Find Life Coach | Meet Amy Shearer: How to Stop People Pleasing and Avoid Burnout?

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Amy Shearer is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with her. She impressed us with her positive personality and dedication.

She spent a decade in retail but faced burnout in her 40s, prompting a shift towards coaching focused on nervous system health. Today she helps clients combat burnout and prioritize self care with her 90 day Healing program.

She incorporates somatic work to address issues like anxiety and stress, but what makes her approach stand out is her intuitive, flexible nature. Rather than relying on a fixed methodology, she creates a safe, trusting space for her long term clients to work on issues such as people pleasing and overthinking, resulting in significant life transformations.

She customizes her approach to cater to each client’s specific needs. She is a certified Life and Success Coach and she is trained in various modalities like NLP, EFT, breathwork, and somatic stress release. Here is what she said.

Meet Life Coach Amy Shearer:

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Name: Amy Shearer

Pillar: The Spirit, The Mind

Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to get rid of their people pleasing tendencies, connect deeply with their real self, stop overthinking, and get the right tools to prevent burnout.

How they can help: By using various tools and techniques like NLP, EFTBreathwork, Somatic Parts Integration, and Somatic Stress Release, just to name a few.

First of all, how are you and your family doing after these Pandemic times?

We are good!

We feel, like many, that the pandemic offered an opportunity to reevaluate our lifestyle, specifically where we were living and how we were spending our time.

We moved in November of 2020 from Brooklyn, NY, to Kingston, NY.

Kingston sits between the Catskills and the Hudson Valley.

The majority of the shifts that we needed to make revolved around adapting to a lifestyle in the country and making new friends.

After almost three years, we have found our flow and feel a part of this community.

How did the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?

For my clients, many of them were experiencing a heightened sense of fear.

I was very fearful initially, especially during the lockdown in NYC.

Reflecting on it now, I see it as a time of deep sadness and fear that taught incredible lessons about resiliency, the power of hope, and our need for connection.

What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?

The timeframe of the pandemic aligned with my spiritual awakening, and there were so many lessons!

Wow!

And in the end, it all came down to learning to trust myself and to surrender.

Release the control of what you think should happen, and trust yourself that all will work out.

Getting to that place takes some serious work, and I’m now opening myself up to helping others find this place of peace.

The Origin:

Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?

I grew up loving fashion, from dressing Barbie in the latest style to going to the mall with my mom, I was constantly learning about trends and immersed in retail.

After graduating from college, I first went into finance, became a Peace Corps Volunteer, became a French trained chef, and finally landed in retail.

Ahhh, home!

Over 15 years, I experienced every level of role on the store side of the business and spent ten years in executive leadership roles.

The job was exhilarating, and many companies I worked for became like family to me.

And then, in my early 40s, something started to shift within me, and I found it harder and harder to find the energy to keep up with the pace of retail.

No matter the role, retail is challenging.

It’s one of the top industries for burnout.

I had no idea how to support my stress and endless to do list.

And it brought me to complete emotional and physical exhaustion.

In July 2019, I left my career and took six months to begin the healing process.

Then, in January 2020, I became a certified Life and Success Coach and was certified in many modalities.

Initially, I focused on coaching individuals on their careers and potential career pivots.

Over time, it became apparent that I needed to teach the tools I was learning to support my nervous system and emotional health.

I created a 90 day Healing program for 1 on 1 clients in early 2022, and it took off!

I’m now bringing what I know back into the retail sphere in the form of workshops and, in the short future, a leadership program built around healing and nervous system health.

What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?

As an only child raised by a single mom, I prioritized being “a good girl” and tried to do as much on my own so I wouldn’t be a burden.

Early on, I became a people pleaser, and I have since learned that I’m a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

I picked up on everyone’s emotions and learned ways to adapt to avoid confrontation.

Eventually, this is what led to my burnout.

This behavior hindered my overall well being, career, health, and relationships.

I worked with a therapist and multiple healers to de condition the ‘people pleasing’ and to learn to honor my needs.

Shifting this behavior and using somatic tools focused on the nervous system and emotional regulation healed my burnout.

The Coaching Style:

How do you innovate with coaching your clients?

I love this question because I didn’t realize that I was innovating with them. Ha!

I think it all comes down to responding to their needs.

My work includes somatic (body) work, and the techniques used to help with anxiety, stress, and emotions depend highly on the person.

Recently, after a few clients came to me with the same struggles around time management, I realized its connection to burnout, which sparked an entirely new aspect of my work.

Now, I’m integrating productivity tools and habit creation into my 90 day program.

What’s unique about your coaching approach?

Due to the nature of the healing work that I share, I don’t become attached to a strategy or methodology for each session.

This approach requires me to listen to my intuition, to be adaptable, and to connect with each client deeply.

Most clients in my circle are long term clients who have been with me for over six months.

We work on people pleasing, overthinking, and overgiving, which requires establishing a container of deep safety and trust.

When we have safety, significant life transformations occur.

What benefits do your clients get after working with you?

Clients regularly comment that they feel a deeper connection to themselves and feel empowered by the tools I teach them to integrate into their everyday lives.

I’m here on this planet to teach and share what I know from my healing experience and provide healing resources.

Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?

I have been certified in multiple modalities, including NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Breathwork, Somatic Parts Integration, and Somatic Stress Release.

Mostly, I use one component of these modalities in each session with a client, depending on their needs.

The Impact:

If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?

It’s OK to rest!

What is the greatest lesson you have learned in your life?

The greatest lesson was also the hardest pill to swallow. Gulp.

When I left my Vice President role in 2019, I left angry and frustrated at everything about retail.

I blamed retail for all of my unhappiness.

I needed to realize that while there may be untenable practices within the retail sphere, it came down to how well I supported myself and honored my needs.

And herein lies what most of us need to learn.

We are responsible for creating our happiness.

Your final thoughts?

Nothing to add.

Where Can You Find Amy Shearer?

If you liked this interview and if you would love to get rid of people pleasing, connect deeply with yourself and get all the tools you need to prevent burn out, go to https://therecreated.com/ and see how Amy can help you.

You can check what type of intuition archetype you are here.

If you’d like to capture a glimpse of her coaching, follow her Instagram account.

If you’d like to connect more personally with her, you can do that through LinkedIn or by sending her a message on her Email [email protected]. It was an honor having this interview with her.

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I help people upgrade their Spirit, Mind, Body, Heart to become the best version of themselves! After 10 years of writing, coaching and collaborating with top coaches from all around the world I have learned the best secrets to help you unleash your full potential! You can be a Superhuman! Write me at [email protected] if you have any direct question! Much Love!