“The ocean stirs the heart, inspires the imagination and brings eternal joy to the soul.” — Robert Wyland
The world is filled with majesty. Nature gives us so many wondrous things of beauty to ponder at, and ferocious forces to awe in front of.
The ocean is one of these wondrous places people go to look at and purify their spirits, to refresh their hearts and souls.
However, the ocean is an unpredictable force on its own. It can be the calmest place in the world and it can be an unstoppable force of destruction.
Its waves are something to observe, immerse, and be left in awe in front of their majestic beauty and untamable force.
Rey Collins, a former Australian coal miner, decided to make a drastic career change and trade his job for his real passion, photography. And it was all because of this immersing beauty of waves.
Fascinated by the ocean and its majestic powers he decided to embark on a journey of photographing this beauty that his colorblind eyes were seeing.
So ten years in the making, this colorblind photographer has just issued his third book titled “Water & Light” that shows us an unseen perspective of the powerful and unpredictable force of waves.
Ray’s renowned style ties the tremendous force and fury of an agitated sea to a blink of light in a single water droplet seamlessly, and often on the same page.
To make this book, Ray has hung harnessed out of a doorless helicopter in Hawaii, swam amongst the below freezing north Atlantic seas of Iceland, sailed through the remote and uninhabited island chains of the Indonesian archipelago, documented a once in a decade Tahitian mega swell, and driven for days on end to the desolate reefs and bomboras of Australia’s raw southern and eastern coastlines.
He did all this because of his passion to bring this ferocious beauty of waves to the public eye. Passion about photography is something only few people can really understand. If you are one of these people who love photography, Fotor is one online tool that can really help your work. Let this interview be an inspiration of the beauty that surrounds us waiting for you to see it.
How did growing up in Australia form your relationship with the sea?
“It’s really all I’ve ever known. We’ve always lived near the coastline, most Australians do, and as a child, you tend to explore your immediate surroundings.
For me, this was beaches, cliffs, and coves that dot the landscape of where I live.
The Ocean has been the one single constant in my life. At any stage of life, at any time, during any emotion, it is there for me.”
You bought your first camera to document friends surfing. How did this evolve into just focusing on the waves?
“Looking back it was the entry point to waves. Even in my earliest work, the “human” element was only to give the wave scale and composure.
The more I evolved in my work the more I concentrated on just how delicate and beautiful water can be.
The shape it takes on, the textures, the “feeling” of it.”
What is it that inspires you about waves?
“They are literal waves of energy that move through water and they never repeat themselves!
There’s no re shoot, ever!
No rewinding or second chances. All of this, along with its sheer beauty inspire me every day.”
How does your colorblindness help, or hinder, your work as a photographer?
“I think it helps by removing the “distraction” of color, allowing me to focus on contrast, tones, textures, and compositions. If I’d always seen the same way as everyone else, maybe my work wouldn’t be as unique.”
You always felt like you didn’t really belong with them. Your family, friends, partners, they were all good people, but there was still something off about them, wasn’t there?
They felt off in the strangest of ways. They said they wanted your happiness, but whenever you tried to be happy they made you feel guilty.
They said they wanted you to be healthy, but whenever you tried a healthier lifestyle they ridiculed it.
They said they loved you, but whenever their love was put on the test it was always conditional.
They said they wanted you to succeed, but they were never there to support you, to cheer you up when you fought through the unwalked path alone.
They said they believed in you, but you were never their first choice to ask for advice or help when they needed some.
They said they accepted you completely, but whenever you showed your real feelings they told you to not feel what you felt, to not be angry, to not be sad, to wipe your tears, to keep your feelings to yourself, to calm down.
They said they wanted the best for you, but whenever you went after what excited your heart they were the biggest obstacles on your path claiming what you are after it’s not right for you.
You were always free to be yourself, but only if you were The You they wanted you to be.
They were never really on your side, they were never really on your team, and you knew this subconsciously, you carried this awareness deep within.
This made you confused. It made you judge yourself, it made you think that there was something wrong with you, it made you feel like a stranger in your own home.
So you started customizing yourself to fit their idea about you, because you wanted to belong, to be accepted by the people who claimed they love you and want the best for you.
You made yourself less. Piece by piece, you tore off the parts of you that you thought would be more than they could handle.
Because if that’s what it would take for you to be enough for them to accept you, want you, love you, to feel like you belong for the first time in a long time, then it’s worth it.
For a long time you pretended you were happy. Maybe sometimes you even thought you were. But you were empty, hollow, wasted away.
You tried to convince yourself you could survive this way, as a silhouette, no substance, no soul.
Weightless, you struggled to hold yourself up for as long as you could. You were putting masks after masks, pretending you were fine while you were drowning inside.
You were trying to escape yourself with every single distraction available, social media, gossip, alcohol, work, study, games. But every day you were just more miserable.
You weren’t really happy when you should have been, you weren’t really sad when you should have been. You were a ghost watching yourself fade away.
And one day everything just boiled up within you, with its last breath your true drowning self roared in rage for freedom. You wanted to scream at the world, to shatter it, to drown it.
But you didn’t. You surrendered. You looked within and gave your hand to your true self that was drowning. You picked yourself up.
That moment everything changed. You realized that you were miserable because a part of you was drowning and screaming for you to help it while you listened to everyone else.
“You are too intense, too honest, too sensitive, too pure, too complicated, too much…” they told you. “No”, you told them now.
You realized that you needed those parts of yourself people did not like and approve of, those parts you threw into the water to drown, you needed those parts back.
Those parts were the ones that held you together, the ones that made you whole. And so, one piece at a time, you began to restore yourself. Slowly, quietly.
“Maybe they wouldn’t notice” You thought. But the more complete you became, the harder it was for you to fight the truth of who you really are.
You began to share your mind, to speak your thoughts. To laugh with abandon, to allow joy, sadness, anger, enthusiasm, fear, confidence, love, everything you felt to flow from you like water, like the tears they told you to wipe out, to hold within.
You embraced your imagination, passion, creativity, intellect, complexity, intuition, your wild spirit and ferocious heart.
And they started to distance themselves. You were too much for them to handle. You did not fit their idea of you, the soulless one.
No, dear heart. You weren’t too much for them. They were never enough for you.
You were meant for something much greater than they could ever comprehend.
Maybe you will find such people to surround yourself with, people like yourself. Maybe you won’t. Either way, it doesn’t matter.
For they are not the hero of this story. You are.
You are enough. And all you will ever need is within you. Within your goddamn gloriousness that scared them.
Anxiety is something majority of the population lives with in silence. Most people go about and cope with anxiety every single day.
It’s normal in today’s society because we have accepted this hectic lifestyle that doesn’t give us enough free time to feel our emotions.
However, just because anxiety is there it doesn’t necessarily mean you should let it stay there. You can either embrace it, or release it, or both.
There are many outlets for anxiety like exercising, running, doing yoga, swimming, meditating and for some even cooking. But sometimes you don’t have time.
So you can just read material that reliefs you from anxiety. Reading quotes by spiritual gurus can be healing. Here is some of Buddha’s wisdom that will free you of anxiety.
10 Quotes By Buddha That Can Free You From Anxiety:
1. “Every morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.”
2. “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”
3. “You only lose what you cling to.”
4. “There is nothing so disobedient as an undisciplined mind, and there is nothing so obedient as a disciplined mind.”
5. “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are the one who gets burned.”
6. “Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”
7. “Have compassion for all beings, rich and poor alike, each has their suffering. Some suffer too much, others too little.”
8. “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”
9. “Most problems, if you give them enough time and space, will eventually wear themselves out”
10. “Set your heart on doing good. Do it over and over again, and you will be filled with joy.”
If you watched the movie “Limitless” or the TV show with the same title, you would most likely pay a large sum of money to get your hands on some NZT.
The NZT makes you access 100% of your brain’s potential and become a 500+ IQ genius for a couple of hours. Who wouldn’t desire this, right?
You have probably heard that our brains have untapped potential, that we use only 10% of our brains and that there are special people who use more.
This 10% myth is a misunderstanding as scientists have explained, all healthy people use all of their brain but not all at once.
The 10% is probably more relating to the untapped potential. We use 10% of the full potential of our brain while some people who are considered genius use more.
But why do some people use more? Are they inherently special or does this suggest that we can all tap into this ‘Limitless’ potential within us? The answer is ‘Yes we can’.
Our evolution pushed us to stretch our limits, but not more than we had to. In different environment, with right stimulation we could have evolved to use more of this potential.
We probably use more of our mind’s potential in the society we live right now than people used in the society 1000 years ago due to our hectic, rushed and stimulated lifestyle.
But can we access our limitless mind power? Yes. How? There are couple of ways. And these are not some watered down ‘be charismatic’ tips, these are real and tested formulas.
5 Ways How To Become Limitless:
1. Mix L Theanine and Caffeine.
If you haven’t heard of L Theanine, it is an amino acid that is found in tea leaves. It promotes relaxation and facilitates sleep by contributing to a number of changes in the brain like elevating levels of GABA chemicals, as well as serotonin and dopamine.
These are calming chemicals, known as neurotransmitters, and they regulate emotions and mood, concentration, alertness, sleep, appetite, energy, and other cognitive skills. Increased levels of these chemicals results in relaxation and better sleep.
At the same time it increases the calming chemicals, L Theanine reduces the levels of chemicals responsible for stress and anxiety. It protects brain cells from age related damage. It’s overall effect results in triggering the release of Alpha brain waves that enhance relaxation, focus and creativity.
Ok, so now we know how L Theanine benefits our mental state, and we know that caffeine is great for concentration, improving attention, and focus. But why should we mix these two and why is their effect so big when consumed together?
The answer is synergy. The combination gives you the power to perform better than taking either alone. They add up to each other’s benefits while removing their drawbacks. For example, Caffeine can give you an anxiety but L Theanine will prevent this. So combining them both you have a powerful cognitive performance booster, and you will use most of both without drawbacks.
You probably wonder if consuming these together is safe. Combining L-theanine and caffeine is incredibly safe. There are countless independent studies that prove this. If you want to super boost this already powerful combo, you can add a dark chocolate to your mix.
2. Sharpen your tools.
Most of us are focused on learning more, but rarely who tries to learn how to learn better and faster. This is they key to unlocking more of your potential, not to acquire more tools, but to sharpen and optimize the ones you already have.
You hear of people reading a book per day, and you wonder how much free time do these people actually have. But these people know how to read better and faster than normal folks. They have learned something called Fast Reading.
By learning how to Read Fast you will reduce the amount of hours it takes you to read a book at least three times. Tim Ferris gives a short but very insightful lesson on Speed Reading. It’s all about knowing the biology of your eye, how they move, and reading smarter.
There are countless skills like this that are actually enhancers of default skills. These meta skills will sharpen your already learned skills, like reading in the previous example. This will enable you to double, if not triple your overall performance.
Some meta skills you can learn are Speed Reading, Time Management, Automatization, Data Chunking, Self Reflection, Balance Exercises, Core Muscle Training, Learning How To Learn Faster, Improving Memory and Idea Management just to name a few.
Time management will teach you how to optimize the 20% of your effort that brings 80% of your results. Automatization will teach you how to automatize things that you need to do but You don’t have to do them. Data chunking is learning how to zip big mental info into a smaller mental file. Self reflection will help you act more out of reason, balance exercises like yoga and core muscle exercises will help you with any other exercise. And learning how to learn faster is a course that will help you a lot.
3. Get yourself into a Flow State.
What is a flow state? As scientists have described it, this is the optimal state performers find themselves in when they perform their best and feel their best. It’s a state of mind where the little judging voice disappears and we are immersed in what we do without distractions or self criticism.
The flow state itself has incredible health benefits like boosting our immune system and increasing our overall happiness. As scientists researched this state they discovered that many groups of people, seemingly unconnected, were seeking some form of flow state with their activities.
For example, surfers, guitar players and people who love going to festivals were seeking the same goal, to get their ego mind dissolved in the activity, whether through surfing, through playing the strings, or through immersing in the synergy the DJ and the crowd participate in a festival.
Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal describe the science of Flow States in their book “The Rise of Superman” and they say that there are 17 main flow state triggers. These triggers are separated in 4 groups: Psychological, Environmental, Social and Creative. The basic dynamic of getting into a flow state says that what you are doing should be challenging enough to test your skills but not as much as to overwhelm you. It should have immediate feedback, risk, and the most critical element, focus, as well as deep embodiment in the task at hand.
The biology behind a flow state shows that it is a state that creates probably the most addictive combination of chemicals. The brain produces a giant cascade of neurochemistry. You get norepinephrine, dopamine, anandamide, serotonin and endorphins. All five of these are performance enhancing neurochemicals.
There are countless shortcuts to achieve a flow state. One is to run sprints, drink two shots of espresso, two shots of vodka, watch a video of extreme surfing or snowboarding with a dubstep soundtrack and with tones that stimulate Alpha Brainwaves, in this order. If you want to learn more about Flow States you should definitely check The Rise of Superman.
4. Do the daily Formula To Excellence.
Most people live their day to day lives in manner that drains their energy, deprives them of Dopamine and increases their stress levels. No matter if you actually have a NZT you will not be able to access your limitless potential with this lifestyle.
The formula of a perfect lifestyle for achieving a higher mental performance exists. We’ll call The Formula SCILEM. Sleep at least 8 hours, Cold shower, Intermittent fasting in combination with eating foods rich in protein and low in saturated fats, Listen to your favorite music, Exercise, and Meditate, and you can do these in any order except for the Cold Shower.
Intermittent fasting means to not eat food for 16 to 20 hours per day. It also says to not eat your breakfast 6 hours after waking up. According to some studies, fasting has been shown to increase brain derived neurotrophic factor, a chemical that helps your brain to build neurons.
More neurons means more learning capacity and more processing power in your mind’s supercomputer. Fasting also causes the brain to enter a state of autophagy, which means that it breaks down old cells and waste materials to be recycled into new hardware. It increases your level of vigilance and it improves your mood.
Adding all this to the effects of a good night sleep and the effects you will have of your morning Cold Shower, this combo will be a powerful boost to start your day like you are on NZT. Exercising leads to more efficient utilization of energy, it builds confidence, it increases your mental focus and makes it easier for you to grow new neural connectors.
Listening to your favorite music lights up all areas in your brain and let’s energy flow smoothly, while meditation, especially mindfulness meditation relaxes your mind and promotes a state of wakefulness and clarity. Living each day in this manner creates a stage for you to tap into your mind’s Limitless potential.
5. Embody the limitless potential.
Have you noticed that simply by watching movies with characters who act like geniuses, or just watching the movie Limitless you are, for a short period of time raising your cognitive power as well? This might be a placebo, a role play, or a bluff, but it stimulates you to embody this higher potential.
No matter what it is, if you embody the limitless potential for a long period of time you will learn how to tap into it by yourself. And you can do this through various ways.
You can create an optimized body posture that stimulates you to transform yourself into a person with unlocked limitless potential. The way you act and carry yourself has an impact on your brain chemistry.
According to a Harvard study there are ‘Power Poses’ that enhance confidence, mood and behavior. The findings indicated that how people carry themselves is reflected in the chemistry their bodies secrete.
Adopting high power poses increases explicit and implicit feelings of power and dominance, risk taking behavior, action orientation, pain tolerance, and testosterone, while reducing stress and anxiety.
You can create a list of movies, songs or any videos that channel this super performing and high potential mental state within your mind. You can get books that speak about this mental state, read science about it, or just read anything that enhances your mental powers.
Imagine what you can accomplish if you follow all of these 5 suggestions!
We all know that the average person has a hard time expressing their true feelings and emotions.
Although this isn’t as extreme as it was decades ago, there are still many people out there, especially men, who can’t seem to connect with their emotional language.
This is one of the main reasons why body language is so important, it reveals what the other person isn’t capable of expressing with words.
We’re always communicating with others and most of the time this communication is without words and without us even being aware of it.
Our body is incapable of lying so it reveals our inner truth whether we like it or not. Learning to understand the body language can show you when someone really likes you.
10 Things People Subconsciously Do When They Love You:
1. They will have dilated pupils.
Looks are always revealing more about our emotions than we are aware of. When we look at something that’s threatening, something we hate, our pupils get smaller, while we look at something we love our pupils dilate.
2. They will have genuine glare in their eyes.
When both men and women are in love, they tend to show a genuine glare in their eyes. It’s normal for our eyes to shine when we see something we like. It’s causing the tear glands to be more stimulated than usual. This explains the singular brightness of the eyes in these situations.
3. They will have a fixed gaze on you when you speak.
One of the most revealing clues of a person in love is their fixed gaze. This gaze is the one that follows you wherever you go and the one that looks for you in a crowd. It’s the type of gaze that doesn’t go anywhere else as long as you’re there. It’s like addiction. They can’t help but look at you.
4. They often look at your lips.
It doesn’t matter if you’re talking or if you’re quiet. When it comes to someone in lust or in love, this type of look says it all. No words are needed. You will notice how their look tries to stay focused on your eyes but it quickly glimpses to your lips.
5. They are raising their eyebrows.
If the person you are talking to arches their eyebrows a little bit when they are with you, they are at least interested in you. This facial movement happens when someone is immersed in the conversation.
6. They smile more often when they are with you.
Love makes us keep a smile on our face all day long. This smile is basically an expression of how good we feel when we’re with the person we like. So when you are with someone who is smiling more than they normally do this is a big sign you are the reason for their smile.
7. They will touch and check things.
They might start touching their hair. In addition, they might fix their tie, jacket, or any other article of clothing once you walk in the room. It’s a way to prepare themselves so that you find them attractive.
8. They will lean towards you.
You might notice them leaning towards you when they are talking to you. They might point their legs straight towards you. They might play with their hair or touch their lips. For example, if the two of you are having dinner, they might start playing with the napkins or the cutlery.
9. They will imitate you.
This one is big. It’s common for someone in love to imitate the facial gestures of the person they’re attracted to. They do this automatically without even realizing it. People imitate what they admire.
10. They will follow you.
You know someone truly loves you when they listen carefully, when they support you and pay attention to your desires and needs. But another subtle signs is if they follow you. If they let you lead and they follow your lead without questioning it.
You should not be with someone just so you are not alone. Sometimes it’s worse to be in a relationship than being single, trust me.
Most of us get into relationships because of social conditioning, because of our parents, because we are lonely and afraid of ending up alone.
But there are people, wounded people who can choke the life out of you. There’re relationships who leave people soulless when they get out of them.
So being alone is not that bad. Finding yourself, healing yourself should be your path, not getting into a relationship for the sake of being in one.
Relationships come naturally as you heal, they shouldn’t be something you force to happen. If your partner does any of these, you are better off alone.
If Your Partner Does Any Of These 12 Things, You Are Better Off Without Them:
1. They don’t have respect for you.
Respect comes in many forms, but if someone respects you they do so in all those forms. Being with someone who doesn’t care for your opinions, boundaries, desires, emotions, or decisions is just not worth it.
2. They don’t invest anything in the relationship.
Being with someone who feels like he is just observing the relationship, who is a spectator to it without investing energy, time or effort to keep it alive it’s not worth it. You are already in a relationship alone in this case.
3. They don’t show their real feelings.
Building a healthy relationship means that you connect with someone physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. If they are not honest about their feelings, they are hiding a big part of themselves from you.
4. They try to control your life.
Being controlled does not feel good, especially if it’s by someone who cares only about themselves. If your partner tells you what to do, when to go out and organizes your daily schedule, you are their slave.
5. They don’t take any responsibility.
Having responsibility means that you do what it takes for the relationship and stand by your decisions. If they avoid being responsible they will most likely give all the burden from the relationship for you to cary.
6. They discourage you.
Your partner is someone who should make you believe in the best version of yourself, someone on your team, not someone who makes you feel as less than who you really are. If the people you love discourage you they are not really on your team.
7. They are negative all the time.
Being in a negative environment for a longer period of time will temporary lower your level of energy. But being with a partner who is always negative and toxic will lower your default level of energy. You are better off alone.
8. They try to manipulate you.
Manipulation is another form of control, but a more subtle one. It doesn’t come from the need to enslave you, but from a lack of personal power. Being manipulated by your partner can be tested if you go against their suggestions.
9. They blame you for every little thing.
If your partner looks at you and blames you for every little thing it means that they see you as not enough, they don’t trust you, they see you as an enemy of the relationship. Because you can’t be guilty for everything, it means they are projecting.
10. They hurt you physically.
This is without questioning the biggest sign that you need to leave the relationship immediately. If someone abuses you physically this relationship is harmful for you no matter how much you love them.
11. They create drama from nothing.
Being around someone who is addicted to drama means that they are wounded inside. They project their need for healing and their woundedness unto the outer world. You should be with someone who relaxes you and it’s easy to be around.
12. They are sucking your energy.
Your energy is your valuable possession. If people suck your energy you should avoid them. Being with someone who sucks your energy, who drains you, it’s just not worth it. They try to fill an endless hole with your energy.
The contrast between humans is really high. Some people are real heroes while others are so irresponsible and careless that they harm the planet.
The world’s highest mountain has turned into the world’s highest rubbish dump because of such individuals.
Thanks to some wealthy tourists who mindlessly leave a trail of disgusting refuse in their wake, in the last few decades Everest has been covered in trash.
Since explorer Sir Edmund Hillary reached the 29,029 feet peak of Everest in 1953, thousands more have attempted the challenge.
But even though the challenge itself is beautiful, the carelessness of the tourists results in tonnes of trash littering the mountain’s slopes.
Tourists leave behind tents, broken climbing equipment, empty gas canisters, and a whole lot of excrement.
“It is disgusting, an eyesore,” Pemba Dorje Sherpa told AFP. “The mountain is carrying tonnes of waste.”
Both Tibet and Nepal have implemented systems to try to encourage climbers to bring down their waste.
Tibet has created fines that charges climbers US$100 per kilogram they leave behind.
Nepal charges a $4,000 deposit per team that’s refunded if each member brings down at least 8 kilograms or 18 pounds of trash.
On the Nepal side, that resulted in climbers returning 25 tonnes of trash and 15 tonnes of excrement, but that’s just a small portion of the litter there.
The problem is that many tourists, who are already spending up to $100,000 for the journey, simply don’t care about the deposit.
According to a 2016 report, local Sherpas remove 26,000 pounds of human faeces from the mountain every season, dumping it in trenches in a nearby village.
This becomes a festering pit of putrid grossness that the locals have to live with. During the monsoon season it gets flushed downhill into their river.
There are many people already looking for a solution to these disgusting man made problems.
Engineers are looking to convert the waste pits into a biogas plant to convert the waste into renewable fuel.
Countless local groups are working together to clean up the mountain from the tourists’ trash.
China’s Everest cleanup brought down 8.5 tonnes of waste between April and June of this year.
And the Nepal side has been implementing programs since 1991, to keep the mountain clean.
The best course of action would be for humans to take responsibility for their own damn selves, but apparently that’s just too much to ask.
Love and Lust are emotions that can be easily mixed up. This confusion gives us a pile of misleading intentions toward someone.
Even romantic movies portray symptoms of lust as a sign of true love, and the confusion grows even stronger.
We were thought that love equals drama, having something to overcome in order to acquire it, intense emotional highs and lows, a literal battle.
But real love is none of these. If anything, real love is easy, it flows, it makes us more positive and relaxed, it’s the farthest thing from a battle.
Lust, however, evokes strong and intense emotions. These emotions can be a real emotional roller coaster. If neglected, this fire leads to drama.
6 Signs You Are In Lust, Not In Love:
1. You experience more drama than stability.
Real love is about commitment and communication. These two important components lead to stability within a relationship. Passion, of course, is within this equation, however, it’s not the main element. It’s a fire that burns steadily, but it’s protected. If what you feel is solely passion, a raging fire without any form of stability, than you are not in love, but in lust with that person.
2. You focus more on the physical.
Physical attraction is what starts most of our relationships, however, it’s just the spark that starts something deeper. If you are obsessed with their physicality, if all you can think about is undressing them, than you are mostly focused on the physical attraction. The biggest clue that you lust for them is whether or not you still want them after making love. If not, it means that you are lusting over them, and not in love with them.
3. You prefer the fantasy over the real them.
We all have fantasies about celebrities, about our idols, about movie characters. But sometimes we create fantasy about people we know, or let’s say we think we know. We don’t really open up to get to know the real them, but we project our fantasy of who we want them to be upon them. If you like the fantasy more than you like the real them, you are not really in love.
4. You care more for physical than emotional connection.
Like I said, most relationships start with physical attraction. However, naturally this attraction brings us closer and deeper to the person we are attracted to. That’s how we fall in love. We create a deep emotional, mental and spiritual connection. If you care only about their physicality it means that you are not in love with them, but in lust. You don’t really know them.
5. You experience intense neediness.
Whenever love becomes a need it’s not love anymore. The neediness mutates love into obsession. To love someone truly you don’t really need them. You appreciate them, you care for them, you sincerely want them to be happy, be it with you or without you. Lust creates neediness, and unmet neediness creates an obsession that sucks the life out of both of you.
6. Your love is conditional.
Anyone who’s truly been in love can attest to the fact that love is unconditional. Lust, however, is not. Lust is steeped in gratification without concern to anything else. When you lust someone you just want to acquire them. After acquiring them you will move on to someone else. If you love someone truly you want to be with them for eternity, not anyone else.
