15 Signs You Are A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) And 10 Things You Absolutely Need To Be Happy

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Psychology

August 13, 2018

Have you ever watched a movie and it was so touching that your eyes teared up? You wonder how things that have nothing to do with you are affecting you so deeply.

If this is true you are probably a highly sensitive person or what is known in psychology as HSP.

Being highly sensitive means that you absorb and perceive information on a much deeper level than a regular human.

You feel deep connections and strong feelings, but you also get really hurt by people who perceive things differently.

You stress over little things and you can’t handle drama, especially when there is conflict in your relationships, you feel drained.

This is normal for a highly sensitive person. It’s not a flaw it’s just a negative effect of experiencing the world so deeply.

If you still don’t know whether or not you are a HSP here is a list of signs that every HSP experiences.

15 Signs You Are A HSP:

1. You have difficulty letting go of obsessive negative thoughts and emotions.

2. You feel physical symptoms like headaches, heightened stress and anxiety when something unpleasant is about to happen during the day.

3. You live with constant anxiety and you probably have coping mechanisms to deal with it.

4. You feel anger or resentment about situations in society, sometimes even in movies, which seem unjust, aggravating, or simply annoying, even though they might have nothing to do with you.

5. You tend to overthink things.

6. You often take things personally.

7. You worry about what others think.

8. You have a hard time accepting critical feedback, even when it’s given reasonably and constructively.

9. You hide negative feelings, believing they are too strong, turbulent, embarrassing or vulnerable to share, so you suppress them within you.

10. You feel awkward in social events or romantically intimate scenarios, unable to be yourself, highly worried about your partner’s approval and afraid of being judged and rejected.

11. You are extremely irritated by chewing noises and other seemingly harmless actions.

12. You feel uncomfortable when exposed to bright lights, loud sounds, or certain strong scents.

13. You feel highly upset when watching or reading negative news in the media. Even negative music might stress you extremely.

14. You feel unhappy, almost depressed and sometimes angered when following other people’s posts on social media.

15. Movies songs and stories deeply touch you and you often cry when watching or listening something sad, you often thought to yourself that music can have a complete control over your mood, you feel almost powerless when it comes to choosing your mood.

10 Things You Absolutely Need To Be Happy If You Are Highly Sensitive Person:

1. Time and place to unwind after a busy day.

Because you are affected by the daily turmoil much more than a normal human you need a special place and time at the end of your day to unwind.

You need to set a stress free room for yourself where you can relax, dim the lights, listen to soothing music or maybe drink some tea in silence.

2. A simpler pace of life.

A busy life does not mean a successful life. Some people like being busy, it gives them a sense of productivity.

But for you, being busy means high levels of stress and anxiety. It might even feel like you are in prison.

That’s why you should construct a simpler life. Find the things that give most of your results and focus on them.

Make sure to implement days for relaxation. Start your days slowly. Create a daily schedule that’s effective but not stressful to you.

3. Freedom to express your emotions.

Being highly sensitive means you will feel much deeply about things that a regular human might not even bat an eye. That’s why you need to have a healthy relationship with your emotional self.

You need to express your emotions much more often because you accumulate them within yourself.

Give yourself freedom to express your emotions. Find a friend or a family member you can freely speak with daily, someone who loves you, and share how you feel. If you feel like crying cry, without feeling shame.

Embrace your emotions, feel them, express them.

4. Play.

This is a must for a highly sensitive person. Play is something that needs to be a part of your daily life as much as food.

For a HSP play is food for the spirit. Doing an activity, free of being right and wrong, and without much risk involved, is a little vacation for a HSP.

Social games, video games, whatever you prefer, have one hour per day filled with play.

5. Healthy meals, good sleep, exercise and meditation.

A healthy lifestyle is necessary to maintain a healthy being. A healthy being has energy and positivity to tackle the world.

Eating organic food, more green veggies, fruits and less meat will give you additional energy and positivity to tackle your day.

Exercise is good for your health and balancing of your hormones to prevent additional emotional turmoil.

A good sleep is necessary, at least 8 hours per day. And meditation is a practice that will reward you with mental clarity.

All fo this will make it much easier for you to feel the world on as deep level as you feel it. But not just that, it also improves your overall mood.

6. Time to adjust to change.

One thing is certain, change is inevitable. But we all react to change differently and we all need a different pace to deal with it.

Controlling things is your thing. When things are as they are there is not much chaos, meaning you don’t need to deal with unexpected emotions.

When there is change you need much more time than a regular human to adjust because you perceive this change deeply.

You see patterns other people do not see, you deal with emotions much more intensely and you perceive information much more deeply.

So don’t go against yourself. Give yourself as much time as you need to adjust to change unapologetically.

7. Meaningful relationships.

Being around large crowds of people is draining to you, but being around people you have meaningful relationships with is recharging.

When you feel and care about someone you do this on really deep level. And you think that all people feel as deeply as you do.

Sometimes it’s intense for people to be around you because they feel the depth of your love for them, and they don’t feel the same.

There is nothing more upsetting for a HSP than a relationship they thought was meaningful that turns not to be.

That’s why you need to find the few right people who are willing to connect with you deeply, and maintain those meaningful relationships.

8. Lifestyle free of caffeine and alcohol.

Caffeine and alcohol are anxiety boosters.

Because you constantly feel at least a little sensation of anxiety, consuming these is not wise.

Implement more fresh juices, smoothies and drink more water.

You can get teas that are proven to reduce anxiety like green tea or peppermint tea.

9. Creative outlet.

Experiencing the world on a deeper level is not bad.

In fact, it gives you a great material for art. Most of the greatest artists in the world were highly sensitive people who used their deep insight and intense emotions to create beautiful work.

Write, paint, sing, create music, find your creative outlet and create something beautiful.

10. A strong sense of purpose.

Some people seem to drift through life without direction or purpose. For HSPs, this is unthinkable. Rather, they think deeply about the big things in life. Who are they, why are they here, and what were they put on this planet to do?

Whether it’s writing a novel, traveling the world, or leading the way for a cause they believe in, sensitive people crave a cause that’s bigger than them. This sense of serving something bigger reliefs them from anxiety and gives a meaning to their deep emotions.

What Does It Mean To Be A Highly Sensitive Person:

Being a highly sensitive person is not a bad thing.

It means you see the world with eyes who see something others don’t.

When there is beauty you see it and feel it so intensely that you might get obsessed with it. When you connect with people, nature, animals, you do it on a level not many can understand.

When you feel love, oh boy, you feel it on a level that most people don’t come even close to.

You have a gift of experiencing everything deeply. Sometimes it’s overwhelming but most times it’s rewarding beyond description. It’s like everybody watches a video and you watch it on ultra HD.

So use your gift to create. Use it to share with others the beauty not many can see.

People Over 40 Should Work No More Than 3 Days Per Week, According To A Study

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Dejan

August 12, 2018

A recent study published in the Melbourne Institute Worker Paper series, has found that people aged over 40 perform the best when they work only three days a week.

The researchers concluded that the cognitive performance of the middle aged people improved as the work increased to 25 hours a week.

On the flip side, the performance decreased when the work went over 25 hours per week, due to the effects of fatigue and stress.

The Study:

This study involved a series of cognitive tests. It included 3,000 Australian men and 3,500 Australian women, whose work habits were analyzed.

It tested the participants` ability to read words and recite lists of numbers.

The reading measured their “knowing” while the latter measured the “thinking” part of the work ability, including executive reasoning, abstract reasoning, and memory.

It was concluded that the participants working 25 hours a week performed best while the results of those working 55 hours were even worse than the unemployed participants.

As noted by Professor Colin McKenzie from Keio University, one of the three authors,

“Many countries are going to raise their retirement ages by delaying the age at which people are eligible to start receiving pension benefits. This means that more people continue to work in the later stages of their life.

The degree of intellectual stimulation may depend on working hours. Work can be a double edged sword, in that it can stimulate brain activity, but at the same time long working hours can cause fatigue and stress, which potentially damage cognitive functions.

We point out that differences in working hours are important for maintaining cognitive functioning in middle aged and elderly adults. This means that, in middle and older age, working part time could be effective in maintaining cognitive ability.”

The Result:

The reason why working more than 30 hours per week is detrimental for the brain of people over 40, while working fewer hours increases performance, is not clear yet.

McKenzie describes work as a double edged sword.

“While work can stimulate brain activity, long working hours can cause fatigue and stress, which potentially damage cognitive functions.

Full time work (40 hours a week) is still better than no work in terms of maintaining cognitive functioning, but it is not maximizing the positive effects of work,” he notes.

It is worth noting that the results are likely to vary between countries, depending on the days off people take annually.

It is very difficult to control all the factors which contribute to the final results of a study of this kind (including choices around the hours worked and the type of work), but this certainly makes the idea of working full time until the age of 67 unappealing.

The bottom line is that working full time is highly detrimental for the brain of those aged over 40, so the government should take this into a serious consideration and hopefully review the pension age. At this point, the state pension for a person born in 1989 begins at the age of 68, which is detrimental for the employee and unproductive for the employer.

10 Most Significant Quotes By Aristotle To Upgrade Your Wisdom

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Dejan

August 11, 2018

We all walk a different path towards the same truth. But the way we describe our journey is what differs, and these unique pieces of wisdom become the fruits we give to the world.

All throughout history the world was gifted with great thinkers who gave their fruits of wisdom for people to taste.

One such man was Aristotle. He was an Ancient Greek philosopher and scientist who is still considered one of the greatest thinkers in politics, psychology and ethics.

When Aristotle turned 17, he enrolled in Plato’s Academy. In 338 B.C. he began tutoring Alexander the Great. He was a great teacher and a really curious person.

His interests ranged from politics to metaphysics and psychology. His way of looking at things is refreshing, but his honesty and realness is what’s truly inspiring about his work.

10 Most Significant Quotes By Aristotle:

1. “You will never do anything in the world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor.”

2. “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”

3. “Quality is not an act, it is a habit.”

4. “At his best, man is the noblest of all animals, separated from law and justice, he is the worst.”

5. “There is no great genius without a mixture of madness.”

6. “No one would choose a friendless existence on condition of having all the other things in the world.”

7. “Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.”

8. “In all things of nature there is something of the marvelous.”

9. “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

10. “Anybody can become angry, that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”

5 Major Signs Someone Is Attracted To You

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Dejan

August 10, 2018

When it comes to attraction, we are all interested in finding the secret formula of how to attract someone.

However, most of us don’t even know the signs someone shows when they are attracted to us. We might sit in front of someone who is highly attracted to us and don’t even notice.

As much as we want to hide how we feel towards someone there are clues we can’t help but give out. These subtle signs are stronger than us. They reveal how we feel.

Being attracted to someone is nothing to be ashamed of. Attraction happens on a deep psychological and energetic level, and it’s outside of our conscious control.

What you can do, however, is learn the subtle signs someone shows when they are attracted to you. This way you can know next time you speak with someone who likes you.

5 Major Signs Of Attraction:

1. Physical Touch

Someone who is attracted to you will use every excuse to touch you. They will be physical and in close proximity to you. Their body language will be open and they will be turned facing you. Their legs will point towards you and their energy will be open.

2. Dilated Pupils

When you look at the eyes of someone who is attracted to you their pupils will most likely be highly dilated. It is proven that our pupils dilate when we look at something we love and contract when we don’t feel good emotions.

3. Overly Laughing At Your Jokes

Nice way to test if someone is attracted to you is to tell a good joke at first, one that makes almost everybody laugh. After a couple of minutes tell another joke that’s not as funny. If the person you talk with overly laughs at all your jokes it means they like you.

4. They Copy Your Moves

If a person you talk with mimics your movement and behavior it means they are seeking emotional connection with you. When you drink from your glass try to notice if they immediately grab their drink to take a sip. Scratch your leg, see if they do the same.

5. Slight Nervousness

We are all a little nervous when we speak with someone who is really attractive. We might act fidgety and giggle uncontrollably. These twitches are nervous surges arising from the feelings we try to hide. If someone is nervous speaking to you, chances are they like you.

See if the person you speak with shows any of these signs. If they show more than 3 of these signs they like you without a doubt. Being aware enough to notice if someone is attracted to you might help you find your ideal partner.

How To To Increase Your Brain’s Plasticity By Creating New Habits

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Nezel Padayhag

August 9, 2018

Creating new habits may not be an easy process, but it doesn’t mean they’re unattainable if you have the right mindset.

Contrary to what most people think, your brain isn’t fixed. It has the ability to grow and expand throughout your lifetime due to brain plasticity.

When you know how to use your brain’s plasticity, you will be able to make your brain work for you. Dr. Michael Merzenich defines brain plasticity as the “the brain’s ability to change its anatomical, neurochemical, and functional performance status across the lifespan.”

Meaning, your brain can form new cells and neural connections and improve its capabilities in response to what you think and do.

When you were born, your brain was largely unformed and was designed to build new, neural pathways that support learning from experience.

It undergoes rapid development in the first few years of life, then slows down when you reach adulthood.

Failing to develop new neural pathways could result in a mental decline.

But, brain plasticity allows you to create new brain cells and neural connections regardless of your age when you do these three things:

– learning something new;

– having new experiences;

– keeping your brain healthy;

Why Creating New Habits Is Hard:

Before we proceed to how you can rewire your brain, let’s take a look first to the reasons why creating new habits most often will fail.

The culprits are these two, motivation and willpower.

Why Motivation Won’t Work?

Many gurus say motivation is key. However, there’s a downside to this.

Motivation won’t work when you do certain things for the pleasure of having what you want and avoiding the things that you don’t want.

For example, when you are motivated to stay fit to appear fabulous in your swimsuit for the summer and avoid to look unfit. Whether or not you get what you want, your motivation may diminish with the passage of time.

Why Willpower Won’t Work?

When motivation fails, you may stick to willpower. But you’re a human being who doesn’t have an endless supply of willpower.

When vulnerability strikes, which they sometimes will, you won’t be able to take hold of your willpower. Doing the things that you don’t want to do just depletes your willpower.

This is the reason why new year’s resolution won’t work to some, despite the motivation and willpower.

The trick then lies in using the power of your subconscious mind. Neuroscientist Dr. Bruce Lipton says that your subconscious mind dictates 95% of your life and runs it on autopilot.

You’re able to do tasks even without thinking about it, like driving a car. This is how habits are formed.

Doing something often enough creates a habit, which is the activity that you do with a minimal effort and thought. Creating new habits enhances your brain’s plasticity.

How To To Increase Your Brain’s Plasticity:

1. Take small, baby steps.

While setting big goals look inspiring, the chances of achieving them lies in the small chunks of work that you do towards its attainment. Divide your big goals into small chunks, then do them.

Let’s say, your goal is to start walking 5 miles a day. Of course, you can’t do it right away. You have to start small.

You can begin by walking 5 minutes a day and gradually increase it as your brain adapts to this new habit.

Your mind has the habit of resisting change. But when you do it in small steps, your subconscious mind is able to accept it much readily.

2. Use triggers.

Triggers are what cause an event or situation to take place.

This means when you walk after a cup of coffee in the morning, your mind creates an association that triggers you to walk after you have your morning coffee.

Creating a visual trigger is helpful too. Putting a photo of a person taking a walk in your vision board encourages you to take your morning walk.

3. Make the necessary preparations.

Preparation enhances your chances of success. In our example of taking a walk, you need to have enough preparation for this goal.

Decide where you go, what time of day you’re doing it, how many minutes to do it, and if you’re taking it alone or with a buddy.

Prepare your music or audiobook. Make it as easy for you as possible to just get out and start walking.

4. Put your stuff in a convenient place.

Putting your stuff in a convenient place increases your chances of success. Put your walking shoes, socks, face towel, water bottle, keys, and other things you want to bring in one convenient place. Having everything ready makes it easier for you to do it.

5. Make it fun.

Make your new habit fun and exciting. If you choose to be alone, you can listen to music or podcast, or simply enjoy the sight and sounds of nature.

But if you want a companion, you can take your dog or ask someone who shares the same goal as you. Increasing the fun of doing it decreases the chances of your brain to resist.

Again, there are a lot of ways that you can enhance your brain’s plasticity aside from the above example.

You can learn a new language, do physical exercise, try art, or meditate. Whatever you choose, the most important thing is to keep your brain constantly healthy.

Have a diet that is rich in brain healthy nutrients to keep your brain functioning properly. Whatever your goals in life are, you can create new, healthy habits around them by following the steps above and enhancing your brain’s plasticity.

5 Types Of Fear That Are The Opportunities To A Positive Change In Your Life

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Nezel Padayhag

August 8, 2018

Considered to be an emotional response triggered by an imminent threat, our fear is the greatest challenge we all need to face and overcome in our life.

If our fear is always being avoided, it will become a monster that locks us up in the dark prison of our minds.

We hide, we run, we act stupidly just to avoid fear. And the more we resist it the bigger monster we create of it.

The truth is, fear has full control of us because we don’t live in the present moment, but in our mind, and in our mind fear can be anything.

Fear is a protective program, it’s not against you. But if we let fear to make the decisions for us it will protect us to the point where we find ourselves locked within our own prison.

Behind every fear there is a truth that needs to come out into the open. Every kind of fear is just a door that hides some truth inside.

Once you find the courage to open what’s hidden inside, you will find the biggest opportunities for growth and evolution in your life.

There are different types of fear. We are affected by different type of fear at different points in our life depending on what we need most for growth and what holds us back.

Here are the 5 most common fears that are disguises for big opportunities. Find the one that has the biggest effect on you right now and see what kind of truth it’s within.

5 Types Of Fear That Are The Opportunities To A Positive Change:

1. The fear of change.

You’re afraid of change because familiarity breeds comfort. Like a child who doesn’t want to lose sight of his mother on the first day of school, you don’t want to get out of your comfort zone because it’s where you feel protected and secure.

But as you grow older and start to see the world, you realize how small your awareness had been.

Had you not let go of the sight of your mother, you would not have known another world that is open for you to explore.

If you’re afraid of change, you deprive yourself of growing, evolving, and of testing your limits. The fear of change keeps you locked up in an unhappy place, be it a toxic relationship or unfulfilling career.

This fear is an opportunity to accept the inevitability of change and proactively step out of your comfort zone and grow. It highlights the limits of your comfort zone so you will know where growth and evolution begin.

2. The fear of being alone.

Most often, the fear of being alone is prompted by your own feelings of insecurity. You don’t feel secure with yourself because you feel you’re not good enough on your own.

You have been used to relying on other people for your security and happiness. Dependence isn’t the same with sharing and working together.

Being separated from your mother as early as infancy makes you feel disconnected. As a child, you have an unmet need that needs fulfillment.

But as you grow up you can take care of yourself. This dependency, if not overcome, creates a fear of being alone.

And ironically, if you do not spend time alone you cannot prove to yourself that you can be just fine by yourself, hence, you cannot overcome this illusion of dependency.

If being alone is one of your fears, it only means you need to work on your self confidence and self worth.

Once you’re confident to spend time being alone, without feeling less, you will find your own self worth. You will begin to see that a lot of people are like family.

Look into this fear and provide comfort to your inner child. It’s one way of healing yourself from this fear.

This fear is an opportunity for you to become self sufficient and independent. It highlights all the things you think you cannot do by yourself. Look at these things and do them by yourself. Each activity will reveal more of your self worth.

3. The fear of standing for your own truth.

Being conditioned to get validity from others for every word that you say leads you to be afraid of standing for your own truth.

Even if you know your idea is much, much better than that of the common belief, you refuse to speak thinking others might disagree.

This fear might have started in your childhood when you experienced bullying or when you were ridiculed by your immediate family or caregivers for saying your truth.

As a result, you guard yourself against anything that doesn’t feel comfortable, hiding your true self.

But your truth is a gift not anyone possesses. No one can see things the way you do. When you follow your own truth, you attract like minded people who want to live freely like you.

The way to get out of the cocoon you have built for yourself is to open up and be your genuine self.

This fear is an opportunity for you to be and express more of yourself. It highlights where you are incongruent in your reality. Use this knowledge to tell your truth and your reality will reshape with things you love and resonate with.

4. The fear of trying.

You’re afraid to try because of the possibility of failing, or succeeding, which is what terrifies us the most.

It’s normal to fail. Only a few endeavors succeeded with the first try. Most successes passed through the bridge of failures. And we think we want to succeed.

But most often, we are terrified of both of them. In fact, we are afraid of trying because it means we will face reality and it’s either not the way we think it is, or it is and we are right.

Either we are wrong and we cannot fantasize anymore, or we are right and we might get the results we want and they are disappointing in reality.

In both cases, we cannot fantasize about our results. We face reality and we either fail or see it’s not like we fantasized.

The fear of trying comes from loving our fantasy for the result more than the result itself. But reality is better than fantasy, even if it’s not exactly how we fantasized it.

This fear is an opportunity for you get what you want to get. It highlights the things that really matter to you. Use this fear to see the things you really want to get, however, let go of fantasizing and try to actually get them.

5. The fear of rejection.

The fear of rejection has something to do with being afraid of not being good enough. It’s how society conditioned us to feel.

But if you’re able to tweak your mindset a bit you’ll see that rejection only means something better is within you and you are not showing it.

If you believe your lack of certain skills caused you to get rejected, then do something to improve those skills.

If you are scared of being rejected because you doubt you are good enough, open yourself to rejection.

In both cases you will improve yourself to be the best version of yourself. The point of this is the realization that the rejection has nothing to do with who you really are.

If you get rejected it has nothing to do with the real you. We are all good enough, but thinking that some outside factor can validate us makes us not good enough.

Open yourself to these things and be rejected, you’ll either see all the skills you want to improve or you’ll see they were never really a factor to tell your worth.

This fear is an opportunity for you to become the best version of you. It highlights all the things keeping you from becoming your best self. You do this with giving your power away to them by seeking validation. You decide your own worth.

10 Signs That Tell Your Partner Truly Loves You

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Dejan

August 7, 2018

Having somebody that loves you is one of the most beautiful things you can experience in life.

Most relationships nowadays are based on some form of advantage. Your partner might say they love you, they might even act as if they love you, but you feel there is something off.

When someone loves somebody there are signs they can’t help but show. Real love cannot be faked.

As much as you want to hide loving somebody, there are certain things you can’t control. We all show these signs when we are touched by cupid’s arrow.

So if you want to know whether or not your partner truly loves you, see how much of these signs they show. If they show all 10 they are obsessed with you.

10 Signs Your Partner Truly Loves You:

1. Wants to spend time with you.

Although both of you may be tied up with work, family, and other commitments, someone who truly cares about you will use whatever time is left over to have some alone time together. This is a clear indicator a person loves you.

2. Has a complete trust in you.

If your partner gives you the benefit of a doubt it means they trust you. A partner who doesn’t question where you are if you come home late or doesn’t snoop through your cell phone bills is showing the kind of trust that shows a sign of real love.

3. Respects your views and opinions.

You will find yourself on a different side of an argument with your partner. It’s normal to have different views and opinions about certain topics. However, someone who truly loves you will not disrespect you for your views. They will disagree, but they will show respect.

4. Asks about your day.

Someone who truly loves you will ask about your day when you are alone with them. They will see if they can help you with something, or just lend you a listening ear to have as an outlet you can use to filter out daily stress. When they ask, they will listen.

5. Likes to connect with you emotionally.

A partner who truly loves you will not be afraid to be emotionally available. They will want to share their emotions with you. And they will not be afraid to connect with you on a deeper level, to listen to your deeper feelings, worries and desires.

6. Looks deeply into your eyes.

Someone who looks away while you talk either hides something from you or is not interested in what you have to say. A partner who really loves you will be drawn deep into your eyes as you speak. They will look deeply in your eyes, even if you don’t say anything.

7. Their pupils dilate when looking at you.

A little detail we can’t help to control when we love someone is the dilation of our pupils. When we look at things we love our pupils dilate. If your partner looks deeply in your eyes and their pupils are dilated there is a big chance they are in love with you.

8. Makes you feel good about yourself.

Partner who loves you will try almost anything to make you feel good about yourself. If your partner tries to change your perspective into a more positive one as you whine, they are showing a big sign of true caring and love for you. Try to be aware of this.

9. Laughs at your jokes even if they are not that funny.

The reaction people give us when we tell a joke can say a lot about their intention and feelings they have for us. If someone laughs at your jokes all the time, even though you know your jokes are not this good, they either want a promotion or they really love you.

10. Includes you in their decisions.

Probably the biggest sign your partner truly loves and respects you is including you in their decisions. This means they love to make you a part of their life. They will ask you for an opinion and they will consider your advices when you give them.

How To Be The Best Self: 3 Things To Do This August To Be A Better Version Of Yourself

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Dejan

August 6, 2018

The past month we focused more on reconnecting with yourself but we didn’t say how important nurturing yourself is.

This month we will be doing exactly this. We will learn how to nurture and take care of ourselves, our needs and our emotions.

As we heal past trauma and inner wounds it’s important to create moments for yourself when you take a break, recharge and care for your needs.

This journey of becoming our best selves is not all about overcoming obstacles, facing wounds and being persistent without taking a look at ourselves.

It is crucial to take a moment and show loving care for ourselves. It is crucial to cater to our own needs because after all, we are human beings.

Yes we can crawl through everything, but it’s dishonorable to not reward yourself for everything you went through. So here is what we say you should do.

3 Things To Do This August To Be The Best Self:

1. Find what your essential unmet needs are and fulfill them.

We all have personal needs and desires. However, as we try to live up to society’s standards we tend to push these needs and desires away. But this is turning your back on yourself. If you need to take a day off, take it. Find what are your essential needs that you have left unmet and fulfill them for yourself. You can be imperfect and irresponsible for a day as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. What do you need for yourself? Find out and meet your needs.

2. Let your emotions be free and accept them without judgment.

We tend to try and control our emotions. But all that we do is control our actions while suppressing our emotions. We cannot actually control an emotion, just as we cannot control the words that we read. We can control the actions we take based on those emotions, the message we understand and the lesson we learn, but we cannot control the emotion itself. Thinking that we control our emotions means we label them as right or wrong and put the wrong ones aside, somewhere within us. This is not just turning our back on ourselves, but we also fail to hear the message the emotion has to tell us. So this month let the emotions you’ve been suppressing within you free. Accept them as what they are and stop trying to control or change them. Stop resisting them. Dive into them. Feel them. See what they say to you. Do not judge them as neither emotion is bad by itself. Fully embrace them and love them. Stop being afraid of them as they cannot harm you. As you do this you will realize that these bottled up emotions will fade much quicker than you imagined. But you will also realize the messages they tell you are one of the most important and insightful lessons you can learn about yourself.

3. Go on a vacation or at least take spa day.

All of us need a vacation. Some say make your life like a vacation but you will need a vacation from such life too. It doesn’t matter how you live, taking time off from your regular activities, changing your environment and lifestyle is a need for everyone. It’s something we all need to recharge our batteries from the mundane everyday life. Just like a muscle needs a day off when you exercise it, you need a vacation to refresh and realign. If you are not in a position to take a 10 or 7 day vacation at least take a day off and go to the spa. Nurture your body, mind, spirit and heart. Whatever you do, just take a day for yourself with intent to show kindness and care, to recharge and to produce some feel good emotions. And not just one day, do one nurturing thing per day and see how you feel.

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