Asaf ‘Ace’ Mengelgrein is one of the coaches that we found this month and we did a little interview with him. He impressed us with his rawness and honesty.
Just like any great hero, his story brought him to a crossroad where he needed to decide either to end his life or begin it. He chose the latter and developed into the person he is today.
He is an impactful professional speaker, coach, and content creator on YouTube as well as other social media. His greatest challenge was learning how to get out of his own way and stop hating himself. He is a kind of a renaissance man, having 3 degrees and many passions in the arts and sciences, from writing music to understanding how we function as humans.
Probably one of his most unique attributes is his no BS approach to coaching. Here is what he said.
Meet Life Coach Asaf ‘Ace’ Mengelgrein:
Name: Asaf ‘Ace’ Mengelgrein
Pillar: The Spirit, The Mind
Who is this coach for: Anyone who wants to awaken and become aware of the truth in order to become the best version of themselves and live their life to the fullest.
How they can help: Through various tools and techniques, measuring results, using proven experiments, as well as creating LifeBook and LifePlanner.
First of all, how are you and your family doing in these Pandemic times?
Thankfully, my family fared relatively well.
My father experienced the long effects of the virus with fatigue and his hair turning ghost white and then falling out.
It is interesting times to say little of it.
How does the coronavirus pandemic affect your clients? Did it affect you at all?
No, it did not affect us much.
Within our clubs, we used Zoom often so most people were comfortable with such methods of communication.
What are the biggest lessons that you learned in this pandemic?
That’a a loaded question.
But to stay on point here, it was that people are social animals and that being forced into isolation is extremely damaging.
Social media, with all its negative attributes, swelled during this time and further exasperated the conditions that took hold around 2008 with its introduction and plethora of applications.
Tell us about you, your career, how you started with your coaching career?
I am 47, originally from Israel, have lived around the world and earned three degrees along the way.
From the sciences to the arts, my passions range from writing music to understanding how we function in this world and what our true purpose is.
I have had the privilege of working with my family business for many years.
This allowed me to expand into the world of personal growth and development in 2015, when I hit my bottom and realized I had to start living a life true to myself.
It simply came down to ending my life or beginning it.
I chose the latter.
Along the way I realized I have a skill to communicate well and decided to become a professional speaker, joining first a Toastmasters Club, then Lions Club, becoming the President of them and leading people and the organizations to success.
Mentoring came next as people gravitated toward my style and ability to manage challenges and goals.
I soon developed my brand of self betterment called Living Totality and created content online via YouTube and other social media platforms.
What was your biggest obstacle that you had to overcome in your life that made you who you are today?
Learning to not hate myself was my biggest obstacle to overcome.
This was cultivated by years of not learning independence, fueled by my family’s safety net that really functioned more like a web.
My flight or flight never had to kick in so I remained flightless.
With time it all came crashing down.
That’s when I had to make the choice to live or die.
The Coaching Style:
How do you innovate with coaching your clients?
My clients have specific issues, whether communication skills, entrepreneurial challenges, or personal struggles.
I first listen carefully and then speak.
I am a no nonsense kind of coach, every word I use carries with it meaning and weight.
I do not believe in excuses and am quick to call them out.
Discipline and hard work is huge with me, so those who come to me know the deal.
I can only show the door, they must walk though it.
What’s unique about your coaching approach?
Simple, with me you best check your ego at the door.
I have a military boot camp approach to life because outside those proverbial doors life is cut throat.
If it’s hand holding you are looking for, I am not your guru.
If you’re fed up with your own b.s. then I invite you to step into the fire with me.
I got you, but you have to jump.
What benefits do your clients get after working with you?
They wake up from the delusions they have been sleeping with.
The first tenet of Living Totality is Awareness.
This is where it all begins.
Genesis 1:3 Let there be light.
Do you use any specific tools to be efficient with your clients?
Statistics and social research experiments.
Numbers do not lie.
I also incorporate the practice of creating a LifeBook to develop one’s ideal life together with a LifePlanner which teaches how to get there.
As Peter Drucker said, “what gets measured gets managed.”
If you had a super megaphone that, when you speak into, the whole world will hear your message, what would you say?
ARE YOU LIVING TOTALITY?
Your final thoughts?
Most people are not willing to take the steps necessary to better themselves, so I ask them to do one thing… Write down their own eulogy.
If they have the courage to do it, then, and only then, will they come face to face with who they really.
If they don’t like it, they can come to me and start rewriting their perfect backstory.
Where Can You Find Asaf ‘Ace’ Mengelgrein?
If you liked this interview and you would love to start living totally, go to www.acethespeaker.com and see how Asaf can help you achieve that.
If you’d like to peak a glimpse of his coaching, check his YouTube channel.
If you’d like to connect more personally with him, you can do that through LinkedIn or by sending him a message on his email [email protected]. It was an honor having this interview with him.