Inner Peace and Forgiveness: A Full Guide to Emotional Freedom


“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes

Inner peace is more than just a state of relaxation, it’s a profound sense of safety, calm, and alignment with oneself and the world.

Achieving this state is the main goal of many religions, and they have a different name for it…

Zen, Nirvana, Enlightenment…

But inner peace is not something reserved only for those who are religious.

It is a natural state of being that you reach once you get rid of everything that is creating your inner turmoil.

When you achieve inner peace, your nervous system is regulated, your breath is calm, and external threats and judgments lose their power over you.

This state of being allows you to make strong decisions, set boundaries, and find solutions more effectively.

In today’s high stress environment, it’s almost impossible to picture someone living in a state of inner peace.

But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible, it just means that people are not educated enough on the intricate workings of their inner world.

And especially today, we need inner peace more than ever.

Inner Peace and Forgiveness: A Guide to Emotional Freedom


Starting Within

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” — Mahatma Gandhi

True inner peace begins within ourselves.

Instead of waiting for external circumstances to change, we need to focus on our inner state.

This means letting go of internal conflicts and past traumas that create friction.

Often, we mistakenly believe that changing our environment or the people around us is necessary for peace.

However, the real change must come from within.

By working on ourselves and our reactions, we can transform our surroundings from a place of empowerment.

And everything starts with forgiveness…

The Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a powerful tool for releasing old pain and emotional baggage.

It frees us from the negative energy that keeps us stuck in the past, enabling us to live more fully in the present.

Holding onto grudges and past hurts is like carrying a heavy burden that weighs us down.

Forgiveness allows us to put down that burden, making space for positive energy and growth.

As Denice Frohman wisely notes,

“Your wound is probably not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility.”

When we forgive, we release the blame, grudge, fear, or grief that resides within us.

This act of self love not only improves our relationship with ourselves but also enhances our relationships with others.

Forgiveness breaks the cycle of replaying negative experiences in our minds, liberating us from being victims of our circumstances.

One effective method for practicing forgiveness is the Ho’oponopono ritual from Hawaii.

Ho’oponopono: A Ritual for Forgiveness

This simple, yet profound, practice involves repeating four sentences:

  1. “I’m sorry”
  2. “Please forgive me”
  3. “I thank you”
  4. “I love you”

These sentences help acknowledge and release pain, replacing it with higher vibrations of gratitude and love.

I’m Sorry: This acknowledges the pain and the fact that it has been ignored or unaddressed. It’s an apology for any wrongdoing or misunderstanding, recognizing the imperfection of the situation.

Please Forgive Me: This seeks forgiveness for not addressing the issue sooner or for any harm caused, whether intentional or not. It’s a plea for release from the negative energy.

I Thank You: This expresses gratitude for the lessons learned and the opportunity to grow. It’s a way to show appreciation for the experience and the insight gained.

I Love You: This sends out love, the highest vibration, to heal and transform the negative energy. It’s an affirmation of unconditional love and acceptance.

4 Practical Steps for Forgiveness:

Step 1. Find a Quiet Space

Choose a place where you can be alone and undisturbed.

This could be a dedicated meditation space, a quiet room, or even a peaceful outdoor setting like a garden or park.

The key is to find a setting where you feel safe and comfortable, free from distractions.

This space should be somewhere you can fully relax and focus on the forgiveness process.

Bringing in elements that promote calmness, such as soft lighting, soothing music, or comforting scents, can also enhance the experience.

Step 2. Decide Whom to Forgive

Focus on one person at a time, including yourself if needed.

Identify the individual who holds significant emotional charge for you.

This might be someone from your past or present who has caused you pain or discomfort.

It’s important to recognize that forgiveness can be extended to oneself for past mistakes or regrets.

Start with a person or situation that feels manageable, working your way up to more challenging cases as you become more comfortable with the process.

Reflect on how this person or situation has impacted you and why it’s essential to release the associated negative emotions.

Step 3. Repeat the Mantra

Visualize the person and repeat the four sentences, “I’m sorry,” “Please forgive me,” “I thank you,” and “I love you”

Repeat either out loud or in your mind.

Picture the person in your mind’s eye and speak directly to them through the mantra.

It might help to imagine a conversation with them, where you express these sentiments sincerely.

This visualization can make the forgiveness process more tangible and impactful.

As you repeat the mantra, focus on the feelings each sentence evokes, allowing the emotions to surface and be acknowledged.

Step 4. Acknowledge Emotions

Allow yourself to feel and release any emotions that arise.

Embrace any tears, anger, or relief that comes up, as these are signs of emotional release and healing.

This step is crucial because it’s about processing and letting go of the negative energy that has been stored within you.

Journaling about your feelings after the process can also be helpful in understanding and releasing them.

Remember, it’s okay to revisit this process multiple times for the same person or situation until you feel a sense of peace.

The goal is to clear out old emotions to make space for new, positive experiences.

Embracing Emotional Freedom

By incorporating forgiveness into your life, you break the cycle of holding onto negative energy.

This not only heals your past wounds but also opens the door to greater inner peace and emotional freedom.

Forgiveness is a journey that requires patience and practice, but the rewards are profound.

Forgiveness is not about excusing others’ actions but about freeing yourself from the burden of past hurts.

Embrace this practice to transform your life and achieve lasting inner peace.

As you practice forgiveness, you will find yourself lighter, more at peace, and better equipped to handle life’s challenges with grace and resilience.

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Hedi Schaefer, an awarded pioneer in Germany’s empowerment movement, has been transforming lives and businesses since 2010 as a Work-Life Innovation Coach, Author, and Mental Well-Being Expert. Her unique ©3C - InnovationCanon method empowers individuals to stop the struggle mode and achieve fulfillment and success.