How To Make Up With Your Lover After A Fight Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Journey

February 10, 2018

Misunderstandings or disagreements come up from time to time in a healthy relationship. A weak relationship can be seen when one partner always agree with the other.

This means only one voice rules the relationship. A relationship such as this is not likely to last.

On the other hand, frequent quarrels can hurt the stability of your relationship too. This could signify you two are simply two different people who are unable to meet at a common ground. Parting ways could be the best answer to finding each other’s happiness.

If you feel your partner is the one, engaging in a fight with them hurts you the most. You know too well that you couldn’t imagine a future without them.

Making up with the person you love is not that easy, especially when the hurt is deep. It takes a lot of effort to win their love and trust once again.

In order to know how to appease your lover’s bleeding heart, the sign of their zodiac may provide you a guide.

How To Make Up With Your Lover After A Fight Based On The Zodiac:

Aries

Be direct.

Be prompt and direct when asking forgiveness from your Aries lover before it would be too late. Aries doesn’t like it when you’re beating around the bush, nor are they patient enough to wait for the ‘right time’ to come.

Admit your mistakes, ask the needed apology, and promise never to commit the same mistake again before Aries decides to jump into the dating pool.

If ever it’s their ego you’ve hurt, a public apology might be all they need.

Taurus

Admit that they were right.

Whether they admit it or not, but Taurus is the most stubborn sign in the Zodiac. Thus, it helps to admit that they were right in the first place.

Crafting a plan for possible future conflict is a big help in dealing with such conflicts in a healthy and constructive manner. This will pacify your Taurus lover who is security-conscious.

Gemini

Add humor.

Humor has the power to break a Gemini’s reserve. Sending them a funny note of apology is a wise move.

Make it quick because Gemini admires swiftness and decisiveness. Waiting is not their cup of tea.

Communication is the best and fastest way to smooth things out between you and your Gemini lover. Allowing things to settle down for days is considered by Gemini as a sign of holding back.

Cancer

Handle them with care.

The Crabs are sensitive people whose feelings are easily bruised. It takes patience, delicacy, and tact to win them back.

But if you tell them you can’t live without them, they may soften their hearts. If this trick won’t do, cook their favorite dish and keep on telling them how you only want the best for them.

Always see to it that you meet the needs of your Cancer lover.

Leo

A bit of flattery does it.

As lions, Leos love flattery and lavish tributes. A profuse admission of your mistakes with a declaration that you don’t deserve their love are likely to melt a Leo’s heart.

Shower them with gourmet chocolates and alluring flowers. This might do the trick as well as dressing well.

Leo may accept you back once they see that you’re trying hard enough to win their affection back.

Virgo

Watch your language.

Virgos don’t like foul language such as swears and curses. Try your best not to utter these words when you’re with them.

If you mess up with them, win them back by cleaning up your act. Virgos appreciate it when you’re being on time and take the effort of tidying up your home.

Don’t tend to be too emotional with them as they prefer dealing problems on a more logical way. A good book would be the best peace offering for Virgos.

Libra

Shower them with compliments.

Libras need constant verbal and physical assurance. When you ask for an apology, make it formal through spoken or written communication.

Remind them how serious you are in your relationship and that you are willing to change for the sake of having them back.

See to it that you keep your romance alive and never forget to shower them with constant compliments.

Scorpio

Demonstrate your devotion.

‘Walk your talk’ is a mantra you should keep reminding yourself with a Scorpio lover because they’re individuals who see that words are meaningless unless you act on them.

If you want to win them back, you have to take serious positive actions, like breaking a bad habit or giving up anything that challenges your relationship.

You will thank yourself when you take a Scorpio’s complaint seriously and make efforts to satisfy their concerns.

Sagittarius

A pet is an affectionate peace offering.

Being pet lovers, Sagittarians might be unable to resist when offered with a cute puppy or adorable kitten as peace offering.

You have to have an open mind in dealing with a Sagittarius lover because they don’t follow rules nor social conventions. Befriending their pals or becoming one of the gang is the easiest path to making up with them.

Capricorn

‘Honesty is the best policy’.

A Capricorn lover appreciates an honest and vocal partner. Spotting a lie is one of their strengths.

You better back off if you want to use lying as a tool for covering up your mess. As much as they hate lying, the Goats dislike teasing as well. They don’t want to play around.

If you’re serious in winning them back, admit your fault and do something that assures them of your love. Opening a savings account for your future together may pacify their desire of material security.

Aquarius

Be more open.

Aquarius lovers are open-minded. Discussing issues with them over coffee is a wise move since they love swapping ideas with others.

Try not to be emotional nor keep secrets with your Aquarius lover. They appreciate it more when you keep everything out into the open.

You will win the approval of your Aquarius lover if you’re more adventurous with them as well as follow their suggestions from time to time.

Pisces

Resist the urge to be possessive and demanding.

Pisces are sensitive and compassionate souls who can’t stand in seeing the agony of others. They are fragile beings who need to be handled with care.

In dealing with them, try not to be possessive and demanding. Pisces can’t breathe in a suffocating relationship.

Be more tender and loving in making up with them. Expressing your love on a regular basis even if there’s no occasion will serve your relationship best.

Source: https://themindsjournal.com/make-fight-zodiac-sign/;

The Symptoms of Kundalini Awakening And Its Side Effects

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

February 10, 2018

According to the Dharma, Kundalini refers to a spot on our bodies that is found at the end of the spine. It’s here where the Kundalini emerges and activates all the chakra networks and allows a person to rise until they reach the Sahasrara.

This experience feels euphoric that seems to be other-worldly. It may sound weird but many get to experience this occurrence.

This awakening of the Kundalini forges a link to our own destiny. It is a name of the Durga, a female deity who represents the rousing of divine energy in Shaktism.

The Kundalini exists in all life even when not all senses it. If you were to rouse your Kundalini, be sure to do it with the presence of an expert because the process isn’t easy.

Awakening the Kundalini

The awakening of the Kundalini can be done consciously or unconsciously. But it can’t be done with simple meditation.

You need to enter into a deep meditation then feel the awakening climb from the base of the spine to the top of your head. This movement rouses all the sleeping chakras within you.

The Kundalini awakening is an experience that couldn’t be compared to anything.

Others find this awakening through yoga, but there is not just one correct method.

Unpleasant side effects of Kundalini awakening

Because the chakra energies of each person is different, there are varying side effects of the Kundalini awakening. Some of the common symptoms include:

– lightheadedness

– unfeeling

– increased or decreased libido

– feeling of electricity cracking in the flesh

– shivering

– euphoria

– lack of appetite

Precautionary measures

The awakening is a long process that could take months. Even if you feel it to be a right time, you should seek a doctor when you sense a discomfort.

Not all symptoms, physically or mentally, could be a side effect of the awakening.

The Kundalini awakening is the rousing of all sleeping energies within your system. You will greatly feel their presence once they are awakened.

You may feel happy at the moment but it will go beyond that. It will give you the sensation of yourself tying to your fate.

Source: https://www.consciousreminder.com/2017/11/29/kundalini-awakening-recognize-symptoms-side-effects/;

10 Warning Signs That Tell You Need A Spirit Detox

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

February 9, 2018

Health conscious people always see to it that they do physical exercises, watch what they eat, and make sure they give themselves proper rest. They even give their bodies detox to get rid of toxins and other chemical substances that are harmful to it.

But, the focus of health should not only be limited to the physical aspects of our being. Our spiritual side gets lots of toxins too, which can be derived from the negative energies we get from our surroundings.

The build up of these accumulated toxins weighs our spirits down. Slowly, we become the monsters that we hate to see in other people.

If you feel your soul seems heavy even if there’s no reason to be, chances are, it’s full of toxins that need to be released as quickly as possible.

The following are the warning signs you see in yourself that say your soul needs a detox.

10 Warning Signs You Need A Spirit Detox:

1. You’re comfortable with the negativity that you see.

Tolerating the negative vibes of other people, like scrolling through your news feed to find upsetting things or sharing your own harsh remarks, is a sign that says your soul is in a bad shape.

Even if you’re not physically around with people, their negativity will drag you without realizing it.

Correct this hobby by turning off your device and get in touch with people who brighten up your day. Their love will soon neutralizes your vibration, allowing you to be more positive.

2. You’re mindless of your speech.

Having a negative vibes makes people see you as a sarcastic person. Being mindless of what you say, you start hurting other’s feelings. You become insensitive that putting them down means nothing to you.

Every time you catch yourself seeing the flaws in other people, instead of pointing it out to them, seek ways to lift them up. Say kind words. The more you do it, the more you clear yourself of the negativity that clouds your mind.

3. Your friends avoid you.

Nobody wants to be around with a person who exudes negative vibes. Once you notice your friends or acquaintances don’t want to be in your presence, take it as a sign that your soul needs detoxing.

To raise your positivity level, read good books and seek the company of people who make you happy.

4. You feel numb.

From the compassionate person that you are, you’re now faced with someone whose emotions are so cold. You no longer feel the happiness or pain of other people. You’re even numb to your own pain.

The way to kick starting your emotions back into gear is by getting in touch with all your senses. Look within and find the person that you are.

5. You’re happy with the misfortunes of other people.

Normally, we feel sad when others are sad and feel happy when they’re happy. But if the opposite is happening to you, be aware that something is wrong with you.

Craig Groeschel said that bitter people don’t know they’re bitter because they’re so convinced they’re right. The longer the root of bitterness grows, the harder it is to uproot it.

Don’t wait for the root of your bitterness to lengthen. Remove it now while you still can.

6. You’re annoyed by happy people.

Feeling miserable when others are happy signifies a diseased soul. You could not connect with the happiness of others due to the abundant supply of negativity within you.

While you can’t control your outside world, you have the power to control what’s going on within. Get rid of these negative energies through meditation.

Meditation can help you in clearing your mind and connecting to the real being inside you. Also seek support from the people you love.

7. You can’t sleep well.

When your body is overcome by negativity, it feels weak and fatigued. Your mind is a mess too.

Having a confused mind leads to difficulty in falling sleep. Or, if you do, you may have nightmares or may wake up in the middle of the night. This is your soul’s way of telling you that a detox is very much needed.

As we’ve mentioned earlier, meditation is a great tool in calming your mind and realigning your soul. Begin practicing meditation and see how it improves your sleep.

8. You feel being a victim is the role you play in life.

Negativity has the ability to take away your personal power. As a result, you constantly feel that other people have done you an injustice or that you always receive what you don’t deserve.

If you feel being a victim of some kind, take again another look at the situation.Being a victim might only be in your own thinking.

Getting out of the victim role is achieved by being honest with yourself. Face every negative thought that comes your mind and do all you can to reverse it.

9. You don’t want to meditate or pray.

Admit it or not, but you take comfort in feeling your negativity. You want to stay there and have no plans of getting out. This is always true when saying a prayer is hard for you to do.

When you’re feeling negative, even the benefits of meditation don’t matter to you.

You’re feeling this way because there’s something in you that you don’t want to confront. The bad news is, there’s no other way to detox your sick soul than heal it through meditation and prayer.

Do it until your resistance melts in the process.

10. Your life is full of boredom.

Nothing excites you anymore. The things that inspire you before no longer have sparks in them. In short, you’re bored to death and your soul needs serious detox.

Ignite your soul’s light once more by reaching out to your support group. Seek the help of your family and friends. Do fun activities with them. Most of all, do the things that have the possibility to excite you once again.

Source: http://www.riseearth.com/2018/01/10-signs-its-time-to-detox-your-soul.html > https://www.powerofpositivity.com/soul-detox/;

Research Shows That Sitting For Longer Hours Makes You Age Faster

Activities

Nezel Padayhag

February 9, 2018

Research Shows That Sitting For Longer Hours Makes You Age Faster

Research shows that prolonged sitting is detrimental for your body. If you want to live longer, sit less and move more.

Among the risk that your body incurs if you sit too much are diabetes, obesity, heart disease, cancer, and premature death.

Sitting longer each day over a period of time accelerates aging. The study that included almost 1,500 older women found that those who sat the longest were, on average, biologically eight years older than women who moved around more often.

The aging of our cells varies, meaning they depend more on each one’s lifestyle. The factors that contribute to how our cells age include our eating habits, sleep cycle, whether or not we smoke, and the length of time we sit.

The Research

Researchers from the University of California, San Diego (UCSD) School of Medicine tracked the activities of a group of women aging 64-95 years old. Those women sitting more than 10 hours a day and didn’t perform moderate-to-vigorous physical activity had shorter telomeres.

Telomeres are caps on the end of DNA strands that are sometimes compared to the plastic caps on the end of shoelaces; they help protect our chromosomes from fraying or sticking together, which would damage their genetic information.

Telomeres are used to measure biological aging because they get shorter every time a cell divides until such time that the telomeres get too short. Cells die the moment they’re unable to divide.

At times, telomeres are also compared to a lit bomb fuse.

In the women who sat for more than 10 hours a day, the telomere shortening equaled to about eight years of aging. Thus, sitting accelerated the aging process by about 8 years.

In a press release, Aladdin Shadyab, a Ph.D. at the UCSD School of Medicine and the research lead study author states that: “Our study found cells age faster with a sedentary lifestyle. Chronological age does not always match biological age”.

The women who exercised for at least 30 minutes a day did not have shorter telomere length despite sitting for long periods. This means exercise counteracts the detrimental effects of prolonged sitting and provides anti-aging effects.

Sitting for an hour decreases life expectancy by two hours

Kelly Starrett, a Ph.D. in physical therapy and author of Deskbound: Standing Up to a Sitting World, quoted the research of Dr. James Levine showing that for every hour you sit down, your life expectancy decreases by two hours.

Sitting longer is far worse than smoking cigarette because one cigarette smoked reduces life expectancy by only 11 minutes. This is the reason why sitting is now called the new smoking.

Other health risks for prolonged sitting

Another study found that excessive sitting increases lung cancer risk by 54 percent, uterine cancer risk by 66 percent and colon cancer risk by 30 percent, with researchers noting:

“Sedentary behavior contributes to an interrelated network of increased body fat, altered production of sex hormones, metabolic dysfunction, leptin, adiponectin and inflammation, encouraging cancer development.”

Separate research, published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine, further found that sitting for more than three hours a day causes 3.8 percent of all-cause deaths in the 54 countries surveyed.

Cutting your sitting time to less than three hours a day could increase your life expectancy by 0.2 years, the researchers concluded. More than 60 percent of people globally spend more than three hours a day sitting.

Movement is key to finding the fountain of youth

Regular movement is linked to longevity. The more you move, the more your body stays flexible, the more you become strong and are able to carry out your daily functions.

On the other hand, a sedentary lifestyle causes your muscles to atrophy. Functional movements, such as rising from a seated position, would then become a challenge when the time comes.

This is what you can do to be more active

To increase the chances of living longer, you need to move your body a lot. Even if you’re working in an office, you still can move your body by getting up from your chair every 20 minutes and taking a two-minute walk.

Trade sitting for active movement. If you can do your work while standing for awhile, try to do it. While standing you can stretch, lean, bend, or pace.

You can also work in short exercise sessions, like walking from time to time, pacing while talking on the phone, or do squats when reading your emails.

If, while working, you’ve been sitting for 8 to 10 hours a day, take the shift from sitting to moving your body gradually. Try to be gentle with yourself. You can increase the amount of time you move once you’ve conditioned yourself into moving.

There are already a lot of office exercises that are uploaded in Youtube. Find the ones that suit you and your working environment.

Never ignore these studies nor put off doing the exercises. Remember, every second of every day counts.

Source: https://consciouslifenews.com/science-shows-doing-common-activity-will-age-8-years/11132927/ > https://fitness.mercola.com/sites/fitness/archive/2017/02/03/too-much-sitting-makes-you-age-faster.aspx;

5 Signs Someone Is In Love With You Most People Do Not Even Realize They Show!

Psychology

Nezel Padayhag

February 9, 2018

Human beings are good at interpreting the actions of other people. Only that, most of our presumptions aren’t right.

It takes a lot of intuitive ability to know the motives behind the actions of other people.

However, when it comes to falling in love, even the people who are into somebody aren’t aware of their own actions. They do weird things and become somebody who is far different from their usual self.

They even do the most challenging of things just to get their love interest’s attention.

If you feel that someone is vehemently trying to get your attention, they might be attracted to you, or is already in love with you.

Here are more clues that tell you they’re in love with you even when they don’t say it.

5 Signs Someone Is In Love With You Most People Don’t Know They Show:

1. They try to find different ways to converse with you.

The easiest way to get someone’s emotional attention is through conversation. Even if it’s only a quick chat, a person who is in love with you finds delight in having you noticed them.

They also want to know you more on a personal level. They can only do this through engaging you in a conversation. This way they can make you put a little emotional investment.

At times, their topic could be silly because they might get lost in your presence. But, at least, they try and that’s the best that they could muster.

2. Their day instantly brightens up when you’re around.

People who are in love notice no one other than the person they adore. So, when you see someone’s face lighten up when you arrive, it’s a sure sign they’re in love with you.

Your mere presence magnetizes them and they seem to melt even if they’re in the middle of a conversation. Their smile radiates like a child who’s given a chocolate.

Their day is incomplete whenever you’re not around and may even worry why you haven’t come.

3. They shower you with little tokens of love.

A person who loves you makes an effort to find out for the things that can make you smile or become happy. For this, they may send you flowers, or some little things that can entice a smile on your lips.

They may not be trying to woo you nor buy your love, but they just want to see you happy. A flower freshly cut from the garden may not cost a dime but it’s the thought that counts.

Receiving these kind of gifts and loving thoughts from someone is one sign that says love is in the air.

4. They’re always there for you.

They don’t care even if it’s 3 am when you called just to have someone to listen to your woes. In fact, it makes them super happy to be the first person who comes in your mind to ask help over something.

They’re more than willing to help you and even takes pride in playing a role in your life.

Whenever they show up in your doorsteps with an ice cream or a bunch of flowers to brighten up your mood, take it as a hint that their feelings for you is more than that of a friend.

5. They honestly like you for who you are.

Most often, the people who care for you see your true beauty more than you do with yourself. Why? Because you have this effect on them.

There’s something in you that stirs their inner world. They even can’t vocalize it whether it’s your smile or the way you gaze at them that makes them see you as truly attractive.

They’re interested in almost everything about you: your favorite color, your self-care rituals, or even your favorite scent.

They may even make an effort to care for the people who matters to you because they want to be a part of your life. They’re interested even in the minute details of your life.

If someone in your life does all these things to you, you already know what it means. Just try to open your eyes and heart because not everybody feels this way for you.

And try not to ignore them; as we can only know the true value of a person in our life when they’re gone.

Source: https://themindsjournal.com/signs-someone-falling-love/;

5 Spiritual Perspectives Backed By Science That Will Make You See A Happier World

Spirituality

Nezel Padayhag

February 8, 2018

Apparently, our view of ourselves and the world around us is based on our actual experiences of it. Our world expands every time we open our eyes to new learnings.

Some of these are times when we experience those ‘aha’ moments, the moments where our souls respond to something that awakes it from its slumber. After this, we don’t see the world with the same old perspective again. We see it under a new light, with the guidance of something that is more powerful than our spirits and minds could fathom.

If, in the olden times, these inner stirrings are limited only to people whom we call deeply spiritual, in the present day, these things are no longer seen as separate from our day to day existence.

We have come into the time of the world where spirituality and science are starting to merge. Science starts to support spiritual experiences.

Some of these are the following spiritual perspectives. Read on and be open to seeing the world with fresh new eyes.

5 Spiritual Perspectives That Will Make You See A Happier World:

1. The idea of Oneness/Unified Field

At the turn of the twentieth century, scientists assumed they had uncovered all the basic fundamental laws and rules that governed our existence. Quantum physics now supports the idea of a singular God.

We live in a unified field of energy which interconnects everything. Meaning to say, every particle in the universe is conscious and evolving at a rapid rate.

When we live from a place of Oneness, we will be living along the path of positive evolution. As one, we can possibly work together for the benefit of all.

2. Reality is a reflection of yourself.

Whether this idea is new to you or not, but everything in your reality (persons, animals, plants, all living beings) is a holographic reflection of you. The more you change and evolve yourself, the more that reality is likely to change.

For example, you’re affected by how other people treat you. As a result, you see every person as uncaring and unfriendly.

But, suppose you try to see everybody as your other self, what would you feel? You’ll start to see people in a different way. Probably, you will start to care and befriend everyone who comes your way.

3. Following your bliss.

Following your bliss or following your highest-excitement is a powerful spiritual concept. Introduced by Joseph Campbell and Bashar, following your bliss is living the greatest experiences that you can ever have.

It doesn’t mean doing the things that give you more fun. What it means is following your heart’s desire of doing the things that make you grow, challenge you, lead you to the right direction, expand your consciousness, and make you great at something, which you actually are.

By being excited, you’re feeling nervous but joyful and elated. When you follow your bliss, you offer the gifts you have for the world with all your energy and resources.

In return, the world will give you back what you need and deserve.

4. Noticing synchronicities in your life.

Synchronicity is a concept first introduced by analytical psychologist Carl Jung. This concept holds that events are meaningful coincidences, which occur with no causal relationships yet are related in some way.

The most common synchronicity anyone can experience is seeing triple numbers such as 111, 333, or 555 all throughout their day. It can also be randomly thinking about someone and after a few seconds, they’re calling your number.

Synchronicity is believed to be the Universe’s way of telling you that you’re being guided and reminding you of the presence of a power higher than you.

Listen more closely to what your intuition is telling you when you notice these synchronicities occurring in your life more often so that you won’t be misguided by false interpretations.

5. The journey inward.

Even if it’s not openly discussed, but the consciousness of people in our present world is awakening and expanding. More and more people have become fully conscious and start to focus their energy and time to their evolution.

As the people evolve, so is the acceleration of technology. It has become more sleek, simple, compact, and concise.

With meditation practices that are slowly recognized, looking inward is starting to become a trend that can also be seen in virtual reality gaming.

While our inner world is still a territory that isn’t fully conquered, technology is starting to take part in its evolution.

There is still more that technology and spirituality can do in understanding more of our existence. With that, let us remain open to whatever realities that will unfold before eyes.

Source: https://www.qwaym.com/5-spiritual-perspectives-backed-by-science-that-will-shift-the-way-you-see-everything/;

5 Reasons You Should Take Loving Care of Yourself Before Everything Else

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

February 7, 2018

Putting oneself first before others might sound selfish. That could be, when since childhood we’re taught to be unselfish and serve others first before ourselves.

While this teaching is good, it can’t serve us well when we’re not putting things in the right perspective. By putting others above everything, we find a lot of unhappy people playing the role of victims because they simply lost touch of themselves.

How can we best serve others if we’re unhappy, burnt out, and feel not taken cared of? We have to have an ample self-realization before we can become the kind-hearted individuals others expect us to be.

Thus, before we go out into the world to love others, we have to have enough self-love to sustain us in the process. And that begins with putting our self first.

Here are more of the reasons why putting yourself first matters.

5 Reasons You Should Take Loving Care of Yourself Before Everything Else:

1. Your health is your wealth.

Your biggest asset is your health. If you kept on postponing your checkup because of the more important things to deal with at the moment, you’re only making the matters worse.

Don’t ignore when your body sends you signals that say something is not alright. Even if the symptoms aren’t that bad, finding out the possible causes for your discomfort earlier is a wise thing to do.

The more you ignore it, the worse it could become. It would then be too late. And when you’re sick, you’re no longer able to serve the people who matters to you.

A disease or illness could even hinder you from achieving your goals. Taking care of your health means taking care of the people you love. It’s as simple as that.

2. Your work can wait.

Your career is important, but it does not mean you have to give in to all its demands. Working too much, which includes lots of overtime, can wreck havoc to your health, relationships, and even your work performance in the long run.

Your work is not the only thing that you live for. You also have your family, loved ones, and your own life to live and take care of.

Establishing a boundary in your work life is a necessity. If not, your boss is likely to push you too hard and will demand more than you can offer.

When you have your boundaries, you can spend time with your family, as well as take the much needed rest that enables you to work with more energy, creativity, and enthusiasm.

3. Self care rituals enhance your well being.

Giving time to yourself for self care gives you tons of benefits. Not only will it enhances your mental well being, it provides you with a renewed energy too.

When you do things that make you feel better, like having a massage, gardening, or cooking your favorite food, you’re increasing your chances of staying healthy.

Doing the things that you love is one way of reducing your stress levels.

Whenever you feel life is getting out of hand, take some time off for self care. The better it is if you have self care rituals done on a regular basis.

4. Confidence makes you attractive.

A confident person is one who is able to appreciate the beautiful things in others without a tint of envy. You can only appreciate others genuinely when you have appreciated yourself first.

Give yourself a pat on the back whenever you’ve done something right. Compliment yourself when you notice how beautiful you are today.

When you’re able to smile at yourself in the mirror, you’re likely to smile at others in a loving way. Feeling good with yourself increases your confidence level and makes you more attractive.

5. Your relationships will get better.

If ever you’re the type of person who always put others first before yourself, you’re likely to exhaust yourself, feel tired, or constantly in a bad mood. And people don’t want to be around with someone whose energy sucks.

But when you put yourself first, you’re giving everybody the message that you’re an energetic and competent person who has enough willpower to solve issues and provide assistance.

People will benefit from your higher energy vibration. Because of this, everyone will gravitate towards you and your relationships will doubtlessly improve.

Putting yourself first is not selfish. It is an act of love to yourself that extends to other people and the world in general.

Source: https://themindsjournal.com/the-importance-of-putting-yourself-first/;

Strengthen Your Self Love Through The ‘RAIN Of Self Compassion’ Technique

Journey

Nezel Padayhag

February 6, 2018

You could not give what you don’t have. As such, you could not genuinely love others when you fail to love yourself in a genuine way.

Showering yourself with material things, fame, and even power are often not acts of self-love. Because these things could be your way of filling up an empty hole inside you. You could appear powerful, yet loathe yourself within.

Perhaps struggles within and without render you to see your existence as meaningless or pointless. Or, a disease might be causing you to become gloomy, irritable, impatient, and terrible to be around with.

These acts may hurt the people around you, but the one who is hurting the most is you. Even if it pains you to hurt your loved ones, you could not do otherwise because you’ve lost loving yourself for quite awhile.

But, you’re not doomed forever. Even if unworthiness grips your heart, you still can find that loving presence inside you, if you only want to. All you need is a strong belief and willingness to love yourself again.

Strengthen Your Self Love Through The RAIN Technique:

Loving yourself means giving it compassion and care. Address your feelings of insecurity and unworthiness through Tara Brach’s meditation of RAIN of Self Compassion.

RAIN is an acronym that stands for Recognize, Allow, Investigate, and Nourish. It’s a four-step practice of mindfulness and compassion.

Recognize what is going on;

Allow the experience to be there, just as it is;

Investigate with interest and care;

Nourish with self-compassion.

You can use RAIN as a stand-alone meditation or go through the steps when necessary. The steps are as follows:

Step 1: R—Recognize What’s Going On

Recognize and consciously acknowledge the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are affecting you in a given moment. Look at the things that make you feel unworthy.

Recognize that you’re stuck and are subject to limiting beliefs, emotions, and physical sensations. The common signs include a critical inner voice within, feelings of shame, fear, anxiety, or depression.

Recognize them mentally and acknowledge their presence.

Step 2: A—Allow the Experience to be There, Just as It Is

Allow the thoughts, emotions, feelings, or sensations that you recognize to just be there. Don’t try to fix or avoid anything.

When self-judgment arises, allow it too. It doesn’t mean by allowing it you’re agreeing with the feeling of how unworthy you are. It does only mean, you acknowledge the judgment as it arises including all the painful feelings underneath.

If ever you feel fear, acknowledge it by saying “Yes” or “It’s Okay”.

Step 3: I—Investigate with Interest and Care

Investigate with a natural curiosity. Investigating means having the desire to know the truth, directing your focus on your present experience.

Investigate in yourself the aspects that want the most attention. Ask yourself how you are experiencing your body, what are you believing, what that vulnerable place want from you, and what are its most pressing needs.

To make your investigation more transformational, avoid conceptualizing. Leave the concepts as they are and put primary focus to the feelings and senses your body provides you with.

When you manage to approach your experience in a non judgmental and kind way, you’re able to connect with your hurts, fears, and shame more.

Step 4: N—Nourish with Self Compassion

The moment you recognize you are suffering, self compassion naturally arises. Let this self-compassion bloom into fullness by nourishing your inner life with self-care.

Connect to your inner woundedness, reach out to the most frightened and most hurtful places inside you. Recognize what it needs and offer gestures that show you care by providing its needs.

Give reassuring messages if it needs one, or forgiveness and companionship. Or, love. Experiment and see which intentional gesture most helps in comforting, softening, and opening your heart.

Mentally whisper into it by saying, I’m here with you. I’m sorry and I love you. I’m listening. It’s not your fault. Trust in your goodness.

You might want to continue this healing process by gently placing a hand on your heart or cheek. You may also envision yourself being bathed in or embraced by warm, radiant light.

If offering love to yourself is hard at this time, visualize a spiritual figure, family member, friend or pet whose love and wisdom gently flow into you.

This act of self-compassion may feel awkward at first, but when offered in a sincere and most loving way, it will soon nourish your heart.

After completing the active steps of RAIN, be aware of your presence and rest in that tender space of awareness.

The purpose of RAIN is to free yourself from the idea of your unworthiness and other self-limiting ideas of self. It’s becoming familiar with the truth and of the freedom of your being.

The RAIN of Self Compassion is not a meditation taken only once.

It’s a process you need to do as often as you can, when you can, until you sense warmth and openness, a widening of your perspective, a quieting of your mental stories, and a softening of your heart.

The shift could be partial at first but will soon become your practice for life, transforming your doubts and fears in a healing presence.

As you slowly recognize the feelings of unworthiness, fears, or even your own judgment, you’re starting to de-condition yourself from the old habits and self-limiting beliefs that confine your heart.

You will soon experience a natural loving awareness, the very truth of who you are.

Source: http://upliftconnect.com/a-simple-practice-to-strengthen-your-self-love/

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