“I have a confession to make. I’m dating someone even though I’m married.
“She’s an incredible girl. She’s beautiful, smart, cunning, strong, and has an immensely strong faith in God. I love to take her out to dinner, movies, local shows, and always tell her how beautiful she is. I can’t remember the last time I was mad at her for longer than five minutes, and her smile always seems to brighten up my day no matter the circumstances.
“Sometimes she will visit me at work unannounced, make me an incredible lunch, or even surprise me with something she personally baked. I can’t believe how lucky I am to be dating someone even though I am married. I encourage you to try it and see what it can do for your life.
“Oh! Did I mention the woman I am dating is my wife? What did you expect?
“Just because you’re married, doesn’t mean your dating life should end.
“I need to continue to date my wife even after I marry her. Pursuing my wife shouldn’t stop just because we both said, “I do.” Way too many times do I see relationships stop growing because people stop taking the initiative to pursue one another.
“Dating is a time where you get to learn about someone in a special and unique way. Why would you want that to ever stop? It shouldn’t. Those butterflies you got on the first date shouldn’t stop just because the years have passed. Wake up each day and pursue your spouse as if you are still on your first few dates. You will see a drastic change for the better in your relationship.
“When it comes to any relationship, communication and the action of constant pursuit is key. Nobody wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to pursue them whole-heartedly.
“I encourage you to date your spouse, pursue them whole-heartedly, and understand that dating shouldn’t end just because you said, ‘I do.’
– Jarrid Wilson”
Love is not something that you fall in and the job is finished. It’s a bumpy road and sometimes it takes an effort to keep the love alive.
Having a partner that you are going to spend the rest of your life with means that you agree to keep falling in love with them for the rest of your life.
And that’s where most people make their biggest mistake and end up in so many failed marriages.
We think of marriage as something perfect, we try to find a perfect partner and we imagine our life to be perfect with them. But that’s an illusion. There is no perfect partner or perfect marriage.
You make them perfect or as close as you can get.
That’s what the act of getting married represents, an agreement that you’ll do your best to keep your love alive, in good times and in bad times. You don’t get a divorce just because you disagree with your partner on something.
You find ways to make your agreement work!