Ezekiel Harris is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his unique approach to coaching using tarot cards.
From being unsure of himself to becoming an ambassador of authenticity, Ezekiel makes sure his clients reconnect with their true authentic selves.
He was always more spiritually inclined and wanted to find a way how to use his passion and gifts to serving others. When he discovered life coaching everything clicked for him.
We can say with certainty that he is the first coach that we found, possibly first one in the world, that utilizes tarot as part of his coaching process to help people find their next step forward. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Ezekiel Harris:
Name: Ezekiel Harris Pillar: The Spirit, The Heart Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to find the next step of their spiritual journey and reconnect with pure love. How they can help: By using coaching combined with tarot cards and continuous accountability.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
My family and I are holding in there.
The virus has definitely done some damage to a few members of the family recently. However, we continue to hold each other up and are each others support system in the midst of all of the things happening in the world.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
The pandemic hasn’t had a huge impact on my business since it is all electronically.
All of my sessions and readings are done through video chat so that my clients have the luxury of working with me from the comfort of their own home.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
It’s okay to feel unmotivated. It is a valid emotion!
It’s more than okay to be “lazy” and not feel like doing things sometimes.
Listen to your body. If it’s not feeling up to something (or someone), trust that feeling.
You can’t always put other peoples wants and needs before your own. “Selfish” is a form of Self Love.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I am a self love coach and professional tarot and oracle card reader. A little about my background.
I am a recent graduate of my bachelor’s (2020) and Master’s (2021) in social work from UTK. During both programs, I struggled the most with trying to find out my niche and what I wanted to do with my degrees once I graduate.
During my sophomore year of my undergraduate program, I was introduced to spirituality and divination, or tarot. I knew from there that I wanted to have a more spiritual based career.
While the field of social work is very diverse and has many career options, spirituality isn’t really on that list of options. So I decided to carve my own path. I mean, why not?
So, fast forward to my last semester of graduate school, and I still did not know what I wanted to do after.
By that time, I had a couple hundred tarot readings under my belt and have started my own tarot business.
I can make accurate predictions all day about who your future spouse is and how you’ll meet, but what I focused the most on is how to prepare yourself for that relationship and attract that person into your life which is through self love.
I noticed that my style of reading was leaning much more into coaching, but at that time I had very little knowledge of what life coaching entailed nor had I even thought of it as an option.
I began to do tons of research on what life coaching is and how to become one.
A month before graduation, I happen to come upon a life coaching certificate program. I was immediately drawn to it and was happy that I had finally found a field that was aligned with my style of reading and it was something I could envision myself doing to help even more people.
While talking with my mentor, I realized that self love was my niche so I decided to become a self love coach to help others on their self love journey whether they are just starting or have been on for a while and need some direction.
I use the interpersonal skills that I have learned while in social work as well as the intuitive skills learned from practicing the art of tarot to create a unique coaching experience for my beautiful clients.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
Let me start by saying I am not bashing religion at all. However, I grew up in a very christian family where I was taught on both a conscious and subconscious level what to believe and what’s acceptable or not.
Growing up as the black sheep or the “weird” kid, I felt like I couldn’t be myself because I grew to fear what others may say or think.
So I spent most of my life suppressing a lot of things about myself and allowing others to walk over me.
I always felt differently about the things and people the church considered “evil” and “wicked” and “wrong” but never spoke up about it. While they casted judgement on certain groups of people, I felt like those groups of people were just being themselves and I was inspired by that.
As I got older, my passion became to help as many people as I can who have gone through similar experiences and want to learn what it means to practice self love and self acceptance.
No one deserves to have to live their life suppressed and unhappy. Sometimes you just need someone to encourage yourself to keep going and to put yourself first no matter who you make upset or have to walk away from.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
To my knowledge there aren’t many coaching who uses tarot as a tool for their coaching.
I’ve seen therapist who use tarot in their sessions. I have even come across coaches that read tarot, but don’t use it as a coaching tool.
Not to toot my own horn or anything, but I would like to think that I’m amongst the first to do so and pave the way for those who are spiritually gifted like myself but not sure how to use it.
I also utilize tarot spreads, meditations, and affirmations along with “homework” for my clients to continue the healing process even after the coaching session.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
My coaching sessions include the use of tarot and oracle cards.
I use a life coach oracle deck to pull a topic to start with for the session with the client. I use tarot cards during the session when needed to get a deeper dive into the subconscious since tarot is a mirror to the person being read.
This combo is unique because it combines life coaching with spirituality and divination creating a powerful and effective coaching experience for my clients.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
My clients are reintroduced to the part of themselves that they have forgotten or put to the side. The direct benefit of this is becoming more in touch with yourself and the energy of pure love. Through this energy of love you can manifest what you desire as well as have the confidence to do so.
You also gain an accountability partner (ME!) Who will ensure that you are staying on track and being consistent.
Your self love journey is a life long process. The 8 to 12 weeks that you spend with me as your coach is just the beginning. Be certain that you will always have me as a support system when you need it.
In addition to the support, I am currently working on making certificates as well as goodbye gifts to send to my clients upon completion of their coaching with me. I hope to have that running by this summer.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I use the art of tarot and oracle cards.
A tarot deck is comprised of 78 cards. 22 are the major arcana which depicts where a person is on there spiritual journey starting with The Fool (representing embarking on a new journey and taking risks) and ending with The World (representing completion of a cycle or journey).
The other 56 are the minor arcana which are split in 4 suits: wands (represents passion and drive), cups (represents emotions and feelings), swords (represents thoughts and mentality), and pentacles (representing stability and the material).
Tarot is not something to fear. It is just a mirror of your subconscious and using it to bring the information up so you can deal with it. Oracle cards are similar except that they are more straight forward and offer an overall energy.
I use a specific deck called the Life Coach Oracle Deck. I use that to pull a card in each session for a topic to focus more on.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
BE YOURSELF!
It’s okay to be yourself. What others think or say about your authentic self is none of your business, quite frankly.
Allow people to judge and hate on you all they want. It still does not change the fact that you are being your best self and it takes strong people to be brave enough to do so.
Continue to shine your light because you never know who you will inspire.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
You have no love to give to others if you don’t have that same love and respect for yourself.
Self love isn’t an easy journey, but it is a very rewarding one.
It’s all about being committed to it and be willing to shift from a fixed to a growth mindset.
Your final thoughts?
I am so thrilled to have this opportunity to shed light on my business and give you all just a sneak peak into my world.
No I am not a devil worshipper, and no I do not eat children, or whatever the fairytales say. I am simply a loving soul wanting to help other souls to get back in touch with themselves through the practice of self love.
With patience and positivity anyone can be successful on this journey of self love.
Daycare services continue to evolve. In this article, we will take a closer look at a handful of trends that are making waves and enhancing childcare services.
What Is Daycare and Why Does It Matter?
Daycare is a service provided to children by professional early childhood education specialists.
Study after study has pointed out that high quality daycare programs help children as they develop cognitively, socially and emotionally.
Daycare services help children in developing skills that they will need throughout life.
High quality daycare can help children practice and know when to use these skills, setting a child up for having success in school and, more importantly, a healthy emotional life.
7 Daycare Trends You Should Know:
1. Daycare Is Considered Early Childhood Education.
Daycare for young children is not about babysitting a child.
Daycare centers are sources of early childhood education, where children become not passive recipients but active explorers and initiators of their own learning.
The transition to learning centers has come from expectations from parents and schools, and high quality daycare programs also rely on the multitude of research studies that point to the benefits of a robust early childhood education program for young children and families.
2. Five Day A Week Daycare Programs Are The Norm.
Drop in daycare is a thing of the past for the most part.
Parents and early childhood education specialists know that consistent, regular schedules are very important for young children, to provide them with a sense of stability and safety.
A high-quality daycare program may have long hours (from 7 am to 7 pm) to accommodate parents’ work schedules, and it’s open five days a week with intelligent and thoughtful programming available for the children, as well as free play times.
3. Daycare Attendance Figures Have Dropped Since The Pandemic.
The pandemic was brutal on the daycare sector.
Closures and lockdowns associated with the other pandemic protocols removed all daycare services from the map for several months.
Parents struggled with working from home in quarantine and having their children home as well.
Then once daycare services were permitted to reopen, so many parents had adapted to having their young ones at home when they worked remotely, attendance figures dived. They continue to be low and are anticipated to remain low for the next several years.
4. The Connection Between Provider and Parent Has Changed with Technology.
Parents and educators still talk at drop off and pick up, sharing valuable information about a child or the child’s day.
But daycare sites now use tech just as often, to make sure their connections with parents do more than just talking about a child’s day.
Email newsletters, blog posts, special announcements.. all these are extensively used by daycare providers to keep in touch. Photos and text about children at play or having fun learning are posted to daycare sites’ websites.
5. Most Americans Still Live In A Daycare Desert.
Just over half of Americans live in areas that have been identified as daycare deserts.
These are communities and regions that are underserved by the daycare sector.
Many medium to small communities do not have a single daycare provider. It has nothing to do with a lack of demand, either.
On a national scale, surveys have revealed that for each available daycare seat there is a waiting list of four children deep.
Daycare deserts exist because operating costs keep climbing making it difficult for service providers to get ahead.
6. The Bar Is Being Pushed Higher with Corporate Daycare.
More companies are offering in house daycare centers as an incentive to attract and retain staff.
Other companies have partnered with daycare centers to offer reduced rates or specific hours of care for employees.
Buildings are often designed, now, to factor in space to accommodate an on site daycare site for employees’ children that is managed by a daycare service provider.
This marks a huge step forward in workplaces acknowledging that their workers have families that need care and nurturing while parents are working.
7. Daycare Providers are Ensuring Enhanced Health Safety.
One of the biggest impacts of the pandemic on daycare has been a laser like focus on deep cleaning and health safety.
As the pandemic has waxed and waned, daycare sites have modified their procedures to ensure children wash hands, use sanitizer, learn basic health behaviors (like sneezing into the elbow, not the hand), and be mindful of keeping themselves and peers healthy.
Daycare sites, always bastions of cleanliness, have become even more rigorous about deep cleaning toys, surfaces, floors, their entire facilities. All of these help keep children, their parents, and extended families healthy and safe.
How To Find Quality Daycare Services?
There was a time when word of mouth or just a short drive through the neighborhood was all you had to do to discover a daycare provider.
Today, technology provides the answers.
The internet is the most common tool to locate quality daycare providers.
When looking for a service for your children, be sure to read online reviews and ask for references so you can do some extra research on your own.
All daycare services today must meet specific local and state standards to provide care.
You can find these guidelines online, and daycare sites will proudly display certificates of good standing and compliance.
What you should remember?
In the not too distant past, the neighbor who offered babysitting as a means of generating extra income was the best option available.
Eventually, childcare services started popping up everywhere and standards were put in place to keep all parties safe.
Today, daycare sites are big business but are also run creatively and thoughtfully, with programs and activities designed to help children develop cognitive and social skills before they go to kindergarten.
High-quality daycare facilities teach children skills they will carry well into their adult lives to cope with the ever increasing competitive world we live in. Fun games and interesting activities, learning how to adapt to peers, learning how to articulate one’s own needs, all of these skills that children may first start learning in daycare are vital to the mental and physical health of today’s children.
If you are a coach using Instagram, learning the secrets of gaining more followers must be at the top of your to do list.
With social media it’s much easier to attract potential clients. It’s a powerful tool. That’s why you, as a coach who wants to grow their business must utilize this tool and learn how to use it in your favor.
An Instagram follower is a user who follows your Instagram account. They obviously resonate with your content and can view, like, and comment on any post you make to your profile.
Gaining more followers doesn’t necessarily mean more engagement, however, it’s where your lead flow happens. Each new follower is a potential client if you nurture it the right way.
If you want to get more Instagram views and increase your following, simply read on.
14 Steps How To Gain 100 Instagram Followers Weekly:
1. Be Clear About Your Niche.
Choosing a niche you want to focus on is very important to gain followers. It will keep you focused and make content creation an easy affair. With a clear niche, you will know which group of people to target and how best to channel your marketing efforts.
For instance, if you have chosen travel as a niche, your target audience will be globetrotters. Because of your contents on travel, travel lovers who come across your profile will see common ground and tap on the follow button.
When you have a clear niche, there’s a higher tendency for you to make your profile well curated. Also, your brand will be well suited for brands that are up for collaboration.
2. Instagram Profile And Profile Aesthetic.
Your entire instagram profile is made up of different parts and sections. Let’s look at each of these sections and see how you can optimize each for improved followership.
Username.
The first thing about your profile that people will notice is your username. This name is the basic identifier for all accounts on the app. As such, you might want to make your username your brand name. Whatever name you choose, ensure that it is simple to spell and easy to remember.
Profile photo.
Use your logo if the account is for your business. If it’s a personal account, be sure to use an attractive and quality photo.
Description.
Your Instagram profile should have a short but concise description of you or your brand. You have 150 characters to make a pitch and convince people that you are worth following. Use keywords and hashtags relevant to your niche to make your account more searchable.
Links.
Your profile is the only spot on Instagram that can have a clickable link. If you have a website, put in the link so that your audience can know more about you. Also, make the landing page to your link captivating.
Profile Aesthetics.
Whenever new people visit your profile, they should see a beautiful page. To do this:
Choose a theme style. Use the theme consistently throughout your posts.
Choose a grid layout. It doesn’t matter which you choose. You just have to be consistent with that single layout.
Choose a color scheme for your brand. Ensure these colors are represented in each post. It’ll make your posts unique. It’ll also help your Insta fans spot you from a mile away.
3. Make Content On Trendy Stuff.
Trends are only fascinating for a while. Still, before something else comes up, you can get yourself some followers.
Watch out for trends in your niche and create content around it. Or even popular trendy news if you are creative enough. For example, Will Smith’s slapping Chris Rock, you can use that popular news while it’s trendy to create coaching content that explains how to deal with trauma.
4. Join Instagram Engagement Groups.
Instagram engagement groups (aka Instagram pods) are groups on Instagram DMs where members like, comment and share each other’s posts. This is to boost the engagement of everyone in the group.
Here are tips that’ll prove helpful when you join engagement groups:
Join an Instagram pod with members with whom you share a similar audience.
Be a part of multiple Instagram pods for more engagement.
Network and connect with whom you share similar interests. There may be an opportunity for a collaboration in the future.
5. Engage With Brands In Your Niche.
Check the explore tab for brands like yours. They could be large or small businesses.
Specifically, the comment section of top brands in your niche is a goldmine. Visit these comments sections and drop valuable comments.
Interact with other people, like their comments and even follow them. Your interactions will attract more Instagram followers to your account.
6. Post User Generated Content (UGC).
For a small business on Instagram, posting photos or videos of people using your products can be helpful.
This is a great way to build testimonials from your clients as a coach. Tell them to film a short video about your service and add each of those on your profile.
One of the biggest reasons people buy from accounts are testimonials. In fact, one of the biggest reasons people buy in general are the reviews.
Visitors will be easily convinced by the reviews of other people compared to your own words. UGCs are social proofs that will increase your following.
7. Post More Instagram Reels.
Instagram reels are 60 second long videos. This feature offers creative tools that let users make engaging and fun videos just like Tik Tok.
Reels can increase your brand awareness and following because they are trendy and are perfect for conveying useful information to your audience.
8. Use Relevant Hashtags.
Hashtags are one of the best engagement tools on the gram.
For one, people can follow hashtags just like they follow accounts. Using a hashtag relevant to your niche will make your post appear in the hashtag feed. This will expose your content to your target audience and increase your chances of being followed.
You can use up to 30 hashtags but it’s recommended that you limit the number between 3 and 5.
Tip: You can hide hashtags in the comments section. It works just like caption hashtags. Also, Hashtags generators can help you make the right choice for hashtags.
9. Use Location Tags.
Geotags and the location stickers in stories will reveal the location of your business or the city you are in.
This is an amazing way to get followers from around your community.
When users search for a particular location, a feed of different content with that location tag appears. From this location feed, people can see a wide variety of posts and your post might also pop up.
10. Run Contest And Giveaways.
Another way to boost your following is by hosting contests and giveaways. Your contest guidelines should include people following your account and liking or commenting on your posts.
11. Create Instagram Guides.
Creating Instagram guides will give people a good reason to follow you. This is because Instagram guides are educational and will offer value to your followers.
The Instagram guides tabs are where people can find your guides. The different types of guides you can create are product guides, location guides and post guides.
When creating guides, ensure that they’re based on the interests of your target audience.
12. Use Instagram Analytic Tools.
Analytic tools will aid in assessing the performance of your posts.
Using these tools will give you data on the type of posts that get more impressions. With this information, you can adjust your Instagram branding strategy by making the type of content that attracts followers.
Your Instagram business profile gives you access to Insight, which is the app’s analytic tool. However, there are other third party analytic tools that can help. Examples of these analytic tools are:
If you own a blog, promoting your Instagram account on it is a great idea.
By embedding your Instagram posts in your blog, you can lead your blog audience to your Instagram page.
Here is how to embed an Instagram post in your blog post:
Step 1. Write out your blog post.
Step 2. Go to the Instagram website and then to your page.
Step 3. Go to the post you want to embed and click on the three dots in the top right corner of the post.
Step 4. Click on Embed and copy embed code i.e the link.
Step 5. Paste the embed into the code section of your blog post.
14. Try Every Update.
Instagram always brings new updates. First it was stories, videos, then guides, Reels…
Make sure to try and use each new feature that Instagram is offering as soon as it is available to you.
Instagram’s algo prioritizes that type of content as it is promoting its new feature and competing with other platforms.
Use that in your favor by staying up to date with the updates.
If you are a coach that would like to get a free evaluation of how you can grow your social media accounts, engagement to more than 176%, and make more sales, contact me at [email protected].
What You Should Remember?
There you have it! Tips to gain 100 followers weekly.
In your quest for more followers, don’t get carried away.
It will be much better to have people follow you because you inspire and give them value.
Those are your real followers that engage and potential clients that will buy from you at the end of the day.
Focus more on creating useful content and the people will follow you and give you their double taps.
No matter where you go today, you’re bound to run into evidence of the coronavirus. Whether it’s a mask mandate, vaccine discussion, or extra sanitary measures, the virus has impacted our lives.
For some people, that impact was on their health. They don’t have the virus anymore, but the illness wreaked havoc on their bodies while they did.
If that sounds like you, you’re probably tired of dealing with the long term side effects of this virus.
Luckily, the field of healthcare never stops moving forward. If you think you’ve tried everything, you could be surprised by these treatments that are known to counteract corona’s long term ailments.
4 Treatments That May Counteract The Effects of Corona:
1. Respiratory Treatments.
One of the most common side effects of the coronavirus that lingers long after the virus is gone is a breathing issue. Your respiratory system can get hit pretty hard since this virus attacks the lungs.
Depending on the severity of your illness, you might have had pneumonia, lung abscesses, or acute respiratory distress syndrome (ARDS). Other victims of corona have mild symptoms of the virus, but end up with symptoms last long after the initial infection is over.
Treatment for this starts with joining the support community, where you can find suggestions you might not have considered yet. In addition, you could be eligible for monoclonal antibody therapy. Antibodies are made naturally by your body to increase the effectiveness of your immune system.
2. General Malaise Recovery.
Do you feel like you’re tired all.the.time. since you had the virus? You can’t get enough sleep, no matter how much rest you get? And your body is always achy for no apparent reason?
This general fatigue and malaise are common with long term effects of corona. Recent studies suggest that getting vaccinated after the virus has run its course could significantly reduce these symptoms in at least half of those infected.
If you were vaccinated and still developed the disease, a double vaccination can counteract any long term effects before they kick in.
3. Mental Health Treatments.
The medical field isn’t the only industry that had to evolve to handle coronavirus patients.
Statistics on mental health diagnoses have skyrocketed since the pandemic began. Between isolation, financial problems, and relationship issues, depression and anxiety are in almost every home.
Insurance companies have adjusted their stance on mental health counseling as a preventative measure. Now, many private health insurances and Employee Assistance Programs offer counseling services free of charge or at significantly reduced rates.
In addition to counseling and therapy, another major change states have made is allowing easier access to medical marijuana. The positive effects of cannabis on anxiety and depression were already well known. However, getting approved for a medical marijuana card was a complicated requirement for those who wanted to use weed legally.
Not too long after the pandemic reared its head, it was clear that the forced quarantines and isolation were having serious impacts on our mental health.
As marijuana sales increased in state approved dispensaries in almost every state, and the applications for MMJ cards rose, the link was undeniable. The long term effect of pandemic related anxiety and depression became more widely accepted as a reason to approve the use of medical cannabis.
4. B12 Injections for Fatigue.
Physicians often prescribe B12 injections for people with low levels of this vitamin. Lack of B12 usually shows up as side effects like trouble sleeping soundly through the night and daytime fatigue. Low energy levels, dizzy spells, and “brain fog” are common indicators of insufficient B12.
In long haulers after dealing with the virus, fatigue is a common symptom. Researchers believe that B12 injections can help fight vitamin deficiency and reduce the impact of the virus.
If you’re dealing with tiredness that you can’t shake, talk to your doctor about B12 injections. Your insurance should cover them.
Or, if you want to try the treatment without the help of a medical provider, you can do that, too. B12 clinics specializing in IV therapy are popping up in busy malls and shopping centers all over the country.
However, we strongly advise to first consult with your doctor or a medical professional before you make any serious decisions regarding your health.
What you should remember?
You did your best to avoid the virus when corona hit the scene but ended up with it anyway.
The good news is that you successfully recovered and are on the road to better health.
With these four treatments, you may be able to shake the long haul effects of the virus and get back to your pre virus self.
Mary Meduna-Gross is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She has a Ph.D. and she impressed us with her ability to merge the mental and the emotional aspect when it comes to coaching.
She helps people gain clarity and focus on their purpose, but also, to uncover trapped emotions through hypnotherapy and release them. Once they do this, their beliefs naturally change to ones that support their purpose instead of sabotaging them.
Her approach helps her clients form new beliefs, mindset, and behavior patterns that are aligned with their purpose and how they really want to live their life.
She has a mental health and medical background, as we mentioned, so it’s her pleasure speaking about such topics. She has developed her skills in mindset and leadership and that’s exactly where she excels. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Mary Meduna-Gross:
Name: Mary Meduna-Gross, Ph.D. Pillar: The Mind, The Heart Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to gain clarity, focus, and release the energy that prevents them from following their purpose and living the life they love to live. How they can help: By using tools like energy assessment, hypnotherapy, in combination with the right self care and meditation.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
Initially, minimal impact. I was working from home at the time coaching virtually, so I was a little busier just staying closer to my clients in the early months. Honestly, I was a little jealous that I didn’t get to join the great timeout.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
I was serving real estate agents at the time and it impacted their businesses extensively, especially in the first 8 to 12 weeks.
Then, we were able to settle into the ways to continue business and then the market got hot and they were incredibly busy.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
The importance of flexibility.
I like routine, I like things to be predictable, but these routines can also limit us.
I was not comfortable with how comfortable I was with isolation. As I began to realize and believe in my own value, I wanted to connect with others more.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I started in education, burned out from leadership roles.. this is when I learned that coaching was a thing and decided to become the coach I wish I had.
I didn’t know how to build a business, so I did consulting and coaching as a job. Worked my way out of a job and then had a chance to work as a contractor, coaching real estate agents.
One of the benefits for me is that I didn’t have to market or find clients, I could just focus on serving clients.
Did that for 2 years, learned how to build a business in the process. I didn’t want to be limited to real estate, and I didn’t feel like I was able to grow into the coach I wanted to be in that setting, so I left in September.
When I left, I needed to really dig into who I was, what I had to offer, who I wanted to work with and what I wanted to do for them.
This took a few months to come into clarity and now that it has, I have a clear vision that now directs my action.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
I wasn’t able to see and believe in my own value.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
Tuning into the client and what they are wrestling with, hearing what their needs are.
I’m an avid reader and researcher, so I am always exploring what is possible? New strategies, new way of seeing a situation, or validating what I’m already doing.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I have the heart of an educator and I know how to assess a client, where they are and how they will learn best.
I also have a background in medical and mental health fields. This means that I am comfortable talking about physical and mental health topics.
Finally, I have developed my expertise in both mindset and leadership. This means that I can help individual clients get in alignment with themselves and then with others.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
They begin to really believe in themselves and what they really want. What we want it about purpose. This clarity leads to intentional focus on the right work.
As they take action, it’s like the path unfolds naturally for them. This creates space for life, to build relationships, to have fun, learn and enjoy the experience.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I recommend meditation and self care. We have to build a relationship with ourselves and that often starts with listening to ourselves and then giving ourselves what we need.
I use hypnotherapy to get to root limiting beliefs. The process I use guides the clients into a space where they can tap into trapped emotions and release them. When this energy is dissipated, new beliefs and behavior patterns can be rewritten.
I’ve just started using an assessment that helps clients see their preferences in how they use their energy. I’ve avoided assessments in the past because they can put people in a box. I set the expectation that this is a snap shot of your current preferences. This data is just a surface level of data, but it can give us more data on how others may perceive our behavior, giving us data that we don’t always get in a 1:1 situation.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Choose yourself, Believe in yourself and Declare you are worth it.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
The lesson I’ve learned in the past few years is that it’s true to say that we are all whole, complete and perfect now.
Since I didn’t experience this, I didn’t believe it.
Now I know that although I may not be experiencing myself that way, it is still true and I can lean into that even when I’m not feeling it.
Your final thoughts?
In order to align with our purpose, we have to let go of the parts of ourselves that are not aligned with this purpose. We have to get real with ourselves.
We need others. I don’t think that we can become who we really are and create the outcomes we are really capable of on our own. Just like an athlete or performer who wants to excel, we need community and coaches to guide our development.
We are creating a community for the conscious entrepreneur. These are entrepreneurs who are driven by purpose. For this community we are launching a free quarterly digital magazine in June called the “ConsciousPreneur”. (email me at [email protected] and I’ll add you to the waiting list)
We just learned that there is a growing movement around conscious entrepreneurship and we want to support this audience. This is our purpose. In the meantime, we have a podcast also named The ConsciousPreneur that we produce weekly.
Ultimately, it is to build to a mastermind community where we combine trainings and networking opportunities.
This community is great for new entrepreneurs who want support, but can’t afford 1:1 coaching and it is great for more experienced entrepreneurs to fine tune their growth and business development.
Where Can You Find Mary Meduna-Gross?
If you liked this interview and you would love to trim the parts of you that are not aligned with your purpose and best life, schedule a free 60 minute strategy session with Mary and see how she can help.
If you want to get a glimpse of her coaching, you can watch her YouTube video or follow her on Instagram. It was an honor having this interview with her.
Scott Moniz is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He is an Underdog Leadership Coach and he impressed us with his ‘one of a kind’ approach.
Scott has the ability to make you lose track of time when you hear or read his words. However, for his coaching he practices silence, to let his clients do the talking. It’s in those moments, when his clients feel an unconditional and judgment free environment where they open up and express themselves fully, without being interrupted, that the magic happens.
He follows the ICF Core Competencies for his coaching which include: active listening and powerful questioning. He is almost like an artist with his coaching, managing to balance the relaxed and serious state based on what the present moment demands to allow his clients to reach their desired results.
But the greatest part about him is that he is fully open about his own story. He tries to inspire his clients to also be fully open with themselves so they can find redemption, confidence, and a way forward as leaders of their organizations, families and life. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Scott Moniz:
Name: Scott Moniz Pillar: The Spirit, The Mind Who is this coach for: Anyone who feels like an underdog and wants to find confidence, redemption, and feel empowered to move forward as a leader. How they can help: Through his 5 step framework and using various “tools” like Active Listening, Intuition, Calculated Risks, Empathy, to name a few.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
It has been tough, that’s for sure. The nature of remote work and previously working a high producing, senior role in the IT industry was difficult. Giving “110%” in my career has been so detrimental to my family to the point of neglect. I valued things I did not have in my early life: money, title, fame.
This led to living life in a way that devalued and ignored who I am at my core. All of the stress got to me and I had a “coronavirus” scare. I ended up in the emergency room on Christmas Eve and struggled a lot with having to “cancel Christmas”. Christmas was always big for me and my family, so this was very difficult for us.
Thankfully, all was well, I just pushed myself too far and had a bit of a mental break. Oopsie! But, we had a wonderful makeup Christmas in February!
Through the pandemic and in my journey towards being more authentic and real, I have realized truly how much I love and miss family and how much full time, demanding jobs were interfering with this.
I have been visiting family more often, spending time dancing with my niece, having more lunches with mom and I feel we are all feeling more fulfilled in our familial life.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
I think we are seeing this global shift. I am working with people trying to transition into IT or career change in general. A lot of them are fed up with failing education systems, harmful work culture, and this notion that they need someone to take a chance on them. It really shows the state of work in our society for me.
The fact that tenured professionals with a wealth of wisdom and skills are sometimes reduced to begging for a chance. I like to say a lot of my clients may feel a case of the UNs. Underappreciated. Underpaid. Undervalued. Unheard. Unseen.
The pandemic has pushed the IT industry to the forefront with its attractive salary, high demand, remote-first companies so it’s interesting to watch. A lot of the people I work with at the moment are students breaking into IT and career transitioners who are feeling this push to better their lives and work-life balance.
I think the pandemic is showing a lot of people that technology can be very powerful and that remote work is possible. No more commutes. No office politics. Quiet time. More time with family. I feel there’s a new found sense of freedom this flexibility can bring and that sometimes people can stagnant and long for change, challenge and new stimulus.
Bear with me here, but I feel some have become uncomfortable with “being comfortable in the uncomfortable.” They want something more than they currently have. They feel they are worth more. They are starting to see what other opportunities are out there. It’s a lot of fun to watch, hell, I even transitioned from tech to life coaching. Never would’ve called this 5 years ago.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Family means everything to me and I had the power to better everyone around me.
Not being able to see my mother and sister during the pandemic, having to arrange medical tests, having to check in more often, remote family meetings, cancelling Christmas. I learned that we should cherish our time with those who love and support us because time is a finite resource.
My family deserves my energy, my family deserves my time, and I have the ability to choose for myself where my time and energy goes and who I choose to give it to.
My career is important, but I no longer feel loyalty to a company. Companies come and go, jobs come and go.
If I had to sum it up it would be doing my best to limit negativity and avoid distraction in a non-destructive way so that I can conserve energy and spend it and time on the things and people I value.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
It’s been an interesting journey that’s for sure!
I lost my father when I was 7 and this meant a hard life for our family. Throughout the years, we had our struggles, but my mom and sister were my rocks. They did everything they needed to do to ensure I could have a good life, even when I would disagree or push back. Sometimes I knew best, but a lot of the time they could see things I couldn’t.
My journey has taken me from video stores, to my first “marketing job” as a carnival games operator. “Roll the ball, that’s it, that’s all! Only 5$ to play!”, to my teenage years where I was a “rocker”, wore black, had spike chains and was bullied quite a bit. But, I had friends amongst all different crowds and loved people despite some of them acting downright awful.
During my high school days, I worked full time at McDonalds. This was tough, but I did what I had to do to help support myself and my family. High school, take a bus over to McDonalds, do my work in the study room and then work.
I ended up missing a lot of morning classes and dropped some of them along with the Art Program due to some very unempathetic and unsupportive teachers.
However, I had two very impactful teachers during this time, my high school gym teacher and my English teacher. I never felt judged by them, I always felt respected, empathized and cared for. They listened and I know I cried in front of one of them at least once. To this day, I am thankful for knowing them. These are some of the unsung heroes of our society.
At one point I was faced with a big life decision: $40,000 per year salary as a McDonalds Store Manager or going to college.
This meant money, it meant helping my family, it meant relieving pressure, but after discussion with my mom, and her encouraging me towards higher education we came to a compromise. I would work for 6 more months, save up, and then attend college.
I did just that and years later graduated from George Brown College with Honors and a degree in Computer Programming and Systems Analysis. This launched my IT career – I was excited!
I spent a lot of time in the industry, rose quickly and was admittedly a bad leader in moments. I’ve made my mistakes, but I truly know in my heart of hearts, I was trying to come from a good place – my approach was just less than ideal.
However, I feel our past is just that: our past.
I learned quickly and adapted and I continued with my IT and leadership journey. I knew at my core all I wanted to do was help some of these younger professionals and underdogs realize their TRUE potential. I loved to “take people under my wing” and did my best to be a good mentor and role model for those working underneath me in the corporate hierarchy.
I was always proud when someone got promoted, or got a raise. I loved sharing and celebrating in that excitement!
As time went on, my mental health started to wane and hold me back. Even though on the surface I seemed calm and well put together, even though I was a high performer, I was battling so many demons alone: self doubt, lack of confidence, anxiety, depression, fear of judgement and they would rear their heads often. It was exhausting.
This is when I took one of the scariest steps in my life. I swallowed my pride, realized I needed help, and I enrolled in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Psychotherapy. It wasn’t as bad as I thought, in fact, it was a very positive experience and I started to understand myself more and more with each session.
Through therapy, medication, self reflection and various techniques and mental work, I started to feel validated in who I was as a human being.
I started to become more aware of myself and my propensity for empathy and understanding. I started to become an observer of people and drawing all sorts of parallels. My mind literally felt like it was exploding.
I was learning as much as I could about anything and everything. Symbiotic relationships, mutualism, clown fish, aquariums, psychology, mental health, communication skills, leadership, digital marketing, reward systems, networking, addiction, dopamine, you name it.. and if I haven’t read about it, I most likely will.
All this new knowledge helped me feel a sense of rebirth and enlightenment.
We often see these concepts literally, but I believe them to be metaphorical. I really did feel like I just found this increased awareness and that I was a new person. I started to value wisdom over intelligence and I started to try and bring this wisdom to others.
In dealing with my own trauma, my own sense of self worth, my own lack of confidence and a feeling of being “fake”, I started to break from the cages holding me back.
I found I was better able to empathize and understand others and how they feel and communicate. I describe myself as an empath and it was hard to watch others suffer with self doubt, reluctance, hesitation, and desperation.
I saw and felt the entire spectrum of human emotion and in it, most of the time I could relate this back to a piece of my life. All I wanted to do was help, but I’ve learned some people may not want help. This is where coaching as a career came into play: I get to help people that truly are needing and wanting change in their life.
I started to become more open, sharing my story – not for pity or sympathy – but to help others who can relate.
To help others who truly want to talk about mental health, work culture, leadership and not just pay lip service. I will not agree with everything someone says unless I truly feel that way.
I started to take risks, I started my own practice, I started to decline interviews from big companies I would have given anything to be interviewed at 5 years ago. Some may call it crazy. “Why would you decline those?!” And the simple answer is: it’s just not right for me at the moment and I would prefer to have that position go to someone whose dream is to be there.
Currently, I am focusing on my ACC (Associate Certified Coach) designation through the ICF (International Coaching Federation) and continue to be inspired by leaders in tech, workplace culture and coaching.
There are so many names I can add to this list, but some standouts are: Adam Grant, Preston Junger, Julie Andersen, and Elizabeth Bentley. I feel these people resonate a lot with me and hold the values of empathy, understanding, empowerment and inspiration close. Time with them has been a pleasure.
I am also hugely inspired by the clients I work with, because I often watch in awe as they start to unravel their thoughts, come to profound realizations, and take actions to better themselves and their lives. Coaching works and it’s amazing!
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
I think this is clear in my story, but definitely overcoming the death of my father and the lack of good male role models in my life.
I think I accepted the concept of death very early in my life, but, every once in a while something comes up that brings all the emotions of this event rushing back. Notably, “I like to move it, move it!” by Reel 2 Real because my father would dance and based on his poor English this became “I like to movie, movie!”.
I’m actually listening to it now and overall it’s a happy memory. I try to focus on that as opposed to some of the sadder ones.
Not having these role models in early life led me to be very confused by what society says a man should be. From a young age, I was taught to be caring, empathetic, say please and thank you and then when I got into the real world and had to deal with some of the male bravado, the messaging around how males “should” act, the inability to openly speak about feelings or do so at the risk of being bullied and called names, the internalization. I started to become very confused about who I was and how I should act and I started to question everything about my very being.
I think some of this messaging can be so harmful for the younger generations and breaking away from it has been pivotal for me. I now accept that I am human and that includes feeling and expressing a wide range of emotions regardless of my gender or age.
It’s hard to name my “greatest” obstacle as I feel they are all interconnected and where I am now is a culmination of overcoming all those obstacles. Tongue in cheek here, but my greatest obstacle has been seeing these obstacles as learning opportunities and a chance for growth. I will continue to face them, but absolutely one of the bigger ones was the loss of my father and the domino effect that has had. I appreciate it now because it has made me the man I am and I am proud of that.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
In my first free 1 hour call, I am raw. I tell my story. I hear theirs. I take notes on some very important topics, I watch their energies, I watch their emotions shift, I watch a smile turn to a frown, I watch their eyes pop to the top of their head when they’re in a deep thinking state and most of all I shut up! When they are telling their story, I push my tongue to the top of my mouth, I drink tea, I resist the urge to interject and interrupt. I don’t always succeed, but I try to be very aware of this.
When I am open and honest, I receive it tenfold and when I provide these underdogs and/or leaders with something that I feel society seems to lack (objective perspective, active and empathetic listening), I watch as they laugh about some of their most intense struggles!
We sit in deep thought. We smile together. We laugh together. We unravel some of the societal messaging that has them feeling like they are not enough, we plan actions together, we plan accountability together and most of all, we celebrate together.
I’m not one to shy away from the range of human emotion: rage, hate, anger, sorrow, anguish, pain, calm, love, joy, happiness. I feel these emotions are a reaction to stimulus and when we start to understand them and learn the difference between how we react from emotion vs how we behave, we start to gain perspective and shift our mindset.
In my sessions, I literally watch as the gears turn and the emotions of anger, sadness, hopelessness bubble up and are redirected into deep thought, work ethic, challenge, then eventually to laughter, relief, even joy.
This process can be so helpful when applied to just about anything in life: relationships, finances, family life, careers etc.
I follow the ICF model that lists active listening and powerful questioning as pillars. I firmly come from the belief that my client knows what is best for them and I use my wealth of experience to help them to understand themselves as a whole human being who can impact their own lives.
Although my focus is on leadership, it’s very interesting because I feel that my sessions usually lead back to using a holistic approach to increase self awareness, build confidence, and bring the client into the present to take steps NOW that will build the future they want.
In terms of the various exercises I use, I tend not to lean too much on assessments, paperwork, and a more clinical approach, but prefer creative exercises that act as a catalyst to thought provocation, deep thinking, open discussion and realization. I focus on the client, the moment, and just go with the flow.
I’ve done everything from “spirit animals”, to “values”, to “inspiring people”, to “cooking up soup”.
I employ an understanding that based on someone’s experience they may frame or relate to something differently. If I know they’re passionate about football, I may tell them it’s 4th and 1, then ask “What does that play look like if you’re just trying to get that 1 yard to move the posts?” If they like rap, I might refer to a Kendrick or Eminem lyric and we laugh. If they like flowers, I will ask them what their version of “sun” and “rain” would be.
It’s all about being present with the client for me and meeting them on their terms and where they are.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I think I’m tough in the best way. I will challenge my clients. I will push them to think. We will dig. I will let them sit in their discomfort and feel it. I will point out the energy shift. I will point out the sadness, the darkness, I will relate to it. I do this because I know it passes and then something happens… we smile or laugh together.
I truly give them a lot of my being. They are here devoting something which I hold very dear to me lately: time. If they are willing to give me hours of this precious commodity, if they put that faith and trust in me as a coach, I feel it is my DUTY to give them every ounce of value I can.
I am currently the best version of myself and tomorrow I may be worse or better, but I will strive to improve and learn, then I will rest. I sit there and watch recorded sessions. I take notes. I iterate on my process. I am a helper. I am a mentor. I am a coach. I am a cheerleader. I am a critical thinker. I am a visionary. And I know that others have this in them once they are able to connect to their core values and live a more authentic life. My clients are all so powerful.
My practice takes a certain resilience, it takes a certain willingness to work, it takes a certain dedication, but I get results.
I am a product of therapy and understand how much being able to openly talk in a judgement free zone can benefit a person. In fact, I know next to nothing about my therapist and she has been one of the most wonderful positive forces in my journey!
I also study duality and I embrace that in my practice. There are moments where I am laughing and light hearted, but there are moments where I am dead serious and doing my best to ask powerful, impactful questions. I bring challenge, I bring rest. I bring passion, I bring calm. I bring seriousness, I bring humor. I feel very strongly that when we start to understand these concepts and their arguably subjective nature, we start to understand there are two sides to every story and we start to become better at empathizing, analyzing and making good judgement calls.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
You’d have to ask them! But, if I had to venture a guess: Self confidence. Realization. Inspiration. Empowerment. Redemption. The understanding that failure is necessary for change and that is okay. That failure is only failure if we do not learn from it. The power of deep thought. The power of sitting across from someone as they drink their tea and actually having a platform to let it all out. Cry. Scream. Laugh. Think. Spend the entire session venting. I got you!
With every powerful leader, mom, dad, student, immigrant, with every underdog or leader that has become an amazing person through their challenge and adversity, there seems to be one common thread: They are doing their best with what they know.
They fail. They pick themselves up. They try again. They learn. And they don’t stop trying. They do whatever it takes to survive and push forward.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
A “wheel of life” assessment is a good place to start when someone is just feeling “stuck” or “trapped” and is unsure of what it is they actually need to work on. It can really open their eyes to areas of their life they did not know was dragging them down.
I follow the ICF model, and picked up bits and pieces from various coaches that I feel has made my practice fairly well rounded. A lot of it is intuition. I don’t speak to every client the same way. Some are more casual, some are more serious. It’s about reading the zoom (See what i did there?).
My framework looks a bit like this:
1. Introduction: A light hearted introduction. Let’s chat a bit, we don’t have to go into coach mode immediately. This can be very inviting and promotes social safety in the space. At a point where my intuition tells me it’s go time I tell the client I’m putting my coach hat on. I literally tell them this and we’re off.
2. Goal Setting and Exploration of Goals: What are your goals for this session? Focusing on one that they feel is important for this session. Followed by exploration of these goals, what do these mean to you? How do you feel this improves your life?
3. Successful Outcome for the Session: What is a successful outcome for this session? We discuss what this outcome would mean and why this outcome is important to them. There’s a certain light that flashes in their eyes when they actually discuss the results of obtaining this goal. It can be inspiring. THIS is my reason. THIS is why I want this. THIS is why it would make me so happy.
4. Exploratory Phase: Deep thoughts, deep exploration, thought provoking exercises, tough open ended questions that start with “how” or “what”. How do you feel about this? What does that make you think of? You have mentioned a few words a few times like doubt, and stuck. Can you tell me more about that? Consent and social safety is so important in this phase. If I am employing an exercise, I always explain the exercise in detail, I explain why I think the exercise would benefit the client, and I ask for consent with an open ended question: How do you feel about this exercise? More often than not, client’s agree, but when they do not I don’t take it personally. I say “okay, understood” and we move on. This is the bulk of my session and in fact I speak very little during this phase.
5. Wrap Up: We chat about the session, learnings, takeaways. We discuss possible action items, we touch on the successful outcome, the client reflects a little. We create something to move the client forward like a little game, an activity, a very small step. We discuss accountability. Sometimes there is a ton of brilliance and celebration here and sometimes there is an outcome of “We did a lot of discovery today and it sounds to me like you’ve learned a lot!”. Client’s sometimes realize they just need to relax a bit more, or rest a bit more, which can be celebrated as well! These are very difficult conversations and having an understanding that we will not be able to solve complex interconnected issues in a single session is very much understood.
To sum this up, a lot of my “tools” are not really what you would expect. They come from more of an internal position: Active Listening, Intuition, Calculated Risks, Passion, Empathy, Confidence and most of all SILENCE.
Imagine having a conversation with someone who talks 95% of the time? I think some may look negatively at that because our lives can be so hectic and sometimes we feel we may not have time for discussion. Honestly, in coaching some of my best calls my client talks 95% of the time. Sometimes I feel I’m not even working because I’m sitting there watching them slowly unravel their thoughts. It is so interesting!
A lot of my clients are people who feel those “UNs” that we mentioned, and when there is finally someone willing to sit, can truly listen from a non judgement state and give themselves fully to the moment, something happens I cannot adequately describe. I mean it’s the lightbulb moment. The sparks in their eyes. The vocal realisation of “….huh, never thought about it like that”. If you’ve seen it, then you know.
I don’t live for these moments, but they are definitely the cherry on top of the long winding journeys that happens throughout our calls. The closest I can come to describing these moments are: “Pure magic”.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
I can’t affect the entire world. It’s why I choose to primarily work 1 on 1. If I had to take a shot it would sound something like:
“YOU have the ability to change your life. YOU have the ability to choose what you will and will not accept. YOU can set BOUNDARIES. YOU can be the gatekeeper of your own domain. YOU determine your self worth, that is why we call it SELF worth. It will be difficult. There will be challenges. But in your heart of hearts, YOU know what you are. What will YOU… {pause for effect, silence is powerful} …CHOOSE to do?” Then I would put it down, wait, and have one on one conversations with anyone who needed additional insight.
Honestly, there is so much messaging out there in the news, in the media, on our devices, from our friends and all these things have their place, absolutely, but wading through it all alone can be so daunting.
I truly believe that sometimes we just need to sit with someone who will listen, sometimes we just need to talk, sometimes we just need to think and sometimes silence can prove itself to be a real thing of beauty.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
See, I understand this question. We are seeking insight. But, I think outside the sphere.
Some of us tend to look for silver bullets that will take out all the little demons in our lives causing us anguish, pain, and dissatisfaction in one fell swoop. What I have learned is that they are all very different beasts and they may require very different approaches.
Building the life we want will take time. It will take effort. It will take a lot of consistency, work and self reflection. It will take inspiration, empowerment and support.
I tried to do everything by myself because “pride” and based on my dungeons and dragons campaigns, I learned that fighting a slew of monsters on our own rarely ends well. Everyone has their strengths and contributions and a solid support system is key to succeeding in our life campaign. (Sorlock Celestial if you’re wondering!)
The old saying “it takes a village to raise a child” rings true for me and it has taken multiple villages and communities to raise this child.
To boil it down, I think a lot of it comes down to mindset. Framing our challenge and adversity, the past, present and future as learning opportunities and having a support system who can rest with us, console us, teach us, and assist in moving us forward when we are ready is absolutely paramount for a healthy happy life.
Your final thoughts?
I am humbled and honored to be included in your publication. It takes a village to raise a child and I would just really like to thank everyone who is reading that is on a similar path because I feel we may share the same values.
I’m also thankful to everyone who has supported me on my journey, my mom, my sister, my mentors and my partner. Without them, I would not have been able to find the courage to find my purpose.
I’ll leave you with this final thought: Our story is ours and we get to write it. Thank you for reading mine.
If you like to get a glimpse of his coaching, make sure to check his TikTok or connect with him on LinkedIn. It was an honor having this interview with him.
Nelly Kwasinwi is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her experience in mental fitness, an ability that allows her clients to transform their mindset.
She helps people to optimize their emotional and mental wellbeing, to improve their performance and navigate different life challenges with a positive mindset, all while avoiding burnout.
Her approach focuses mainly on the root cause of the problem, she helps clients identify the core of their suffering and guides them into a more positive and empowering mindset.
She is armored with a degree in Counseling and Psychology, Master’s in social work, and she is an accredited Transformational Coach. Your negative mindset stands no chance against her expertise. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Nelly Kwasinwi:
Name: Nelly Kwasinwi Pillar: The Mind Who is this coach for: Professionals who want to optimize their emotional and mental wellbeing, improve their performance, and update to a positive mindset. How they can help: By using mental fitness coaching techniques and a variety of tools like the life wheel, pq reps, just to name a few.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
My family had the virus a couple of times and the experience was very unpleasant. Thanks goodness, we are doing great now.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
The coronavirus pandemic seems to have affected everyone either directly or indirectly.
Without the pandemic, I might not have experienced ‘working from home’, work burnout and quit my corporate job to concentrate on working on my coaching business full time.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
Unexpected times call for extra measures.
I had to look within myself. I learnt that my inner powers are greater and more resilient than the external powers.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I felt worthless for over a decade and unable to care for my children due to emotional abuse.
In search for answers, I worked in healthcare and mental health settings, local authority and social worker with children and families.
I hold a degree in Counseling and Psychology, Master’s in Social Work, accredited Transformational Life Coach.
I worked on my belief systems and mindsets, and rediscovered my inner power as an empath.
Due to work burnout, my employment ended in November 2021. I had enough time to focus on my business that I registered in February 2021.
Now I use coaching to help professionals to optimize their emotional wellbeing, performance and to manage life challenges with a positive mindset.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
The feeling of worthlessness after nearly two decades of emotional abuse.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
Transformative. I have deep dive conversations using different tools and strategies to help my clients identify the core issues that is mostly different from the presenting problem.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
I use the transformation and mental fitness approaches to help my clients identify the core of their suffering and provide strategies for change and sustainability.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
My clients will rediscover their uniqueness, optimize emotional wellbeing and performance, and shift from being fearful to empowered and be able to deal with life challenges with a positive mindset.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
I use a variety of tools depending on my client’s presenting problem. For instance, the life wheel, anchoring, pq reps.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Your imperfections and weirdness make you unique. You are perfect just the way you are.. embrace you.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
No one would value you more than the way you should value yourself.
Your final thoughts?
To begin your transformational journey, you must be committed, ready for action, willing to challenge yourself.
Decide whether you want to change your current unwanted situation or remain the same. I will support and hold you accountable.
Where Can You Find Nelly Kwasinwi?
If you liked this interview and you want to change your unwanted situation, update to a positive mindset and optimize your emotional and mental wellbeing, go to www.clarifythyuniqueness.co.uk and see how Nelly can help you.
To see what she does and how she coaches, you can watch this video:
If you want to connect more personally with her, follow her Facebook and Instagram. You can also join her private Facebook group for additional support. It was an honor having this interview with her.
Anitta Corton is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with the depth of her coaching.
She helps people remove negative thought patterns and emotional blocks to align with the life they want to live, the goals they want to achieve become part of their identity.
Her approach helps her clients uncover what’s been sabotaging them from the depths of their subconscious mind, they feel less anxiety, they are less triggered by situations that used to bother them and aligned with what lights them up.
First, she finds what the client truly wants out of their life. Then, she clears the mental and emotional blocks to create a smooth path to live the life they love. Here is what she said.
Meet Life Coach Anitta Corton:
Name: Anitta Corton Pillar: The Mind, The Heart Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to remove self sabotage and align with what they truly want to do in life. How they can help: By clearing the mental and emotional triggers through conversations, self evaluation and using various tools like Rapid Recode Process, Mindvalley Life Coaching, EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques, just to name a few.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
Thanks for asking! It has been a roller coaster especially with two school age children.
I have been keeping positive with them and looking at learning new tasks, having more family time together as well as checking in with them throughout their day.
I ask them ‘what their challenges are’, ‘how they are feeling’ and ‘how their friends are doing’. It’s been great to see their resilience and ability to change with the times.
As well, pre-pandemic I had been athletic with doing Judo and Crossfit. But as the months went by, my home gym sat idle.
I created a challenge for myself to walk 10K steps everyday and used an app to keep track and find great walking routes. I coupled this with my love for photography and this has helped to have a feeling of accomplishment.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
I found that there are more heightened emotions in my clients as well as uncertainty.
With this being something that I can help clients with, to process what they are feeling and to navigate these circumstances, I feel my training has prepared me for these times. Along with that, I have added more skills to be able to help my clients achieve better, long lasting results.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
I lost a close family member due to heart failure during the pandemic and barely got a chance to see him during the 18 days he was in ICU.
I had to learn that with the things that are out of my control, I know that I did the best that I could with what I had.
I take time each day to allow whatever comes up around that loss, to acknowledge my feelings and thoughts so that they can be released and I have acceptance about the way things are.
The Origin:
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I began back in 2008 with an energy therapy practice that helped people with anxiety, panic attacks and trauma using methods such as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and Theta Healing.
Over the years I have added coaching certifications, so that I am able to coach clients with mindset, negative thought patterns and balancing emotional reactions to achieve more stability and joy in their personal life and business.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
The biggest obstacle that I’ve had to overcome from the past, is that I have been too much of a ‘people-pleaser’.
Being highly empathic and a healer, I have wanted to help people and come from a place of giving, but a time came when I had nothing left to give.
I had to learn to create boundaries and remain strong in beliefs in who I am and that it was time to put myself first.
When people didn’t understand the change in me, I endured the criticism, learned to let go and looked to find the people that I do resonate with and belong.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
Along with being highly intuitive, I use questions as they arise to dig deeper into the source of core issues within the client that could be the reason why they are stuck moving forward at what they want to achieve.
My life experiences and challenges have been vast and so there is a lot to tap into. I also research and keep looking at a problem at hand from different angles to find a solution that works, keeping in mind that everyone is an individual and quite often, someone has tried many different methods over many years to shift a problem.
When we look at this together, I dig deep to find the right solution or therapy to shift the issue.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
For the first half of the coaching session I discover what someone is truly aligned with that will light them up and bring them joy in life.
I take note of any negative thought patterns that could be causing resistance and keeping them stuck from moving forward. The client gives a number out of 10 that they feel is the intensity of the resistance of the beliefs, thoughts and emotions they have.
For the second half of the session, I look to uncover what could be lying in the subconscious.
For example, maybe they have feelings of being unworthy, insignificant, or not enough and that caused resistance or self sabotage to their dreams? Or perhaps being a perfectionist, a people pleaser, or having inner child wounds bring up fears to move forward. Are there core wounds or traumas caused from events, family history, inner conflicts or broken agreements?
I have a method that checks this and clears the intensity so that when checking back with the client at the end of the session, the resistance out of 10 has reduced or completely gone.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
The client feels lighter, more emotionally balanced and they feel in alignment with this new person, that their goals are now a part of their new identity.
They are no longer triggered in situations that used to bother them and they feel less anxious and more joyful.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
Many of the past tools that I have learned from (EFT) Emotional Freedom Techniques, Theta Healing, being a Reiki Master and more, are rolled into the coaching methods that I use from the Magnetic Mind Method and Mindvalley Certified Life Coach.
The Impact:
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
Life is a journey where the challenges and joy are enter-twined at every aspect, even if it seems one-sided.
To take the time for personal development and process difficult emotions or situations can leave a powerful impact that will change your life and all those connected to you, past, present and future.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?
That when I see recurring patterns in my life that have triggered me and caused reactions, I take the time to work through them, correcting the negative thought patterns and emotions until there is no more emotional charge.
After that, it seems I’ve ‘leveled up’ and feel more balanced in the way I look at life. The trigger doesn’t bother me and I see that life is happening for me, not just to me.
This leaves me to be at peace and happier, ready for the next challenge!
Your final thoughts?
Life is so mysterious, and there is so much to learn.
I have worked hard to stay open to discovery of what can truly change lives, while keeping in mind that everyone is on their own journey of lessons learned as well.
Where Can You Find Anitta Corton?
If you liked this interview and you would love to get rid of what’s holding you back in life, right from the depths of your subconscious mind, go to https://recodecoaching.com and see how she can help you.
