If you are anything like I was a few years ago, your life may feel like a marathon of responsibilities.
You work hard at your job…
You keep the home running…
You meet every expectation placed upon you without stopping to question where you fit into the picture.
For many of us, this pattern began early in life.
We grew up believing our primary purpose was to fulfill the needs of others.
First, it was our parents.
Then it became our partners.
Eventually, it expanded to in laws and children.
In the pursuit of being the perfect daughter, the perfect wife, and the perfect mother, we learned to follow an endless list of unspoken rules.
We learned how to be needed, how to be reliable, how to put ourselves last.
As we run this race, we often carry a quiet, unspoken belief:
“If I do everything right, they will love me the way I deserve.”
If I give enough, sacrifice enough, and show up enough, appreciation will come.
We unconsciously look to others to fuel our happiness.
But here is the truth that is rarely spoken…
People are human.
They get busy.
They become absorbed in their own worries.
They often fail to see the depth of our sacrifices.
And when the love or appreciation we expect does not arrive, something begins to stir inside.
Resentment grows quietly.
It asks painful questions.
Why are they not noticing?
Why am I not being loved back the way I am giving?
I lived inside this cycle for a long time.
I remember my life coach pointing out this dynamic to me years ago.
At the time, I could not even see it.
I was too busy doing everything right.
But resentment does not disappear when it is ignored.
It accumulates.
Like a volcano beneath the surface, it builds pressure over time.
Eventually, it only takes one small spark to erupt.
And when it does, it often hurts the very people we worked so hard to protect.
When we are busy meeting everyone else’s expectations, we forget the most important person in the room when it comes to meeting expectations… Ourselves.
We lose touch with our own dreams…
We stop asking what we want…
We forget what brings us joy outside of serving others…
What happened to your goals…
What do you actually enjoy…
What passions did you quietly place in the someday folder…
What parts of you are still waiting to be acknowledged…
When you begin to honor your inner dreams, something profound begins to change.
Whether it is a side passion or a complete career shift, choosing yourself creates movement.
You start generating genuine joy from within.
You stop relying on others to make you feel loved.
You begin providing that love for yourself.
This shift releases your family from the heavy responsibility of being in charge of your happiness.
The energy in your home becomes lighter.
Relationships soften.
Joy becomes shared instead of demanded.
I know how difficult it can be to shift away from decades of people pleasing.
Unconscious beliefs and deeply rooted patterns do not dissolve overnight.
But awareness is the first doorway to healing.
You can begin today with simple but powerful steps…
Awareness is the first step…
But you do not have to navigate this inner shift alone.
It is possible to understand and rewrite these internal stories.
Sometimes that clarity arrives in a single conversation.
You can learn more about my work and approach by visiting anjananambissan.com
If you feel ready to reconnect with yourself and rediscover your sense of lightness, I invite you to schedule a complimentary Dream Discovery Chat.
This is a supportive and compassionate space designed to help you gain clarity, direction, and inner freedom.
You can book your complimentary Dream Discovery Chat here!
Your life was never meant to be only about meeting expectations.
It was meant to include you.
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