Considered to be an emotional response triggered by an imminent threat, our fear is the greatest challenge we all need to face and overcome in our life.
If our fear is always being avoided, it will become a monster that locks us up in the dark prison of our minds.
We hide, we run, we act stupidly just to avoid fear. And the more we resist it the bigger monster we create of it.
The truth is, fear has full control of us because we don’t live in the present moment, but in our mind, and in our mind fear can be anything.
Fear is a protective program, it’s not against you. But if we let fear to make the decisions for us it will protect us to the point where we find ourselves locked within our own prison.
Behind every fear there is a truth that needs to come out into the open. Every kind of fear is just a door that hides some truth inside.
Once you find the courage to open what’s hidden inside, you will find the biggest opportunities for growth and evolution in your life.
There are different types of fear. We are affected by different type of fear at different points in our life depending on what we need most for growth and what holds us back.
Here are the 5 most common fears that are disguises for big opportunities. Find the one that has the biggest effect on you right now and see what kind of truth it’s within.
5 Types Of Fear That Are The Opportunities To A Positive Change:
1. The fear of change.
You’re afraid of change because familiarity breeds comfort. Like a child who doesn’t want to lose sight of his mother on the first day of school, you don’t want to get out of your comfort zone because it’s where you feel protected and secure.
But as you grow older and start to see the world, you realize how small your awareness had been.
Had you not let go of the sight of your mother, you would not have known another world that is open for you to explore.
If you’re afraid of change, you deprive yourself of growing, evolving, and of testing your limits. The fear of change keeps you locked up in an unhappy place, be it a toxic relationship or unfulfilling career.
This fear is an opportunity to accept the inevitability of change and proactively step out of your comfort zone and grow. It highlights the limits of your comfort zone so you will know where growth and evolution begin.
2. The fear of being alone.
Most often, the fear of being alone is prompted by your own feelings of insecurity. You don’t feel secure with yourself because you feel you’re not good enough on your own.
You have been used to relying on other people for your security and happiness. Dependence isn’t the same with sharing and working together.
Being separated from your mother as early as infancy makes you feel disconnected. As a child, you have an unmet need that needs fulfillment.
But as you grow up you can take care of yourself. This dependency, if not overcome, creates a fear of being alone.
And ironically, if you do not spend time alone you cannot prove to yourself that you can be just fine by yourself, hence, you cannot overcome this illusion of dependency.
If being alone is one of your fears, it only means you need to work on your self confidence and self worth.
Once you’re confident to spend time being alone, without feeling less, you will find your own self worth. You will begin to see that a lot of people are like family.
Look into this fear and provide comfort to your inner child. It’s one way of healing yourself from this fear.
This fear is an opportunity for you to become self sufficient and independent. It highlights all the things you think you cannot do by yourself. Look at these things and do them by yourself. Each activity will reveal more of your self worth.
3. The fear of standing for your own truth.
Being conditioned to get validity from others for every word that you say leads you to be afraid of standing for your own truth.
Even if you know your idea is much, much better than that of the common belief, you refuse to speak thinking others might disagree.
This fear might have started in your childhood when you experienced bullying or when you were ridiculed by your immediate family or caregivers for saying your truth.
As a result, you guard yourself against anything that doesn’t feel comfortable, hiding your true self.
But your truth is a gift not anyone possesses. No one can see things the way you do. When you follow your own truth, you attract like minded people who want to live freely like you.
The way to get out of the cocoon you have built for yourself is to open up and be your genuine self.
This fear is an opportunity for you to be and express more of yourself. It highlights where you are incongruent in your reality. Use this knowledge to tell your truth and your reality will reshape with things you love and resonate with.
4. The fear of trying.
You’re afraid to try because of the possibility of failing, or succeeding, which is what terrifies us the most.
It’s normal to fail. Only a few endeavors succeeded with the first try. Most successes passed through the bridge of failures. And we think we want to succeed.
But most often, we are terrified of both of them. In fact, we are afraid of trying because it means we will face reality and it’s either not the way we think it is, or it is and we are right.
Either we are wrong and we cannot fantasize anymore, or we are right and we might get the results we want and they are disappointing in reality.
In both cases, we cannot fantasize about our results. We face reality and we either fail or see it’s not like we fantasized.
The fear of trying comes from loving our fantasy for the result more than the result itself. But reality is better than fantasy, even if it’s not exactly how we fantasized it.
This fear is an opportunity for you get what you want to get. It highlights the things that really matter to you. Use this fear to see the things you really want to get, however, let go of fantasizing and try to actually get them.
5. The fear of rejection.
The fear of rejection has something to do with being afraid of not being good enough. It’s how society conditioned us to feel.
But if you’re able to tweak your mindset a bit you’ll see that rejection only means something better is within you and you are not showing it.
If you believe your lack of certain skills caused you to get rejected, then do something to improve those skills.
If you are scared of being rejected because you doubt you are good enough, open yourself to rejection.
In both cases you will improve yourself to be the best version of yourself. The point of this is the realization that the rejection has nothing to do with who you really are.
If you get rejected it has nothing to do with the real you. We are all good enough, but thinking that some outside factor can validate us makes us not good enough.
Open yourself to these things and be rejected, you’ll either see all the skills you want to improve or you’ll see they were never really a factor to tell your worth.
This fear is an opportunity for you to become the best version of you. It highlights all the things keeping you from becoming your best self. You do this with giving your power away to them by seeking validation. You decide your own worth.