“What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need, what you make of them is up to you. The choice is yours.” — Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott
Do you ever feel like life is happening to you, rather than you actively creating it?
Perhaps you find yourself blaming external circumstances or waiting for the “right” opportunity to appear.
But here’s a truth worth holding close: What you make of your life is up to you.
Dr. Cherie’s NEW book “Life IS a Game” explores this rule in great depth, as well as the other 9 rules for being human.
She dedicated her life following these rules and now, at the age of 75 she reveals the lessons that she learned by following the “10 Rules for Being Human” for over 50 years.
The beauty and brilliance of this book is that it’s a real life experiment and testimony to the truth. Get your copy today and make sure to leave an honest review, it helps more than you know. Thank you!
Rule 8: What you make of your life is up to you
You possess all the tools and resources necessary to craft a fulfilling and meaningful existence. The power lies not in external factors, but in the choices you make every single day.
Imagine yourself as a skilled sculptor, standing before a rough block of stone.
Life has provided you with this raw material: a unique combination of experiences, events, hardships, skills, and talents.
You hold the chisel (the meaning you give things) and the hammer (the action you decide to take), the tools to shape this stone into something magnificent. Each decision you make contributes to the final form.
Some days, the sculpting feels effortless, the form emerges naturally. Other days require more deliberate action, a thoughtful removal of material to reveal the hidden beauty within.
But the key lies in the fact that the final creation is entirely yours.
Sometimes, you might think that life is unfair, that there are too many curveballs your way.
But that doesn’t change the truthfulness of this rule, what you make out of it is what matters.
Many people had it far worse than you and they managed to use their chisel and hammer to create a masterpiece.
Let’s look at some of them…
Nick Vujicic (Motivational Speaker)
Born without limbs, Nick could have easily succumbed to despair.
Instead, he embraced his life experiences and became a powerful motivational speaker, inspiring millions to overcome their own limitations and embrace life with joy.
Helen Keller (Author, Activist)
Struck deaf and blind by illness at a young age, Helen Keller lived in a world of complete darkness and silence.
Yet, with the help of her dedicated teacher, Anne Sullivan, she learned to communicate and became a renowned author, advocate for the disabled, and the first deafblind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree.
Her story exemplifies the power of education and human connection in overcoming seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
Nelson Mandela (Politician, Activist)
Imprisoned for 27 years for his fight against apartheid in South Africa, Nelson Mandela emerged unbroken.
He went on to become the country’s first black president, leading a movement towards reconciliation and forgiveness.
His unwavering commitment to justice and his ability to heal a nation divided by race serves as an inspiration for anyone facing oppression and injustice.
Stephen Spielberg (Filmmaker)
Dyslexic and rejected from the University of Southern California film school twice, Steven Spielberg never let setbacks deter him.
He went on to become one of the most influential filmmakers of all time, directing iconic movies like Jaws, E.T., and Schindler’s List.
His story demonstrates the importance of self belief and perseverance in the face of rejection.
Arunima Sinha (Athlete, Mountaineer)
A brutal train accident resulted in the amputation of Arunima Sinha’s leg at the age of 18.
Defying her limitations, she became the first Indian amputee to climb Mount Everest.
Arunima didn’t let her disability define her.
Instead, she used it as fuel to achieve the extraordinary, showcasing the power of human spirit and determination.
Malala Yousafzai (Activist)
Shot by the Taliban for advocating for girls’ education, Malala didn’t let this attack silence her.
She recovered, became the youngest Nobel Peace Prize laureate, and continues to fight for girls’ education around the world.
Even after being shot by the Taliban for her activism, Malala spoke out against violence and the importance of education as a tool for peace.
Her message of forgiveness and reconciliation in the face of violence is a powerful testament to the human capacity for compassion and understanding.
5 Ways How to Become an Active Creator of Your Reality:
Here’s how to cultivate an empowered mindset and take ownership of your life…
1. Identify your values.
What truly matters to you? Is it creativity, connection, adventure, or personal growth?
Understanding your core values serves as a compass, guiding your choices and ensuring your life aligns with what you hold dear.
But how do you identify these values?
Here are some prompts to get you started…
- Imagine your ideal life. What does it look like? How do you spend your days? Who are the people around you?
- Reflect on past experiences. What moments have brought you the most joy and fulfillment? What recurring themes emerge?
- Consider your role models. What qualities do you admire in others? Why?
- Pay attention to what energizes you and what drains you. What activities leave you feeling inspired and what tasks feel like a chore?
Once you have a brainstormed list of values, take some time to refine it.
Are there any overlapping values?
Can you group them into broader categories?
The goal is to identify a handful of core values that truly resonate with you.
2. Write down your values where you can see them.
The act of physically writing something down makes it more concrete and memorable.
Take a pen and paper, or open a document on your computer, and write down your list of core values.
Treat this like a sacred document, something you’ll revisit often.
Consider creating a vision board that incorporates visual representations of your values. Maybe it’s an image of a serene beach for tranquility, a group of friends laughing for connection, or a mountain peak for challenge.
Surrounding yourself with these visual cues will keep your values top of mind and serve as a source of inspiration throughout your day.
You can even get creative and write down your values in the form of affirmations.
For example, if one of your core values is creativity, you could write “I embrace my creativity and find unique ways to express myself every day.”
Repeating these affirmations to yourself can help solidify your values and empower you to make choices that align with them.
3. Set clear intentions.
Where do you want your life to go? What kind of experiences do you yearn for?
Taking time to envision your ideal future aligned with your values and setting clear intentions empowers you to make choices that move you in the desired direction.
This isn’t about creating a rigid life plan, but rather about planting seeds of possibility.
Imagine yourself five or ten years from now.
What does your life look like? Are you in a fulfilling career? Do you have strong, supportive relationships? Have you traveled to new and exciting places?
Once you have a clearer vision of your ideal future, translate that vision into specific, achievable goals.
Perhaps you want to learn a new skill that will help you advance in your career. Maybe you desire to travel to a specific country. Break down these larger goals into smaller, actionable steps.
This will give you a roadmap to follow, a sense of direction, and the motivation to take action.
4. Embrace the “Self Empowerment” mindset.
Life throws curveballs. It’s a fact, as inevitable as sunrise and the occasional downpour.
But what separates those who get soaked from those who dance in the rain?
It’s the proactive mindset, a philosophy that empowers you to see life’s challenges not as roadblocks, but as opportunities for growth and creation.
Here’s the key shift: instead of feeling like LIFE is happening to you, you embrace the idea that YOU are happening to life.
You become a sculptor, not a bystander, taking the raw materials of experience and shaping them into something meaningful.
This proactive approach hinges on the greatest ability of all humans: to give and to take away meaning from things.
We, as a species, possess the remarkable power to imbue even the most uncontrollable situations with purpose.
A job loss can be a catalyst for career exploration. A health scare can spark a commitment to healthier living. A global pandemic, well, that can inspire a wave of awakening.
So, how do we cultivate this proactive mindset?
- Reframe Your Perspective: Instead of seeing a setback as a defeat, view it as a redirection. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this? What new opportunities might it open up?”
- Embrace Responsibility: Life may throw the curveball, but you control how you swing. Take ownership of your responses, focusing on what you can control, your attitude, your actions, and your interpretation of events.
- Find the Silver Lining: It might be tough, but there’s always a silver lining, even in the darkest of clouds. Train yourself to look for the positive aspects, the hidden lessons, the unexpected blessings.
And finally…
5. Take action, even small steps.
Sometimes, the most daunting part is simply getting started.
Atcively creating your own reality is not just about thinking, it’s about doing.
Don’t wait for the “perfect” moment to take action. Break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps and celebrate each forward movement.
The strength of your spirit.
Remember, my friends, the power lies within you.
In fact, the ability to use everything in your life, the good and the challenging, to move forward and live the life that you want to live it’s what determines the strength of your spirit.
You are not a passive passenger on the journey of life, you are the driver, charting your course, navigating the twists and turns, and ultimately, creating the masterpiece that is your life.
Embrace your choices, learn from your experiences, and watch your vision unfold with each courageous step forward.
Now, go forth and create a masterpiece!
If you want to dive deeper into this rule and understand how to become the active creator of your own reality, get Dr. Cherie’s NEW book “Life IS a Game” and learn how to play the game of life!
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