6 Reasons Men Leave The Women They Love…

Psychology

March 16, 2017

We fall in love for different reasons. But we don’t really want to fall in love. The term is all wrong. We want to raise in love, grow in love, thrive in love.

For this, both players are equally responsible and both of them need to do the right thing.

As soon as we feel that we are not really growing, we are not MORE together than we are alone, we want to leave the relationship even though we might still love our partners.

Here are the 6 most common reasons men leave their partners even though they still love them:

1. HE FEELS THAT SHE’S TRYING TO FIX HIM.

When a man starts to feel that he’s not enough, that his flaws are huge, or that he cannot be himself without judgment, he begins to find the exit door. Women tend to emasculate men by making them their projects.

Albert Einstein said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.”

Men do not change, and no one truly needs to, they only need to discover who they truly are. So instead of telling him who he should be, show him who he really is. A man can grow and mature with the help of a loving and supportive partner.

2. HE IS THREATENED BY THE WOMAN’S SUCCESS.

In a study conducted by the University of Florida, men experience a huge blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they are not in direct competition.

A woman’s success also impacts in a negative manner how the man views the future of the relationship.

If the man has not been able to attain the success he feels he deserves, this is a pivotal reason for him to leave the woman. He cannot join her in her success because he is comparing his failures.

3. SHE NAGS ALL THE TIME.

Men can zone out a woman’s voice most of the time. Unfortunately, the constant nagging and belittling can take a toll in a relationship. Men may play like children, but they are not kids. They do not tolerate the constant whining and complaining.

Men need to feel appreciated. Nagging forms a negative habit that eventually is ignored and avoided. It adds to negative reinforcement which becomes passive aggressive.

If he knows she is going to give him grief, he will not do it. Either way, he feels that she will complain. If there is no appreciation, there is no doing what she wants. To a man, a woman who nags is the least sexy creature on the planet.

4. LACK OF INTIMACY.

Believe it or not, men crave intimacy just as much as women. But, if a man has to beg for it while the woman holds it hostage to get him to do things, he may leave the relationship to seek that connection with someone else.

A man will not stand by too long with a woman who will not participate in intimate encounters with their partner.

A man falls in love with a woman for many reasons, but he also needs to feel that he is the most attractive person in her life.

5. SHE COMPARES HIM TO OTHER MEN.

There is nothing more annoying to a man than listening to a woman talk about past relationships. When the woman starts to compare him to an ex, that’s the beginning of the end. Men do not want to analyze their partner’s past.

A man wants to believe he is the only one that matters right now. He doesn’t want to hear that a previous lover did this or that.

He wants to know that what he is doing right now is enough.

6. EMOTIONAL CO-DEPENDENCY.

Men need their space. They don’t want to be treated as a possession. Men need their friends.

When a man begins to feel that he has lost his freedom to participate in sports, outings or social gatherings with his friends, the man will leave.

A healthy relationship requires that both parties have their own set of friends and hobbies. Co-dependency tarnishes the spark of a relationship.

CONCLUSION

Men don’t over analyze this. It is a feeling of being imprisoned. The moment they feel like their lives have drastically been highjacked, that’s when they break up. Men truly fear losing their freedom.

Men love women. They fall in love with the expectation of being appreciated, respected and supported.

When he no longer feels like he is the hero of the story, he will make a serious decision in changing his relationship status.

Source: Power Of Positivity;

If You Are Doing Any Of These 10 Behaviors People Can’t Understand, You Are An iNtuitive…

Psychology

Dejan

March 15, 2017

The MBTI inventory classifies iNtuitive types as people who place more interest (and often more value) in theories, abstractions and the exploration of possibilities than they do in the concrete realities of the world around them.

iNtuitive-dominant personality types (mainly ENFPs, ENTPs, INTJs and INFJs) are almost always more interested in what isn’t being said or considered than what is.

But since we live in a sensor-dominant world, intuitive behavior tends to stick out like a sore thumb.

Almost every iNtuitive personality will be able to recall many experiences in which their loved ones were thoroughly confused by their reasoning or behavior.

Here are ten behaviors people often don’t understand are associated with being an iNtuitive personality.

If You Are Doing Any Of These 10 Behaviors You Are An iNtuitive

1. You are Spurring debates.

People can’t understand that you are not debating because you want to be difficult or impolite – but because you need to test the validity of the topic by arguing it from every side.

iNtuitives don’t fully understand an issue until they’ve considered it from every possible angle.

They want to see if any holes arise in their reasoning as they go, and some of their best learning takes place through the process of debate.

2. You obsessively planning for the future.

Of course, it’s impossible to plan every detail of one’s life… so the plan is subject to getting readjusted.

For extroverted iNtuitives (xNFPs and xNTPs), the readjusting happens almost daily. For introverted intuitives (xNFJs and xNTJs), readjusting happens as needed – but the need tends to arise regularly.

iNtuitives live almost exclusively in the future, they love, plan, and do almost everything considering which options may arise for them.

3. You are viewing the rules as suggestions.

You despise arbitrary action, so if you perceive a rule to be outdated or ineffective, you have no problem casting it aside and doing things you way instead.

People often see this as rebellious behavior or having an ego that cannot follow societal rules.

It’s not that iNtuitives are rebellious for the sake of it, it’s just that they analyze why a rule exists before deciding whether or not to follow it.

4. You over-analyzing everything.

You look everything at its core details and you analyze the implications those details will have on the big picture.

For the iNtuitive, it isn’t enough to understand how a given issue applies to them, they have to also understand the global implications of the issue, or the underlying theory that ties is all together.

iNtuitives want to know the intangible explanation for every tangible problem, and it can drive those around them a little bonkers.

5. You are placing little trust in authority.

You don’t care too much about manmade systems and structures based on the flawed choices of humanity.

iNtuitives are highly aware of the human tendency to favor convenience and prestige above analysis, and they aren’t quick to trust any established system simply because it’s been in place for a long time.

iNtuitives types trust competence over qualification, and they want to make their own judgments about how competent they find others to be. They care about facts and reason before anything else.

6. You are relentlessly seeking variety.

Whether you are seeking novelty in your studies, your lifestyle or both, you are always on the hunt for new lenses through which you can view the world.

People find it weird how you can hang out with so many different groups of people and still be yourself. But you do it for a much bigger reason. iNtuitive personalities are naturally drawn to the abnormal, the uncouth and the unconventional.

These types spend their entire lives attempting to piece together a comprehensive worldview, which means that they seek to understand as many different oddities as possible.

7. You are developing obscure interests.

You love reading about conspiracy theories, solving mysteries or simply doing mental puzzles.

Many iNtuitives enjoy exploring conspiracy theories or other such ‘unfounded’ methods of reasoning, as they enjoy the ‘mental gymnastics’ aspect of linking seemingly unrelated things together (even though they often don’t believe the actual theories themselves at the end of the day).

Since ‘what they don’t know’ is almost always more interesting to the iNtuitive personality than what they do know, these types are likely to take an interest in topics or theories that most people consider nutty or geeky.

8. You are socializing selectively.

There are times when you are really outgoing and times when you don’t want to even peak through the window. And people just can’t figure you out.

iNtuitives tend to consider themselves to be selectively social, they’d rather be alone than around people they don’t connect with. But put them around other iNtuitive types and their social side suddenly emerges with fervor.

iNtuitive-dominant types are often quickly exhausted by engaging with their physical environment, but they are endlessly energized by quality conversation.

9. You are playing devil’s advocate.

If there’s a sure-fire way for someone to get under your skin, it’s to insist that basically any issue is black or white.

These types are quick to assume the role of devil’s advocate in any situation where they feel as though the opposing party is forming an opinion without considering the alternative point of view.

These types are prone to vehemently arguing points they don’t even agree with, just to prove that an issue is more complex than those around them are assuming it to be.

10. You are looking for an unconventional life course.

You are prone to have an entrepreneurial streak, to engage in non-traditional relationship structures or to experiment with lifestyle choices that are outside the societal norm.

iNtuitives are naturally drawn to the strange, the provocative and the unconventional. It’s not that they want to do everything differently, it’s just that an iNtuitive’s lifestyle tends to reflect their mindset, and the mind of an iNtuitive is a very strange territory indeed.

Because these types take a ‘why not’ approach to their lives (or in the case of introverted iNtuitives, their research and learning), they often find themselves unintentionally rebelling from the rest of society.

Source: Gostica;

THIS Guy Hit His Head After Jumping In The Pool. After He Woke Up He Was A Musical GENIUS!

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Dejan

March 14, 2017

THIS Guy Hit His Head After Jumping In The Pool. After He Woke Up He Was A Musical GENIUS!

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Scientists In Amsterdam Just Destroyed Breast Cancer Tumors In 11 Days Without Chemo!

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Dejan

March 13, 2017

Scientists In Amsterdam Just Destroyed Breast Cancer Tumors In 11 Days Without Chemo!

Research presented by Professor Nigel Bundred at the European Breast Cancer Conference in Amsterdam revealed that they had tested the effectiveness of a pair of drugs known as Herceptin (a.k.a trastuzumab) and Lapatinib.

The two drugs are commonly used in breast cancer treatment already, but this is the first time they had been combined together and used before surgery and chemotherapy. What they found was they were able to eliminate some types of breast cancer in just 11 days.

Funded by Cancer Research UK, they aimed to use these drugs to combat a protein called HER2 (human epidermal growth factor receptor 2) which affects the growth and division of cancer cells. It’s also more likely to return than other cancer types.

What also makes this treatment so appealing is the fact that it eliminates the need for chemotherapy and surgery.

The temporary side effects like hair loss, vomiting and fatigue are also avoided, making treatment less impactful on the body. Chemo is not entirely effective, nor is it the right choice for a lot of patients, so any alternatives are welcomed.

STUDY RESULTS

257 women with HER2 positive breast cancer were selected for the study, with half being put on the drug combo and the other half were the control group.

What they found was that of those on the drug, 11% had no cancer cells remaining within two weeks and 17% of cases featured dramatically shrunken tumors.

Compared to the control group who were only given Herceptin, they were found to have 0% with no trace of cancer cells and only 3% showed a drop in tumor size. Clearly, the two drugs combined have a major effect on breast cancer cells as opposed to being used on their own.

The problem currently, however, is that Herceptin’s licensing makes it only available for use alongside chemotherapy and not alone. The results of this study may help to change that though.

Although there’s still a lot of work to be done, hopefully, this is a major step in the fight against one of the world’s deadliest diseases. With medical advancements improving every year, it’s entirely possible this could happen sooner than we think!

Originally Published By: The Hearty Soul;
Sources:
– IFLScience;
– http://www.breastcancer.org;
– Science Daily;
– http://www.macmillan.org.uk;

Extremely Intelligent People Posses These 10 Traits. Are You One Of Them?

Psychology

Dejan

March 13, 2017

Intelligence or smarts can manifest in many different ways.

Sometimes it shows itself in seemingly totally spontaneous manners, things we don’t even connote with someone who is bright.

Often, those who are very proficient in one area of intelligence are slightly lacking in others. A brilliant mathematician may lack an understanding of poetry or abstract art, while a leading physicist may be extremely socially challenged in a similar sense.

There are those lucky few however, that seem to have tapped into many or all of the nuanced forms of intelligence.

Somehow, they can function at a uniquely high level in numerous opposing realms.

These ‘extremely’ intelligent people tend to share common traits which others might not even consider connected to their intellectual talents.

Listed below are 10 of these traits most commonly found among the subtly brilliant:

1. Fluidity of thought and opinion.

These people know that to take a staunch position on something is to limit yourself to that position.

While they are perfectly capable of forming strong opinions or beliefs, they prefer to stay away from rigid absolutes.

They know that one must keep their mind open to new possibilities at all times.

2. They’re never hasty.

They will always take as much time and energy as they need to deeply and genuinely consider what they want to say before they say it.

They’ll take into account whether it is kind or socially acceptable, whether it is necessary or will it add anything to the conversation.

It may seem like a lot of work, but this is usually a momentary process in the head that takes only a few extra seconds of thought, and saves A LOT of energy.

3. Never contributing unless it will benefit the group.

Intelligent people don’t tend to be interested in small talk.

They don’t speak or do things just for the attention or to fill the awkward silence and spaces.

They will only become involved in a situation if they think they have something to bring to the table, something that will help or assist in a positive or necessary way. Otherwise they simply won’t interject.

4. They march to their own drummer.

They aren’t worried about fitting in with the crowd because they know sometimes the crowd is boring or even downright wrong.

They base their thoughts and opinions on information and fact because they are acutely aware of the great potential human beings have for making mistakes.

This doesn’t mean they won’t consider other people’s feelings on things, but they will always want to form their own individual ideas about it once they’ve obtained as much information as they can.

5. They know that everyone is capable of being wrong. Including themselves.

Only the fool believes that men are infallible. The truly intelligent person will always admit when they’re wrong or they’ve made a mistake.

You don’t grow to be wise or well-educated if you can’t accept being incorrect.

This also goes for those you might consider personal heroes. You can respect someone greatly for many things and still believe it when they screw up.

6. They always strive to be objective.

Instead of being emotional about it and telling a person they’re just wrong, someone who is extremely intelligent will instead offer a different perspective.

It’s not about winning or losing the argument, it’s about helping the other person to understand things in a different, perhaps better or clearer way.

The smart person would rather help someone else come to their own conclusion than force personal opinions on them.

7. They don’t let emotion get the best of them.

They will always do whatever they can to stay calm and clear-headed. When you allow your emotions and personal bias to inform your speech and behavior, people suffer.

Communication just doesn’t happen the way it should and everyone ends up angry or upset.

Staying relaxed, trying not to take anything personally and relying on facts and logic are the best way to find a good solution or compromise to any difficult situation.

8. They often rely on intuition.

It may sound cliche, but sometimes the best thing you can do is trust your instincts.

Intelligent people know that human beings once relied entirely on their gut for survival, and though we’ve long since evolved past that, our physical feelings can still give us some useful hints for life now.

Never deny your instincts, they exist for a good reason. Intuition is information processed by the subconscious mind too fast for the conscious to comprehend.

9. They are people of action, not just words.

Too many of us will react to a troublesome issue by sitting around and trying to think our way out of it.

While I’m not suggesting that we remove thought from the equation entirely, I am telling you that the truly intelligent know better than to get paralyzed in thought.

At some point you’ve got to take the risk and act, or you’ll be immobilized permanently. No good can come of sitting there and obsessing over your problem, you have to make a plan of action and follow through with it in order to have any hope of progressing.

10. They don’t need your validation.

Most of the time when someone is judging you harshly, what they’re really doing is revealing what type of person they are.

Intelligent people don’t worry about judgment or what others are saying about them. They do what feels right and important to them and they don’t bother letting others shame them for it.

They will take into consideration the thoughts of those they greatly admire and respect, and if they think they’re being called out on something they deserve to be called out on, they won’t deny it, but overall their validation comes from within. They simply have more productive things to do than chase the approval of their peers.

Source: Daily Vibes;

9 Ways Nature Is Trying To Communicate With You That You Might Be Ignoring…

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Dejan

March 12, 2017

Earth is a living organism and Nature is its spirit. It is what gives life, what gave life to us and what’s maintaining it through a sacred balance that no man can fabricate.

With our technological societies and fast paced lifestyles we tend to forget who we really are, where we truly come from. We are all a part of this great spirit.

Even though most of us don’t even think about how their actions impact their lives, Nature always cares. We are her children and she wants us to reach our full potential.

Sometimes when we lose ourselves, Nature is there to share her higher wisdom, to guide us back on tracks.

How Nature Communicates?

We are communicating mostly through words, signs and symbols we’ve created to understand each other. But Nature communicates with her own signs, symbols and subtle clues. That’s the universal language every living being subconsciously understands.

Our brains are wired to ignore most of these signs because we “don’t need them” in the modern world we live in. And because we need to manage the sensory bombardment of society, we focus only on those items that feel pertinent.

While this is useful for our nervous system, it’s adapted over time to fit the modern era, and deletes the input unnecessary for survival.

Communication from the universe lives in the mystical system that requires acute and sustained awareness.

The very things we may be omitting are likely the most important messages from the universe around us.

These messages lie in the natural world; a world from which many of us are disconnected.

Here are the 9 subtle ways Nature might be trying to communicate with you:

1. Animals:

We are all connected. All animals are a part of the giant oneness of Nature and, sometimes, she communicates through them.

Whenever you encounter a strange animal approach you, or feel that there is something weird about it approaching you, like it should mean something, don’t take it for granted.

Meditate on it. Think about what the animal might represent for you; what it might try to tell you; what are its characteristics that Nature might be telling you to find in yourself;

2. Feathers:

Sometimes we ignore what’s been laid in front of us, like feathers. But feathers aren’t just random bird droppings!

Feathers carry the vibration of the bird, they hold the migratory path and rhythm of its flight. To overlook these common messages is easy, but you miss on the love Nature is sharing with you.

They are like a reminder, like a ‘Hello’ coming from the grand spirit we are all connected through.

3. Numbers:

We didn’t invent math, we discovered it. The Universe communicates through geometry and numbers are just simplified, concentrated information of geometrical figures.

The whole concept of numerology is based on that. Each number carries meaning that your subconscious mind can perceive. That’s why it matters when you see a particular number show a couple of times, because it’s not about the number it’s about YOU perceiving it. There are many numbers that fly by you all throughout the day that you don’t perceive, but you perceive this one in particular.

There is a reason behind it, and you should consider diving into the meaning behind this number. There is a message waiting to be unveiled.

4. Weather:

The weather is the most common Natural expression we tend to overlook. It’s the ‘body language’ of Nature on a large scale.

Lightning, thunder, clouds and rainbows, even natural ‘disasters’ communicate something with us. It might be more of a societal message than personal, but there are times that the messages are aimed towards an individual.

Look around once in a while and try to understand what the weather is communicating. The messages sometimes might be intended for you.

5. Signs:

This is the most perceived form of communication that people capture when Nature is trying to tell us something. When you start looking for a sign of The Universe you will usually find it on the most unusual place.

An ad, a Facebook post, a name of a bar, in a movie, a song on the radio, a word from a stranger…

You will get the sign and it will touch deep inside you. For others it might be nothing extraordinary, but for you it will be a ‘zipped file’ of answers, meaning and wisdom you’ve been looking for.

6. Invitations:

This is a really subtle way Nature is trying to communicate with you. The ‘phone might ring’ for a long time in this case.

There might be an invitation for you to go somewhere that you decline. Then, you might get another offer to go to the same country or place. After a couple of years you might get free tickets for a concert at that particular place.

It is in this place that you will find a powerful message from Nature that you need to hear. The Universe constantly offers us invitations to deepen our path and follow our hearts. And when we do, blessings are bestowed.

7. Intuition:

Not just that we are connected with Nature, but WE ARE Nature, our bodies come from it.

They communicate with us through feelings and emotions, and sometimes Nature communicates through them. These are really personal messages intended for you.

Sometimes you feel something is not right, sometimes you feel you should do something; don’t ignore these messages. Intuition is a big chunk of information that your subconscious mind processes much faster than your conscious.

8. Dreams:

It is when we dream that our subconsciousness is free to show us messages that we’ve been suppressing with our conscious mind.

The science of dreams is vast, but the philosophy of why they mean something is the same. Not all dreams tell something in particular, but there are some dreams that you just know have a deeper message.

The easiest way for Nature to get to you is through dreams with your subconsciousness as a mediator. These dreams are like a ‘voice message recordings’ from Nature that we need to listen after we wake up.

9. Smells:

Chemical reaction and a release of scents is one of Nature’s common languages.

When you smell something burning you immediately know that there is fire and potential danger nearby. It’s a form of communication between you and Nature that we’ve learned long time ago, so our species can better survive.

Even though we know what some smells mean, there are many times we ignore a particular smell just because it is not signaling a life threatening situation. These smells still mean something and they carry messages that Nature is trying to send to you. You should listen to them.

Something Is Heating Up Inside Egypt’s Ancient Pyramids And Scientists Can’t Explain It!

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Dejan

March 11, 2017

Something Is Heating Up Inside Egypt’s Ancient Pyramids And Scientists Can’t Explain It!

Two weeks of new thermal scanning in Egypt’s Giza pyramids have identified anomalies in the 4,500-year-old burial structures, including a major one in the largest pyramid, the Antiquities Ministry announced recently.

Officials speak in front of the great pyramid of Khufu in Giza.

The scanning showed “a particularly impressive one (anomaly) located on the Eastern side of the Khufu pyramid at ground level,” the ministry said in a statement.

The largest of the three Giza pyramids is known locally as Khufu and internationally as Cheops. Antiquities Minister Mamdouh el-Damaty and technical experts working on the project showed the higher temperature being detected in three specific adjacent stones at the bottom of the pyramid in a live thermal camera presentation to journalists.

The thermal scanning was carried out at all times of the day, including during sunrise, as the sun heats the structures from the outside, and then during sunset as the pyramids are cooling down. The speed of the heating and cooling phases is being used to uncover “hypotheses” such as empty areas in the pyramids, internal air currents, or different building materials used.

“The first row of the pyramid’s stones are all uniform, then we come here and find that there’s a difference in the formation,” said el-Damaty, pointing at the three stones showing higher temperatures.

While inspecting the area, el-Damaty said they found “that there is something like a small passage in the ground that you can see, leading up to the pyramids ground, reaching an area with a different temperature. What will be behind it?”

Other heat anomalies were detected in the upper half of the pyramid that the experts said need to be investigated further.

El-Damaty invited all Egyptologists, especially those interested in ancient Egyptian architecture, to join in the research and help come up with ideas on what could be behind the anomalies.

The pyramids, located on the outskirts of Cairo, are one of the major tourist attractions in the country. The pyramids, which were used as sacred burial structures, were built in the fourth Pharaonic dynasty. The great pyramid is the oldest and only surviving monument of the Seven Wonders of the Ancient.

Sources: Educate Inspire Change;

THIS Is The One Single Word That Can End Your Relationship…

Psychology

Dejan

March 11, 2017

Words can literally create, or destroy, depending on how you use them. If you think thoughts are powerful, they are nothing compared to the impact words have!

When words are properly used together, you can cast beautiful things and emotions into being.

Think about it: with only one sentence you can make someone smile and have a better day; but with only one sentence you can ruin someone’s day too.

Each word has a power on its own depending on the context and meaning behind it. And one simple word can make IMMENSE difference.

There is one word that is responsible for the end of most relationships between people.

Sometimes, we don’t intend to hurt someone else by our words; this is where it gets a bit tricky.

Read these statements and decide if they are damaging or not:

‘Sorry I didn’t reply to your calls or text messages. I’ve just been really busy.’

‘That sounds like so much fun! Unfortunately, I’m busy with work.’

‘I’d love to try that new place with you guys, but I’m busy with the kids.’

What do you think? On the surface, there is certainly nothing wrong. After all, we all have responsibilities, so it’s safe to assume that they really are busy, right?

But exactly this word “BUSY” is the cause why most relationships between individuals end!

Let me explain why and how:

The subconscious mind is a really powerful thing. If the conscious mind perceives details like words, the subconscious mind perceives the depth, the meaning, the context, the reasons and patterns leading to it, the possible outcomes…

When we say ‘I’m busy’ to our partners in the context of spending time with them, it sends a powerful psychological bomb in the structure of your relationship.

It says A LOT more than the fact that we are actually really busy.

It reveals the focus of your energy, the will to be with them, the structure of your priorities, the importance they have for you.

It destabilizes the trust and creates space for doubt, no matter how much you trust each other.

It sounds cold and disconnected.

And when we get real, it’s really an excuse, it’s not something you say to people who matter to you!

No matter how busy you are, there are 3 facts pointing that your statement is simply an excuse for not seeing them:

1. EVERYBODY IS BUSY

Here’s a newsflash: nearly every single person walking the earth is “busy”. If they’re not “busy”, they probably feel “busy”.

To tell someone ‘I’m busy’ is too quickly avoid facing them.

After all, what is “busy”? You could be rushing around the office, grabbing at paperwork and spilling your coffee, or rushing inside to the hotel where you’re staying on vacation to order food.

2. NOBODY IS WITHOUT A FREE TIME

No matter how busy and preoccupied you are with whatever you spend your time at, there is at least 1 hour free in your day.

Not choosing to use a part of this free time to meet with your partner shows that you simply don’t care enough.

You might do, you might really care, but what you show is very different.

3. ANYONE CAN MAKE A ROOM

Your busy schedule is not an excuse because not everything on it is extremely important.

There are things with higher priority than others, things you cannot reschedule, but there are A LOT of things you can move, cancel, or postpone.

If you give just a tiny little bit of effort you can make a room to see your partner instead of avoiding them with ‘I’m busy!’

What to say instead:

“Busy” is just a mental boundary to keep you away from what’s not important.

And when it comes to your partner, there is certainly a better choice of words than simply saying ‘I’m busy!’

We don’t say that you should leave everything and meet with them. But that you don’t put what’s important at the moment above them.

Of course, there are rare times where you simply must get off of the phone ASAP (emergencies, an urgent meeting, etc.)

But even in those situations the important people in your life deserve to know the reason of why you are busy.

And if the situation is really urgent, and if they are at least a little sane, they’ll understand.

There are 3 things you need to do if you are busy to avoid damaging your relationship: apologize about being busy, elaborate the situation explaining the reason, and speak about when you’ll be able to make time to meet.

What’s important at the moment is a tiny dot. Your partner is the big picture.

At least that’s how your priorities should be sorted if you truly care about them.

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