If you are like most people, you have searched for tricks you can learn to attract that exact person you really, really like. All people want a formula for attraction.
Well, psychologists say there actually are such tricks that can help you attract someone to like you back.
As most relationship masters say, attraction is not a choice. Therefore, you can influence whether or not someone is attracted to you if you know what buttons to push.
This is not some kind of manipulation, it’s just learning how to behave to highlight your most positive sides and help the other person see you in a positive light.
According to psychologists, there are 5 simple tricks anyone can do to help them attract the person they like.
5 Simple Tricks How To Attract The Person You Like:
1. Make them associate you with positive emotions.
This simple trick is very powerful. When we think of someone, we often have a default emotion attach to them, like a color.
You can use this in your favor by creating a beautiful and positive color associated with you.
To create a positive emotion associated with you in their mind you should first evoke this emotion within them.
The best emotion you should aim to evoke is pleasure, the second best is excitement or happiness.
When you are with the person you like aim to make them feel pleasure or happiness. A secret tip for making them feel excited is taking them to an amusement park ride.
2. Look them directly in their eyes.
When you look someone directly in their eyes you are subconsciously telling them that you are open to receive their affection.
This triggers their subconsciousness to perceive you as potential mate, or a threat. However, since you are friendly and kind, you are not associated with the latter.
Looking someone directly in the eyes shows confidence. It also makes you appear more honest and trustworthy.
You can use this trick to raise their attraction for you, but the best thing about this trick is that you can see the attraction rising in real time by observing their pupil.
When we see something we really love, when we think about something we love or when we are close to something we are attracted to, our pupils dilate. So watch out for this clue.
3. Call their name often.
When someone hears their own name, psychologists say that it helps validate their own reality, and makes them feel more endeared towards the person that is speaking.
This has something to do with our parents. When we grow up the people we love the most are our parents and they are the first ones who call us by our name, every single day.
So when we hear someone calling us by our name, our mind automatically associates emotions of familiarity, friendliness and kindness.
Just think about how we talk to each other. We rarely use our names, we use nicknames and some slang to make each other notice each other.
If you call someone by their real name, you separate from the herd, and if you do it often while you converse with them, it will subconsciously make them feel closer to you.
4. Copy them.
When talking to someone, try copying their body language, gestures, and facial expressions.
This trick is called mirroring, or the “chameleon effect,” and it occurs when people unconsciously mimic each other’s behavior. That mimicry facilitates liking.
There was an experiment done where researchers had 72 men and women work on a task with a partner. The subjects who worked with the researchers mimicked their partners.
At the end of the interaction, the researchers asked the participants to indicate how much they liked their partners.
The participants who had a partner mimicking them were more likely to say that they liked their partner. So you can use this trick when you are with the person you really like.
5. Show them fun.
Do you know what’s the one thing that is above everything and promotes attraction more than anything else, and by anything else I mean money, looks, fame and status? Fun!
Yeah, fun is the ultimate thing we are all seeking when it boils down to what creates attraction. If you are able to give fun, people will be attracted to you.
All the other things are subconsciously looked as tools that can help us create fun and a sense of carefreeness.
But the trick about fun is that you don’t need anything to be able to spread it. Tools can help you but eventually you can produce fun within yourself and spread it.
It’s more complicated than it sounds, we are used to be fed entertainment. One great way to produce fun yourself is to learn how to entertain yourself without anything.