7 Untold Strengths of Highly Empathic Individuals

Psychology

September 28, 2017

While Empathy is a natural gift given to intuitives, research suggests that it’s a strength anyone can cultivate for the betterment of their lives and that of others.

According to evolutionary biologist Frans de Waal, we are social animals evolving naturally to care for each other.

Since most people are wired for empathy, we have the ability to develop ourselves to become highly empathic.

However, there are some people who are naturally developed to be highly empathetic. These individuals have 7 hidden strengths people rarely notice!

7 Untold Strengths of Highly Empathic Individuals:

1. They have super curiosity.

Highly empathic individuals are always curious and inquisitive.

Curiosity is a fuel that keeps us truly interested about variety of topics, strangers we meet and their stories.

Not only that, curiosity also enhances our life satisfaction and decreases the chance of loneliness.

Empaths satisfy their curiosity not only by having an occasional chat with a stranger, but by connecting with others a little deeper than other people do.

2. They are immune to prejudices.

What prevents most people from seeing others as they truly are is their tendency to assume and generalize others according to different labels.

Highly empathic individuals overcome these prejudices and preconceptions by looking at others with pure eyes, letting them reveal their uniqueness.

They do not care about labels, they care about emotions. Once you perceive others as emotional beings you realize that we are all the same.

When you approach others with this mindset, your empathy helps to overcome strong emotions like hatred.

3. They can easily experiment with different lifestyles.

Empaths are really good at getting a sense of others’ lifestyles. Thy don’t just perceive the details but understand the essence of living like someone else.

Even while they watch movies or TV shows, maybe reading a book, they can easily embody the personality of their favorite character.

This is because empaths have high amount of mirror neurons.

They can literally feel and perceive in almost the same way like the people they have been subconsciously mirroring do.

4. They are the best listeners and people to open up to.

Highly empathic individuals possess the two ingredients of becoming the best person to talk to.

First, they are attentive listeners who are fully present to grasp every emotion and need that the other person is trying to express.

Second, they make themselves vulnerable, removing their masks and revealing their true feelings thereby building a strong empathic bond.

Empathy is a two-way street where people find mutual understanding. Through empathy, others find relief in having someone to exchange their important beliefs and experiences with.

5. They inspire mass action for a social change.

Empathic bond doesn’t only happen with person-to-person interaction. It could also be applied to a mass phenomena where fundamental social change is being brought about.

Highly empathic individuals are starting to support organizations that aim to bring about empathy in teaching programs, such as focusing on an infant’s emotional intelligence—which in time will bring significant decline of bullying in playgrounds and schools.

People are inspired by anyone who speaks the truth! By just being an empath who inspires the world to change by speaking your own truth, without a hidden intent, you are giving people the freedom to be themselves.

Empaths are healing the world, in a way, by letting others aware of their emotions and what those emotions are trying to let them know. This will prevent suppressed emotions to make important decisions in the future on a global scale.

6. They can solve the conflicts that nobody else could.

In a world of “us” against “them,” conflicts could hardly be solved. But highly empathic individuals know how to find a way to unite conflicting groups by employing ‘instrumental’ empathy.

Instrumental empathy is going at the other side of the spectrum to see the situation the way the opponent perceives it.

Empaths are able to do this because they understand how each side perceives reality.

They can play the 2 roles, at the same time, while being able to observe the triggers of the conflicts without attachment to either side.

7. They have an aggressive imagination.

Empaths play in the world of emotions. They can handle emotions better than any other person.

Because of their super ability to handle variety of extreme emotions, at the same time, they can go to heights of imagination that a reasonable mind can not even dream of.

Through their imagination they can find possibilities and inventions that do not exist yet. They can excel in fields of art unlike any other.

However, if an empath and someone with a scientifically developed mind find a way to collaborate on a project, they can be the people who invent the future of the world.

We are now in an Age of Empathy where people do not only focus on their own journey but healing each other through a collective one.

Featured Image Credit: Maja Topčagić;

References:
– http://upliftconnect.com/six-habits-highly-empathic-people/;
– https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_habits_of_highly_empathic_people1;
– https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-empaths-survival-guide/201703/the-science-behind-empathy-and-empaths;

9 Things People Should Not Believe According To The Buddha

Lessons

Nezel Padayhag

September 26, 2017

Because of the many sages, venerables, ascetics, and holy ones who passed their place, the Kalama people were in a state of confusion.

They were confused because all the teachings that these wise masters shared were contradictory.

At some point in our life, we may happen to be in a state of confusion like the Kalama people.

To gain insight of the truth, the Kalama people decided to ask The Buddha what to believe in.

The Buddha did not give them the answer they expected. Instead, he told them what they should NOT believe in.

While there’s no need for us to become officially disciples of Buddha, finding truths from his teachings may give us a glimpse of enlightenment.

9 Things People Should Not Believe According To The Buddha

1. Do not believe anything on mere hearsay. The ability to question and test one’s beliefs in an appropriate way is called appropriate attention. The ability to recognize and choose wise people as mentors is called having admirable friends.

2. Do not believe in traditions merely because they are old and have been handed down for many generations and in many places.

3. Do not believe anything on account of rumors or because people talk a great deal about it.

4. Do not believe anything because you are shown the written testimony of some ancient sage.

5. Do not believe in what you have fancied, thinking that, because it is extraordinary, it must have been inspired by a god or other wonderful being.

6. Do not believe anything merely because the presumption is in its favor, or because the custom of many years inclines you to take it as true.

7. Do not believe anything merely on the authority of your teachers and priests.

8. Do not believe in assumptions. But, whatever, after thorough investigation and reflection, you find to agree with reason and experience, as conducive to the good and benefit of one and all and of the world at large, accept only that as true, and shape your life in accordance with it.

9. Do not believe in any doctrine just from reverence, but first, try it as gold is tried by fire.

Source: http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/an/an03/an03.065.than.html;

10 Ways To Look Beyond Anyone’s Mask and Find Out Who They Really Are

Psychology

Nezel Padayhag

September 26, 2017

People rarely show their real face to others.

We all have a certain mask that we put out in front of others.

In fact, there is a Japanese saying that goes:

“We all have 3 faces.

The first face, you show to the world.

The second face, you show to your close friends, and your family.

The third face, you never show anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you are.”

Even though most of us wear masks, some people create masks just so they can manipulate others, or use them for their personal benefit.

Whatever their reason is, it’s better to go past your first impressions and listen more to your intuition in order to sense who someone really is. But listening to your intuition is not enough.

You must go that extra mile to prove that your intuition is right.

No matter how good of an acting someone puts, no matter how good they are at lying, there are certain things that will always reveal that person’s true character and intentions.

The following ways will help you look beyond anyone’s mask and find out who they really are:

10 Ways To Look Beyond Anyone’s Mask:

1. Find out if they walk their talk.

A lot of people tend to defend their actions. They give long narratives or accounts just to prove that they’re doing the right thing.

You may either believe in them or doubt their words. The easy way to check your doubts is to look at their actions.

Are they putting into actions what they’re saying in words?

Actions never lie. Sooner or later people reveal their true colors by unconsciously doing things that show their true character.

2. How they treat others who are inferior to them.

It’s a typical human conditioning to be good with people we consider respectable. But to those whom we feel we don’t need to impress?

The way people treat others who appear “inferior” reveals their true character. Observe how this person treats waiters, cashiers, children or even animals.

It takes a great character to be good with people who seem unable to give you anything.

3. How they handle criticisms.

How does this person react when criticized?

People who have big egos tend to take criticisms personally. They feel threatened and may even lash out at you for doing so.

Open-minded people take criticisms calmly even if it was not given in a nice way. They are much aware of their imperfections and never stop improving themselves.

4. Look at their social circles.

People usually hang out with people or friends who share the same values with them.

By looking at the kind of people they associate with, you will know their values and preferences. Consider the things they have in common and look at their role in the group.

Do they strive to be the center of attention or are they content by staying at the back? You can also catch a glimpse of their character by the way they treat new friends compared to older ones.

Know also the kind of people they dislike or avoid.

5. Observe their body language.

The mouth can lie but the body speaks the truth.

Our bodies are wired, to tell the truth, and it often gives clues when someone is lying.

Look at how this person’s body speaks. Compare their body language when you know they speak the truth and when you don’t. If you’re able to notice subtle cues, you will gain more insight into this person’s character.

The hardest thing for the body to lie is whether or not the person has a romantic inclination towards you.

6. How they use the language.

We can take a peek into a person’s character by observing the way they use the language. Either they use it to express their genuine self or use it to manipulate someone.

Another way of finding out someone’s character is how they use the pronouns.

A person who often used “we” is more inclined to a deeper social connection, while the one who uses other personal pronouns is more inclined to egocentrism.

People who seek to impress use big words compared to others who use simple language.

7. The way they handle situations where they feel they’ve been wronged.

People who feel they have been wronged react differently. Some people admit their role in the matter while others put all the blame on someone or something else.

When asked how they went about the experience, others relate their story with anger while others blow up the rage within after a long period of holding it in.

But if this person appears calm and collected while relating about that bad experience in their lives, it means they’re already done with the issue and are not bringing any extra baggage in their life.

It tells that they face their problems and are open to see if they did something wrong. Such people build their character through strength, and people who have built their character through strength follow a personal moral code and principles.

8. How they spend their most valuable resources.

Time and money are our most valuable possessions. How we spend it reveals our character.

What are this person’s priorities? Do they spend their money in recreation or investment for the future?

Do they spend all day watching TV or taking classes? Do they value learning new skills?

Is the person who they say they are coherent with the way they spend their most valuable possessions?

The answers to these questions will reveal if something does not appear right between the both images.

While you have to respect other people who have a different interests from you, this doesn’t mean it’s a source of conflict.

Doing things differently yet sharing the same principles is a good recipe for a great relationship.

You also don’t need to pry on their finances. You just have to make sure that you have no conflicting ideas about this matter.

9. How they take no for an answer.

People reveal more of themselves when given a “no” for an answer. When they take it with respect it’s a good sign.

But it’s a different story when they try to manipulate others to give in to their wishes. It’s a sure sign of disrespect and you wouldn’t want to be a victim to such.

10. Pay attention to your gut feeling.

If your instincts aren’t giving you peace of mind about a person, situation or anything, even though they passed through all these tests, you better listen to it.

Your intuition is your limbic brain that responds to your subconscious cues. Your mind hasn’t picked up on it yet, but beware when someone seems bad news for you.

You might probably be right and cutting them from your life earlier is the best way out.

The person might not even be bad, but your subconscious mind might have calculated that it’s bad for you right now because of a reason that is too complex for your conscious mind to calculate.

Source: Gostica > http://superheroyou.com/10-traits-that-reveal-your-character/;

This is How You Are Unconsciously Ruining Your Life According to Your Zodiac Sign…

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

September 25, 2017

This is How You Are Unconsciously Ruining Your Life According to Your Zodiac Sign…

While you may be doing your best to improve your life, you may otherwise be ruining it with your unawareness.

Each Zodiac Sign has specific traits and flaws. However, sometimes the personality configuration your Zodiac Sign gives you might be leading you towards unhappiness if it’s not wielded properly.

Find out how you might be ruining your life by checking your Zodiac.

How You Are Unconsciously Ruining Your Life According to Your Zodiac Sign:

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Keep an eye on your negativity and pessimism.

If left uncontrolled, negativity and pessimism may cause you to ruin your life. Small things have the tendency to affect you in a negative manner.

To stay balanced, you need to manage your anger and temperament. Let the little things go and keep in mind that not all things are worth your anger.

Focus on loving yourself more. The more you focus on the positivity in you, the less you are likely to get upset.

Taurus ( April 20 – May 21)

Be not a control freak.

You have a tendency to freak out when you feel things are out of your control. Try to let loose and live life to the fullest.

Not all things are under your control so there’s no need to hold everything tightly. Or else you will put your standard of living at risk.

Gemini (May 22 -June 21)

Learn to accept change.

While staying in your comfort zone makes you tick, settling there will keep your life dormant. Don’t stay too much as a settler because progress only comes with change.

Monotony prevents growth. Unless you change your mindset, you’re up to wreck your life.

Get out of your comfort zone and embrace change.

Cancer (June 22 – July 22)

Never forget yourself while helping others.

You tend to focus on the needs of other people, their feelings, emotions, and well-being to the point of forgetting your own needs.

While this is a positive trait, if done overboard, it has a possibility of causing your downfall. When you are too busy helping others reach their destination, you will find yourself, one day, being left behind.

And it might be too late.

Leo (July 23 – August 23)

Try to open up yourself and never shut others out.

You have a tendency to be stiff as if you don’t feel anything. You don’t open up your self and share your emotions with others.

While keeping unaffected is helpful at times, doing it often makes you appear inhuman. People couldn’t relate to you on an emotional level which pushes them to stay away from you.

Learn to open yourself up because relationships thrive on sharing each other’s emotions and feelings.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Watch out for that blame game with yourself.

You couldn’t help from blaming yourself for everything that doesn’t go well in your life. Enumerating your shortcomings and faults as a result of your incompetence and mediocrity don’t solve things.

You forget that being the best is not a guarantee that everything will turn out as expected. Thus, you need to stop kicking yourself in the gut.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Try to get easy on pleasing or impressing others.

Others play a big part in your life. In fact, you tend to live your life for them.

You shape your life according to people’s opinions and comments. Forgetting to judge your life based on your own standards is harmful to your well-being.

No one has the power to give you that except yourself. Remember, others are busy with their lives too and may even fail to care about you.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 22)

Check out how you value and love yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with pampering yourself a bit. It’s not selfish, it’s self-nurturing.

When you devalue yourself or anything that you’ve done, you are close to failing in this cutthroat world.

Stop being complacent. Be not left behind.

Sagittarius (November 23 – December 21)

Let not the fear of failure stop you.

The path to success is littered with the pebbles of failure. If you fear to experience these failures, you already stop before you even begin.

Taking risks and moving on regardless of circumstances is what you must do to experience the grandeur and magnificence life has to offer.

Unless you conquer your fears, your life is bound to fail.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 20)

Fight the temptation of looking outside instead of inside.

Life is not a competition where you must keep on comparing yourself with others.

Seeing others succeed does not mean you are less of a person or the lesser species. This means while they can do it, so can you.

When you put more focus on your strengths and in everything you can do, success will be with you sooner than you could even imagine.

Aquarius (January 21 – February 18)

Let go of the past.

If there’s something you must take from the past, it’s the lessons it has provided you with. Dwelling on your past failures is wasting the precious moments where you can do more.

Once you learn to live in the present moment, you will find that you have the ability to do things to your own advantage.

Every single day is a blank slate where you can write anything you want. Start there and believe that your past doesn’t define your future.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Be aware of who you surround yourself with.

Surrounding yourself with the wrong people is the greatest mistake you can do to your life.

Wrong people doesn’t necessarily mean bad people. They’re just the people who couldn’t help you maximize your potential.

When you hang out with the right class of human beings, you will have the capability to stop your life from becoming a failure.

Source: Gostica > http://www.relrules.com/;

The First Thing You See On This Image Reveals Your Current Subconscious State of Mind

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

September 25, 2017

The First Thing You See On This Image Reveals Your Current Subconscious State of Mind

How we perceive the world and the things around us reveals more of who we are than we are aware of.

What we see always reflects our state of being, elements from our personality and character.

What we see, sees us!

The picture test below will help you reveal some aspects of your personality which you are not aware of.

Simply look at the image and find out what comes first to your mind. Then check out what the results tell you.

What do you see?

The First Thing You See On This Image Reveals Your Current Subconscious State of Mind:

1. If you first saw an Explosion, it means you are in a creative mental period.

You have a creative imagination that runs wild. You are probably engaging yourself in a creative pursuit, using your imagination a lot.

If you haven’t exposed yourself to this area yet, you better do. Creativity might be your hidden talent where you will excel the most.

You may start by trying out some creative hobbies or activities. You might be surprised by how your creative juices will flow.

2. If you first saw the Two Hands, it means you are in a problem solving state of mind.

Seeing the two hands first indicates that your imagination is good, but you’re a more grounded person than the one who saw the explosion first.

You are more rational in your decision-making processes, making use of your logical thinking more often.

With these traits, problem-solving comes easily to you. People who know you well might even come to you to seek for advice.

You are able to stay calm under pressure and are not easily overcome by challenges.

3. If you first saw a Tree, it means you are detail-oriented.

You have an eye for details which makes you more of a perfectionist. When you perform a task, you make it almost flawless.

Because you put more focus on the important aspects, you will do great as a business person or even a people’s person.

You have a knack for knowing when and where is the best time to approach someone regarding a problem. You also know exactly when and how to comfort a person.

4. If you saw no particular shape, it means your mind is exhausted.

You need to take a rest because your mind may be too exhausted to work properly. Listening to yourself is important as your mind, too, needs rest.

Taking some time off and going for a vacation might work best for you.

If stress and pressures are a normal part of your life, it doesn’t mean you have to take it all in. You have to release it from time to time.

Sharing all your worries to family and friends will also help.

This picture test might look easy but it actually shares really important information for your mental state.

The results will lead you to know what you need to do for your mental health, or how to take advantage of your current mental state.

Source: Rise Earth > Peace Quarters;

Mathematician Calculates That ‘6th Global Mass Extinction’ Is Coming All Too Soon!

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Life Coach Code

Dejan

September 25, 2017

If you don’t know by now, you are living inside the 6th version of the world. In the last 540 million years, this world we live on has witnessed five mass extinctions. However, according to new mathematical calculations, the 6th mass extinction is likely to happen even before this century ends!

MIT geophysicist Daniel Rothman found a surprising correlation between Earth’s revolving carbon cycles and 5 past mass extinctions.

It turns out that in the four of the past five mass extinction events that exterminated multitudes of life forms on this planet, the carbon volume threshold was breached.

And according to calculations, if nothing changes we will breach this threshold before 2100.

Of course, correlation doesn’t equal causation, but in light of all the other evidence we have on how dangerous high levels of carbon are to life on our planet, a disturbing pattern is definitely emerging!

“It became evident that there was a characteristic rate of change that the system basically didn’t like to go past,” says Rothman.

But no matter the case, the carbon emissions just keep getting bigger and bigger, this harms most of the life on this planet.

Unless humanity does something to drastically turn around our carbon situation we can be the cause of extermination for many species.

Not just for humanity necessarily either, but for many a critter that ever walked, chirped, buzzed, or purred.

But like any equation, it doesn’t take in consideration the variables that can change all of this, like global implementation of Solar Energy usage, electric cars and conscious reforestation.

Mathematics calculates things that are constant. But human behavior has a variable that can not be calculated, freewill.

If we all choose to change our ways to reduce the carbon emission we are all responsible for, we can change the equation itself!

Source:
– Futurism;

References:
– http://news.mit.edu/2017/mathematics-predicts-sixth-mass-extinction-0920;
– http://advances.sciencemag.org/content/3/9/e1700906;

Each Empath Has These 10 Traits They Don’t Want To Talk About…

Psychology

Nezel Padayhag

September 24, 2017

Empaths are highly sensitive people who unconsciously absorb the emotions of others.

Their intuition is so strong that they might feel what the emotions of other people try to let them know, before other people are even aware of their emotions.

At times, they’re unable to distinguish between their true emotions and that of others.

Stressful emotions make them feel panicky, depressed, fatigued or physically sick. Feeling too much literally drains them, so they need to regularly recharge.

There are many types of empaths ranging from spiritual healers to overly anxious individuals. However, there are a couple of traits that all of these types share.

If you feel you’re an empath, check these mutual traits of each Empath that they usually don’t want to talk about. See if you have any of them:

10 Traits Each Empath Has But Don’t Want To Talk About:

1. Hypersensitivity. This trait makes empaths good listeners, natural givers and spiritually open. They are nurturers whose heart is always open for others, though it means they’re hurting too when others feel emotional pain.

2. Absorb people’s emotions. Whether a positive or a negative emotion, empaths absorb them all. It’s because they’re so attuned to the moods and feelings of others that they pick it up automatically.

3. Introverted. Most empaths are introverted beings who prefer to have a one-on-one contact with others rather than being with a large group of people. Because crowds overwhelm them, they set a limited amount of time to spend with people.

4. Highly intuitive. Empaths have a strong sense of intuition that helps them to better navigate through life. Their gut feelings help them find the right relationships and stay away from people who suck their energy. If sometimes they appear irrational, it’s their intuition they are following.

5. Loner. Empaths absorb too much energy, thus they need alone time to rest and recharge. They need quiet moments to prevent themselves from emotional overload.

6. Easily overwhelmed. Intimate relationships or too much togetherness overwhelms an empath. They fear to lose their identity and try to negotiate with their partners to consider where they’re more comfortable.

7. Targets for energy vampires. Energy vampires drain an empath’s energy to the point where they feel they are unworthy or unlovable. They also tend to lose their peace of mind when faced with people who are afraid or furious.

8. Nature lovers. Empaths find delight in nature. It replenishes their energy and helps them release their emotional burdens.

9. Highly tuned senses. Because of their highly tuned senses, empaths stay away from loud noise or excessive talking. This also makes them receptive to subtle frequencies.

10. Extreme givers. Empaths cannot stand and watch the pain of others. They relieve others’ pains until they feel upset or drained.

How to Protect Yourself If You are An Empath?

If you’re an empath, you may protect yourself by doing the following activities:

– Manage your time wisely and give your self time alone to recharge.

– Set limits and firm boundaries to prevent people and situations that will possibly drain your energy.

– Meditate daily to regain mental clarity, calm your mind and emotions, and connect to your self.

– Spend time in nature, exercise, hike or relax at the beach as frequently as possible.

Being an empath is a gift and a curse at the same time. But so is with every superpower.

If you had wings and didn’t know how to use them for flying, they would be just an extra part of your body that weighs you down. Being an empath is like having wings, you just need to learn how to use them for flying!

You feel and connect with all the frequencies of life including animals and even nature. But you also feel the emotions of others as if you go through them.

Thus, you must take care of yourself to protect the language of energy you have been gifted with.

Source: Rise Earth > Psychology Today;

4 Untold Ways to Boost Your Self Confidence No One Ever Tells You!

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

September 22, 2017

You see these several people who feel so at ease in front of the crowd as if the place belongs to them. You then secretly tell yourself how you wished you have their confidence.

The truth is, while confidence is a gift to some chosen few, others fought their way to acquire the confidence they once dreamed of.

By applying the right techniques, they turned themselves into the person they dreamed to become.

Most of these people practice subtle things that maybe even they are not aware of. However, these untold tweaks probably have the most significant effect on their confidence.

Here are the 4 ways you can use to boost your confidence to the highest level that no one ever speaks of:

4 Untold Ways to Boost Your Self Confidence

1. Just SEND It.

A confident person will always say what they mean. They will rarely hesitate to send a message they want to send or tell something they want to tell. And we assume they do this because they are really confident. However, it’s the other way around!

They have strong self confidence because they don’t hesitate to press “send.”

This is where the difference lies. Those afraid enough will stop while those willing to go on despite their fears just press “send.” No matter what happens, they use that chance!

And there is a trick. If you press send in less than 6 seconds you are not giving your mind enough time to find excuses and overthink the situation and create self-doubt. Doing it is what matters most.

Whatever the result might be, as long as you overcome self-doubt, you’re on your way to gaining confidence.

2. Write a NO-DO List.

Writing to-do lists is helpful. It clears your mind and directs you to do only the things that are on your priority list.

However, latest studies have discovered that one of the most effective lists that can help you is a No-Do list.

This is a list of things you are not allowed to do within your day. These limitation keep you protected from wasting your energy on things that do not give it back.

Writing a No-Do list might be the one thing you need that will give you the highest level of self confidence.

Instead of doing things that give you self confidence, stop doing the things that take it away.

Stop doing the things, stop thinking the thoughts and stop hanging out with people who take your self confidence and energy.

3. Do What YOU Love.

We are all chasing something. But at the end of the day, nothing will give us the thing we are looking for because it’s not a thing what we look for. It’s a sense, a state mind, a feeling of being enough to do what we really love.

Confident people have realized this and they stop chasing that rabbit. Instead, they assume they are enough and do what they love without explanation.

Again, they don’t do it because they are confident, they are confident because they do what they love without explaining themselves to anyone.

Nobody deserves your explanation why you want to walk in the park by yourself. Nobody deserves your explanation why you love listening to old songs, or dance in the club, or smile at that beautiful girl!

You are enough to follow your heart only you’ve been fooled to believe you are not, so you can chase things that will give you that state of mind.

So if you want a tremendous boost of confidence, do what you love! Do it for one day without asking anyone for approval or explaining yourself. See how you feel.

4. Make REFERENCES.

Nobody speaks of this, but it’s one of the most important elements for the confidence in people.

They have experience and memories of being confident. They get these reference points by collecting moments when they were courageous enough to face their fears and do what they wanted to do instead.

These moments flourish into memories that tell them they can be ok no matter what happens. These memories create a structure and each new reference just strengthens that structure.

So by creating memories where they did what they intended to do despite their fears, no matter what happened, these people build their structure of confidence and create a source for their self esteem.

Most importantly, they get their self esteem from inside this structure of memories, not from outside things.

And each reference enhances their source for self esteem and strengthens their self confidence, like training a muscle.

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