15 Things That a Heartbreak Does to Your Body

Activities

September 5, 2017

Nobody wants a heartbreak. Though, in the bigger perspective, it brings life lessons and strengthens the fragile spirit.

But even though it might be spiritually rewarding, a heartbreak has physical consequences. And you should get to know them!

By knowing the physical consequences, you have enough room to understand yourself and the close people who are going through a heartbreak.

This article, by any means, does not suggest to stop being courageous enough to love! However, by knowing the physical effects you can take necessary precautions and remedy them on time!

15 Things That a Heartbreak Does to Your Body

Things Heartbreak Does to Your Body — Picture of actual heart strings that can break after an emotional trauma like a heartbreak;

1. You are suffering from a physical pain.

Some of the most common physical pains that a person suffers from after a heartbreak are headaches, stomachaches, or literal heartaches.

You feel this physical pain because your body is forced to endure a severe heartbreak. And the mental and emotional stress you are feeling slowly manifest in your body through these physical pains.

2. Your stress level will increase.

Stress is not good for the body. While a certain amount of it pushes you to look at what needs to improve in your body, too much of it causes complicated bodily dysfunctions.

When experienced for a prolonged period of time, it may bring havoc to your life.

It is best that you engage in leisure, rest or relaxation when a heartbreak strikes.

3. Your appetite becomes irregular.

During a heartbreak, some people totally forget the loving care they used to shower themselves with and end up not eating anything at all. Thus, they lose weight.

Other people also choose to forget their heartbreak by drowning themselves with food. Every time they remember how badly hurt they were, they fill their stomachs with food causing them to gain weight.

4. You may suffer from severe sadness.

Sometimes it starts from a normal sadness that comes after a heartbreak. But when you are unable to move from it, it will become a depression that you have no control over.

When you feel that you are psychologically unstable, show your self some loving care by going to the appropriate people who can help you with what you are going through.

5. You are less focused.

Because your mind is still bogged down by the sudden surge of emotions brought about by your heartbreak, your mind suffers from a lack of focus.

This results in making mistakes at work or in any chores you normally do with your best self.

Thus, taking a break from your regular routine is a must after a heartbreak.

6. Your heart might slow down.

It is normal that your heart is affected with every heartbreak. But when you notice your heart is functioning differently and more slowly than it normally does, consult your doctor.

You may be affected by a broken heart syndrome that follows after experiencing a deep longing.

7. You might have difficulty sleeping.

You suffer from a loss of sleep because, in your aloneness, you remember the person who caused you pain.

No matter how much you toss and turn, sleep seems to evade you. And the more you force yourself to sleep, the more awake you feel.

Try to listen to a soothing music. It might help you a bit.

8. You become more sensitive.

Being in a painful situation makes you vulnerable. Even slight comments or remarks would hurt you more than it did before.

If you can, try to stay away from negative people or situations. The added negative energy maybe too much for your stressed body to handle.

9. You feel the need to be alone.

While hurting, you feel that deep need to be alone. It’s more comforting to feel your pain alone than sharing it with others.

Besides, you don’t like people seeing you in your most vulnerable state.

10. You experience a withdrawal syndrome.

Withdrawal symptoms are normal occurrence after a heartbreak. You’ve been accustomed to be with someone who suddenly disappears leaving you with a broken heart.

The detachment comes to you with a surprise and a shock. Additionally, your regular routine also quickly changes the moment the person you shared it with is gone.

11. You might suffer from delayed or irregular menstrual period.

Scientific studies proved that severe stress leads to delayed or irregular menstrual periods. Others even experience missed periods while under stress.

Stress suppresses the functioning of the hypothalamus that controls the pituitary gland. The pituitary or master gland also controls the thyroid and adrenal glands and the ovaries.

A heartbreak not only hurts a woman’s heart but a woman’s femininity as well.

12. Your immune system tends to get weak.

Because stress weakens the body, the immune system also weakens. This makes you more susceptible to diseases and infections.

If possible, never allow your heartbreak to bring you this far.

13. You might suffer from hair loss.

Hair loss is one inevitable effect of stress.

During a heartbreak, when you notice your hair falling, be aware of the intense stress your body is going through.

14. You might suffer from cramps.

A prolonged stress causes a female body to suffer from menstrual cramps. This further intensifies the emotional turmoil you are going through after a heartbreak.

If you could, there are specific exercises that you could perform to lessen the effect of menstrual cramps. Some drugs are also available to treat these cramps.

15. You go through periods of self-doubt.

When in heartbreak, you start to doubt your worth and your self. You wonder if you are worthy enough to suffer the pain.

This happens because the heartbreak shakes your confidence. It’s okay to feel this way as long as you don’t stay longer in that feeling of worthlessness.

Conclusion

A heartbreak is not only characterized by a romantic partner who hurts you. It also comes through a family conflict, damaged friendships, or the breaking of trust you give to someone.

Regardless of the situation, always bear in mind that it’s okay to feel all these signs in your body. Just make sure to know that you don’t have to stay there longer.

What’s important are the lessons learned and the strength gained from the experience.

Source: Conscious Reminder;
Reference:
– https://www.everydayhealth.com/pms/managing-stress-during-pms.aspx;

23 Strange Human Emotions Everybody Feels But Can’t Explain

Psychology

Nezel Padayhag

September 5, 2017

What makes each person different is the ability to handle their emotions.

When it comes to expressing certain emotions, we often feel that its best to hide them. That’s a defensive response. Bringing them out into the open makes us look vulnerable.

There are other times when we would gladly express what we feel, but the thing is, we aren’t really sure what that is.

The nostalgia for a place that doesn’t exist, the vulnerability while you look into someone’s eyes, or the serene feeling during thunderstorms while you are safe and warm at home… we don’t have a word for these emotions.

It’s Important To Understand Your Feelings!

It is in such moments when we can’t fully describe how we feel that others misinterpret us because we are too confused to use the right word to explain our emotional state.

And not just others, but you misinterpret what you feel just because you can’t define that emotion with a name.

You are not the only one that feels strange emotions, we all feel them. Some emotions really do not have a name yet. But they exist!

However, just because your language doesn’t have the word to explain something, it doesn’t mean that other cultures haven’t come up with a name for these emotional states.

Here are 23 of these strange human emotions that actually have a name:

The 23 Strange Human Emotions That are Hard to Explain

1. Sonder. A feeling of awareness that passersby are living their life exactly like your own with problems, ambitions, and passageways you never know. And like them, in their life, you are just a mere passerby.

2. Liberosis. A feeling of loosening up and caring less. Holding your life playfully under your care or at the care of others.

3. Monachopsis. This is a delicate feeling of being a misfit or out of place.

4. Enouement. You feel this when you have arrived in the future and have seen how things worked out. Yet you feel a part of yourself is left in the past.

5. Nodus Tollens. A feeling when you discover that the life you have painstakingly carved out is not making any sense at all. And you have to go back to the chapters that seem good, though you know that the adventure in life is yours for the taking.

6. Onism. The frustration you feel for getting stuck in one body that lives only in one place, and can do only one thing at a time.

7. Opia. The feeling of vulnerability and invasiveness upon looking at someone’s eyes.

8. Altschmerz. When you feel distressed for going through the same old issues, the same problems and not having outgrown them.

9. Anecdoche. The funny feeling of conversing with other people, yet all are eager to speak and nobody cares to listen, which results to an overlaying of disconnected words.

10. Ellipsism. You feel a tinge of sadness for not knowing how the present things turn out to be in the future. And all you can do is pass on what you have to without ever learning what it’s all about.

11. Kuebiko. A frazzled feeling that arises because of the senseless violence everywhere. You feel like a helpless scarecrow that just stands and watches.

12. Lachesism. When you have this strange desire of getting struck by a disaster because you feel your life is being so smooth sailing. You feel putting a kink on it would make it a bit sharp and flexible.

13. Exulansis. This is what you feel when you are on the verge of giving up while trying to tell your story to an audience who seem unable to relate to it.

14. Vellichor. This is what you feel when entering a used bookstore and you suddenly feel its wistfulness. You feel the passage of time by the old books that are there but you have not the time to read.

15. Andronitis. That frustrating feeling you get when it takes a longer time for you to know someone.

16. Rückkehrunruhe. You get this feeling when upon returning home from a pleasant trip, you realize you are forgetting what it was like. And you have to remind yourself that it did happen.

17. Rubatosis. The feeling you get when you are greatly aware of your own heartbeat.

18. Kenopsia. The eerie feeling of a place which once held a lot of people, but at the moment is peaceful and quiet.

19. Mauerbauertraurigkeit. You feel this when you have the urge to repel people away from you whether they be close friends or family.

20. Jouska. This is what you feel when you have the urge to converse with people inside your head.

21. Occhiolism. A feeling when you suddenly realize of the smallness of your perspective compared to the vastness that the world holds.

22. Chrysalism. The serene feeling during thunderstorms while you are inside your home feeling safe and comfortable.

23. Vemödalen. The frustrating feeling you get upon taking photos of a view or something so amazing, knowing that thousands of the same photos already exist.

What of these strange emotions resonated with you the most?

Source: Rise Earth > Peace Quarters;
Reference:
– http://www.dictionaryofobscuresorrows.com/

Ever Wonder If Your Soul Reincarnated From A Past Life? Here Are The 6 Clues…

Spirituality

Nezel Padayhag

September 4, 2017

At some point in your life, you may have bumped into someone you just met, yet have a feeling of familiarity for this person. Or, you may have unexplained fear or phobia over something.

You may have asked yourself how come you have these eerie feelings. Not finding the answers may have caused you disappointment and confusion.

But by believing or giving a take on the theory of a past life, it may give you a clarity of what’s going on with your life.

A common belief states that our personal characteristics, experiences, or even skills have been closely linked to a life or lives that we have lived previously.

Why a soul has to reincarnate?

Reincarnation is the belief that when we die, our soul is being reborn into another body. While others are skeptical about it, psychotherapist Dr. Brian L. Weiss believed that everyone reincarnates.

According to him, everyone has to reincarnate because of the many lessons that each one of us has to learn: lessons of love, compassion, charity, nonviolence, inner peace, patience, and others. And learning them all in one lifetime is impossible.

Does everybody really reincarnate?

To others, reincarnation is nothing more than a religious concept. Yet, some credible experts dedicated themselves to studying this phenomenon and believed deeply that reincarnation is a genuine experience of all living beings.

One of them is Dr. Ian Stevenson, a former professor of psychiatry at the University of Virginia School of Medicine, who claimed to have found more than 3,000 examples of reincarnation that he shared with his scientific community.

Whether you remember it or not, it might be possible that your soul has reincarnated.

To give you more enlightenment on whether your soul has reincarnated from a past life, here are the 6 clues:

6 Clues of Knowing Whether You Have A Reincarnated Soul

1. Experiencing Deja Vu or a feeling of familiarity involving your other senses.

Dr. Weiss pointed out that Deja Vu is one common sign of a past life. It is a sensation you feel for having met a particular person before or having visited a place that seems familiar to you as if you’ve been there previously.

Similarly, your sense of smell, taste or hearing will arouse you into something familiar. There may be certain smells, tastes or sounds that give you a flashback to another place and time.

2. Being carried away by the intensity of your dreams.

Dreams are not only mere fantasies. Sometimes they show fragments of past life memories that have been deeply locked within us.

When your dreams are so clear and detailed that feels as if you were actually in a specific place with a particular person or persons, you may be experiencing a fragment of your past life.

Having these recurring dreams or dreams with the same theme is an indication that your soul has been reincarnated.

3. Meeting your soulmate.

Soulmates are destined to come into our lives bringing us the lessons we need to learn in this lifetime.

When your soulmate comes, you feel a strong connection that leads to major changes in your life. You easily understand each other because you already have a relationship in the past.

Meeting with your soulmate means you have to complete some unfinished business. It may be a lesson that each of you has to learn or a mission that only the two of you can accomplish together.

But a soulmate isn’t only limited to one person. It is necessary that you meet a lot of them including your soul group to come together and do your specific purpose.

4. Having memories that never actually happened in your current life.

There is a nice story that clearly illustrates this. It goes like this:

Since she was a child, Margot had this memory of herself dining in a restaurant in Los Angeles called Coles. She could give details of what she ordered, how it tasted, and who she was with.

Only that Margot lives in New York and had never been to Coles nor in any part of Los Angeles. But the way she remembers the experience was incredible.

If you have a similar experience, then it might be that you have lived a past life. Remembering vividly experiences or places that don’t jive with your current life is a sure sign that your soul has reincarnated.

5. Having sudden visions.

Regression therapy is a process that helps someone in discovering reincarnation. If you want to go through this process, Dr. Weiss can help you explore your past lives using regression therapy.

While in a deep meditative state through this method, sudden visions may surprise you. Don’t take them for granted though, it may be giving you clues leading to your past life.

In the visions, you may find yourself in an unfamiliar body, in an unfamiliar place.

But having a sudden vision is not only limited to regression therapy. It’s also possible to experience them in your conscious state.

Having these brief glimpses indicates reincarnation from a past life.

6. Feeling other people’s emotions.

Most likely, a reincarnated soul is an empath. This gives them the extra sensitivity to feel and absorb the feelings and physical symptoms of others.

When in crowded places, they feel confused and oppressed because they couldn’t differentiate their own emotions from that which they have absorbed.

If these sensitivities and emotions resonate with you, then you are an empath forming soulful connections with other living beings.

Being an empath is a sign that your soul has reincarnated many times, becoming more sensitive as your life accumulates.

Source: The Alternative Daily;
References:
– https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTnAqDPBsoY;
– http://www.near-death.com/reincarnation/research/ian-stevenson.html;
– http://www.brianweiss.com/;

10 Steps How to Counter Manipulate a Sociopath Intelligently

Attitude

Nezel Padayhag

September 4, 2017

A sociopath is a person who has a false sense of superiority over others. They believe that they are the most brilliant and smartest people in the universe.

Sociopaths see others as objects they can use for their own benefits, a similar trait that we find with narcissists. Both of which employ manipulation to get what they want.

In reality, they are not much smarter than an empath.

Empaths are very much grounded and achieve things through their creativity and effort.

Unlike empaths, sociopaths and narcissists lack creative and abstract thinking. They don’t have the ability to grasp reality properly.

If you find yourself caught in a manipulative situation with a sociopath, you have the ability to counter manipulate them the way empaths do.

How to spot a sociopath:

Intelligent empaths counter manipulate a narcissist or sociopath using nonviolent strategies. They do it with ease and awareness.

But before going to that, let’s take a look at how to spot a sociopath in a social setting.

A sociopath’s strength lies in memorizing their knowledge. They love trivia, remember specific dates, have an advanced vocabulary or may use literary references of unknown or less known people.

They employ these strategies to make themselves look having high levels of I.Q.

The best way to spot a sociopath is their lack of empathy mixed with manipulative behavior, a need to control and desire to look highly intelligent.

Whenever you meet these criteria be on high alert!

The Intelligent Way to Counter Manipulate A Sociopath

When the need to counter manipulate a sociopath is necessary, do the following strategy:

1. The moment sociopaths start to show off their prowess with vocabulary, stop them in mid sentence. With a neutral facial expression, ask them what the word was.

2. Pull your phone and ask them to spell the word for you. This time turning your gaze away from their face to your phone.

3. If they ignore you and continue to speak, hold your finger up without looking up at them. Tell them to hold for a second and spell the word for you.

4. This way, they will disengage because sociopaths don’t like it when they feel others are in control.

5. Ask them further what’s the definition of the word, still without getting your eyes off your phone.

6. If you’re lucky and they will give you a lot of answers, go to dictionary.com and choose one definition that is different from what they’re talking about.

7. Tell them their definition is not what the word really means, still without looking at them.

8. By this, they may change the topic or ask you a different question.

9. When they do, continue reading your phone and tell them you find the word interesting and are going to wiki it, still not looking up.

10. At this point, they are likely to disengage because you haven’t made an eye contact for 2 to 3 minutes.

The above strategy, known as triangulation, is an effective tactic in getting sociopaths to disengage voluntarily. You triangulate a third person or thing to distract the abuser.

But, beware!

Sociopaths are vindictive beings who might do things that you might not like. They couldn’t stand to be corrected and may hate you for leveling up a dominance over them.

If you cannot triangulate them, do as much as you can to avoid them. But if they continue on pissing you off, and there’s no other way to put a stop to their abusive behavior, then it’s time you put a barrier between you and them.

If the person you are about to counter manipulate is known for violent behaviors, it is wise to exercise extra caution.

Taking self-care does not have to be at your own risk.

Source: Educate Inspire Change;
Reference:
– http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/sociopath-psychopath-difference#1;
Knowledge By: Sacha Slone;

6 Cosmic Messages Seeing a Dragonfly Too Often Tries to Let You Know

Spirituality

Dejan

September 3, 2017

A dragonfly is a spirit animal that symbolizes change and light. It invites people who have it as their totem for transformation and adaptability in life.

Its symbolism is rooted all the way back throughout human history and it has become a part of the collective unconscious.

The influence of dragonfly in the world and ancient traditions:

The dragonfly is the national emblem of Japan symbolizing joy and rebirth.

It is a symbol of departed souls in Native American tradition.

While in the Mayans, it is an emblematic animal of Ix Chel, the goddess of creativity. It was believed that she was brought to life with the dragonfly’s wings and magical songs.

Aside from that, seeing a dragonfly too often carries significant meanings. It is a subconscious trigger, a symbol deep inside our unconscious mind that reveals messages for us to become conscious of.

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Or as a gift for someone who loves dragonflies, it’s also the perfect gift for lapel pin for a nature lover.

No matter if you see it as a pin on someone else or you keep seeing the real thing, this little beautiful creature showinh in your life is not a coincidence. Some people say it carries significant messages.

Few of its messages are the following:

The 6 Significant Meanings of Seeing A Dragonfly Too Often:

1. It brings change and transformation.

Dragonflies grow in water, move into the air, then fly.

It is a symbol of transformation that invites those who have it as their totem to bring the needed changes in their lives and reach their highest potential.

When a dragonfly shows up in your life, it indicates that you need to take the change.

Dragonflies change color when they mature. You, too, have the ability to experience yourself differently when you open up yourself to everything that unfolds in your life.

2. It teaches adaptability to any situation.

Dragonflies have amazing flight patterns that allow them to change direction swiftly without effort.

This lightness inspires you to be flexible and highly adaptable in any situation.

Whenever you are stuck in a situation, you can call on the dragonfly for help.

3. It inspires joy and lightness of being.

Dragonflies have aerial lightness.

When you have it as your animal totem, you have the power to take things lightly even when you are in a tough situation. You feel this lightness in your thoughts and feelings.

The dragonfly spirit animal invites you to always keep a light and positive outlook in any situations of life.

4. It symbolizes the realms of emotions, going into your deeper feelings.

The dragonfly’s characteristic of being always around with water, ponds, river and lake edges symbolizes the realm of emotions as water is a symbolism of emotions and the unconscious.

When this spirit animal comes to you, you are called to explore your emotions in a light and joyful manner.

5. It opens your eyes to be on the lookout for illusions and deceits.

The fascinating dragonfly has beautiful colors, light wings, and scintillating body that is often associated with light and illusions.

If you have the dragonfly as your totem, you are encouraged to show your true colors and shine.

With these, you have a fascinating influence that arouse the curiosity of others.

When the dragonfly shows up in your life, it means you have to see beyond illusions.

You must check for any situation or person whose intentions might be deceiving.

6. It connects you to nature’s spirits and realms of fairies.

Dragonflies can be your allies to connect with the spirits of nature.

They have fairy-like qualities that make them auspicious spirit animals working with the power of light and fairy realms.

Hence, the dragonfly can bring forth the enchanting spirit of your own nature.

When the dragonfly presents itself to you, you are invited to open up to the magic of nature and animals.

Source: Spirit Animal

The 2 Most Obvious Signs Your Partner is A Narcissist and How to Detect If You are Abused…

Psychology

Dejan

September 2, 2017

The 2 Most Obvious Signs Your Partner is A Narcissist and How to Detect If You are Abused…

At some point in your life, you may have encountered a narcissistic lover.

They are the people who vowed to the stars above how much they love you.

Believing all of these to be true, you lay everything you have on the table without second-thoughts, only to find yourself torn and disoriented after the relationship ends.

Yup, we all had them.

While picking up the broken pieces you wonder how come you didn’t see it coming; how could you have been so naive; and countless other self destructing questions.

But the past has to be let go.

Avoiding the same thing to happen again is the best way you can do while moving on with your life. So here is how you can always know when a narcissist is plotting to abuse you:

Narcissistic Signs You Need to Watch Out For:

People who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder are more predictable than they think. They tend to show their Narcissistic side through a couple of signs, and all you have to do is pay attention to whether or not they show them.

Once you find your new lover is a Narcissist, it’s then up to you to decide whether you continue with the relationship.

You should keep in mind that they are not bad people or evil, they have a psychological disorder and deserve love as any other human being.

Here are the 2 most important signals that you need to watch out for:

1. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are low on emotional empathy.

Emotional empathy is the ability to feel what the other person feels.

If you have this ability, you are less likely to hurt others since you know the feeling of getting hurt.

But if you don’t have it, you are less motivated to consider how your words or actions affect your partner.

Narcissists have the intellectual empathy but lack the emotional empathy. They compensate with their intellectual empathy for their lack of emotional.

Intellectual empathy is the ability to be aware of how your actions affect others. It urges you to stop and think of how your actions harm your partner’s feelings.

Narcissists understand that they have caused you pain, but have no motivation of caring for your feelings because of their lack of emotional empathy.

If your partner shows signs for a lack of empathy even though they understand they have caused you pain, it is a sure sign of a narcissistic behavior.

2. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder lack “whole objective relations” and “object constancy”

“Whole object relations” is realistically seeing oneself and others as having both the bad and good qualities, some that you like, and others that you don’t.

But this does not prevent you from accepting others for what they are. You still value others for their good qualities.

“Object constancy” is maintaining the positive emotional connection you have with someone you care even if you feel angry, frustrated, disappointed, or hurt by the person.

This object constancy makes you refrain from hurting others during your fight. Without it, people tend to cause emotional or physical harm to their partners.

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder abuse their partners differently.

Some of them may put you on a pedestal. But once they realized you are not the perfect person they imagined you to be, they devalue you by verbal abuse.

Others might try to control your every move from the people you see to how you spend your money to how often you speak with your family.

The more violent Narcissists might even try to physically abuse you.

If you catch your partner losing themselves and verbally and emotionally hurting you while they are mad, or trying to have complete control over you, it is a sure sign they are a narcissist.

Here are The 3 Stages of How Narcissistic Partners Abuse You:

While some Narcissists are players, they are not looking for a serious relationship, others want to settle down in marriage.

Only that their lack of whole object relations push them to be unrealistic about their expectations in a partner.

They may view you as either perfect or flawed.

You are perfect when you please their every want. You are flawed when you do 1 thing that they do not like.

This makes it difficult for them to find the perfect relationship and hence, result in their abusive pattern over and over again.

You may spot the typical stages of Narcissistic abuse below:

Stage 1. They chase you as if you are a Unicorn in their eyes.

Narcissists get attracted to you as if you are a Unicorn, the rarest of all imaginary creatures.

They are madly in love with you from head to toe. They are extremists and find you the perfect person who never disappoints them.

They shower you with gifts, flowers, flattery and all, just to get your attention.

They will do everything just so you give them a chance in proving their love for you.

Yet, they do this “Chase Stage” because they have not really known how it is to have an actual relationship.

They don’t see you as a human being but as a perfection that will save them or make them feel better about themselves.

The abuse of stage 1:

– They lose interest. The moment you stop running, they suddenly lose interest in you.

You feel disappointed and bewildered why the person who promises to make you a queen in his castle has suddenly become a ghost and would not even answer your texts.

– They are not realistic. One traditional rule of dating is getting to know the person you want to have a relationship with first. But Narcissists do not see it this way.

It’s really hard to become aware of this as they give you such beautiful compliments that go to so extreme levels.

But their unrealistic view of you is something that might harm you when they realize you are a human.

– They blame their former partners of not being who they thought they were. How they describe their former lovers is how they describe you.

If their former lovers disappointed them, you are likely to disappoint them too.

When they tell you that their former lovers were not the person they thought them to be, then watch out. It’s a sure sign that you will also be considered that way.

Stage 2. You are subject to a construction project.

Once you give the Narcissist lover a chance to be in a relationship with them, they start to relax and enjoy your company.

At this point, they slowly come to know you, seeing your flaws as flaws. They slowly realize you are not perfect after all.

Then their Narcissistic nature starts to become apparent. The Narcissistic lover starts their construction project on you.

Watch out when they suggest how you must change “for your own good.” They may want to change your hairstyle, the way you dress, your workout routine, and many others.

The abuse of stage 2:

– They act as if they accept your flaws. Despite their desire that you make slight changes to please themselves, they still accept your decision to stay as you are.

They still find peace in knowing that you can’t give them everything they want, though in some instances they still bring the topic with you.

– They feel insulted for not listening. The Narcissistic lover feels insulted and criticized when you resist their suggestions.

They take your decisions to be against them and start to get nasty, picking fights over little things and devaluing you.

It’s then when you start to wonder what happened to the sweet person you fell in love with.

Stage 3. You are stripped of your value.

At this stage, you are starting to realize that you are losing your value in the eyes of your lover.

The abuse of stage 3:

– You are vehemently criticized. All you hear are criticisms as if you cannot do anything right. The compliments are gone.

The criticisms are no longer suggestions to consider. They have become insults.

You hear words like, “You look like a clown in that dress.” Or, “When did you become such an old man wearing that scent?”

– They insult you in public. Your Narcissistic lover insults you in front of friends. They may even criticize you to them even when you are present.

– In extreme cases you are physically abused. Aside from the intense verbal abuse, your lover starts to hit you and treats you cruelly. You find yourself screaming, yelling, or crying hysterically.

Conclusion

You cannot control your heart.

If one day you find yourself falling for a Narcissist, you have to be prepared as to the amount of abuse you wish to receive.

But if you love yourself enough to leave such relationships, you might as well prevent it before you fall in love with them.

Source: Psychology Today by Elinor Greenberg, PhD, CGP;

7 Ways You Can Attract Positive Karma In Your Life

Journey

Dejan

September 2, 2017

The sentence “You reap what you sow,” best described what karma is.

Generally, it is the energy that we are sending to the universe and is coming back to us.

Every action holds certain karma and we can’t always control what we are doing. Even when we suffer the consequences of our mindless actions most of us cannot find the pattern between our actions and the situation.

It is always best to be mindful of the intentions behind our actions to avoid negative consequences or bad karma.

To have a good karma, there are certain things we can do under our power.

7 Ways You Can Attract Positive Karma In Your Life:

These seven ways of attracting good karma not only will improve ourselves but will also help us in being mindful of others:

1. Focusing on your life goals.

Focusing on your life goals is one way of attracting good karma.

When you are more focused on your life goals, distractions have less power over you. The more you are focused, the more you are likely to succeed.

But you also need to take a break once in awhile. This allows you to breathe and makes you more creative once you get back to what you are currently working on.

There may be some failures along the way, but they are more likely designed to push you to do the things rightly. Failures carry lessons that help you improve certain aspects of your life.

2. Connecting to the world within and around you.

When you connect to the world within you and around you, you are more aware of what’s going on in the present moment.

Dwelling on the past or the future will rob you of your precious time.

While focusing on your goals brings you to a future success, living in the present moment helps you achieve your greatest potential.

Being in the present and living to the best that you can be, make you feel connected and attract good karma to come into your world.

3. Taking responsibility for your commitments.

Taking responsibility for your commitments is one sign of maturity and could bring you good karma.

There are times when lapses in your actions are inevitable. You are still evolving and making mistakes is part of it.

When you take responsibility for your mistakes, you are doing the right thing. Not everyone can do that.

Claiming your mistakes as your own makes it easier for you to correct them and move from them.

4. Learning to laugh at yourself.

Making mistakes truly feels humiliating. Yet, humility is one great way to achieve good karma in your life.

When you are able to laugh at yourself over some silly mistakes, it is easier for you to take criticisms from others.

As mentioned earlier, failures are your yardstick in improving yourself. It points you to the necessary improvements you need to take.

If there are negative comments from others, you should not take them ever so seriously.

Instead, learn to laugh at yourself and be willing to take a joke every now and then. It lightens up your journey a bit.

5. Being patient with yourself and the world.

Being patient and tolerant with yourself and the world also help you achieve good karma since not everything will go the way you expect it to be.

There are some things that require a lot of patience, especially success. You can’t always have the thing you desire at the exact moment you want to have it.

As the saying goes, “All good things come to those who wait.” When you wait patiently, you already know what comes next.

6. Practicing small acts of kindness.

Mark Twain nailed it perfectly, “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”

Practice small acts of kindness to others as well as to yourself. When you are kind to yourself, others also feel it. Loving yourself first is the first stage of loving others.

Being kind to yourself makes you genuine unto others. You may fool people with a fake smile but not yourself.

Being kind to yourself means doing the things that can make you happy.

The more you are kind to yourself, the more natural you become in treating others with kindness.

7. Being comfortable and open to change.

When we have perfectly designed the future according to how it fits in our plans, facing changes is difficult.

Change is not what we are used to. Change is an unfamiliar territory that we hate to even take a glimpse because we are all afraid of the unknown.

Yet, it’s only in going out of your comfort zone that you are able to feel comfortable with change.

Embracing change brings you good karma because it opens your mind to your expansion and to a wide array of better possibilities.

Like a butterfly that just comes out of a cocoon, you are only able to spread your wings after going through a lot of changes in your life.

Try to incorporate these practices in your life and see how amazing good karma can be!

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Horoscope September 2017: Here is What September is Bringing for Each Zodiac Sign

Journey

Dejan

September 1, 2017

September is all about new beginnings, implementing new habits and expanding in a way that is creative, healthy and beautiful.

Combining this with the current energy waves and the deep soul introspection we went through we get a month perfect for finally starting to do what makes us happy!

Here is what zodiac experts from Gostica have to say:

Horoscope September 2017

This is what the month of September is expected to bring for each zodiac sign:

Aries – Changing Lifestyle

Great time for the work and health sector. Actually some of you might have the chance to have a pre-retirement while, the rest could experience career advancements or redefining their role within a work structure.

If there have been health problems, this is the time to find the proper care that improves the physical state.

However, remember that the best medicine is to stop making war.

You will overcome your inner limits, thanks to the ability to look and search in different directions from the past.

Taurus – The Wind of Passion

Once you’ve passed the limits you’ve lived with for a lifetime, is the time to start living for the things that you really love. There’s something sparkling in the air that drives you to fall in love.

You will discover the beauty of love, not just on the physical plane that will probably appear during this month, but also in love for life, for things you do every day.

Finally in the morning you will wake up smiling! You may want to dedicate yourself to the passions you’ve always had and make them an important part of your habits.

It will be a highly creative month, even from a biological point of view: paternity and maternity on the horizon.

Gemini – Stability Comes

Do you think about changing your home or transforming the interior of your home?

It is not just a matter of practice but it is the manifestation of an inner change that you are experiencing.

According to Feng Shui, changing the interior of your home is like changing your inner dynamics.

You are strengthening and stabilizing; You are slowing down your pace, so that you can dedicate yourself to what is most passionate to you.

The family is at the center of everything and the origins become important.

You will understand that you are now the pillars of your family. Is the family expanding? Possible movements.

Cancer – Month of Strength

The month of cleaning, cuts, selection in the relational field thanks to a rediscovered willpower and desire for affirmation that allows you to face every situation with determination.

Friends are seen at the time of need and you, who have now passed the toughest tests, know who you can trust or not.

A firmness that leads you to establish and defend the boundaries, make you way, fight and conquer.

In this month you will learn to fight only for what is really worth it, without falling into the thousand provocations.

Leo – Energy and Beauty

The positive period continues, thanks to the transit of the moon until 6 September and at the entrance of the Venus that from the end of August gives you energy and beauty.

You will thus develop strength and charm in all aspects of life.

It will be especially a good time for work and finance, which will be paid off after spending the summer holidays.

Thanks to this sky, you will have the right strength to be what you have chosen to be. Full speed ahead! No one stops you anymore.

Virgo – Strength, Confidence and Rebirth

During the month, you will understand that true strength comes from the heart, from within and expresses through your vocation, your talents, the work you do.

You will feel satisfied, complete, without perceiving anymore, the inner division of so many maladies.

The right (feminine) and the left (masculine) part of the brain are recognized and finally decide to cooperate by ceasing to compete with one another.

The benefit that comes from it will manifest itself in every area of your life: in your profession, sentimental relationships, family relationships, and friendship.

Libra – Reflections

Jupiter is about to get out of your mark and will be revisited in twelve years.

Therefore, this will be an evaluation period, in which you will evaluate the results obtained and what you have achieved or not; you will be aware of all the experiences you have endured in these months and you will act according to what your new priorities are now.

These are, in my opinion, the most important periods because they allow you to share, understand the journey you are doing, allowing you to change and start a new adventure. Joy awaits you.

Scorpio – Need to Detach Yourself

You will be more responsive to the situations that until recently have caused you problems and feelings of guilt.

This new, more mature attitude allows you to finally be free; free from those inner chains that bind you to painful situations of the past but now, you understand that it is no longer the case to keep up with them.

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called present”. September will be a preparatory month for a new and definitive start when Jupiter will enter your sign in October, giving you all the joy of living.

Sagittarius – The Realization

Here is a very interesting time because you will finally be able to live the realization. The projects started some time ago, will now find their expression and begin to materialize.

Finally you will be aware of how your decisions have been made even those that initially seemed painful and difficult.

An important energy change, a turning point. Yours will become pure joy of living. It was worth getting here! But as it is said, “To get to paradise, you must go through hell!”

Capricorn – Out of the Tunnel

“You are out of the tunnel” laced it, as you are about to embark on a new road rich in colors, surrounded by fragrant flowers and full of possibilities;

Effect of a radical change of your point of view, which more than the mental concern the emotional part.

Your approach to life has changed, you are more available, ready to love as you have never done.

Finally you see the end of the tunnel but to get there you have to advance with the strength of love.

Aquarius – The Metamorphosis

A profound metamorphosis and inner regeneration will make you reborn and become new, almost unrecognizable to other people as you will change in attitude.

It is great to see you, not angry, but sunny and in peace with yourself.

You will stop expressing your disappointment with that aggressive attitude and sometimes a little “snobish” against what you feel unfair.

You will be more tolerant and you will accept the situations that you do not like anymore but that, however, must be respected.

You’ve taken the road of change and now, you can’t turn back.

Pisces – It’s the Time for Relationships

The relationship takes a new direction. Someone may decide to cut off one that has lasted a long time and has proven in the last few days, not to be important.

A cycle is over and you finally realize it.

You will be driven to look for other ways, other emotions, even faced with the fear of hurting someone with your decisions.

However, you will find greater satisfaction in carrying out activities (work, dancing, doing sports, etc.) with little focus on relationship is true, but which nevertheless allow you to live more easily.

Source: Gostica;

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