12 Rules to Become a Winner In Life According To A World Leading Psychiatrist

Attitude

November 30, 2017

One of the world’s leading psychiatrists and psychotherapists, Mikhail Litvak, generously shares with us the short guides on how to overcome every obstacle in life.

When we put these guides to heart and apply them on a daily basis, we will surely become winners in life.

12 Rules to Become a Winner In Life According To Mikhail Litvak, World Leading Psychiatrist:

1. Stay away from people who have nothing good to say about themselves. They are prone to start talking bad about others.

2. If you want to dig into something, dig into science and other sources of knowledge. Do not dig into someone else’s life.

3. When you feel depressed, consider it as the best time for introspection and reevaluation of your life. That might be the real purpose of depression coming into your life.

4. Strive to feel good about yourself by yourself. Once you do, you don’t need the approval of others to make you feel that way.

5. Do something when you want to do it. There is no better time to do something than the moment you want to do it and when you ask for permission, most probably, you won’t get one.

6. The immature and mature persons both possess knowledge. Only that the mature person acts on it while the immature person doesn’t know how to get used to it. Thus, the immature one will only criticize others. Strive to be the mature person.

7. The shortest path toward failure is pleasing everybody. Do what you want to do without harming others and trust that you are a good person, how others perceive you is their problem.

8. Work your way to become successful without needing to prove anything to anyone. Notice how magically the insults and hate comments disappear.

9. If you were to end either a business or a romantic relationship, make sure that the main reason is for continual personal growth and development. Do not let ego ruin your relationships, you underestimate their importance.

10. Stop chasing happiness and you will start to find the place where it dwells. Happiness is a sign that you are on the right way of your soul’s purpose, chasing the sign will only lead you in circles. Personal development is the shortest route to happiness.

11. Let your fantasies be in tune with your abilities. When you fantasize of becoming an opera singer but have not the voice for it, you are merely dreaming. Either work on your abilities to meet your fantasies or change your fantasies to meet your abilities. When you align your fantasies with your strengths and abilities, you will fulfill your dreams easily.

12. If you were to choose between a good book and conversation with an empty person, choose the former. By reading a good book you will surely gain something. Communicating with an empty person is only wasting your precious time.

Source: Conscious Reminder;

7 Uncomfortable Symptoms You Feel While Your Body Goes Through Merkaba Activation

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

November 30, 2017

“Merkaba” is a Zulu word which means a space/time/dimension vehicle.

Its activation is a process of consciousness evolution that transpires one to transcend from the third-dimensional world into higher dimensions.

In the process of ascension, as we detach from past trauma and evolve our consciousness to higher dimensions our being becomes lighter and our vibration gets higher.

In short, Merkaba is the beginning of Enlightenment.

Being enlightened is being totally aware and having your spiritual fields filled with immense love. Your soul is fueled by abundant light which awakens your Merkaba or light body.

However, Merkaba activation might initially bring out kind of uncomfortable symptoms. But don’t worry. Just flow with them because the process is worth it.

7 Uncomfortable Symptoms You Feel While Your Body Goes Through Merkaba Activation:

1. You feel intense sadness from time to time for no reason.

The light will heal your past. This healing process will make all your sadness purge out. As a result, you will feel sad for no apparent reason.

This sadness will become a part of your daily life. Don’t give in, and instead, see that sadness as a phase. Once your healing is done, you will be free and will lead a happy life.

2. You have a hard time at work.

If your work is not something you are passionate about, you will start to feel that your work is a hindrance to obtaining a happy and fulfilling life.

You will slowly crave to do only the things that you truly love. Making money for the sake of having it no longer attracts you.

As a result, you will be torn between going on or quitting because the internal conflict is getting stronger.

3. You feel isolated.

Because Merkaba is creating a new bond with you, you will feel isolated from other people whether they be friends or loved ones. At this point, you feel you don’t need the company of people.

You might feel alone and disconnected from other people even if you are surrounded by them, because you are not emotionally connected with them.

Your emotional strings are taking a rest for the Merkaba activation to proceed because they might act as something that weighs you down. After the Merkaba activation is established you will be emotionally recharged and be able to reconnect with others on a much deeper level.

4. Your sleep patterns change.

While your body is activating, your sleep patterns change significantly. It’s because your being spends more energy on creating the light body.

At times, you wake up in the middle of the night and start to cry for no reason. You may even experience nightmares or vivid dreams that appear to be real.

5. You feel like you are floating.

A floating-like feeling is one characteristic of Merkaba. It is as if some force from the sky is pulling you up towards the sky.

Your body feels so light as if you are floating. This experience makes you feel trapped between two worlds.

6. You might get surges of thoughts.

As you evolve your consciousness to higher dimensions it might download big chunks of data and you might experience it in form of big thought streams.

This makes a lot of people anxious and scared. However, there is nothing to worry about because it is a sign that your consciousness is evolving and you start to see a bigger picture of reality.

In such situations the best thing to do is let the thoughts flow and just take the role of an observer. Do not judge these thoughts just let them pass, like a wave. Mindfulness meditation and breathing techniques help.

7. You feel more connected to your consciousness.

Your consciousness is starting to have a better communication between its layers. You may even catch yourself remembering things stored in your unconscious mind. Past trauma and suppressed memories might resurface.

All of this is a needed step in the process to help you let go of things that weigh you down in order to evolve.

As you deal with past trauma and suppressed emotions you will raise your default state of being to higher states of existence. You will start connecting with higher layers of your consciousness. Feeling this connection is not only an amazing experience but a bliss too.

If you feel some or all of the above symptoms, then you are in the process of Merkaba activation. Be aware of the signs and never take it for granted because Merkaba is still activated even when you are not aware.

References:
– https://www.consciousreminder.com/2017/11/09/8-signs-experiencing-light-bodymerkaba-activation/;

3 Easy Steps to Live The Life You Truly Want

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

November 29, 2017

We all have big goals in life.

No person can create the change they want to see in their life without themselves taking the necessary changes.

Most often these changes are hard and can even push you to your limits. But who cares if what you are after is to live the life you designed for yourself.

Everything depends on you and on how determined you are in achieving your goals.

There are countless advices on this subject. Some of them might contradict each other, or even sound overwhelming.

To make things easier, we drilled down to the 3 essential steps that you need to do in order to live the life that you truly want to live. Every advice boils down to these 3 steps!

When you find yourself determined enough to create the shifts that can lead you to your best life, take the following necessary changes to make it happen.

3 Easy Steps to Live The Life You Truly Want:

1. Embrace change.

Embracing the idea of change is the first step you need to take. It means you need to get out of your comfort zone and be open to whatever it is that may come your way.

It means that you have to have the guts to try seeing new horizons and walking uncharted territories in order to unlock new parts of your potential.

Just make sure that your intentions for a change is based on your life’s calling and not on what people want you to.

2. Do your homework.

A house is never built without a plan. You have to have your own design, look for the materials that fit to your design, and seek the help of experts in this project.

The same is true when you plan to change your life.

You have to set a clear plan of how you want your life to be. Then look for the resources that fit rightly to the achievement of your plans.

Before diving in, you need to do some soul searching. Expose yourself to a lot of options.

Read books. Listen to experts. Attend lots of seminars and webinars. Learn how others did it.

Have plans for setbacks and secure the tools necessary for your new undertakings. Get inspired from the experiences of other people.

By doing these things, you will be less scared for taking the leap. Connect with others so as not to feel alone in your journey.

3. Act on your decision.

When you already have everything you need, make your decision. Don’t wait for the right time to happen before you act because it won’t.

You won’t be ready until you act on it.

We all have this tendency to procrastinate and do things only when we feel prepared.

But too much procrastination will only lead you to missed opportunities. The Universe will not wait for you forever.

Acting in the moment is winning half of the battle. So don’t wait for golden opportunities, use the divine opportunity of the now. Seize the moment.

And once you embark on the journey to follow your life’s purpose with as full potential as you can, The Universe will conspire to help you out.

Source: Conscious Reminder;

The Only 3 Things That Every Single Human Being Wants…

Philosophy

Nezel Padayhag

November 29, 2017

As strange as it may seem, human beings only want 3 things in life. No matter how much we are influenced to desire fame, money, power or success, these are not the things that human beings desire deep within.

Though we may strive to find fulfillment in these things, it cannot satisfy our deepest, innermost longings.

The Only 3 Things That Every Single Human Being Wants:

1. To be seen as we really are.

Being seen as the true person that we are, without the labeling or the attachment to our culture, family or background is the hardest thing to get from others.

Seeing others as they are requires us to be naked too. This means we have to drop all pretensions and all the walls that we have built around ourselves.

We have to drop our ideas, romantic inclinations, stereotyping, scorning, belittling, expectations, and anticipations.

And this is one of the scariest things anyone can do, to stay soul naked in front of the world.

Holding onto these things prevents us from seeing within others, as same as it prevents others from seeing within us.

The moment we manage to let go of the perceptions we have of others is a moment of liberation. We will then feel connected and never alone.

2. To be held by someone.

Being held in a loving embrace is being given the space to express our pains, joys, inner longings, yearnings, and musings without judgment.

It means acceptance of who we truly are with all our human weaknesses and flaws.

Holding people is a gift we can give others while receiving it back in pure authenticity. Being held or holding someone gives more meaning to life.

It doesn’t mean you have to literally hug people every day. Being held means having unconditional emotional support from someone.

It means you can pour your emotions to them whenever you need to and you will be there for them to do the same.

People chase status, money, power all with a purpose to find someone like this, someone who can hold them and be there for them unconditionally.

3. To be known as we truly are.

Many people may “know” us because of the bits of information they might get from other sources aside ourselves. This knowledge resides only in their heads.

It does not make them know the real us. What we truly want is to be known who we really are, how it feels to live our life, including our different emotions.

We want others to know the depth of our sadness, fear, anxieties, worries, and so on.

Our most common mistake, on the other hand, is keeping people at bay because of our preconceived notions about them.

In reality, we stay away from people because we fear that people may know our own woundedness and imperfections. We think this would make us vulnerable. We choose to set up walls instead of bridges for the fear of being judged the way we judge ourselves.

As a result, we continue creating a world of division between people. We lack the maturity to see happiness in our imperfections or the beauty in our sadness.

But to be really known, to let others know the real essence of who we are, we must be brave enough to risk being judged.

Most people think that once they make themselves famous enough, only then they will be able to reveal their true selves to the world and use their fame as a shield for being judged.

But fame will actually bring you more judgment and much bigger distortion of who you really are and who people think you are.

In order to be known you do not need fame, you need one person that really wants to get to know you, all the aspects of you. That’s what we really want at the end of the day.

Our desire to be seen, held, and known can be satisfied by someone else. However, before we can let others do that, we must first see, hold and know our true selves.

Source: Rise Earth > https://umairhaque.com/the-three-things-everyone-really-wants-a91a93ff2a;

10 Most Common Reasons Why People Feel Lost In Life

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

November 29, 2017

10 Most Common Reasons Why People Feel Lost In Life

Getting lost in life from time to time is normal. Nobody went through the journey of finding one’s self and perfected the quest the very first time.

Being acquainted with oneself is a journey worth walking for, and perhaps, one that is the most sublime of all quests.

When you feel lost in life, Masaru Emoto has this to say:

“If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.”

There are 10 most common reasons why you might feel lost in life and each has something to teach you.

10 Reasons Why People Feel Lost In Life:

1. Losing connection with your heart and soul.

One common pitfall of human beings is listening to the mind more than listening to what the heart and soul have to say.

You need to silence your mind from time to time to hear the truth and wisdom of your soul. Avoid listening too much to what everybody is telling you and listen to your heart.

While your mind argues where you should go, and your heart argues why you should go, the soul can give you the whole map.

2. Living your life according to how others see fit.

As a child, your life has already been predetermined to an extent, by people around you such as parents, teachers, relatives, friends, and others who believed that they know what is right and proper for you.

They forgot to ask what you want, or if what they desire for you is the thing you want for you. Most often, their desire for you is what they, themselves, want for themselves.

Because you do not know that you are a unique being and you look for ways to better survive and be most secure, you listen to their whims, identify with them and believe to be true for you.

You start living as other people want you to live and you neglect your real self. That’s why you feel lost, because you are not on your path, you are on everyone else’s.

As Buddha said, you don’t have to believe anything to be true just because you heard it and many people are speaking about it. It is only you who hear the whispering of your heart and soul.

And you know very much, deep inside, what you want.

3. Valuing the opinions of others more than your own.

Because you have not fully acquainted with yourself, you value the opinion of others more than your own. You don ‘t have the needed trust to follow and listen to your own guts.

Seeking advice from others makes you feel confident, as if you’ll never go wrong.

While other people’s voices seem more valuable than your own, know that it is your life you are living and not theirs.

Remember then that your time on Earth is limited. Never waste it by living other people’s dreams.

Even though others might know better than you in other areas, the only area you will always know better than they do is what your heart tells you.

4. Being ruled by fear.

Fear thrives in the absence of confidence. The disconnection from your heart and soul results to losing confidence in yourself.

Consequently, you are spreading fear in your home, and workplace. Fear even affects your decision-making process, relationships, and particularly everything that you do.

Fear leads you to become lost, lose balance, and makes your life unhappy.

But once you connect to your heart and soul, you will be redeemed by love. Love conquers all your fears. Love will lead you to peace, and will help you discover your passion.

By loving yourself first, you will spread love to all people around you. Then you will ultimately find happiness and yourself.

Fear will always be there to act as your protector, but you will not be ruled by it.

5. Having a distorted sense of self.

When you are lost, you will have a distorted self-image. You will fail to see who you really are: your potentialities, capabilities to love, your light, passions, and your own truth.

As a result, you will see someone who is unworthy, incapacitated, insignificant, and even not good enough.

Connecting to your self is the only way to get yourself out of this misery.

How do you see yourself? How do others see you? Who you are deep inside? What is your purpose? What is your passion? What inspires you?

Start getting to know yourself by answering these questions and see where the distortion resides.

6. Surrounding yourself with people who pull you down instead of raise you up.

In life, you will find people who will drag you down. There are a lot of reasons why people act this way.

It might be that they want you to end like them, or perhaps, they just don’t know what they are actually doing, or they are scared of you being higher above them on the imaginary ladder. It doesn’t matter.

These people will influence you with their gossiping, constant whining about the difficulties of life, and how terrible things could get.

Listening to them continually will poison your heart and mind until all you see are doubts, fears, and negativity. You will then find yourself lost in the void of life that these poison drips have created.

Be wary of who you surround yourself with. Give more importance to your spiritual and emotional growth and you will find yourself.

7. Believing in the toxic truths that inhabit your mind.

Your mind is a beautiful instrument that could be used either to your own victory or your own destruction. It’s how you use it that the matter lies.

Eckhart Tolle puts it more accurately:

“… it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly — you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. All the things that truly matter — beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace — arise from beyond the mind…”

Every toxic thought that runs in your mind is under your control if you will choose to use your mind for your own good. You alone have the power over your mind, no one else.

But in order to find yourself you don’t need to listen to your mind. Instead, calm your mind and listen beyond. The answers will first come in a form of emotion and a sense of knowing.

8. Believing that logic is more important than imagination.

Rationalizing everything that happens to you will make you feel lost.

Instead of experiencing the things that make you feel happy, you are rationalizing why they make you feel happy and destroy their essence.

Not everything is there to be rationalized, some things should be left for the imagination and others for the heart to experience.

Your mind is a tool, like a knife, that is used to get to know the parts of things in order to understand how they function.

Do not use it to butcher everything around you.

9. Choosing to remain stuck in the past.

Living the present moment being obsessed with the memories from your past keeps your heart and soul lost.

Learn to let go of the past and give yourself the liberation it deserves.

You live and find your purpose in the present moment. Only there you can find yourself.

10. Trying to control everything.

Trying to control everything that goes in your life will eventually prevent you from living the life that you really want to live.

Life thrives in the rhythm of the seasons, changing and flowing. It does not follow something that is against its nature. Going against this natural flow is putting yourself in imbalance and disconnection.

Getting lost from time to time is part of life’s natural flow. That’s how we discover a little more about ourselves. But resisting the opportunity to go to unknown territories can actually make you feel lost.

Feeling lost is part of our journey, a subtle tool that points us to the place we feel at home. And when it’s our time to journey home, we have achieved the greatest conquest of all: conquering our SELF.

Source: Conscious Reminder > https://www.purposefairy.com/about/;

Stop Absorbing Negative Energy: Don’t Do These 7 Things!

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

November 29, 2017

Energy is all around us. It vibrates through smells, sounds, colors, objects, animals, and people.

We communicate with each other and everything around us through different forms of energy even though we label it in different ways.

Most often our moods depend on the energies that affect us. If we are not careful, we can absorb energies that are harmful to our well-being.

We allow ourselves to become negativity sponges where others are able to dump their emotional baggage.

It’s a noble act to be there for someone who is completely confused and lost. But it doesn’t mean that you should get down where they are and stay there. That would be counterproductive to both of you.

Helping them rise up to our level of positivity is the wise thing to do and it benefits all.

Of course, you would have to reach down with your hand in order to pick someone up. However, it takes a lot of awareness not to go too far in lowering our shields. If we do, we would find ourselves in an energetic mess.

Here are the 7 things you must stop doing in order to prevent yourself from absorbing too much negative energy.

Stop Absorbing Negative Energy by Stopping These 7 Things:

1. Connecting with other people through negative emotion.

This is a common scenario among friends and families.

When your friend or a member of your family is feeling depressed, you naturally stand by their side to offer comfort. You offer a shoulder to cry on.

While going down to their level to meet where they are can help the other person purge sadness out of their system, it can lower your vibration.

In the end, you may find yourself miserable as the other person is.

Instead of lowering your vibration to match with the other person’s own, why not offer them a higher vibration so that they will manage to get themselves out of that lower vibration. This way, everybody is able to help one another.

Do not disrespect and discredit how the other person is feeling, just offer them a different perspective while being unconditionally there.

2. Owning up a responsibility that isn’t yours.

People may come to you for help, but just because you are there to help, doesn’t imply you have to carry every baggage that makes their journey hard.

You must remember that you have your own baggage to carry too. In fact, that’s your bigger responsibility.

Having hands that are already full while trying to help others doesn’t make you a hero, it makes you a fool. It serves no one and it even damages the way you handle your baggage.

Other people need to learn to carry their baggage so they may become strong in the end. Providing them encouragement and a constant dose of push are the best helping hands you can offer to them.

Giving them the opportunity to learn how to handle their baggage on their own and to learn the lessons that come with overcoming those challenges is the real help.

3. Showing sympathy instead of compassion.

Compassion is empowering while sympathy is dis-empowering. It’s because when you sympathize, you feel sorry for the other person and for whatever circumstances that befall them.

Anyone who receives sympathy isn’t helped at all. They just feel loved but miserable because that is how other people make them see it.

On the other hand, showing compassion makes the other person feel understood.

Compassion tells that you can see within the other person to the part that makes all of us the same giving them the opportunity to see that for themselves.

They will deeply feel the love and inner strength that you show them which will inspire them to muster their inner strength too.

With a newfound strength, they will come to know that they have the ability to manage through whatever circumstances they are in.

By showing compassion, you show them how much you trust their capabilities. And it promotes growth on their part.

4. Assuming that you know better.

We are experts in giving advice to other people’s complex life. Sometimes we try too hard to make others listen so we can help them, but they just don’t.

Even if it’s verbally called for, your advice or your knowledge doesn’t solve everything about the other person’s dilemma for the simple fact that you do not know everything about that person’s life.

No matter how similar your experiences appears to be, there are things that you just don’t see or know.

Besides, the other person sees things differently than you. Your advice may give them enlightenment but don’t expect for people to follow every bit of it.

Let them walk their own path because it’s designed solely for them. People who really help others do not tell others where to go or how to walk their path. They just offer advice and open the doors.

To avoid the negativity of not being able to help others, stop trying to. Just offer advice and perspectives they can use to better themselves without needing them to.

5. Taking sides.

This situation is unavoidable among friends and families. Two people get themselves into a conflict and both try to persuade you to take their side.

Even if your sole objective is only to help both parties to settle the matter, you will find yourself bombarded negatively by two people who accused you of being biased.

Even more, you love and care for these people if they are members from your family or close friends. As a result, you absorb both their negative energies.

To avoid draining your own energy, tell them where you stand and never take sides. Make it clear to them.

Accept their opinions and know that both parties are able to settle their differences the moment they are ready. It would happen even when you don’t mind meddling.

6. Pleasing everyone.

Most empaths have people-pleasing genes in them.

Saying ‘no’ to people is easier said than done. But being a wise empath requires you to say ‘no’, especially when you are aware how much of your energy is at stake.

Giving your energy easily is a betrayal unto yourself, even though others may appreciate it.

There are times when you need to put yourself first before others so you can help even more people.

How can you continue your good works if you don’t have enough energy left for yourself? Strong boundaries when it comes to your energy are a must.

7. Listening to what people say.

Anybody can have a hundred opinions about you. Whether it be positive or negative is no longer your business.

If you make it one, you invite negative energies into your life.

Some opinions do hurt, some make you feel good about yourself, but everybody has the right to have their opinion whatever that opinion is.

Once you master the skill of not giving your care to what others have to say, you’re good to go.

What matters is you define yourself and your life based on who and what you think you are and not based on how others see you.

Let the people judge you freely, and let yourself live freely. After all, it’s your life. Be who you are without having to explain yourself to others.

Source: Curious Mind Magazine;

Find Out What Your Dreams Signify By Looking Where In These 6 Basic Types Of Dreams They Fit…

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

November 28, 2017

Whether we recall our dreams or not, we all dream.

Some dreams are clear, others are not; while there are some dreams that make us feel confused and even afraid. But no matter how your dreams make you feel there are 6 basic types of dreams.

Once we know what type our dreams fall into, it is easier for us to look for the profound meaning behind it.

6 Basic Types Of Dreams:

1. The Clearing Dreams

As the word implies, clearing dreams assist us in cleaning out every emotional and mental inputs accumulated from our day. Clearing dreams process the release of our useless concerns and integrate into our subconscious the helpful ones.

It’s our mind’s way of unwinding and making our bodies relaxed. Clearing dreams, however, are not necessary when we make ourselves calm, focused and still before going to bed.

These dreams are usually consisted of fragmented pieces from moments of your day, insignificant memories and mundane daily things.

2. The Teaching Dreams

Teaching dreams provide us information about our current problems and give us wisdom from our higher consciousness.

At times, we recall of receiving an information we never knew before. We might receive inspirations or even find discoveries from these kinds of dreams.

Some of these dreams are finding ourselves sitting in a classroom, giving or hearing a lecture, or walking with a teacher or mentor in a pleasant environment.

3. The Problem Solving Dreams.

Our higher consciousness sometimes provides solutions to our predicament through our dreams. Many inventions were solved and thought of while dreaming.

We can receive help with our job, health, relationship or any other issues we are preoccupied. We have a valuable inner resource if we only know how to connect and ask assistance from our dreams.

When you dream these kinds of dreams they might be anything. However, the one way you can recognize such dreams is when you wake up and realize how the intensity from some message inside can help you solve what you preoccupy with.

4. The Precognitive Dreams.

Precognition means foreknowing, and knowing a potential outcome in the future is what precognitive dreams provide.

Hence, precognitive dreams make us understand that our minds operate beyond the linear time and direct us to look into ourselves for consciousness expansion and spiritual transformation.

These kinds of dreams can be very difficult to differentiate, however, there is usually an image that stays with you when you wake up and you feel it’s important. Deja vu or having witnessed a scene before it actually happens often comes from these kinds of dreams.

5. The Visionary Dreams.

Prophetic and visionary dreams focus more on our spiritual growth. they provide guidance and messages from the highest dimensional level of our awareness such as our soul or the source.

In short, it’s a dream that stems from our highest level of consciousness. The messages it provides are often collective or personal and the experiences are beyond that of which we commonly go through.

These kinds of dreams leave you with inspiration and spiritual peace when you wake up. From this level of consciousness, prophesies and spiritual teachings arise paving the way to feeling the power of the Universal love, understanding, expansion, and Oneness. It is here where lucid dreams take place.

6. The Outside Interference Dreams.

Outside interference dreams have more to do with what is going on in our physical environment.

All of these don’t have direct messages on their own. If there is something you can learn from here, it’s preferring to sleep in a comfortable and quiet room.

Our subconscious mind picks up from the disruptions of the outside sources such as ringing phones, barking dogs, bright light, and even a full bladder. Our mind shapes and colors these disruptions inside our dreams as a part of our dreams.

Some people don’t refer to their dreams to solve their present problems.

Nevertheless, we have the ability to ask from our highest consciousness anything we want before sleeping to give us higher wisdom.

Source: In5D > Joy Jackson;

The 2 Sneaky Subconscious Habits That Destroy Most of Your Relationships and Self Image

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

November 28, 2017

Making a relationship work requires a lot of effort. It’s a constant learning experience with a lot of will and tolerance from both sides.

Learning the lessons from others is easy but hard to apply in real life situations. Nevertheless, learning the things that can make a relationship worthwhile is a necessity you need to do if you want to make your relationships last and be stronger.

Some of these lessons is learning the things that have the potential to destroy your relationships.

There is one 2 headed sneaky habit that we are all guilty of doing. But we are rarely consciously doing it, it’s a subconscious urge fueled by our ego.

Here, we are going to address it as 2 separate habits for the purpose of understanding the core of it better.

2 Sneaky Subconscious Habits That Destroy Your Relationships and Self Image:

1. Judging yourself.

The one sneaky habit that can ruin most of your relationships is the subconscious tendency to judge your actions negatively.

Instead of asking for the intentions behind your actions, you tend to focus on regrets and guilt. By overly judging ourselves we miss the whole point of judgment.

Judging is a psychological tool to dig out the intentions behind our actions, see the error and better ourselves.

Instead, we are using judgment as a reassurance that we are perfect and feel bad when we are not.

There are 3 consequences from judging yourself that damage your relationships:

– It lowers your self confidence.

– It makes you self centered.

– It creates a negative perspective that you project upon others.

Judging yourself over and over again results to unhappiness and dissatisfaction. When you are unhappy and negative unto yourself, you are projecting that upon the world.

When you are obsessed with seeing the flaws within yourself, you see the flaws in everything around you and in your relationships.

That’s how Judging Yourself leads to the second sneaky habit that ruins your relationships!

2. Judging your partner or others.

There are two reasons why you tend to judge a person:

1. You are judging their actions without putting into consideration the intentions behind the actions.

2. You are having high expectations from them.

Judging someone’s actions without looking into the intentions behind them and trying to understand the other person a little better creates distorted images in our minds. This is damaging to any relationship, especially if you are doing this to your partner.

By not looking into the intentions, most of us are assuming that those intentions are negative. It instantly qualifies others as bad people.

Expecting too much from a relationship is killing it slowly. You based your actions on irrational thinking.

When you expect too much from people, you are satisfying only your needs and wants. You forget that other people have also their own needs and wants.

A relationship that works is one where there is a balanced amount of give and take. When you only take and rarely give, you will soon deplete the other person’s emotional resources.

Because of this imbalance, the relationship will soon crumble and fall. The more you expect for more, the more you feel unfulfilled.

How to Stop Overly Judging Yourself and Everyone Else?

Judging yourself, others and the whole world is fueled by your ego. In order to win the battle of the will and protect your relationships, you have to overcome your ego.

Let not your ego take its toll on your relationships. Think rationally and, above all, listen to your partner. Know the intentions behind their actions.

Before you allow your ego to choose the action you are going to take, think about the times your partner have been kind to you and how they add meaning to your life.

Think why you are in the relationship in the first place. Remember, judging yourself, your partner or others is preventing yourself from having a happy life.

Be always aware of the sneaky subconscious habits, let them be a trigger for your awareness. And be aware of these 3 universal truths that will defuse your tendency to judge:

– Nobody is perfect;

– You are guilty of something that others are not judging you for;

– Even though we are not perfect, humans have loved and tolerated each other’s flaws for centuries;

You may stumble at times and fall unto the urge to judge, but that’s ok. As we said, nobody is perfect.

However, every time you do this, try to become aware to the fact that it’s harming to your perception and your relationships.

Resist the urge and use the psychological tool of judgment for the purpose it is meant for.

Source: Conscious Reminder;

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