By Dr. Dolores Fazzino, DNP, Nurse Practitioner, Medical Intuitive, and Energy Whisperer.
What is really important? For me, it is making a difference in my life and the lives of others.
Sometimes we are offered so many choices to do just this, it can be overwhelming. We are truly abundant, and it is nice to have choices and options. (yes, there is a lot of noise out there)
I know for me I wanted to do it all. It is almost a reactive state where I used to say “Yes” to everything without getting more information.
We have been taught the new way of showing up was to focus on the “Yes” and then figure out how to do it. Take every opportunity that is presented to you, even though it may not be the right one.
The “Take Every Opportunity” Approach:
This is an interesting approach and a very distracting one.
Yes, it allows us to stretch ourselves, and it can also distract us from what we really should be doing and where we desire to be going.
I know I can easily distract myself and find it necessary to reel myself back to myself. How about you, does this sound familiar?
During my life, I learned and adopted a new perspective on this. It was about how I felt about situations, options, and choices I was presented with.
Did it feel good and a definite yes to move forward with the project, or was I feeling a misalignment with where I was heading and what I wanted to accomplish for myself and my career?
Only I could answer this for myself.
If some of us took every opportunity presented to us, we may completely distract ourselves as to what we are supposed to be doing. It may be a complete energetic mismatch.
How to Quiet The Noise and Discern:
Too often, we try to morph ourselves into something that we are not. Possibly to fit in and be accepted and approved of, or to prevent FOMO or feelings of missing out.
When you know who you are, it is your responsibility to show up for yourself. Realizing I am abundant and not every situation is an energetic alignment with myself, I would allow myself to say no without feeling guilty or shamed for doing so.
This is where my discernment skill became stronger. Just because it is offered, does not mean that this is the right one for me.
I have learned in my life and career that not all opportunities are energetically aligned with who I am, who my audience is, and in alignment with the agenda of the host, organization, or platform being presented.
No matter what dangling carrot or shiny bauble hanging is enticing and attracting my attention, discernment was not an option but a necessity.
I am often given opportunities. An Abundant and infinite amount. Some of them I am drawn to, some not so much. That is where discernment comes into play.
3 Discerning Steps How to Make the Right Choice:
Being clear on who you are, what you are about, and what you want to do, is important. It is energy and frequency. When these are in alignment within yourself, your message is aligned too. It makes it much easier for you to make the correct choices for you.
What I have realized is:
1. Not all opportunities are for me.
Though they may be interesting and enticing, they may not be an energetic alignment for me.
2. It is ok to say “No”.
Honor you and your message without having to justify or rationalize it. Your word is enough.
3. Ask more questions.
Get more information prior to committing to situations. Become more observant, research, and feel into the opportunity. Your feelings are your inner guidance system. Learn to trust them, they will lead you to the correct situation for yourself.