“Love is not a need, it’s a sharing. When two people come together, they should enhance each other’s existence, not complete it.” — Osho
Relationships are the cornerstones of our lives, serving as platforms and catalysts for transformation and personal growth.
They mirror back our strengths and weaknesses, teaching us valuable lessons along the way.
To build and maintain successful relationships, we need the right ingredients.
In this article, we’ll explore the five essential components for nurturing strong and lasting connections with others that Maureen Scanlon shared with us in our latest podcast episode.
Who is Maureen Scanlon?
Maureen is a certified life coach, relationship expert, author, speaker, and podcast host.
She is a speaker and a workshop trainer on the Superhuman Summit, her sessions are on the day of The Heart or 14th of November.
The Superhuman Summit is a 4 day virtual event that dives deep into each of the 4 fundamental pillars The Spirit, The Mind, The Body, The Heart, to help you uncover the 4 superpowers that are hidden within.
It’s happening from 11th till 14th of November.
There will be 30 renowned coaches and experts, workshops, panels, networking opportunities, and incredible FREE gifts by each speaker.
These experts typically charge a minimum of $1000 to work with them, BUT you’ll gain access to work with them for less than 40$.
The Ultimate Recipe for Successful Relationships:
Imagine relationships as personal growth laboratories.
They offer us a unique opportunity to evolve by mirroring our flaws and challenging us to transcend our limitations.
The purpose of a relationship is to create a platform for two individuals to mirror each other’s flaws, fostering continuous growth and transformation.
These transformative platforms are where we learn to love unconditionally and grow as individuals.
But, in order to create a successful relationship, we must first start with ourselves…
The Foundation: Self Love
Before you can build successful relationships with others, it’s essential to love yourself.
Self love is the starting point for a healthy, lasting connection.
What you love in others is often a reflection of the aspects you cherish within yourself.
When you are whole and have embraced all the suppressed parts of yourself, you can build more meaningful connections with others because you will not mirror repressed parts of you upon them.
But what does “LOVE YOURSELF” really mean?
It’s not that you don’t love yourself, if that was the case your body would have stopped working long time ago.
Your body has trillion of processes happening every second just because it wants you to live, it wants itself to live, to be well and healthy.
Your body works even when you are unhealthy, trying to heal you. It doesn’t question you or doubt you.
Your mind thinks even when you are tired.
Your heart feels even when the feelings can be overwhelming.
Your spirit is always there, like air, waiting for you to breathe even when you doubt yourself.
When we say “love yourself”, what we truly mean to say is remove all the blocks, mental or emotional, all beliefs that are making you live as if you are not loving yourself. Because the truth is, you love yourself, unconditionally, all the time.
In fact, the deeper truth is that, YOU ARE LOVE.
So, loving yourself really means understanding this truth and embodying this truth that you are love and that you love your self unconditionally, your body, heart, spirit, mind, ALL OF YOU.
Embrace every aspect of yourself…
Then, you are able to change and improve the relationship you have with life.
In many ways, animals are more enlightened than humans.
They live in the present moment, experiencing life without the weight of the past or the burden of chasing happiness while avoiding suffering.
Their relationship with life is healthier because they embrace every aspect of it.
Learning from animals, we can build more meaningful connection with ourselves and life.
By embracing every aspect of ourselves first, then of life.
That’s your foundation where you can build upon…
The Ultimate Recipe for Successful Relationships: The 5 Vital Ingredients
Successful relationships are like delicious dishes done by carefully following a sacred recipe that requires a mix of few essential ingredients to create lasting bonds.
These ingredients serve as the foundation for understanding, trust, authenticity, and shared joy in any connection.
First you need the foundation, but just loving yourself is not going to ensure a lasting relationship.
A relationship is like a temple that you build with another person, and both of you need a solid foundation so you can build stable pillars and a beautiful contruction, a platform where both of you can be transformed.
Ingredient 1: Communication
Effective communication is the cornerstone of any thriving relationship.
It’s not just about talking, it’s about truly understanding each other.
The source of many problems in relationships is the mismatch between what is said and what is meant.
Developing a mutual language is essential for establishing effective communication.
And that doesn’t mean you will always agree on every topic.
Remember, the goal isn’t always to agree but to be heard and understood.
Ingredient 2: Trust
Trust is like the glue that holds relationships together.
It’s not freely given, it’s earned over time.
Trust emerges from a leap of faith and the willingness to take the risk of betrayal.
It cannot exist in a controlling environment where every aspect of a relationship is micromanaged.
Instead, it thrives when partners allow opportunities for trust building to flourish.
Just as you don’t control every part of a sailing ship, only the steering wheel and where the sails are directed, you shouldn’t attempt to control every aspect of your relation ship.
If you try to micromanage every aspect of the ship, and overstress whether or not the wind is blowing in the right direction, you will not sail anywhere.
Don’t be controlling, be in control.
Let the wind blow, trust the ship to hold you on water, and focus on where the sails are directed and hold your steering wheel.
In order to know what ship can be trusted to sail into the wildest waters, you need to give the ship the opportunity to sink while you are in the shallow.
If the ship starts sinking, abondon the ship, or if the hole is fixable, fix it. But it’s pointless to micromanage everything so the ship won’t sink. That’s not what ships are made for.
Trust is nurtured by giving it space to grow.
Ingredient 3: Honesty
Honesty is the foundation of trust and transparency.
Without honesty, the ship can sink really fast.
But also, it can become a prison.
Healthy relationships are built on the freedom to be yourself, to act authentically, and to maintain your beliefs with your partner.
When you’re honest, you’re actively earning trust.
This requires showing your true self in various situations, where your actions speak louder than words.
Ingredient 4: Respect
Mutual respect is another key ingredient in the recipe for a healthy relationship.
It begins with self respect and extends to respecting your partner.
When respect is present, it sets the stage for healthy boundaries and effective conflict resolution.
In all relationships problems arise.
There might be conflicts of ideas, arguments, obstacles.
In respectful relationships, problems are seen as challenges to overcome together.
The mantra is, “It’s not me against you, it’s us against the problem.”
If respect is not present, people might easily turn against each other when problems arise.
If respect is not present, people might step on each other’s boundaries.
But if respect is present, people see themselves as partners that contruct this “temple” together, and the problems are not opportunities to destroy the “temple” but challenges that they need to solve as partners.
Ingredient 5: Fun
Fun is the secret sauce that makes relationships truly worthwhile.
It’s the element that makes you say, “I want to spend my life with this person.”
Whether it’s laughter, shared adventures, travel, or creating new experiences together, fun is essential for nurturing bonds.
When you play, you reconnect with your inner child, unlocking the wellspring of unconditional love.
And then you pour that unconditional love into the relationship.
Even sailing most of the time is not about reaching the destination, it’s about the the shanties you sing along the way, the adventure and the fun of the voyage.
What You Should Remember?
In conclusion, successful relationships are nurtured by the genuine love and acceptance we have for ourselves.
By incorporating the five essential ingredients into our interactions, we can create bonds that thrive on understanding, authenticity, and shared joy.
When you apply these principles, you’ll find that your relationships become a source of personal growth, transformation, and lasting love.
Remember that these ingredients require effort, but the rewards are immeasurable.
By loving yourself, being authentic, and practicing the art of trust, respect, and open communication, you can create connections that bring true happiness and fulfillment into your life.
And of course, don’t forget about having fun.
Go on adventures.
Everything we talked about in this article is just a glimpse of what the true superpower of The Heart can do if you know how to harness it. Join us on the Superhuman Summit this November to discover how to unleash all of your 4 superpowers.
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