” emotions we unleash our full capacity to experience life with our full potential. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Amber Tariq:
Name: Amber Tariq
Pillar: The Heart
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to find their true strength by embracing their vulnerability and so called “negative” emotions.
How they can help: Through conversation, using language in a way that evokes and engages imagination, using various techniques like shadow work, NLP, emotional integration, mindfulness and gratitude,
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
Thank God, we are doing well…
Pandemic’s effects really came in stages.. the first several months were of extreme anxiety…
My husband and I, both are physicians and were working at the front lines, so our families were really worried for us in the beginning of the pandemic, understandably so.
As vaccines became available, and we knew more and more about the disease, it got better with time…
On the positive side, we did not lose our jobs, or even our ability to go to work, so I am extremely grateful for that.
On a deeper level, it was a time of isolation, very little, if any social activity, so it was a magical time for psychological growth and reflection.
I read a lot, and built many new habits. It was very precious soul time for me.
Just came at the exactly right time.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
My clients have experienced burn out from the pandemic…
It has taken a toll on emotional and mental health of my clients.
Like I said, it has impacted me positively in some ways, I have learned so much during pandemic…
There were some frustrating times in between, but I truly believe in long term, it has impacted me like a lesson in humanity and vulnerability.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
That global warming is real.
That conversations around racism and privilege need to happen. We truly are in it together.
It is the smallest things in life, like pouring your own coffee in the cafeteria, that bring you so much joy, and are usually taken for granted!
Hand shake truly brings a sense of connection and trust, and how much we as humans crave these small gestures.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
To be perfectly honest, my formal career in coaching is pretty recent.
Informally I have loved to see people thrive when you expect the best in them, working under me since 2006, as a resident doctor back in Pakistan.
I was having a hard time in 2019, and was feeling extremely numb, where nothing would give me joy or sadness, when I ‘accidentally’ listened to a TED talk called “Power of Vulnerability” by Brene’ Brown and led me to start reading her books and led to me reading 75 books in just 2019.
It was my spiritual awakening, one thing led to another, and among other things I had a sense of urgency in finding my life’s purpose.. which, I felt, got lost in pursuit of, what brought me recognition rather than joy.
As I explored more and more I rediscovered my love for psychology and philosophy and poetry.
I also remembered what an activist I was in my early teen years, and then it just kind of all got lost in “pursuit of glory”.
I realized, as introvert as I am, and as much as I tend to hide in social gatherings, I also become most alive in deep conversations.
After intense inner work of more than 2 years, which is really 1000 plus hours of self study and taking courses, I felt that all my interests and gifts intersect at coaching.
That really started my formal career in coaching.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
Interestingly, I must have had hard times, I finished med school, did medical residency twice, second one started when my daughter was nine months old, had my share of medical problems, fertility problems, difficulties in relationships…. but one of the things that made me feel like an outsider (and there are more than one) in coaching world is, that I never felt I have overcome anything difficult…
For one, I have been an optimist, I tend to see glass half full, I have felt guilty of not having “enough suffering”, I think the truth is, that I don’t dwell on hard parts…
But THIS is exactly the biggest obstacle that I have come over…
THIS not having access to difficult emotions, because they were not allowed in my consciousness…
Sadness in others used to trigger me, it is through some of the health challenges eventually, that I have found access to depth and the underworld, myself, and it has made my life so much more flavorful and richer.
I truly believe, hardest obstacle I have overcome is accepting and embracing vulnerabilty and with that my ability to love.
Being in love is inherently not only vulnerable, but also has inherent sense of inferiority to it… and people like myself…. who are intoxicated with positive psychology and laws of manisfestaion, cannot tolerate that.
The thing that keep challenging me is my repetaed getting stuck in heroic quality of consciousness.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
Quite a few ways, actually!
I use language in a way that evokes and engages imagination, and that is a huge resource of well being and resilience. It also de literalizes our perceptions and opens us to imaginative and metaphorical thinking…
Any past, present, future event, accident, illness can become a symbol, a metaphor, to engage with in imagination instead of staying fixed.
Bringing story, mythology, and dreams into coaching conversations, in ways that are accessible to lay man changes the quality of life experience.
Kind of going along with imagination is playfulness.. where imagination becomes alive, playfulness comes on line, and when you are being playful, you also imagine more easily.
I love bringing humor with compassion into coaching.. I am trained to do shadow work, emotional integration, mindfulness and gratitude.
I use NLP and Byron Katie’s work too… But my identity really is engaging imagination.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
My coaching promises a rich inner life as opposed to outer…
It makes life more tolerable and eventually better too…
It relies heavily on accessing and increasing capacity for imagination.
Another thing that makes my coaching unique is the value of hard experiences (betrayal, failure, aging, death, illness) and the richness they can bring… not using positive psychology, but reverse positive psychology (if that is a thing)… by inviting the feelings of inferiority, not enoughness, illness, aging and death, and engaging with them as universal (archetypal) energies, and getting in life long conversation with them.
My clients typically have traditional success, they have grit, perseverance and all the positive psychology more than they need, it has started to suffocate them… what they don’t know is how to allow themselves to be sad, angry, and experience grief.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
They can fluidly dance with life, with whatever life throws at them.. more resilience.
Paradoxically by accepting our inferior parts, we actually see an improvement with genuine self esteem, confidence, authenticity and courage.. hence much more ease in communication skills, relationships…
This is helpful across the board with personal and professional life.
They can identify their unique gifts and their true purpose in life.
Paradoxically embracing grief, brings you genuine joy.
Rich inner life, meaning in life.
More access to creativity… (not a surprise, since it is intimately linked to imaginative abilities).. but truly creativity to me, means engaging soulfully and mindfully with life and the world.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
Not really, I haven’t been coaching professionally long enough.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
If our spiritual and personal growth do not translate into the growth of the world, then we seriously need to consider what are we doing and why are we doing it.
After more than 100 years of healing of inner child and people becoming psychics and manifesting kings and queens, we have more war, more violence, more deeply divisive societies, more poisoned oceans and suffocating animals, humans not able to live with dignity of being a human… we need to re think everything.
Our personal growth has to lead to some contribution to the human community and the community of landscapes and creatures that share the planet with us.
That is the only antidote to the loneliness and emptiness we feel.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
We all want to be seen and heard, to be cherished for our very essential nature, not our achievements.. and to create a safe place for another human being where they can be authentically themselves without fear of judgement is the greatest gift you can give to another person.
Your final thoughts?
As long as we pursue wealth to the exclusion of poverty, health and longevity to the exclusion and denial of aging, disease and death, and progress and advancement to deny the inherent inferiority and our longings in being imperfect humans…
We will never truly become fulfilled…
The fulfillment comes in embracing the paradox…
Embracing all aspects of our nature and of the soul of the world.. truly love it not just for its progress but also for its longings.
It is through finding our connection to all that surrounds us, that we will appease our unsaid, low grade sense of emptiness, aimlessness and loneliness, that cannot be filled with all the money or the achievements, or consumption of exclusive brands and expensive cars.
Where Can You Find Amber Tariq?
If you liked this interview and you would love some help to embrace your vulnerability and find your true strength, contact Amber via LinkedIn and see what’ the next step of your journey.
If you like to connect more personally with her, follow her Facebook and Instagram. It was an honor having this interview with her.
Janet Maunder is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her holistic approach to coaching.
She has been through a lot in her life, but as she says, you can see the positive in it and learn from it.
And from her vast life experience, studies and education, she learned to help people in all dimensions of life, from reducing stress and anxiety, to changing thinking patterns, from living healthier, to aligning with your best self and true purpose in life.
She is truly a holistic coach in every sense of the word. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Janet Maunder:
Name: Janet Maunder
Pillar: The Spirit, The Mind, The Body, The Heart
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to reduce their stress, anxiety, change to more positive thinking patterns, align to their true selves and be a healthier versions of themselves.
How they can help: Through various techniques and tools using her experience and knowledge as a qualified nurse, hypnotherapist, NLP and ESI practitioner, reiki master and energy healer.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
I and my family have been coping well with the pandemic.
l am a resident of New Zealand for over 14yrs now, so our rules over behaving during the pandemic have been different to that of my family who all live in the UK.
Also, my experience of the number of cases affected and dying of the coronavirus during the first wave, was very different from that of my family who were probably exposed to more stress and anxiety than l was.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
The coronavirus affected not only my clients in New Zealand but also my clients in Australia, and North America.
Because l am a healthcare professional l had to reduce some of my coaching hours to facilitate the hospital needs of my nursing skills.
This had an effect on my availability for current and new clients that were desperate for stress and anxiety relief.
Most of the clients l was supporting with zoom calls, felt frustrated and overwhelmed with the constant bombardment of the government pandemic new reels, being streamed at the bottom of the television during adverts and constant news flashes interrupting program viewing.
This was the reverse for my clients and family in other parts of the world, they got news that was either sparing or confusing, which caused feelings of stress and anxiety because they didn’t know what was happening or what to do.
For my clients here in New Zealand and especially those in Auckland who experienced more and longer periods of being in lockdowns. Their mental health and the need for my particular coaching skills to help them relax, empty their minds of negative thoughts and find new ways of handling the sudden change in family and work dynamics was quite challenging.
I found with most of my clients the pandemic changed their normal time management and prioritising skills.
Many of them were either trying to juggle working from home and their family, or sorting childcare if they were an essential worker and the added stress of their risk of contracting the virus.
A lot of stress and frustration became apparent in March 2020 when Aucklanders were put into lockdown because 2 cases couldn’t be linked to the border.
This was supposed to be a lockdown for a week, but that turned out to be for several weeks.
Aucklanders were not allowed to mix socially with other family members or friends, they could only go to work if they were either essential workers or needed to seek medical help or get a swab test testing.
The lockdowns continued mostly for Aucklanders as that was the main area where the isolation hotels were and the main airport.
It was frustrating for me and my clients to keep having to stop treatments just as we were making progress either mental or physical.
In 2022 things are very much back to normal concerning the virus, we were lucky that our government reacted as it had.
Compared to most of the world we saw very few cases and minimal deaths from the delta strain that claims so many lives in other parts of the world.
However, we are now experiencing significantly large numbers of new Zealanders contracting the omicron variant.
As a healthcare professional l did have to increase my working hours in this field, which brought with it some personal stress and anxiety, as l worked in one of the larger public hospital in New Zealand, l saw and was involved in some positive patients coming through theatres for treatment.
Despite taking all the precautions to keep me safe from contracting the coronavirus, especially when a patient came in with the delta strain, it still caused me a lot of stress and anxiety.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Live, for now, don’t be afraid of failure because at the end of failure is a lesson.
If you have a dream don’t dismiss it, embrace it, work towards it, give it your all.
There is someone else always worse off than yourself.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I had my first taste of working in healthcare at the age of 7 when l joined the St John Ambulance.
l had a passion for learning how to help people and using those skills, it was a joy to see the gratitude on another person’s face for the help l had given them.
I left school at 16 and got a job in a nursing home for the elderly my passion was to become a nurse, it took me years to fulfil this passion, l had to attend night school and do several NVQs while carrying out my care work.
But l got there, l got excepted to train as a student nurse in my local hospital which was St Richards in Chichester and attend Guilford University at the age of 39.
I loved my nursing work in threat as an anaesthetic nurse and post anaesthetic care (PACU) nurse for many years it helped me fulfil another passion of living in another country and learning about different cultures.
That’s how my move to New Zealand took shape, it was to be a new start for me after the long breakup of my 25 year marriage.
I moved to New Zealand in 2007 alone not knowing a soul, the culture here was quite different from that what l was used to in the UK, but if l was to make this my home l would need to adjust which l did.
After 4 years of being a PACU in NZ, I decided l really missed the anaesthetic side of my career, so l did a 3 year university course to become an anaesthetic technician.
Going back to learning became a passion l had a thirst for knowledge especially for helping others, this took me on the journey to setting up my holistic therapy business, l trained to be a Reiki healer a Reflexologist and a massage therapist which led me to more courses for treatments that could assist a whole range of clients.
My turning point towards coaching was when l trained to be a hypnotherapist l loved the mindset effect clients went through during the initial questioning, they came up with their own answers and solutions l just needed to teach them how to put themselves in a deep enough state for their subconscious mind to kick in.
It was during my training be become a hypnotherapist that l found out more about coaching, and realised that l was already using most of the tools l needed to be an excellent coach.
As l am a believer in being sufficiently knowledgeable and undergoing training if it’s available, l enrolled in a diploma life coaching course with the New Zealand Institue Of Business Studies, and graduated with Excellence.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
I think the biggest obstacle I had to overcome was to accept the fact that my marriage was over, and that l didn’t love my husband as much as l used to.
It was excepting that it was ok for me to fail as a wife and partner.
That realisation took me a long time to come to terms with.
Probably because l had been brought up to believe in the sanctity of marriage and the old saying of “till death do we part”.
It wasn’t till l looked at the fact that my authentic self had died, that l had become a version of a person l didn’t recognise or really like, to live l needed to stop repeating old actions that didn’t bring me happiness, self confidence self worth or peace of mind.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
I help my clients to find their own ways to change the things in life they no longer want or desire.
My coaching program is designed to help clients look at their lives as a whole, and what their body mind and soul require to bring in the balance needed for a happy fulfilled existence that allows them to live their best life.
A life with reduced stress and anxiety, one that they have control over, where they have the tools to change out of date beliefs or values that no longer hold true for them.
I offer my clients the skills to calm their body and mind when it’s in a state of anxiety or when they need some relaxation and peace, as well as tools to enhance their energies their mindset, their self confidence self worth and self belief.
I teach them breathing techniques for deeper relaxation, how to reset their mind and banish negative thoughts, and how to set their trigger switches to get out of physical or emotional pain.
They learn effective thinking to be able to set and plan goals that will assist them to move their life forward.
I use my hypnotherapy, neuro linguistic and executive state identity my life coaching, reiki, meditation and visualisation skills to assist clients to change their life into the life of their hopes and dreams to start living as their authentic selves.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I use a totally holistic approach that takes into account the client’s body mind and soul by using all my knowledge experience and skills as a qualified nurse, hypnotherapist, NLP and ESI practitioner, reiki master and energy healer.
And my wealth of personal life experience of dealing with a great number of stressful challenging such as divorce after 25 years of marriage, bring up two young boys on my own for several years, starting a new life in a new country, the loss of a parent during the pandemic and not being able to say goodby in person.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
My clients benefit by taking control of their lives which in turn helps them improve their health and wellbeing by addressing any issues or problems that might be causing them stress and anxiety depression or even worst total burnout or irreversible health problems.
They often find new meaning and purpose and the confidence to move forward to achieve their dreams or create newer bigger dreams, they create more freedom by allowing themselves the right to be who they want to be, to break the model of trying to be who they think others expect them to be, they become their true authentic selves.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
1. Written Coaching instructions for homework relevant to the client’s requirements eg, Time management task record, then an analytics form to see where they could find better ways of using any wasted time.
2. Audio recorded meditation sessions.
3. 5, 15 or 30 minutes long 1 on 1 zoom coaching session.
4. Visualisation recordings specific for a client.
5. Access to my Online program course with lots of helpful information and techniques covers subjects such as mindset, visualisation training, time management, goal setting, dealing with stress anxiety, imposter syndrome, self sabotage and much more.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Be you, live your life as your authentic self, not as you think others see and what you to be!
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
I have learned that if you look for the positive in every situation issue or problem you will come out the other side with a more knowledgeable and happier outlook on life.
But if you only ever look at things from a negative viewpoint you are denying your heart the love it deserves.
Your final thoughts?
I see it as a privilege and honor to have been asked to write a piece about my story of coaching and my journey as a holistic therapist and to have it published on Life Coaching Code, thank you so much Dejan for this opportunity.
Where Can You Find Janet Maunder?
If you liked this interview and you would love to see how Janet can help you reduce your anxiety and change your thinking patterns to live a happier life, go to http://www.therapeuticangel.co.nz and discover the next step of your journey.
If you like to connect more personally with her, you can do that through LinkedIn. Or, you can follow her Facebook Account and join her private Facebook Group. It was an honor having this interview with her.
