There are a million reasons why people aren’t happy.
These reasons arise from the negative assumptions and expectations they set for themselves.
Expectations are good because they keeps us moving forward. With the right set of expectations, you are sure to be successful in all your undertakings.
Most assumptions, however, are just ideas we have about how the world functions that are not supported by facts and can easily be false.
Some assumptions are even destructive to our spirit.
They prevent our mental self from creating a reality where you can be happy. They prevent your spirit from shining in its full potential. And worst of all, they are unrealistic!
Here are the 7 most common unrealistic assumptions that cause unhappiness and poison the spirit:
7 Mental Assumptions That Cause You Unhappiness and Poison Your Spirit
1. You assume that opportunities will just come from nowhere.
The Law of Attraction truly works but not without effort on your part.
When you expect that the best opportunities will fall onto your lap, you limit yourself from taking action. But in most cases it’s action that creates the opportunities you seek.
By trying new things once in a while, meeting people outside your social circle, and being curious about life in general, you actually give birth to your happiness. You expand your spirit.
2. You assume that people should like you.
We all know that no one is perfect, and even if you are, it is still not a guarantee that people will like you. Even the great teachers and gurus like Jesus or Buddha have their own set of bashers.
All because it’s not your story that matters to everyone, it’s theirs. It’s their history, hang-ups, and insecurities that prevent them from seeing the best in you.
After all, we all have the right to like and dislike whoever we choose to. Once you give up expecting everyone to like you, you are free to be yourself. And those people that actually like you will like you for who you really are.
3. You assume that life would be fair.
Expecting life to be fair sounds ideal. However, the harsh reality is it’s not, and it could never be. In fact, life is neither fair nor unfair, it doesn’t play that game. We created those concepts.
There will be times when you feel you are cheated or treated unfairly. But that’s just your perception of a situation that doesn’t have a meaning without someone to give it.
This means that in every situation it’s you who chooses the meaning and action you are going to take. By being free from judging the situation you are able to create your own advantage.
Bounce back from every setback with a proactive attitude, one that can make this world a better place, one that creates a difference.
4. You assume that people know what you have in mind.
People aren’t able to read your mind or emotions just because what you think or feel is important to you. And even if you say it to them, not all of them will know exactly what you are trying to say.
Expecting people to read your mind, especially in romantic relationships, causes problems for both partners.
We have communication for a reason and understanding what someone is saying is beyond a text message, sometimes even beyond words. It demands a conversation in person, and sometimes for a couple of hours straight.
Improve your communication skills, say what you mean to say and say it in a couple of different ways.
Give others a couple of aspects to look at what you are trying to say, so they can understand the essence of it.
5. You assume that everyone should agree with you.
People have their own past, their own culture, and their own way of seeing things. When you expect them to see things the way you perceive it, it’s very irrational and hypocritical.
While what you mean seems positive for you, others who have a different background might see it the other way around.
Being open to the idea that there could be more correct answers to one question is productive. It expands your spirit and opens your mind to new perspectives.
We all have the right to our personal opinion, and sometimes these opinions contradict each other. But this does not mean that any of them is wrong. It depends from where you look at the subject in matter.
6. You assume that you will fail.
When you assume that you’ll fail, you will ultimately do.
But what if things go your way? They may not always do, but at some point, they will.
Failures might look frightening, but if you shift your thinking into what you aim to do, they become just lessons that bring you closer to your goals.
7. You assume that things outside of yourself will give you lasting happiness.
Sure, material things can make you comfortable, and happy perhaps, but only for a short period of time.
Once the feeling wears off, the excitement of owning a new car or living in a big house slowly fades.
You are more of a spiritual being than a physical one. What makes your life more fulfilling and satisfying are the things that nurture and nourish your spirit that can be found within yourself.
But even the things we find within are not promised to give us a lasting happiness. In fact, lasting happiness is neither found within nor without, but in both of them together.
Removing the limits that separate the places you seek to find your happiness is actually the secret to happiness. It expands your journey between the both worlds, within and without.